My girlfriend uploads nudes of herself to Tumblr. I'm pissed

this is a really bad dealbreaker to me. if she's with me why does she need to literally whore her body out? it's not like she's an artistic photographer, or she's just posing for one. she's just fishing for dick pics, compliments and gets off on other people getting off with her body

i had a gf that was big into this (even got accepted as a suicidegirl) and was a huge problem in the relationship. that being said, it was just another problem of multiple ones all intertwinned with very low self steem regarding her body (despite being paid for showing tits) and daddy issues

idk man if its a deal breaker for you be honest with what you want and think about breaking up. Consider the fact that her fishing for attention shows other problems in her personality

>>18537891
Post link to tumblr

>>18537891
When you are making something public online, you are sending them to everyone. I wouldn't tolerate it.

There also wouldn't be a conversation about it. Once you put something on the internet, it's out of your control forever. There will now always be people who have her nudes. I wouldn't date a softcore porn star, and that's essentially what she's posting. No discussion - I'm just done.

>>18537891
Fuck you faggot link to her tumblr

It's just skin, it's not like she's sending US the nudes

>>18537891
>she considers nudes to individuals to be wrong
>but considers letting the entire world see just fine

You've got to put your foot down OP. Tell her you don't like that shit and it's a deal breaker.

>>18537891
Break up with her, she's a whore, and if she's sending it to tumblr then she might as well send it personaly to any dick anytime

>>18537891
I would break up with her, but that is just me. Attention whores make poor gf and are absolutely avoid wife status at all costs.

What are you going to do op?

>>18537891
women these days are told that if they are modest they are not being 'empowered'. She probably has been told something like this so she thinks that is is a normal thing to do in a committed relationship. Just talk to her about your boundaries and tell her that this isnt a cool thing to do in your relationship.

>>18537971
Why? It's not like she can undo what she did. OP is now essentially dating a softcore porn actress.

>>18537891

Your gf is an exhibitionist. You might not like it, but I think it's a pretty hot kink.

Imagine it as showing off to the world what is yours. Like, if you had a great car, and you showed it off at a car show or something.

Like, I can see you're the jealous type, and I'm actually the jealous type too - but exhibitionism doesn't make me jealous, because as far as I'm concerned, it's just like showing off to the world what you get to fuck all the time.

Exhibitionism also often goes along with submissiveness. Maybe talk to your gf. Explain that other guys seeing her makes you jealous, and try to figure out if there's a way for her to let the world know who she belongs to when she's posting nudes. You can still remain anonymous. Maybe just a little something like "I belong to master." If she's submissive, she might also like taking orders, and you might get her to agree to take and post pictures to your specifications to help make you more comfortable with it.

>>18537973
this is true but if he is able to move past it then its worth working it out.

>>18537891
post her tumblr OP
otherwise b8 thread fucking LARPers go to /soc/

>>18537989
It's not something you move past. You either inherently like it or not.

>>18537987
Isn't that like objectifying waman?

>>18538000

Stop being such a huge pussy. Women LIKE the feeling of belonging to someone.

>>18538001
Yeah, but posting her pics is like maaking her belong to anyone. Also you can sell and trade a car, can you do so with your gf? Is so aren't you a little cunt

>>18537987
>You are now "the jealous type" if you don't want your significant other posting nudes for the whole world to see
No

>>18538012

> posting her pics is like making her belong to anyone

Nah, not really. Do all those other guys get to fuck her? Or do they only get to sit and masturbate to what you actually get to fuck?

Let me put it this way. If there was a guy fucking a girl in front of a bunch of other guys, I wouldn't say that the girl "belonged" to the guys watching and masturbating. I'd say she belonged to the guy fucking her. In fact, i'd say the guys watching and masturbating were a little pathetic.

>>18538016

Being the jealous type is fine, though. Lots of girls even like it. I didn't mean for it to come across as a negative. I was just trying to offer up a way for OP to view the situation that would be compatible with the jealousy he felt.

>>18538031
If they can watch, they might as well come and do that. What is moral brake for her to stop, if it's just skin, and vagina is just a space for dick, who cares who's dick it is or who's eyes gazes upon naked body of your gf yours, or anyone's

>>18538063

None of that makes sense, though. Are you saying that if someone sees a girl naked, they might as well have fucked her? That seems ridiculous. There's a huge difference between seeing someone naked and sticking your dick in them. That's part of what I like about it: People can only look on in jealousy at what I actually get to stick my dick into.

>>18538031
That reminds me of a exhibitionists couple at my uni, you can probably find them on the news if I give you the names, basically they have no problem showing others how they have sex.
What happened next is that the girl got showered with attention, and the guy eventually agreed to make their relationship open. With a condition that if she fucks someone else, at least let him know.
And it turned out she couldn't realistically do that each time because she fucked way too many of them, so they broke up.
Keen observers could say they entered a "slippery slope".

>>18537891
Do they show her face? If not, I think you're both in the clear.

Plus, women in general want to feel sexy now-and-then. Not in the sense of having people actually look at her and say she's sexy, but just feel it in a general way; if that makes sense.

>>18538076

That was dumb of him, then.

> Ever doing an open relationship

That being said, I don't think exhibitionism is necessarily tied to that. I've had exhibitionist gfs before, and they never wanted an open relationship. In fact, they said part of the appeal of it was showing the world that they were mine.

>>18538075
Yes it does part of covering up leaves a mystique about women and men alike. If women walked around topless we probably wouldn't care so much about their tits anymore. But the fact that you can't see them leaves a want for you to see them. Imagine that want being nulled by the fact that this girl now has exposed herself on the internet or elsewhere sure you would still probably want to fuck her but the mystique and challenge of getting there wouldn't be the same anymore.

>>18537891
This would embarrass the shit out of me. I want a partner I can be proud of and an exhibitionist that can be seen by family, coworkers, friends and the world would do the opposite. I think she can do whatever she wants just not with me as her partner.

>>18538128

The mystique and challenge of getting to fuck her is still there, though. As is the appeal of people being jealous of you.

Like I'm not saying girls should all walk around naked or anything. Part of the appeal of exhibitionism is the breaking of the taboo.

>ITT: Degeneration shills.
Don't be a cuck op, let her be a whore with someone else, find a girl who doesn't need validation from strangers.

>>18537891
Link?

Also my advice is fap to them, then request some pics, see if she uploads them, and eventually join in and post pics of you both fucking.

>>18538261

> fucking a girl who isn't fucking any other dudes makes you a cuck

k bruh

>I'm dating you therefore I own your body

Break up with her OP, you'll be doing her a favor

>>18538288
>"Its only cheating if it has PiV"
Go be a cuck somewhere else.

>>18537902
Well said.

OP its really your decision whether this is okay or not. As you can see some people have no tolerance for this sort of thing and for others its their cup o kink. Think about it and decide if this is a deal breaker for you. If it is explain that to your gf and explain why its such a big deal to you. If she decides that this is more important than her relationship with you its best to end it as quickly and cleanly as possible. If you do decide that you're okay with this I would sit down with her and discuss boundaries (ie. Hide her face, no chatting with admirers, etc.) Also, is this something you knew about going into this? Was she the one to tell you? I see a big red flag here if she tried to keep it hidden.

>>18538293
Surely this is bait?

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I dont even like women but if you post the links then people can roast her and maybe she'll stop. She's probably not that great and you make her think she is.

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>>18538031
Just a word of advice, jealousy has had, and will most likely continue to have a negative connotation. I'd recommend finding another word to get your point across. Using jealous immediately starts you off on the wrong foot if you're trying to have that conversation.

Secondly, you're fighting a losing battle to begin with. It's like you're trying to sell the idea of an open relationship on the idea that at the end if the day, it's just meaningless sex. YOU'RE the one she really loves, and isn't the fact that she loves you and only you enough to not care about the rest?

Now obviously, these are not the same, but the leap is very much the same. In much the same way you find exhibitionism hot, but an open relationship not okay, he doesn't find the exhibitionism hot, or not okay at all within their relationship. It's not about who the girl belongs to or who gets to do what to who. It's about intimacy, privacy, and the amount they feel is okay to be open about, which they apparently feel very different about.

OP knows how they both feel about this. Now he just needs to decide whether or not he feels this relationship is worth working this through, or if he would rather cut his losses and accept that their comfort zones just didn't mesh.

>>18538297

> "Sex can happen without anyone even touching her"

I suppose you support feminists in their claims of eye rape then

>>18538328

Meh, I know lots of people who openly say they like a little bit of jealousy. I don't think the connotation is as necessarily negative as you think it is

And if OP finds he can't be okay with it, then yeah he should just cut his losses. I'm just offering up what I think could be a perspective that could help him be okay with it.

>>18537891
If it bothers you then do the manly thing and walk away from her.

Shit the best thing to do in this situation is to TELL her to stop and burn your bridge with her when she doesnt or says she will but keeps doing it behind your back. Either way you feel better about leaving her because she clearly does not have respect for you

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>>18538355
It's one thing to have a little bit of something. It's another to be called the type. It's okay to be angry. It's less favorable to be called the angry type, which implies more anger for less reasonable causes. Same with jealousy. More jealousy for less reasonable causes, especially in this case, which involved a topic many would view as having a reasonable reason to be jealous. I know it seems like I'm splitting hairs, but the small change can really make a difference in how open the other party starts the conversation.

I'm not saying this to nitpick or be contrarian or what have you. I like open conversation, and those go a little more smoothly without the (however unintentional) implication that the other side is overreacting or behaving irrationally. Even if you think they are, you've got to build up to that point.

Then again, personal opinion and all that. Make of it what you will.

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>>18538395
>reasonable reason
That just sounds silly. Now I feel silly. I need to sleep. Goodnight everybody!

Break up with her and post link to her tumblr here

>>18538319
The females of /adv/ typically actually think like this

It's her body and nudes aren't inherently sexual. Chill.

>>18537891
If it's a big deal to you, then it's a big deal. A relationship has to go both ways.

>>18538408
I don't understand. Same with >>18538451
How is the naked body not sexual?
>Inb4 muh art
Nah

>>18538347
Nobody is talking about sex you dumb cuck, sex is not the only thing that consitute cheating.

>>18537891
Lol not like she sharing them with anyone, she is sharing to the whole world.


Dude you fell in luv wit a ho. She wants views on her sjw femnazi tumblr, The best she can do is support her and give us the link

>>18537987 <-- This person is retarded

>>18538600
>>18538601


and /pol/ wonders why other boards find them unbearable

>>18538621
>If you're not a degenerate cuck, its automatically makes you a sperglord nazi.
Sure roastie.

>>18538632

no if you're not into it personally it's fine

it's when you screech KEK REEEEEEE SJW FEMINAZIS that you reveal yourself as a sperglord nazi

btw cuck was a pretty good insult but you guys have already overused it to the point that it now just signals that you're a huge nerd, time to find a new one

>>18538738
>it's when you screech KEK REEEEEEE SJW FEMINAZIS that you reveal yourself as a sperglord nazi
No it doesn't, if you're saying this in a unironic way, you have no idea what an Nazi is.
>btw cuck was a pretty good insult but you guys have already overused it to the point that it now just signals that you're a huge nerd, time to find a new one
Same as nerd, its like you aren't even trying.

>>18538621
I am a black man that wants nothing to do with /pol/. You are fucking delusional if you think not wanting your GF posting her cooch on the internet is some sort of right wing only value.

People who do this shit will ALWAYS be thought of by whores, the only thing that might change is that nobody will say it to their face.

>>18538899

> No it doesn't

yeah, it does. And 'nerd' is not nearly as tiresome as 'cuck' is now, that's how badly you wore it out

>>18538909

You misunderstand, I'm not saying "being uncomfortable with exhibitionism" is a rightwing value, I'm saying "reacting to it like a huge nerd by REEING about cuckoldry, feminism and SJWs" is a rightwing value

>>18537891
Dump that bitch.

>>18537891
>My girlfriend uploads nudes of herself to Tumblr. I'm pissed with her. She doesn't get why
Seems a bit strange
>Am I a fucking idiot or what?
This depends on something very important:
Did you know before you started dating/before she started doing it?

If you knew before you started dating, you're a fucking idiot.
If she started during you dating and you didn't leave her over it, you're a fucking idiot.
If she kept it a secret, you argued but didn't leave her over it, you're a fucking idiot.

>>18539120
>yeah, it does.
Only in your fucked up head.
>And 'nerd' is not nearly as tiresome as 'cuck' is now, that's how badly you wore it out
idgaf ifs its tiresome to you, and idgaf if its overused, a man who is ok with his SO whoring herself on internet for some attention is, indeed, a cuck, gladly, it doesn't seems to be op's case.

Tinder girls wearing only underwear seemed so popular yesterday, it's only when they remove the panties when they're considered a hoe? Kek
Imo shit taste in women