Whenever I begin to like someone I start to sperg out. I think

I was like you. What I started doing is simply avoid thinking about the future like the plague. Almost convinced myself that thinking about the future and planning way ahead is bad luck.
I know it sounds easier said than done but still, you must assume that the present and very near future is all that matters, and be always ready for the worst. Also if you've had this happen more than once I assume you eventually got over the girls you liked in the past. Remember this, that whenever you meet someone, she may seem great now but she'll be forgettable. She's not special, no one is.

>>18527352
good adv thanks

>>18527344

Maybe you are not having fun in the present. If you see them as an end goal, if you see a relationship as something to achieve later, then hanging out becomes a chore.

That's why you focus on what's gonna happen later. Because right now you are not having fun.