Straight up, no bullshit: Why do women move on from heartbre

>>18519257
>Why do women move on from heartbreak faster than men?
Because they mourn the end of the relationship while they're still in it. By the time you get to the point of a break-up they have already moved on mentally.

>>18519257
Pro Tip: we don't. You need to get out more.
I've been in two relationships that lasted about five years each that took about 3-4 years just to really get over.

>>18519257
Dailymall is not and should never be trusted as a legitimate acintific source. Click bait articles (like the one you postes) are no more real or truthful then an onion article or a tabloid, plain and simple.

Youre suffering from confirmation bias.

It is normal for feelings to linger. But you should focus on yourself, talking out those feelings with friends. Focus on getting hobbies, passions and working on yourself. As time passes the feelings will become weaker and weaker.

But displacing your feelings on some factless article merely distracts you from what you ought to really be concerned about, you, yourself only.

I've been in 3 relationships that have lasted 2+ years including my current.

Like a previous poster said, in those first two relationships. I was already mentally done for a few months but still really conflicted on if I should or shouldn't end it. So the next time an argument brewed up I was already done. Also, looking back on those relationships, I wasn't as emotionally invested. I mean, we were in a committed relationship, but I had a more "let's see how this goes" attitude about it.

Honestly though, with the current relationship I'm in, I think if it ends ill be emotionally in shambles. I just don't have that attitude with my current bf. It's more of a "I want this to work for possibly the rest of our lives with all of my heart and soul"

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>>18519257
My boyfriend broke up with me 6 years ago and I'm still not over it. You're full of shit OP. Fuck you.

>>18519257
Ive been off and on with my ex for the past year. total of 2.5 years of dating. so I guess 3.5 years of dating.

it sucks.

We were really good for each other. she just didn't have her shit together. Nor took steps to do it. We both want the same things but she can't do it.

now shes back in school and talks about med school. which won't happen. I'll be surprised if she graduates again. I think she just likes free loan money. Which she burns through.

lots of things were great between us. But. she can't get her shit together. It's always this future idea for her. I knew her for 4 years and she didn't work for 2 of them but complained about not having money all the time.

fuck some people are just doomed

>>18519257

Hard to have heartbreak when the women wasn't in love in the first place.

When you understand that you'll be able to break down why the two of you didn't work and get over it just as quickly as them. Additionally, it helps to know that girls don't fall in love the same way as guys do. To them it's not about how much time you spend together but what they feel when they think about you.

I know it goes against popular opinion, but I consider men more emotional than women. Or at least, more emotionally volatile. That's why they commit crimes of passion, get into physical fights, are more likely to kill themselves or develop addictions etc, and why they go absolutely fucking psycho about women in many different ways. Women have better support networks to get over things and more freedom to express themselves, and personally I think there's a bit of their love that's reserved solely for their kids so they don't invest everything in a man emotionally. Men spend all their lives obsessing over girls in unhealthy ways so it's no surprise if they can't recover well from heartbreak.

Yeah .. dailyfail .. mm.

That said. MAYBE losers who get all hung up on the fact that they'll never hit as fine a piece of ass as the one they just lost due to being a complete fuck up end up hung up on the fact they fucked up and will never hit as fine a piece of ass ever again and are doomed to be a loser reminiscing over what they had and lost forever.

Where as women who managed to get rid of a pathetic loser who fucked up and end up in a relationship with a better dude who is happy because he is hitting a finer piece of ass than he was hitting before look back at the whining, regretful fuck up committed to spending the rest of his life complaining and actually feel good about themselves.

It is most likely why so many men kill themselves in comparison to women. Also 'men NEVER get over a break up because science'. lololol

>>18519269
>>18519276

It's research from a university.

>>18519257
They don't have any heart to break

>>18519912
Just goes to show, women suck at science too

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You folks want the truth and nothing but the truth?

80% of men are worthless. They are in reality boys. All the great magic you read or heard about is created by the 20% of actual men. I'll say it again, 80% of ''men'' are worthless nobodies that will never amount to anything. 90% of women are overall objectively better than 80% of ''men'', but the 20% can't be tounched and will annihilate anything in their way, and it becomes more apparent the closer you get to top.

Now, I'm throwing a lot of words around, but all scientific statistics points to this thruth. If you look at IQ, physical performance, sexual market & attractiveness, innovation, wealth, etc, God mode is unlocked in the 20% and the ''men'' below that threshold performs statistically worse than 90% of women give or take.

If you as man don't belong in the 20%, your life will most likely suck really really fucking hard. Women are much less extreme, but also much less likely to experience God mode.

It is what it is. Read white papers if you don't believe me.

>>18519980
This is my experience in uni and when I'm out clubbing. Should I kys myself?

When it comes to breaking up, not everyone takes it the same way.

4 years ago I dated a girl for 8 months, until she cheated on me. It took me 2 years, but I finally moved on.

6 months ago she kept texting me telling me how she missed me blah blah blah.

Every person is different.

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>>18519982
Probably. Gods never doubt themselves.

>>18519980
everything is worthless, you stupid cunt

especially you

the 20% you're talking about, if we consider your delusion to be true, is as worhtless as anything else

>>18519990
>this is how the cuck copes while his wife gets double penetrated by Chad & Brad
She is blushing.

>>18519257
buncha bullshit being thrown around

men take longer to get over a relationship because it's harder for a guy to land another girl

meanwhile the second your girl becomes single again she gets a dozen meat swords thrown at her on the daily

the second you get a fresh set of titties thrown in your face you won't be thinking about "her" anymore, it just might take a while and in the meantime she's all you're gunna think about

>>18519994
There is literally nothing hotter than a chick blushing.

>>18519994
stop projecting your weird fantasies you dumb faggot

You're literally everything that's wrong with our modern society. Seeing everything through the lens of who's fucking the most women, who's getting the bigger salary, who's going to the gym the most. Thanks america i guess

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>>18519990
>>18520005
That wasn't me, but you have to accept your place in society.

Either be great or be nothing. There is no inbetween.

>>18520013
you're not refuting any of my point, probably because you know who's right.

What you're saying has no meaning whatsoever. What are you calling great ? Being rich and fucking like an animal is being great ?

If so then you're literally nigger tier

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>>18520005
You better fucking thank us, you ungrateful sissy cuck half-breed french bacalhau salman whore.

>>18520025
Sure, thanks for coming literally when the war was over, when the russians already took care of the job

June 44, in the Manche department, your troops perpatrated 208 rape and 30 murders, and that's in a single month, even the wehrmacht was more dignified than your stupid army. No wonder that with this nigger mentality the only culture you ever produced promotes decadent morals.

We should never have sent you Lafayette, granting you independance was a mistake. Even if british were retarded, at least they had some kind of refinement.

>>18519350

BRO. ARE YOU FUCKING ME? HOLY SHIT.

>>18519980
Except none of the shit you said is true. Yes, obviously, the conventional wisdom (backed up by a fair amount of research, though it's not without controversy) is that when it comes to e.g. IQ, the bell curve for men is significantly wider, with longer tails - there are more male geniuses and more male idiots. But it's not true that the top 20% are in a league of their own - the 80th percentile for male IQ is somewhere between 110 and 115, which is really not all that high. Around half of all men fall within 10 points of the mean - the bell curve is really not THAT wide. And the difference in the distributions for men and women isn't THAT different until you get to the very extremes, talking 140 and above, 60 and below.

Same goes for almost any other measure of success you can find - wealth/income, reproductive success, health/physical performance. Basically you're talking out of your ass. The only arena in which what you're saying is even remotely true is casual sex, where a small minority of men AND women (way less than 20%) report having much higher partner counts than the rest of us.

If you can find me actual papers that claim anything resembling "being in the top 20% unlocks 'god mode'" for academics, career, sports/athletics, reproductive success, I will eat my own shit. I'm not worried, because you're spouting broscience.

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>>18520017
You didn't refute any of my points either. Why not kill self if everything is worthless?

If you gonna live, live a great fucking life, literally have the time of your life. Death will come in time.

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>>18520037
When I say 20%, I actually mean 2%. I'm trying to give hope.

>>18520040
my fucking sides

>>18520038
I did refute your points tho, you stupid bitch.

I'm okay with living a great life. But great =/= indulging yourself in neverending mindless enjoyment

And even then , having a great life doesn't mean your life has any worth

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>>18520046
>everything is worthless, you stupid cunt
How the fuck is this ad hominem, refuting?

I never implied that indulgence = greatness. Read >>18519980 again.

>>18520038
Why are breasts so great? sigh...

>>18520052
he says while posting softcore porn

>>18519257
Women have more experience with emotions
Women mature faster than men
Women have more emotional intelligence because society lets them use their emotions since they are little and that's why women know gow to manipulate others better. They have been doing that since they were small because society lets them use emotions freely instead of being the plank of wood men are expected to be

Tl dr: men have not much experience with feelings

Because like 97% of women are braindead, narcissistic, cowardly lying whores. Idk what to tell you just beat one next time and remember to never put any positive effort into one

>>18520059
>Women have more emotional intelligence
(Citation needed)

>>18520059
>women know gow to manipulate others better
And that's what it boils down to. People like you deserve abuse

Men need to value themselves more. You have all the power because you make everything function, even in relationships.
But you're so weak for pussy that pussy manipulates you how it wants
Most women out there are miserable and unhappy and will remain that way for most of their lives
Seriously, value yourselves some more

>>18519257
OP, you've moved on pretty goddamn well. Being sad sometimes while banging a bunch of sluts doesn't mean you're not over it. You weren't really into her in the first place, it seems. My bf dumped me and then he got dumped soon after, now we are both miserable suicidal wrecks and I am confused every day because he says he loves me but doesn't seem to want to get back together, maybe out of shame, or maybe he doesn't really love me and just can't identify his own feelings as a grown man - It tears me apart every single fucking day because I would have done anything for him. Most people don't ever have that kind of relationship even once in their lives. And I'm hardly thinking about meeting anybody else, probably for the rest of my life. I have no more love to give and my life has become 10x harder since he left for completely unrelated reasons.

>>18520064
>But you're so weak for pussy that pussy manipulates you how it wants
y-you're right....

>>18520064
/thread

>>18520064
Then prepare to be even more miserable

>>18519891
>Women have better support networks to get over things and more freedom to express themselves

Give an example. And not those groups they have at churches for domestic abuse/rape victims to try and one up each other's problems. You think that shit matters to anybody?

>>18520059
>Women have more emotional intelligence because society lets them use their emotions since they are little and that's why women know gow to manipulate others better. They have been doing that since they were small because society lets them use emotions freely instead of being the plank of wood men are expected to be
The patriarchy wouldn't have been a thing if that was true.

>>18519257
>men never recover from a breakup
Kek, bullshit. Given time and more relationships, friendships, other life events etc you do. The phrase "time heals all wounds" isn't just a phrase, it's pretty accurate.

Also the dailymail loves to do garbage clickbait articles like this.

>>18520077
And it still isn't true shocker. Almost like it's stupid, boring whores trying to make themselves more important than they actually are

>>18520040
Well, fair enough, but ... focusing on any particular figure, 2% or whatever, is a little silly, as when you get to the highest reaches of human ability (whether mental or physical), the tails of the bell curve become extremely narrow - the dropoff is even less sharp. With IQ, for instance, the difference between the 97th percentile and the 98th is one of, like, three points. Much the way the difference between a sprinter who wins an Olympic gold medal and somebody who didn't even place might only be a few fractions of a second.

Whether the arbitrary number we settle on is 20% or 2% or 3%, obviously people with great natural ability are more likely to succeed. I mean ... yeah. That's not so much brosciency as banal. As for everyone else being "worthless," many millions of men who are nowhere near the top 2% in anything manage to land jobs doing something useful where they make decent money. Many of them marry women who most people would find at least reasonably attractive, have children, and pursue hobbies that they find fulfilling even if they'll never be world-class at any of them. If you think people like that are 'worthless' then I guess that's your prerogative, but that's approaching edgelord territory. I'm not offended by it, it's just silly. After all, there are a lot of necessary jobs that don't require genius-level intelligence.

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>>18520104
>many millions of men who are nowhere near the top 2% in anything
Well that's unfortunate.

>>18520040
Idiots like you are why I should stop using this shitty imageboard

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>>18520359
Another ad hominem.

You all know deep down inside that I'm right.

>>18520126
Chris Evans is the pinnacle of the male form

>>18520404
God damn, Alison!

>>18519266
This applies to the one who does the breaking up, no matter the sex.

>>18520425
Makes sense.

>>18520404
Goddess.

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>>18520413
>>18520439

>>18519257
>Men never recover
that's bullshit, I had my fair amount of broken hearts both when I was dumped or when I did it. I always managed to heal, and each relationship that I had gave me something to learn.
>had fun with a variety of women
that's your problem, hooking up sometimes just makes you feel more hollow, my advice is to focus on your goals instead.

I'm a girl. It's been two years since I broke up. Still think about him everyday. Haven't been able to even touch another guys hand since then because I'm stuck on my ex.

>>18520805
Follow what >>18520801 said, focus on other stuff, find a hobby, hang out with friends, you need to find a way to put your thoughts into something else, and don't even think about using somebody as emotional bandage.

>>18519980
3%

I got dumped from a 4 month relationship.

First argument and she decides to end it while I'm trying to fix things. It's been a couple of weeks and this hurts more then my previous mutliyear break ups.

>>18520933
Because you got dumped when you're supposed to be on the honeymoon fase with no problems in sight, its understandable why it hurts so much.

I want to date this normie girl but I feel like it's going to lead to a life of partying and drinking

>>18520943
Makes a lot of sense.

I just want to move on. I treated this girl great but whatever reasons she didn't want to stay. I'm past the anger, and depression stage, I've accepted there is no getting back. I frustrated with still being sad and sometimes breaking down.

>>18519293
Wow, you messed with 2+ year relationships with just a "lets see how this goes" attitude.
A part of me can't wait for your relationship to end so you can see how devastating a long term relationship ending can be. I realize I shouldn't wish that upon someone so I will leave you with this food for thought. Look at how you have treated people in your life, look at how you thought about other people, "Let's just see how this goes" isn't a good way to treat someone in a long relationship. You will either realize your mentality and behavior is harming to others and that you need to improve upon yourself in order to be a better person and partner in life, or you will just be a typical woman. Best of luck!

>>18519257
>Straight up, no bullshit: Why do women move on from heartbreak faster than men?
Because they can.
If a woman wants to go out and get fucked, she will struggle to find a man that will say "no", men don't have it that easy.
Because of that, women can go out, find Chad, fuck him and have a very cheap night out getting the (short lived) experience of someone who is out of their league, forget about their ex and live their lives.
Granted women will have rebounds and feel shitty, but because they are getting everything out of their system, they will move on easier.
They also move on easier because they are biologically programmed to move on to someone who is a provider.

sorry to hear that you wonder about your ex, my advice would be to block her on everything and get rid of anything that reminds you of her.

>>18519257
Unless you have autism like me. Give any relationship, no matter the length of time (7 years here for longest), in a month or less, I've completely forgotten that person existed. I have no complaints with my condition.

>>18519266
Yes and no. Both men and women do this but since women have better control over emotions, it's easier for a woman to seal away those thoughts and memories than it is guys. Trust me, I broke up with one of my exes and in about 3 weeks to a month she had another bf while I didn't get another gf for atleast a year or more

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>>18520933
What was the argument about?

>>18519893
Let me guess, you're a roastie huh?

>>18521091
You just don't realise that a lot of people actually do this.

>meet someone
>"oh this girl/guy is cute and interesting, lets see how this go"
>girl/guy shows interest.
>"well have nothing better going on, why not?!"

Then they proceed to enjoy the relationship until:

1: They grow bored of their partner and start missing the single life.
2: They find someone better.

Few people actually get into relationships with deep emotional connection to their SO.

>>18521093
Shit like this is why I love the fact that women hit their wall in their 30's and from there it's all downhill. No greater karma for receiving dick and attention rent free than to lose the very thing that gave you that attention. Women may be able to con better but losing your best weapon essentially removes you from having any standing. Feels so good when I'll be able to plow college pussy in my 40's

>>18519257
>Why do women move on from heartbreak faster than men?
First off, I don't think this is the question you should be asking, or the idea you should be asserting.

>Why do the young women I have known (like my ex) move on from heartbreak faster than the men (like myself) I have known?
That's probably what you ought to ask.

Well, look at it like this. Young women are at the peak of their desirability, personality development aside. They'll miss their old flame, but they know they still have a world of options.

A young man, on the other hand, doesn't know how long it will take to become established and have a world of options with women. He doesn't even know what age he will be when opportunities come along like that again. He might also be more rational and focused, and therefore aware that the breakup has left him jaded.

>>18521113

No actual argument. We never fought. Just her voicing her thoughts on something I did that she didn't like. I said I would work on it. Had a great night afterwards and then she broke it off a week after.

>>18521128
I'm not talking about requiring to have a deep emotional connection but you do verify exactly what I am talking about. My best guess is that these people just don't have their house in order aka life together or think a relationship might make them happy when they are not happy with themselves? Yes, I've met a ton of people like you described, which is why I never continue to date them once I find out that they are like this. I don't develop deep emotional connections right away, in fact I'm a bit closed off due to people like who you described. I go on dates until I can determine if the potential partner is worth it / doesn't have deal breaking qualities, and knows what they want with their life, and then I peruse a relationship from there. I know it isn't the norm to date like this, but I find it so strange that other people date like the way you describe.

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>>18521149
I see.

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>>18519984

what absolute wank. i've never got over my ex for over 3 years, and in that time i've actively seeked professional therapeutic techniques to rid the lamenting thoughts over them and it hasn't worked. every day i think about how they might be doing and if he's happy. it's not a gendered thing

>>18521190
I know, but most men are used to see things for the perspective of other men, that's where they come from.

>>18521182

Thanks?

Not sure what to reply. Lol

>>18521197
fair enough but i don't think it's productive to see this as a thing where only men have long term feelings for a person, whereas women just get over it as it it was nothing. but yea id expect people on this board to have high emotional attachment/vulnerability compared to most, and obviously most people here are male.
just interjecting my opinion yo

>>18521230
>i don't think it's productive to see this as a thing where only men have long term feelings for a person, whereas women just get over it as it it was nothing.
They think this because they're the ones getting dumped by someone they're in love with, like >>18519266 said, most of the
time, people who dump their partners are already over it.

Its good to see the other side of the coin for a change so they won't buy the /r9k/ mindset that every woman is emotionally vapid

>>18521091
Meh, I am not saying I was right. I was young in those relationships.

Plus, those two relationships ended because they both cheated on me. One I found out, the other revealed it to me in our last argument. Feeling the way I already did, what was I supposed to do? Work through it when I didn't even want to? They obviously were not invested either.

>>18521129
I hate to break it to you, but if you aren't slaying college pussy when you are of college age, then you probably won't be doing it at 40 unless you are rich and can afford to party with what will be kids.

>>18521281
right, the person who ended it is likely the one who moves in easiest. people here are the ones who got got dumped most probably, and are most likely male. i get that, so i'm not too buttmad.

>>18519257
Because they have multiple suitors and they've had backups and guys talking to them as "friends" that they have been waiting to fuck the whole time

>>18520074
Countless rape centers for women
0 for men

>you are thinking right now men are never raped
40% of rape victim are men

>about to call me a MRA for complaining

> would never in a million lifetimes talk shit about a woman complaining about rape

>>18521345
No shit senpai. It's not like I'm going to be sitting at campuses at 40 waiting for ass. But at 40 I'm sure I'll either be around college students or working with some. And usually it's easier for older men to score than younger so you do the math. I dunno why everyone thinks getting pussy means drowning in it. I could easily bang 1 or 2 sluts and be well off enough with that

It's called "War Brides" OP. Way back in history, men would die in war/battles and the opposing victorious male would take his bride as a trophy. So women evolved to get over men quickly because they died in battle on a regular basis.

>>18519257
This sounds like bullshit. The hurt of a break up depends on the level of attachment or importance the person had to you, the support network you have (if any), and your personal tolerance. Some take a day to recover from, most take a week to a month, and losing "the one" you can sometimes never recover from.

>>18521596
We aren't counting prison rapes >>18521676
Oh great used up goods great reward

>>18519980
You can't objectively measure the quality of straight men versus straight women without taking into account the sex drive of each.

It's not that the women are "better" than the men. In general women are lazy, stupid, and have shitty annoying personalities, but men are desperate because they want sex more than women do.

>>18519912
Ask a woman if she's over a guy, and even if she cries about him every night she'll claim she's a "strong independent woman who don't need no man"

Ask a guy if he's over a woman and he'll either answer honestly or fake still being hung up on her to appear sentimental to nearby grills.