>talk to girls for a long ass time on dating sites
>they never want to meet up and ghost me if I ask
I don't get it, why would they waste so much time talking to me if they don't want to meet irl? What am I doing wrong?
Girls need attention like plants need light and water. You are giving it to them for free.
>>18513641
If you want to date them, don't become their fucking chatbuddy. Ask them out after 4-5 messages tops.
>>18513687
Will do, thanks for letting me know. Apparently I assumed you were supposed to establish some kind of connection first, and then ask them out
>>18513659
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>>18513690
Nah. The thing is, if you chat too long you're creating an image of the other person in your head, and she is creating an image of you in hers. Even if you do go out an a date, the chance is very real that you won't be able to live up to that (false) image and it all goes to shit anyway.
The first few messages are important for first impressions' sake, so don't be a creep and don't be a beta. Just be like "Hi there", take it from there, and meet up as soon as possible. Then and only then should you start worrying about establishing a connection.
Don't get invested too soon, it's a numbers game.