Right. So recently I've met this girl and we just seems

>>18510838
as simple as it sounds, its just as efficient:

take it slow

seriously, slowly get to know her before you fall for her, figure out is she a reasonable human being with problems, a nutjob or anything in between that may or not be worth your respect and love

>>18510838
If you really like her you might aswell go with it right?

I think self harm is usually just a cry for attention. BUT, it can also be that you are in so much psychological pain and don't know what to do. You don't want to off yourself because ur not a coward. I tried when I was younger(once, someplace noone can see it). The day after I realized how stupid it was and people will just think more funny stuff about me if I keep doing it.

Sorry for hijacking your thread talking about myself.

Go for it, maybe she's the one and she'll never self harm again. Or maybe you break up and she returns to her misery, but it will never be your fault if she does these things(unless you do something you shouldn't).

Good luck

CHeers lads two totally different ideas but I'll consider each and make a decision

>>18510866
I'm the second guy, and I agree with the first response ofc. Baby steps, don't throw yourself in there.

This goes for all relationships. Freedom of choice my man

>>18510838
Tell her you'll help so when she cuts one arm, you'll do the other one so its even.