I haven't seen my boyfriend for a week because I have been

>bf
>I jacked off

Well apparently you're gay, and someone complaining about know about their partners masturbation is gay as fuck, so apparently everything is normal here

>>18507510
if you are sexually unsatisfied then no, it's a failed relationship from the start.

Some people share a mutual attraction and really respect one another but a dull sex life can and will ruin the relationship. This in most cases can be salvaged fairly easily, but he has to make an effort to be less of a prude, and if he cant do that then it's probably not worth it in the long-run.

>>18507537
I am a woman. There isn't a good female equivalent of that phrase.

>>18507539
He's such a good partner in every other way. He's dedicated and sweet and he'll talk to me for hours and he remembers everything about me and he fully listens when I talk.

But I panic at the thought of having our kind of sex, forever, with no new positions, and no oral for me, and getting made fun of half the time I try to initiate it....That makes me panic.

dump his ass nigga

if he can't handle a girl j/oing then god knows what kind of crazy sexual repression he has going on

not to mention, it's really just a disrespectful thing to say to someone who cares about you. Plus like, have a fucking sense of humor, jeez. Fuck this guy

>>18507568
have you been open with him about this? I'm sure there have been halfhearted attempts but try to sit down with him and have a real talk with him. If hes such a great listener he should be able to understand where you're coming from.

Is he a fairly jealous person? The "TMI" may have been in response to knowing that you were probably jerking off to pornhub, so other men. Calling you thirsty is weird though. How old are you two and did you take his virginity?

And just to reiterate: you're not overreacting if everything you're saying is true. A boring sex life IS something that will end a relationship.

>>18507510
It seems like your boyfriend is trying to be one of the gay people who doesn't give anti-gay people more ammunition, but you are hell bent on telling people how often you masturbate. You're even doing it right now.

>>18507543
K, in that case there's only one gay: him

Drop thay faggot. This >>18507568 is not the description of a partner. It's the description of a gay friend/hair stylist

He makes jokes about you being thirsty because he's feels bad about NOT being as horny as you.

Also, not everyone is as comfortable about everything. Like some couples are OK about pissing and shitting when the other person is in the same room, others definitely NOT ok with that.

Some couples like showering together and being naked around each other all the time, others feels like it's too much and kills the mystery.

>>18507591
He's had one other partner before me, who dumped him because she wasn't sexually satisfied. I wasn't his true first, but I did have to coax him to get on top of me, because he had only known cowgirl. So maybe that underlying fear is why he doesn't want to confront this issue.

Also, I will try to discuss different positions and he'll say, "that only works for guys with huge dicks. My dick isn't huge." So I'll show him a list curated for smaller dicked dudes, with diagrams, and that will gut him.

He can't really be jealous of me looking at porn because he looks at tons. Tons. He's forgotten to clear his web history often enough for me to know. One time he even left his Google Drive open and I saw that in the past, he had been taking creepshots of women's chests.

So he clearly likes sex! He just doesn't want to talk about it. He doesn't want to strive to make it better. If I make it clear that I will leave unless it gets better, that's cruelty. It's emotionally coercing someone to blow you, which would be monstrous if a man did it. You can't enjoy sucking dick/licking pussy if you feel like you have a gun to your head.

>>18507646
theoretical cumcepts

>>18507646
>taking creepshots of womens chests
uhhh that's fucking weird, but at the same time I guess we all do crazy shit when we're horny.

So anyways we know hes very good at listening, emotional support and all that, and we know he has a high or at least average libido, but he wont do much during sex. He probably just has a shitton of performance anxiety.
>just lays on his back during sex because the woman can use him like a dildo and its easier to stay hard this way
>thinks if hes in charge he'll do something wrong
>obviously self-conscious about his dick size

I feel like I had a similar problem in my first relationship, if I'm understanding him correctly. He probably really loves you and doesnt want to be "bad" at sex, so he decides not to try at all and feigns a lack of drive for it. Help him understand that in sex it's just fun and he has no obligations. That you love his dick and want him to try those positions "that only work for guys with huge dicks" anyways.

Once hes happy and comfortable with everything he can ease into trying new things and feeling confident about it.

>>18507646
Ok, multiple issues going on here then:

Insecurity. He feels sexually inadequate and that makes him not want to even try, which of course makes him *actually* inadequate, which makes him more insecure, etc etc. Vicious circle.

Porn addiction. Not only is this fucking with his libido, it's giving him a warped view of what sex is actually like. Fuck, I bet he even thinks pubic hair is gross and all kinds of gay shit like that. It also doesn't help his feelings of inadequacy to watch 10 inch dongs all day.

Over-masturbating. I'm not a nofap advocate in most cases but this really seems to be affecting his stamina and motivation.

MOST IMPORTANTLY: a lack of communication, respect, empathy with YOU. This is the most unacceptable part. The rest of the problems are fixable, but this last one is a big fucking red flag.

Idk, if you truly love him, maybe it's worth working through these issues, but it'll be a process. I say if he's just a bf that you're trying to get to know better, it's time to gtfo.

Also:

>If I make it clear that I will leave unless it gets better, that's cruelty. It's emotionally coercing someone to blow you, which would be monstrous if a man did it. You can't enjoy sucking dick/licking pussy if you feel like you have a gun to your head.

A. this behavior indicates underlying problems (see above) that are far greater than not getting eaten out (which is intolerable, btw). B. It's not a "gun to the head"; a relationship is a social contract that can be terminated at any point, where both parties have to fufill the other's needs. Ending the relationship isn't equivalent to ending someone's life. If something isn't working, sexually or not, there are only three options: resolve the issue, get over it, or break up.

>>18507710
holy shit, I glossed over the part in your post about the creepshots. Get the fuck out of there. This dude doesn't respect women, and he doesn't respect you.

I know that sounds dramatic, but you're going to end up learning that at some point, either the easy way or the hard way.

>>18507715
It's hard to argue with you. He did apologize to me about the creepshots, he said it was something he regrets from his past and that he didn't want to do it again, etc. And I do believe him, because he has been exceptionally kind and loving to me. But the problems with sex might prove to be too much. I'm going to talk to him soon, illness be damned.

This dude sounds like me honestly. My last relationship, the only adult relationship I've had to date, was one largely ruined by insecurities I have about sex that I couldn't get over. Knowing I was far less sexually experienced than her I became so terrified of being a bad lay that I pretty much just shifted the idea of having sex into a far away corner of my brain, yet I'd still masturbate regularly (ironically while thinking about her most of the time) and by any other measure my sex drive was normal.

Ultimately it is his problem to deal with, but it doesn't look like he'll be sorting it out on his own anytime soon. I think it's worth having a relaxed but thorough discussion about it, like >>18507704 said.

I wouldn't rule out giving him an ultimatum if that doesn't work, because it may just be the kick he needs to force him to put his issues aside for the good of your relationship. In my case, I certainly wish I'd had a real discussion about the issue or even a kick in the face instead of it chipping the relationship away into nothing.

>>18507543
Schlucked off