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This got very long, please skip to all caps portion for a TL:DR.
I'm a 24 year old male. I have been in a relationship for a year and a half, long distance for most of it, and my gf is moving out to live with me soon. I genuinely love everything about her, so that's not my problem.
My problem is I think I have an actual sex addiction. Not "huehue I just wanna get laid" but like, often times cannot think about anything other than sex, browse porn at almost every free opportunity, jerk off way too often (3 times a day almost every day), and my fetishes are starting to get more extreme (furry, soft vore, general feeding/stomach fetishes, gagging deepthroat type stuff). Luckily I haven't gotten into anything too bad like scat or gore or anything, and I don't think I ever will. But for even longer than I've been dating my current gf, I've been chatting with a girl (identity unverified, could be a 50 year old dude I suppose although she's sent pictures and videos, just not with a current newspaper or anything) I met on a vore site. She's totally emotionally unstable but our kinks line up, and we recently figured out we live like 20 minutes from each other (long story but there's no way she could've guessed correctly, it's valid). I find myself of course wanting to go fuck her before my gf moves out here, even though never in my ~decade of dating girls have I ever physically cheated on them, although I've almost always sexted other people to fulfill my sexual fantasies.
LONG STORY SHORT, I'LL ASK MY QUESTION: I know hooking up with crazy fetish girl would ruin my relationship, so I'll try to cut her off cold turkey. But should I try to ease my gf into my fetishes (explain furry to her, maybe try to get her to drink some water so I can hear it slosh when we have sex or feed me water for the same reason, etc.) or should I keep it on the down low and try to quit my fetishes cold turkey in order to have a "normal" sexual relationship with her?
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probably go to therapy
you can't quit fetishes but you can explore their roots and become more in touch with yourself and alleviate your condition
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>>18500825
Any ideas if I can't do therapy due to circumstance?
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>>18500857
and what circumstance is that?
you really should go out of your way to do therapy from what i hear
other than that i can think of doing drugs that distance you from yourself
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>furry
>Extreme
>Three gaps a day
>Extreme
Wat. Do you know where we are?
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>>18500981
I know, it didn't seem that bad as I was typing it but it makes an impact on my life/relationships so I'm labeling it as out of the ordinary/extreme. Although I recognize I'm a lot better off than most.
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>>18500872
I'm in the military and I don't think my insurance will cover it, I don't know if it would cover it anyway even if I were on regular health insurance. Also, I don't want to get flagged for a behavioral health issue or something and have it hurt my career. For that reason, drugs are also out of the question.
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>>18501156
in that case you know what you /should/ do already, though in your case what you should do has great consequence
but that's really it, it's tough
other than that and drugs, there is seeking advice from like-minded people, which you are probably trying to do here
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>>18501176
Yeah I guess I was wondering if anyone's done like meditation or something like that, I guess I wanted something that wasn't drugs or doctors since I have a pretty high degree of self control with most other things in life so I figured I could apply that to this as well.
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