My boyfriend changed the password on his computer. We're

>>18496426
And how do you know he changed it exactly? Because you knew it and tried snooping?

>>18496426
Why the fuck do you have his password in the first place

>>18496433
>>18496436

he uses the same password for everything, and it's two letters
he ain't too bright

>>18496426
Maybe he had a security breach, bro. Maybe he thought the old one was too hard to remember, or too easy to guess. Maybe he just changes it regularly like you should.

>>18496438
Or maybe an update just started enforcing a minimum length.

>>18496438
>two letters
stop lying ho

>>18496438
Kek bullshit, nothing lets you use only two letters.

>>18496438
so why do you know he changed it

because you were logging into his stuff?

How long have you known each other for?
Did you normally use his computer before or something?
Do you have any reason to suspect that changing his computer password is evidence that youre being cheated on?

>>18496443
>>18496446
why you calling me a fucking liar? Windows 7 lets you two letters if you want

>>18496451
about 3 years
I only check his computer while he's at school, but I don't go through the browser history. Just the messages. And he's a fucking guy. That's all the evidence I need to be suspicious.

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>>18496470
>And he's a fucking guy. That's all the evidence I need to be suspicious.

>>18496426
Relationships are about MUTUAL trust and respect.

You obviously dont trust him anymore. Why are still wasting time with him? The easiest solution is to simply ask him. If you cant communicate with each other either, you arent couple in the first place.

Tldr ask him as directly as possible. See his reaction and body language. And trust your gut.

>>18496470
Would you rather want a non-fucking guy?

I hope hes bangin mad sluts and you only find out after he gets bored of you and dumps you.

>>18496438
If he isn't bright enough to remember a normal lengthen password, he is probably too stupid to cheat on you without getting caught almost instantly.

Why are you with this dude in the first place? You obviously don't respect him.

>>18496470
You're a passive aggressive cunt. I hope he's cheating

>>18496436
This. If you think you need to read his mail and lig into his facebook and spy on him, there's not enough trust to make the relationship work. Maybe you don't trust him because he's given cause (why are you still with him?) or maybe he hasn't (you're a paranoid stalker), but either way it's a giant red flag if you have his passwords.

>>18496426
>obviously I cant bring it up with him
>>18496438
>he ain't too bright

are you fucking retarded? just ask for it when your computer or phone runs out to search something up.

>>18496470
>And he's a fucking guy. That's all the evidence I need to be suspicious
wew kid, you need to just break up with him

>>18496426
This post is full of so many red flags against you I'm surprised your capable of getting a boyfriend

>>18496438
>he ain't too bright
Dump him
I have an IQ of 127, which should be enough, and am crazy under the sheets. I also have a nice job and own two houses in Europe. Average looking guy.

>>18496474
This.

>>18496470
Holy shit laies, are you all so enslaved by stereotypes? I mean, that joke gets old very quickly.

t. All the cheaters I met in my life were women

>>18496710
I was wondering what pertinence any of that had, before I realized you were hitting on OP. Lmao. Cringe.

He doesn't want you to find the trap porn.

>>18496426

Might, might not.

Im in an ltr, and i even travel for work. Once i was gone for 5 months. My gf trusts me a lot. Cheating is extremely easy for me to get away with.

But i dont cheat.

This is important to know about me because of this next part.

Past relationship fucked me up. Ill spare that long story. But because of it I am hyper private, i change my passwords if she finds them (not that she snoops sometimes she needs an account i have the same password for for something else.) i hide my texts, i delete convos with girls, and ill turn off my phone if ever she glances at my screen and i run out of rooms to take calls.

This is an anonymous board, i have no ego to save for you. So its important to note i do literally nothing wrong or sketchy, even in those mentioned convos i delete.

Some people are just very protective of their privacy for one reason or another.

Im not saying your boyfriend is or isnt cheating. Im just saying a changed password or locking you out of something doesn't immediately mean as such.

Everyone has a right to their privacy and no one is a 100% open book. If someone is that open, theyre autistic or lying.

>>18496710
Are you actually trying to proposition a blatantly insecure chick who regularly spies on her bfs social media? What is your endgame here?

>>18496870
>i have an IQ of 127

You know anon i think he just might be autistic enough to be seriously trying.

>>18496426
Maybe he got his hands on tasty brand new loli porn and doesnt want you to know he watches loli porn.

>>18496891
Whatever. I'm in the 150s and still not dumb or desperate enough to hit on this chick.

>>18496426
Yeah.... Ur a dipshit

>>18496925
Its not the iq. Its the open claim like it somehow means something and makes him more appealing when he should know it has almost nothing to do with what hes like as a person in the slightest.

>>18496438
Nothing lets you use a two-letter password, what happened was he found out you were snooping on him, and faced with the choice between a subtle hint or confronting you, he chose the subtle hint option and just changed his password. If you bring it up, he'll definitely have an argument with you, and your reasons for thinking you had a right to do it will raise a question mark over the relationship.

>>18496927
It's the IQ. The higher the IQ, the dumber at dealing with women. Chad is 99 on a good day.

>>18497044

Disagreed. The correlation between high iq and social skills is there but hardly universal.. It seems that way because smart social tards frequently use it as an excuse because its an easy out: "i have a shit quality because i have this *amazing* quality so affirm me." essentially..

I never had an iq test but did need a psychologist in hs because of my troubles in school. They estimated 99th percentile for intelligence after much testing and reviewing of my performance on provincial education quality testing. That equates to about 125.

I can tell you in practice as far as my social skills and general life quality goes it means fuck all.

Im impressively good at room escapes and wind up the leader of the groups if not solving the whole puzzle my damn self, i always win board games with my friends when strategy and thinking is involved, and i read a fuck tonne of science shit because it genuinely fascinates me and i can absorb information well... And sometimes peers describe me to others as "that dude is crazy fucking smart" or something along those lines.

Im also a carpenter and im a bit quicker at work solving problems and snags than my co workers. That is about all the advantages ive got. Its mostly pretty useless. Unless maybe i pursued a PhD in something, im pretty much a regular dude with a few specific skills better than most that are trivial at best.

Never had trouble with womens or friends or normies. Then again all things considered im mostly a normie.


Tl;dr

Nah, in my opinion that whole tortured
misunderstood genius shit is overblown. Maybe it exists to some degree but its mostly autists seeking affirmation and an excuse for why people dont like them.

Im mostly basing it on anecdote (me and a few other PhD pals I do have with the same experience) but i bet itd hold up.


I dont know find me sources and prove me wrong. I wont be mad.

>>18497167
>I never had an IQ test
>Talks about educational placement tests which has nothing to do with IQ
>Throws out his own made up IQ number
>Fuck man, you are dumb because you don't even know that IQ tests have pretty much zero to do with educational level or placement.
Go get a real IQ test administered by a real psychologist so you can deflate your ego a little you normie.

>>18497217

125 is not made up. It is 99th percentile on the IQ scale. I did see a real psychologist, they prefer not to use IQ because its very dated and not entirely agreed upon by the scientific community.

I do have a university education, (bachelor in political science) but i went into carpentry because i wanted a tangible skill and they pay me a fuck tonne more money for a more fun and rewarding job than any masters degree can get me that i can then use to have my own business and sell my own products (which i make a killing doing).

The review of school tests was one part of the process. They also had their own set of tests and cognitive exercises involving math, patterns, logic and writing skills. Very much like an IQ test.

>deflate your ego

I think my entire point was its relatively meaningless. Im good at trivia and puzzles. Wowzah!!! What a savante, right!?

I also believe i asked for sources to prove my *opinion* wrong. Not an ad hominum derailing a conversation and potential for mutual learning.

My boyfriend gives me all his passwords.
Every now and then I check things- but very rarely as he has nothing of consequence to hide.
I try to respect his privacy and keep the nosing around to a bare minimum.

Imo all these guys demanding their right to secrets aren't worth trusting.

If it was my bf I could just outright ask what the new pw was.
So I would just ask him.
If he doesn't want to answer it'd a red flag.

>>18497292
So that means he has your passwords as well right?

>>18497292
Trust is a two way street.
I've always very much appreciated my bf keeping everything open to me.
I never demanded it- and have given him all my passwords in return.

>>18497295
Yup

>>18496426
why do you snoop on him you conniving whore? Get your own fucking computer, let a man have his privacy. It's women like you that make the divorce rates so high.

>>18497295
But for sake of honesty I would have eventually ninja'd my way into everything if he did keep it closed.
I know it'd be "wrong"
But at the end of the day I'll always try to protect myself.

>>18497308
Because I caught my dad cheating on my mom and funding a second family.

I have my issues.
I don't want to waste time out of my life being used.

>>18497316
Well if you can't trust him leave him, it will be better for the both of you. Not every male is like your father.

>>18497316
He knows about this, it's why he's open.
We have an all cards on the table style relationship.
Him watching porn doesn't bug me- I watch it too and we contsantly try and one up eachother hunting for the hottest nastiest stuff we can find.
There isn't much to keep secret between us two.

>>18497316
I've been there. I caught my dad cheating; he'd bought the other woman a car and a ring, and he'd bought her kids toys. He was helping fund her family too.

I still make sure that my gf and I have privacy from each other. Trusting is hard, and she's worth the effort.

>>18497329
I check once a month because I let him use tindr.
I'm open for a threesome- I've given him the task of finding a potential friend for us. And I monitor from time to time, I give into my insecurities and test them at the same time.
I'm not perfect.
So far we've been on a few dates w some girls but none we wanted to invite to bed yet.

>>18497300
>>18497330
Looks like you two have normalized sharing passwords and have a kind of kinky side. Why not make the password bit a game: wrestle him, tie him up, and make him tell you the password. It's an interrogation, he's the helpless prisoner, and you're the inquisitrix.

>>18497340
Omg lol you have no idea how bad I want him tied to a chair...
I'm going to have to play that out and refer to him as "Mr.Bond" when I do it.

>>18497292

I'm sorry, but both parties in a relationship deserve some degree of privacy. Just because I'm fucking someone does not mean she gets access to important high level documents in my company, unfettered access to private conversations I may have with my friends about their lives, and especially not access to my bank accounts.

I'm sure this whole "open sharing" thing works for 20 year olds or whatever the fuck you are, but when you grow up, you end up with things of consequence that your partner just doesn't get to be a part of.

>>18497350
> Do you expect me to talk?
> No, Mr. Bond, I expect you to cum.
The best part is that it's only half roleplay: you actually want that password, so you have some real motivation.

>>18497355
Omg I'm laughing so hard right now.

>>18496426
>is that a red flag he's cheating on me
no

>I can't bring it up with him
you can, but I wouldn't move in on the accusation or even suspicion that he's cheating with zero evidence

are you worried he's going to have sex with someone else, or are you more worried he's going to find a new woman and abandon you? harden up a bit. the world is a tough place. stop being scared all of the time.

>>18497355
I love it. This is going to happen.
He looks like a young Daniel Craig too.

>>18496474
Is this trust issues combined with best shit crazy week ?

>2 letter password

Ayyyyyyy lmfao

>>18497359
Oddly enough, this seems the least awkward way to broach the subject with the bf.
Also, your bf is a lucky bastard to have a mad genius supervillain arch-nemesis like you.

>>18497352
Yeah but, relationships go farther than just fucking someone.
We aren't exactly a fresh couple- and while I have my issues w marriage because of my own parents, I think we're about to settle down.

I never assumed bank accounts were apart of the topic- and I was very uncomfortable when he gave me those passwords. Our money is not combined and for obvious reasons I OBVIOUSLY don't have access to his businesses finances.
We're both contractors with our own companies- and while I subcontract to his company and our finances will always be separate. He makes a lot more money than I do.

I'm actually fucking terrified of the trust this man has put with me- I don't have the ability touch his assets (only look) nor do I think this is normal by any relationship standards.


You're right about the convos with his friends though.
But I'm pretty sure his circle doesn't leave sensitive info written into e-mails or texts- not without being immediately deleted.
I don't exactly check his conversations with other males anyway.
( I'm worried this is getting tmi :/
But i guess it's all just anon perspective)

Depends on what the dynamics of your relationship are. Every relationship is different and without having some context, it's impossible to say. Some couples happily share passwords and all that shit, other couples don't do it at all, sometimes one partner in a relationship wants to share passwords and the other doesn't.

We need a history on why you have his passwords, how he feels about it, if he has yours, all that shit before anyone can even make a genuine comment about whether or not it's a red flag that he's cheating.

>>18497352

To clairify, I don't think the level of openness we have is normal- nor should it be expected.
I think OP is dealing with an early 20's relationship, and mine is more of a pre-marriage special case with a lot of business tied into the mix.
Trust and relationships can get way more complicated when you start making eachother money.

>>18497750
Ding ding ding we have a winner :)

>>18497735

If you have the password to my laptop, you basically have the login to a large amount of my shit.

Why would I delete conversations with friends if they're all on my personal phone that has a password? Also, I have female friends too. Are they not entitled to privacy?

If you and your boyfriend like sharing information, more power to you, but saying it's a red flag only because I want to protect my work business and personal conversations is totally unfair, and is the kind of shit advice that ruins people's relationships.

>>18496470
Now I call bait. No person is this stupid. I refuse to believe someone actually follows that logic.

>>18497794
I think it really depends on what kind of job/lifestyle OP's boyfriend has.

If my SO wants to keep something private, he'd probably just explain that-
If it was sensitive info about a friend or related to money I would understand.

He just happens to be very open with me for specific reasons which I have detailed. I trust him to talk to other women, he trusts me to observe.
We communicate all feelings with a promptness.
All cards on the table style relationship.

>>18497794

Future advice,

If you do not want it read,
Do kit leave it written

>>18497836
Kit lol, leave **

>>18497840
NOT****

Jesus Christ, I'm out

>>18497836

There's plenty of things that wouldn't be damning for the world to read, but would certainly be embarrassing and uncomfortable for your friend's girlfriend or wife to know.

>>18497861
That's NOT what I'm arguing.

>>18497877
What I mean is, im not arguing anything specific in that comment.
Just leaving some advice that has served me well.

>>18496436
>>18496433
>>18496438
Booohooo here goes thread # 276453574344 where 4chan bashes a woman for having the bf password. But wait till it comes the thread where a man has his gf password, 'cause noooo one will ever say a bad thing about it. For men is completely normal to keep an everyday record of her gf pussy but not for men, men are fucking low self steem shitheads that MUST have their shit protected, any time soon a whore might be in their lives and God protects their fake ass of being discovered!

As for OP, that man will cheat on you. I wish we could bet on it.

>>18497044
lmao that's what we want you to think

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>>18498394
There's a reason women are almost universally dumber than men. Sure, some men are dumber than some women, but no woman is smarter than all other men.

>>18498381
You really need help, Ma**