How to be a bad girl? Advice please. I'm tired of being

>>18491594
shit on the sidewalk

>>18491594
You could kill yourself, that should work

>>18491594
Just get rid of your sense of shame. Everything will come naturally after that. Get used to telling people to fuck off, though. Women are extra catty towards other women.

Did someone leave you for the bad girl? Maybe they didn't, but it seems like something has upset you.

>>18491594
>I wanna be a girl who talk and do things that she wants without being embarrassed or scared of people laughing at her.
That's not called being a bad girl. That's called having confidence and self-esteem.

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>>18491594
Drugs certainly help.
Spending extended periods of time wasted in public also helps to let loose.
I'm the same as you but with the right stuff idm going outside dressed like a hooker.

>>18491594
kill some hitchhikers

>>18491594
>How to be a bad girl?
Hook up with Chad at the club
Do porn

If you are doing the latter please send me vid link

>>18491605
I have resting bitch face. If I tell people to fuck off sure thing I'll be rude to them. Or maybe this is the point. I should learn how to say no and fuck off to people.
>>18491608
I feel like I missed a lot of things in life because I'm a good girl. I would never know what is party til passed out or getting crazy and go nut with friends etc. I choose to be in a safe zone and guys know that. Guys that dated me may sense it as well. I don't want to let them thinking "she is a good girl and don't have the ball to fuck some body on a date even if she wanted to bla"
It's also show them self conflict and self esteem you know

>>18491594
you'll regret it. just be yourself and do what you're comfortable with. Just don't forget that you do need to take action to get what you want sometimes.

i've been there too, i regret everything, i've been used. just get to know yourself better and learn to love yourself.

I have the same issue as a guy. Did drugs in highschool. Helped me fit in... With the WRONG fucking people. Don't do this please. You can learn to leave behind the sense of shame and worrying what others think. It's not easy but it can be done. I'd say make some friends that exhibit the qualities you wish to see in yourself, being around them will help you change. But don't start sleeping around and doing drugs. You'll end up used, abused, and empty and wondering why you traded what you had away for that... That is if you even still have any self awareness to speak of.

Trust me please, I'm a well adjusted guy now. There are enough "bad girls" they're overrated. Be yourself you seem like you might actually be a decent person

Get a boyfriend, invest in a relationship, cheat on him, and I promise you that you'll be the baddest girl.

>>18491632
>>18491639
I just really don't know why but every time when I dated a guy and he showed me his confidence or leading me on to everything I'll be passive and follow them. Like I don't have any opinions at all.
This may be something to do with my childhood and that's why I want to change it.
I did do drug before actually, not talking about weed. And it makes it more worse. I got more depressed and isolated. Also at that time I was in love with someone ( one sided)

>>18491639
Obligatory drugs are bad mkay guy.
Yea they are if youre a fucking retard but I didn't assume so. You just ruin them for yourself if you overdo it, so don't but theyre nowhere as bad as people make it sound like if you just wanna deal with life.

This thread is the female version of >>18491502

The advice is practically interchangeable.

>>18491664
> if you just wanna deal with life

not him but this is the worst way to take drugs..
take them to celebrate something, to make a good time an even better time, as an enhancer.
basically drugs can be the icing on the cake, not the cake itself

>>18491630
You sound fucking bad ass, honestly.

Just do some shit that scares you endlessly with some dude, act cool about it. Then tell him about how fucking scared you actually were. You'll laugh about it and you'll come across as the baddest chick ever!

>>18491737
Have all the cake I could ask for or survive on waste, really difficult choice to make...

>>18491630
Listen, don't change yourself to fit society's mold. It's okay to not be the party girl. Sure, you'll face so much pressure to be that person. Everywhere that one looks today pushes the crazy, late-night filled parties. However, once you get older, you'll begin to find many people who regret that behavior. They regret it because they participated it for the very same reason you are interested in it. The older you get, the more confident you'll become in who you are as a person. There are issues such as speaking your mind and showing your interests that can be worked on. Just work on opening up more to people about your interests, speak up when somebody says something you disagree with. Don't feel you need to get wasted, hit up the balls, or fuck fruitlessly in order to be a "sexy woman". Remember that men find the quiet type just as acceptable as the party goer. Also, you can party and not go wild. It's sometimes good to have the voice of reason at a party. What do you enjoy? Indulge yourself in it. Don't care if it fits the bad girl stereotype. After all, a "bad girl" is a girl who doesn't care what other's think. Trying to party just because you think you are missing out on what others experience is simply caring too much what other's think.

Start by indulging yourself in what brings you joy and don't care what others think of it.

>>18491594
bad girls are no good, good girls are no fun
what you need is balance between the two

>>18491755
>hit up the balls
I meant bars. I'd hope no one is just hitting balls.

You're not really a good girl, don't kid yourself
Hope I never end up with someone this retarded

>>18491754
eat cake every day and end up morbidly obese with type 2...

>>18491769
Well its taking its dear time if thats supposed to be true.

>>18491663
then you need to not have a boyfriend and be by yourself, look around and discover what you like, and why. you need to learn that you come first, and not someone else. you'll only get there by trying to work hard to make you proud of yourself.

>>18491765
What made you think she's not really a good girl?

>>18491630
>she is a good girl and don't have the ball to fuck some body on a date even if she wanted to bla
femanon, if you change this you're gonna regret it. I'm looking for exactly that.

>>18491874
>I'm looking for exactly that.

and? are you some type of catch?

>>18491911
yeah, I am.

>>18491664
Obligatory defender of drugs. There is no reason to encourage someone to take them. If you choose to that's fine, that's everyone's choice, but someone in a vunerable mindset does NOT NEED this kind of bullshit.

Literally kill yourself you trap loving faggot

>>18491594
Get into cocaine

>>18491959
you're lying

>>18491594

Fuck being a girl, good or bad. Be a Wonder Woman.

>>18491608
So you want to downgrade yourself to a slut and then regret everything you did later? Guys more than ever want good girls.

You need to sort yourself out and realise this is a passing phase. The grass is greener and all that.

>>18491664
Lol yeah, when you're 20.

You ever see a good looking user at 50?

Alcohol helps big time.

I've personally met 40 year olds who have no relationships and are lonely and full of regret.

You don't want to be like them. There's nothing wrong with being assertive, and it will take practice, but being a "bad girl" sounds like you want to party and sleep around, you're just going to be pumped and dumped and you're going to go to sleep remembering every one of them.

As for being assertive, work on it every chance you get. Don't be an asshole, but give things a chance. Change your routine once in a while. You will make mistakes, LOOK for mistakes and learn from them. That exposure will get you more and more used to failures so that you won't be scared to try things or embarrassed when they don't work out.

Take it from me, I've crashed so many times. I have failed so many things. But many of that turned out to be funny stories and I'm a lot more open than I was. It won't be easy and there will be awkward moments, but it's definitely doable, and doable in a way that you won't hate yourself.

>>18491594
>I wanna be a girl who talk and do things that she wants without being embarrassed or scared of people laughing at her.

So just do that.

But I'm gonna say, there is a reason moderate their behavior. Sometimes yelling expletives at the top of your lungs and being rude and brash to everyone around you is not really a smart idea. By all means don't stifle yourself but based on the pic you posted alone you seem to think that you have to become a "bad bitch" who fits a stereotype. You seem to think living life means drugs and alcohol and lots of sex, and it simply cannot be anything else.

You really just need to stop caring so much what others think all the time. That's all. I'm what people call a "good guy" usually and I don't get super drunk or do drugs or any of that shit. I love it when girls are open and honest but I don't care for being a huge partyer either.

>>18491594
Just being a girl is bad enough

>>18493449
I meant sometimes I can be so passive and don't have my own opinions or don't know how to say no to people.
It's good, sometimes but it's also bad. My dates usually ask why do I say yes with everything. Even I don't like that idea much I still follow them because it makes them happy.
What I want to change is to be bold, dare to speak out my opinion even if it hurts.
I care too much about what people think, like too much so I usually choose to be in a safe zone

Do you have something you're really, really good at, anon? Confidence (at least for me) comes from knowing that I'm an ace at what I do, that there's nobody better me. I advise you to improve yourself and confidence should come naturally. It carries over to other aspects of life, too.

Further advice:
Stop caring what people think. It really doesn't matter so much in the long run. Besides, they probably don't judge you nearly as much as you think. That takes energy. They probably don't care about you enough. Realizing that you don't matter is freedom. Also learn to deal with confrontations. You will have to go against your instincts, but it's a skill like any other and it can be learned. The more you do it, the simpler it will become.