Is there a way to tell if a girl wants to be with you for more

i dont see the harm in asking, "do we have a future together" or something, anon
go ahead and ask her before it itches your feelings any further

it sounds like yall are kinda uncompatible to begin with. you don't trust her, and she seems kinda iffy about the whole thing.

>She definitely does have anxiety and is treated for it, but I'm still skeptical. Just sounds like she wants to have fun then it's over when she goes back.

or she just has anxiety. I think it's bad for her to have a summer fling without being clear to you that it's just a summer fling, but that might not be the case and it seems like you're already demonizing her in your head in anticipation of that. Seems messy all around.

>>18489213
We've talked about it and I've asked her a few times already. She said she wants to make it work but doesn't want to hurt me or guarantee anything. Makes sense I guess

I asked what if she had to go back tomorrow (this was a week ago). She said we'd call and text and take it from there
>>18489220
>I think it's bad for her to have a summer fling without being clear to you that it's just a summer fling
At least I'm not going crazy, cause it'd starting to occupy my thoughts when I'm with her. I'm just trying to assume this is a summer thing and enjoy the time I have with a cute girl. But then I think about the stuff we do and her going back and doing it with other guys and it just makes me furious

This is my first relationship as an adult (20) after losing 100 lbs and so I just don't want to be weird about it...but damn man why can't I just be happy?

>>18489226
I think your problem, again, is that you're demonizing her. She may legitimately like and have feelings for you, but long distance relationships suck and are stressful. (I've broken it off with someone that I legitimately loved because the distance was too much, and I still think that decision was for the best) You might have some residual self esteem issues since you used to be overweight, so you're assuming that she's acting like this because she doesn't care about you, when that might not be the case. It sounds like she's laying the cards down on the table pretty plainly because she doesn't want to hurt you.
Just try to enjoy what you have for now. There will be plenty more girls in the future if this one doesn't work out.

>>18489245
you loved someone but broke it off because of something temporary in the the long run? I just don't get it