My gf and I had a huge fight a few weeks ago that led in a one

>>18488491
If you think its inevitable, break up with her first, that way it'll be easier down the road to get back with her again.

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looks like the typical Knapp's Relationship Model. According to that, you're fucked.

If you really want to "save it" both sides need to be willing to do so. If your gf is already kind of meh about the relationship, she's gonna jump ship asap. If I were you, I'd make it clear to her that you really want to stay with her (only if you mean it) and see if she feels the same. If not, then be prepared to be hit with depression...

You may have needed a longer break from each other. Give your girlfriend more time to miss what you once had.

It's hard to say for sure why that is happening and what to do about it without knowing the details.

Most likely the issue isn't settled. You came back together but one (or, most likely both) of you still can't get over it. You still can't see and empathize with her perspective and she can't see and empathize with yours. So deep down you still think you're right and she's wrong, you're good and she's bad. When that happens you start to demonize your partner, you start to see only the bad things and ignore the good ones. You take a negative perspective on everything she does and says. To truly get over it you must find a way to empathize with her point of view and she must find a way to empathize with yours. You must try to put yourself in the other persons perspective, to think as she thinks and to understand where she's coming from, without resorting to simple, narrow-minded explanations that are too reductive or straight-up wrong (things like "she's selfish", "she's stubborn", "she's cowardly", "she's spiteful" etc. Avoid those).

Of course, this is only a guess, but it happens very often and it's a very common reason for failed relationships. If this is the case you only fix it with more discussion on the subject that caused the argument while keeping an open mind and trying to empathize with the other persons perspective. I know I'm repeating myself here, but it's very important. Instead of being confrontational you must be open, understanding and honest with her and yourself. Instead of expressing the anger you feel you must express pain that caused it. And she must do the same.

>>18488491
Have you tried talking to her about it?

Even if you genuinely resolved the issue, just the fact that you took a break from each other may make you worried that the commitment to being in the relationship is somehow gone or that the problem is not really resolved.

Sometimes just trying to clear the air and talking about what is troubling you can give you some idea of what is happening and reassurance that everything really is ok.

>>18488491
if you and your girlfriend are passed the issue and want to keep the relationship, time'll fix it.
if one of you doesn't you'll break up soon. either fight for the relationship or break up/give up, but after a big fight, things will be tense. it just needs time to heal.