>28M, 29 soon >still live with parents >never had an

>>18486881
Do things that he your self image

>>18486886
Like what?

>>18486881
One positive thing her is that you aren't hung up or idealizing losing your virginity. That is already gone. Another bonus is that the dating pool options tend to increase in your 30's. It's a time where you can meet women who are genuinely interesting and also self-supporting.

The main thing you want to do is work on one thing at a time. Looking at the big picture may be scary but easing yourself into it overtime will be much less of a daunting task. Create a list of the things you would like to change. Pick the easiest one first and everyday try to work towards that.

For example, maybe you can limit yourself yo masterbating once a day only. Work your way towards skipping days. Or maybe just don't watch porn while you do it on some days. The. You can maybe start exercising once or twice a week. Just some jumping jacks and a few pushups and lunges. Step-by-step you can become a better you. Maybe that will give you a sense of purpose.

Best of luck, Anon!

just kill yourself, i would, your old as fuck! if i'm still living with my parents by 21 i'll commit suicide, i'm 19 right now, your life's over retard.

>>18486935
you're

>>18486935
Depressed autist

no not depressed would be if i was him though

i come here to laugh at freaks like you

>>18486949
You're the one with bigger issues

like what dr? please tell me.... put your degree to use.

>have a job but it's unpaid
>but after 2 years it has become draining
well yeah slavery does that

>>18486935
29 is still relatively young man, you'll get there before you know it and it's never too late to turn your life around.

keep telling yourself that, but the reality is that if you haven't got your shit sorted by then, you never will.

>>18486929
Thanks for the thoughtful reply.

>>18486984
Eh, that's not really fair. No one coerced me into it, I asked for the opportunity with no expectation of being paid. If I was mad about it, which I'm not, I'd have no one but myself to blame.

>>18486929
>the dating pool options tend to increase in your 30's. It's a time where you can meet women who are genuinely interesting and also self-supporting

Doesn't the dating pool get worse as you age? I'm 24 and feel like I need to find someone before all women are married or have kids. I may be wrong, though.

>>18487028
>feel like I need to find someone before all women are married or have kids
Pro-tip: there will still be young, single women when you're in your 30s, just not the same ones there are right now.

>>18486881
You sound very much like me.

>28
>live with my parents
>have an extensive porn collection and watch camgirls for a few hours everyday
>paid a phone sex operator recently, wish I could go through with escorts
>have a good college degree in a field I thought I would love but don't
>unemployed
>can't drive
>only had two relationships ten years ago (and one FWB)
>have severe ADHD (but can hyperfocus)
>stilted speech and terrible at conversations unless the topic interests me
>used to weigh 100 pounds more
>not depressed or suicidal (but used to be)

There is hope.

5 years ago, no one would reply to me. Girls would consistently reject me. I would get looks and I would get consistently disrespected. I used to eat Hungry Men dinners twice a day and eat bags of SunChips to pass time.

Even with everything I've listed, I managed to cajole others to believe I am cool. When I had an online dating profile, I would get at least 20 messages a month from cute girls out of my league and could go on a date every week. No, I'm not physically attractive.

Here's what I did. I thought about what kind of girl I want to date and what kind of guy would they want. That was my only goal and focus.

I've replaced Coke with Diet Coke, Diet Coke with seltzer water, and now only drink water and tea. Replaced Hungry Men with Lean Cuisine, Lean Cuisine with salads. Chips with almonds, sweets with ginger candy. Did weight lifting to help burn calories. Once I've reached the perfect weight, I dropped weights, kept the diet. I went and bought new clothes. Clothes not my style at the time, but a style girls would like. Now it's my style. Started using moisturizers, cleansers, got a nice haircut. Gained confidence. Read psychology books how to be well-liked and people find me charming, as long as we remain distant acquaintances.

ADHD still fucks me over though. But at least I'm treated well by others.

>>18486881
quit your job, stop using porn, lose weight.
It will suck and be generally awful until you lose the weight.
It will suck hard when your brain goes through dopamine withdrawal and rewires its connections closer to normal levels.
Any job that will not pay you after 2 years of labor never will.

Spend the next 6 months to a year being unhappy and fixing yourself. Explain your plan tp your parents. Get a job, any job, that pays money. Use your hatred of your job to find what you actually like doing and pursue that.

Once you hit 30, all these things double in difficulty. Start NOW

>>18487087
Thanks for the response.

>>18487136
Thinking about moving in with my brother in another state and driving Uber. The city he lives in has a much stronger economy than where I am currently.

>>18487028
>life ends at the 3rd X

if you are a self sufficient man, its the time when you harvest the grapes of your work

there will be always dumb 18-25 bimbos ripe for fucking

>>18486881
Work overseas. Any fucking job. Scrub decks on a cruiser. Do customer service in Eastern Europe. Wash dishes on a Pacific Island. Become an English teacher in Japan. Feed malnurished Africans with a NGO. Anything as long as it breaks the routine you are stuck in.

>>18486929
>>18487087
This is probably me putting up barriers/making excuses, but I've been through these cycles of attempted self-improvement before and they've never bared fruit. For instance, I've managed to lose substantial amounts of weight in the past without seeing any tangible changes in my mental state or quality of life. This always leads to me giving up and putting the weight back on, and every subsequent attempt became less successful until I got to where I am today. I just don't see much light at the end of the tunnel any more, if I'm still going to end up feeling shitty about myself, why subject myself to all the misery?

>>18487163
Is this a strategy that's worked for you?

Thanks for all of the constructive replies, btw, to everyone itt who offered them.

>>18487146
Uber's a pretty shitty way to try to make a living. You're basically converting the value of your car into cash at way lower than minimum wage. The only way it makes sense is if you can't get even a minimum wage job due to available hours or immediate need in a shitty economy.

>>18487175
You don't just starve yourself or whatever to lose weight. You change your life in terms of diet and exercise. When I exercise I feel better about myself, and with the improvement in my fitness, I physically feel better.

And yeah, it looks like you're making excuses to not try to improve your life. Honestly dude, it's your life. If you don't care enough to try to make it a better one, that's your choice. If you've decided to be a lazy piece of shit though, stop bitching about it.

>>18487181
It did. Became a salesman in Cambodia. I stopped being a jobless kissless loser since then.

>>18487034
Fuck.. You're right and I didn't think of it that way. Will younger women really be willing to date a man in their 30's, though? I'm not interested in being a sugar daddy.

Sorry if I'm de-railing your thread, OP. I'm thinking that this info will also be useful to you.

>>18487175
>For instance, I've managed to lose substantial amounts of weight in the past without seeing any tangible changes in my mental state or quality of life. This always leads to me giving up and putting the weight back on, and every subsequent attempt became less successful until I got to where I am today.

One thing that helped me was looking at food as whether it adds +1 to my life or -1. I look at soda, processed food, and anything with a lot of calories as if it was actual poison for my body.

Lose enough weight until you can fit into a medium size slim fit shirt. Buy a new wardrobe. Then you will have no choice but to keep your weight down otherwise you're out of hundreds of dollars.

>>18487199
Mind giving some details? Curious what your experience was like.

>>18486881
lol thats hilarious kill urself you fucking loser