I'm 28 years old. I have had one gf when I was 19, it

>>18477017
Go any where and everywhere join a gym sporting event or do to general social events. Pick up a hobby that gets you to see a lot of new faces. They won't come to you.

>>18477075
>>18477017

Not OP but in a similar situation.

What kind of activities, events or whatever are the best ones to meet other people? People you can go out with and meet girls, I mean.

>>18477017
>>18477103
Why are you doing this to yourselves. Go find a whore and make sure you fuck anywhere but your place.

>Got life together, settled and in a good place.
>Introducing a woman to that.

Not even once.

>>18477186
>Go find a whore

Wow, so simple! I don't just want to get my dick wet. I want something with meaning.

>>18477203
Get a dog and have a whore. Both would be more obedient.

>>18477207
Would love a dog, but would feel guilty about leaving the dog at home 8 hours+ a day alone.

And whores aren't exactly in a kennel I can go pick up. You sound very"red pill"

>>18477017
You have a fucking house? Consider yourself happy

>>18477212
Not redpilled just old.

>>18477218
Lonely.

You know that whole "money doesn't bring you happiness". It's true. Only aboatload of money brings you happiness.

>>18477224
I'm married, with a 4 month old baby and I'll never move out of my parents? You know why? Money is the issue

>>18477017
If you can make friends (not counting weirdo friends) how are you not able to meet women?

>>18477228
Also, I'll never find a decent job and never will be successful in it.

At least you have money and a good job. First consider what you have and be thankful for that.

Next being lonely is very understandable many people are lonely; but don't think a relationship is going to bring you happiness either. It might in the short term because you will get that "high" you crave; but it's better to delay gratification and work on yourself and your interests. In other words if you take one thing away from this

"don't get a gf just to get a gf"

Don't be desperate and go for the first piece of ass that gives you attention; have some self worth and be selective about who you let into your life. Only then will the provide the value you seek.

>>18477253
Ok, so how do I break out of my loneliness in general?

Not just gf,but friends in general.

>>18477258

Get a piece of paper and pen and write down 10 things you really have always wanted to try/do. Make sure some of them lead to getting out of your house no matter how stupid it is; for example maybe you like "biking" so write that down. Then take baby steps to pursue that go for a bike by yourself for a few weeks then go find a bike club and continue to build up that interest basically it works like this

Write X on your list

Take baby steps to pursue X

Find a club/social gathering that has an interest in X

Pursue X to the fullest extent

If all goes well you will meet women/friends who like X and then you will get what you're looking for.

Make sure you actually want to do these things. For example say you really always wanted to learn to juggle or write computer code etc. Just start pursuing that now; even if some of those things don't lead to a social reward you will start to feel more confident in yourself because you're building a skill which in turn makes you more interesting/etc.

Basically you just need to start being honest with yourself and pursuing your own interests; maybe you already do that as I don't know anything about you but this is my advice.

>>18477103
Literally anything that is not inside your house on your screen. Go shopping more, just buy smaller amounts so you have to leave your man cave on the regular. This is, no joke no bulli, how I meet lasses. I'm autistic as fuck so it goes nowhere once they find out what I'm like, but I'm outwardly attractive I guess or I wouldn't get the looks/attention.

>>18477318
How do you meet women out shopping?

I've always been told only approach women in a place they expect it, ie clubs etc.

>>18477342
>I've always been told only approach women in a place they expect it, ie clubs etc.
I'm not saying become a wierd stalker, I'm saying get out more, and you definitely don't want to pick up a girl in a club mate, seriously, that's drastic. I often find that waiting in a queue I'll strike up a conversation or something, hell just the other day I was asked to reach up and grab a can of pringles in tesco by this married milfu. I was on my way out, she said her thanks and started to walk out so as I was also leaving, I offered to push her trolley to her car, it wasn't like I said it in an odd circumstance either she was struggling with it, was full to the brim. She seemed grateful enough and gave me a peck on the cheek. Didn't get her number cause I have no game and also was on my motorbike and didn't have my phone handy, but yknow, win some lose some. Little shit like that goes a long way, it breaks the ice and gets you talking. If you can keep her talking, more often than not it means there's something there. I have loads of little anecdotes like this.

I think I must have wasted 4 years of my life being a kissless virgin before I finally accepted girls aren't just going to seek me out, the opposite is meant to happen. I got /fit/ unironically and that helped more than anything, not massive gains just aesthetically ottermode. I started my local parkrun with all the older ladies and a couple have offered to set me up with their daughters and one went pretty well until I revved up the autism, and she found out I frequented 4chan, the mother still speaks to me though so its a little odd when I see them out and about around where I live.
You'd be surprised at how much girls think about boys, they just don't talk about it as much due to the social stigma surrounding the topic for lasses.

>>18477371
Honestly, I can bullshit, but fuck it what have I got to lose. I guess even if it's just the pleasentries, it'll get me less nervous talking with women in general.

Not that I sperge talking with women. I can be friends and work with them just fine. But more than that I struggle.

>>18477017

Have you ever tried asking a girl out?
What do you do in your free time? And I mean what's a regular day like, not that one time you did something social.

>>18477383
Practice makes perfect anon, but you can always give yourself a fighting chance. Always go into a conversation with some ammunition, something to fall back on if you come up short. This helps more when you know the person, you can ask them about that thing they did last weekend or whatever. As with most things, you aren't going to be amazing at it first time, but nobody was born on a podium. You certainly aren't going to be good at it unless you're the one doing it. Reading about what other people have done on an anonymous mongoloian basket weaving forum won't help you when you've got your fist clenched in your pocket to hide your boner creeping out of your underwear in your skinny jeans, I know because that's happened to me more often than I'd care to admit.

Be clean, dress sharp, get /fit/. Being /fa/ helps too if you have the time/money/commitment to faggotry, just take what everybody says on this site with a heavy pinch of salt.

>>18477424
I've asked a few girl friends out, no success mind.

Spare time at the moment is video games, movies and renovating my house. I accept that that is a big part as to why I'm alone.

>>18477425
Ammunition? Such as?

>>18477452
>Spare time at the moment is video games, movies and renovating my house. I accept that that is a big part as to why I'm alone.

This is exactly what I expected to hear.
You have to understand that video games and movies are a complete waste of time. That said, there will be cases where it is acceptable to waste your time on them. It's just not acceptable to be doing that shit every single day.
A few basic stuff to focus on in my opinion would be: look healthy and be at a healthy weight, you don't need to hit the gym if you don't want to but at least eat healthy, update your wardrobe and buy clothes that fit you well, stop watching porn entirely (or at least limit it as much as you can), get in touch with women and chat with them about banal stuff, don't focus on what it might lead to, you can use dating apps but it would be better if you did it IRL with coworkers or strangers, never assume you know anything about women and what they want, do what you feel is right and don't try to impress them, assume you're worth talking to. The thing is no matter what I say you'll need to put yourself out there and try, probably eat the bitterness of rejection a few more times before things start swinging your way. If you recognize yourself as a "nice guy" try reading No More Mr. Nice Guy or visit your favorite red pill content provider. Finally, you need to limit your presence on sites like this or reddit where you get your opinion on women and relationships influenced from other guys like you.

>>18477452
Things to talk about, can be anything really.

Compliments are an easy fallback, always gets the desired reaction and it's a nice subtle way of letting them know you're interested. Doesn't even have to be major. Basically anything that isn't autistic but also good enough to sound interested or to spark up a conversation without them thinking oh god a homosex. It's a fine line.

Join in a conversation about anything, I did that not too long ago, some odd girl at work was talking about what bands she liked to a colleague, I joined in as I'd heard her tastes and sparked up about how I like creedence. She and I had a date but nothing more, I guess my personality is a turn off. She was nice though, proof of concept if nothing else. Again, don't be autistic is the No.1 takeaway from this. Don't barge into a conversation at the wrong moment, gotta pick it wisely.

You really need to think up your own ammo if you want specifics, movie tastes, concerts, even showing off a photo is a good talking point. We have a cringey internet at work and I was asked to start a blog by my department manager as I'm an army reservist. Some 40 y/o nice-ish woman from a completely different department emailed me asking if she could be in the next photo shoot with me in uniform, we've since started texting and she wants it bad, not sure if I'm ready to be a homewrecker or not haha. This is how I started seeing a girl most recently, she saw me out with the rest of my Unit last year initially. We were all on the lash on rememberance day and I was pretty far gone, but we were all in uniform so of course we had a lot of photos taken. Some girl I didn't know came up to me when I was out on the drink yesterday, said she recognised me then showed me a photo of she and I on her phone. Honestly it was a bit wierd, but then I took the time to think and overall I appreciated the situation. We're texting and seems to be going good so far but it's early days yet.