Why can't I love? >Date a girl for a month or two. >Halfway

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Married anon here.

The relationship starts with what's called a "honeymoon period". The honeymoon period is the classic "in love" stuff. Butterflies, romance, lots of sex, everything is easy and fun and wonderful (or at least pretty good).

And then, the honeymoon period ends. It always does, this is inevitable. It may take two weeks, it may take two years, but it ends. This is when the relationship becomes harder. You need to work at it more, it's not as easy or simple. You get on each others' nerves more, you see more of your partner's flaws. They frustrate you, you argue, and the sex becomes less frequent.

If they honeymoon period was the only thing holding your relationship together, it'll fall apart. If you or your partner is always chasing this initial high, it'll fall apart. If neither of you are willing to compromise and work through things, it'll fall apart.

So, once the spark disappears, what's left?

The trick in love is to find someone that makes this harder work feel easy. Someone you get along with, someone you can communicate with, someone you can trust and be yourself around. Someone who can legitimately be your friend as well as lover. A real partner.

That's where the real love lies. This is the sort of relationship that will endure.

Maybe look for people you respect/admire and date them.