>actual actionable advice from /adv/ >use meetup >meetups

>>18470906
Where in England are you?
Why don't you move to London?

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>>18470906
You forgot waking up in the bath tub with one of your kidneys stolen.

Buuuut

> 23

> Los Angeles

> Dunno if I am supposed to describe my self, but uh

> okay, quiet, super shy

>>18470913
I am in London. Just not central London.

In a part where it still looks like 2007.

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>>18470906
Kek'd hard

>>18470930
>In a part where it still looks like 2007.

sounds great desu

yeah unless you live in a big city, there is like nothing on the meetup sites

>>18471198
>yeah unless you live in a big city

It IS London. But regardless what do you do in that situation, I mean, feel like I've taken the first step only to be shut down immediately.

>>18471067
>sounds great desu

Chicken shop prices are still from 2007 so there's that.

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....
So that's it?

The only useful piece on /adv/ I find and it turns out it won't work here?

>>18470906

do yoga for men. make your own meetup

>>18470906

>men
>gay

FYI the top results on meetup are based on your google search history

>>18470919

dude 24 los angeles here! the meetups here are great. theres tons of non gay non yoga meetsup.

go to the 'hang and game' at the belmont. a free gamer event where they hook up a bunch of video games at a bar and its all nerds.

or go to the anime nights (i host about 3 a year through existing groups).

go to a filmmaker meetup, or go to the 5 dollar sword fighting classes they have, or the horror movie groups. theres SO MANY los angeles meet ups, its the reason i suggest it.

>>18471913
>make your own meetup

Don't think that's going to go great with me being anti-social and what.

>>18471914
I know you're joking, but it would've at least given a me an option to delete the cookies.

>>18471944

>dont think thats going to go great with me being anti-social and what

thats exactly how anime meetups work. at this point you are just trying to make excuses. you can just say 'OH IM ANTI SOCIAL SO I WONT GO'

you're not though. if you want to meet people and make friends then you are not anti-social. you'vej ust been living an anti-social life and the only way to get out of it is to go socialize.

>>18471810
Those are the best bits me old empire. Fuck the gentrification of London, its all about the shitty burbs.

t. Finchley

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>>18471921
>horror movie groups

You got me there Anon, will probabky check it when I can.

>tfw I would go to the anime nights or the hang and game but it'll be like super weird or so embarssing if I went--

>>18472055

>it'll be like super weird or so embarrassing if i went

how? how would it be weird or embarrassing?

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>>18472059
Sorry Anon, but I'd feel like a nerd--

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>>18472096

if you're not a nerd, stop caring. you are literally making a thread on 4chan asking for advice on how to make friends but have decided you are too good for people who share your interests.

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>>18472118
I am, but social axiety kinda prevents from admitting to it publicly. I am not exactly saying I am too good, but it's just the opposite. And usually in meet ups like hang and game you'd bring a friend

>>18470906
gtfo of 4chan if you want to socialize dude... you'd be surprised as to how many people are willing to talk to randoms

>>18472139

>even at the hang and game you'd usually bring a friend

no, you wouldnt. you havent been there so you have no way of knowing that, more than half the group DOESNT bring a friend. SOURCE: I GO THERE AT LEAST ONCE A FUCKING MONTH

dont try to put assumptions on something you've never experienced to justify your own shitty decisions.

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>>18472118
>>18472118

That's not OP. That's the L.A. guy. I'm the OP in London.

>>18472045
t. somewhere near Barking

>>18472034
>thats exactly how anime meetups work
I think you're replying to the wrong post. I'm too anti-social to MAKE a meet-up group.

>>18472154

>thats not OP thats the LA guy

my bad, same thing still applies, he iddnt make his own thread but hes asking for advice in this one.

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>>18472152
I mean it seems like you would to have some fun with a friend or two. I am sorry Anon for making an assumption..

>>18472169

>i mean it sems like you would to have some fun with a friend or two?

yes, you would need to bring a friend to have fun with that friend.

but the whole point is to meet up. that s why its called meetup. you aren't some innocent little twat who made a common mistake, you are trying to self sabotage your self. you are insisting you can't do things youw ant to do simply because 'OH I SOMEHOW MAGICALLY KNOW EVERYONE THERE ONLY GOES WITH FRIENDS AND I WOULD NOT BE ABLE TO DO ANYTHING AND THEN ID DIE'

you are projecting so much nonsense as if just going to the bar and meeting people isn't even worth it despite you clearly wanting to make friends.

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>>18472178
I am sorry Anon, many thoughts run through my fucking head and most of which are " How would people react, how would I act or react to thongs , what would people think besides the ones within the bar. " and the list just goes on. You're right want to go and make a couple of friends. But just the thought of social interaction just makes me scared. Same as the thoughs above, only with me trying to form a simple sentence with out trying to sound retarded and out of place.

>>18472206

>how would i act or react to thongs

thongs are in vogue so just wear yours with pride anon and dont mind others who wear them as well.

>the thought of social interaction just makes me scared.

just do it anyways. you would probably respond with 'HURR DURR EASIER SAID THAN DONE' but almost literally everything is. people arent brave because they lack fear, they are brave because they do it anyways.

erveryone there is just there because they are a nerd on a monday wanting to play video games. if they take the time to judge you then they have some fucked up issues of their own and you can judge them back if you want.

literal worse case scenario is you just leave and never come back.

stop making life to be ab igger deal than it is.

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>>18472217
>thongs
Hehe.
You convinced me Anon, thank you. I'll have to consider going then. It's always on mondays right? Will make sure to mark a date or something.

>>18472232

its every other monday. check the actual meetup schedule dont just show up and expecti t to be happening. sign up.

>>18472243
I've looked it up, 7-11pm. Where would I go to sign to up though?

>>18472260

>where would i go to sign up though

meetup.com. this is literally what weve been talking about. you just click the button on the page saying you will sign up.

>>18471921
You guys are so lucky. No meetups of value where I stay in South Africa. I would kill for horror movie meetups.

>>18472293

start your own and see if someone kills you

>>18472273
>LA anon's meetup issue solved

That's cool, I still need some help with what to do here in jolly old england, london in the shitty urbs.

>>18472331

well what do you like / what are your interests?

>>18472332
Something geek/anime/vidya-related but as I stated in the OP:
>results: yoga 4 men, gay men gathering, brain injury meetup, carer meetup, yoga for gay men

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>>18472331
You could try using the site (meetup.com) Anon gave.

>>18472399

How is yoga "geek/anime/vidya-related"?

Go to anime cons, board game nights and shit like that to meet people that can be into the same things as you are.

>>18470906
>not liking yoga 4 men
What are you op? Homophobe?

>>18472399

>BUT AS I STATED IN THE OP THERE ARE NO GROUPS ON THE FIRST PAGE

right, thats not why im asking.

if you like the geek stuff, look up your nearest game / comic shop and see if they have local events, even in small towns they rely on events like magic the gathering tournaments in order to make ends meet, especially in smaller towns.

on the off chance theyh ave no events, offer to host one through them. they get money, you get to make friends. offer to bring in a system and have a super smash bros tournament.

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>>18472411
It's like you failed reading comprehension twice.

>>18472413
I feel like there may be a difference in how game shops are run on this side of the pond. All the game shops I know of are part of the GAME franchise and I don't think they hold any events bar game releases. I also feel like it may be a bit hard to grasp the geography of this area for you. Still, I'll look around to see what other comic/vidya shops there are.

I would like some advice from (24+) Londoners from the grotty bits of London preferably.

>>18472832

Why the fuck do you call it a pond if it surrounds all the continents.

>>18472096
And what kind of people do you think go to those meetups?

You won't need to pretend to be a normie there, you can unleash your powerlevels and talk freely about which chinese drawing you pour the most semen to, with real life people.

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>>18472885
Why would I do that when I could just go on the porn boards and see people saying the same thing? Not that I masturbate to the chinese cartoons.

>>18472922

>why would I want to socialize with people in real life like i asked for advice on when i could just do it on the internet instead

you didnt think this through did you

>>18472922
Because knowing people irl is useful. They can help you out in times of trouble, they can accompany you to places and form a deeper connection with them that can be nurtured and deepened over time.

Plus, while some anons are great and they are even more fun than some of the people I interact with, many many times threads are only populated by trolls who want to troll other trolls by ironically pretending that they are being trolled and what not. When you are in front of another person, your words and interactions have more meaning. This helps you build character and becoming a better person (as long as you don't hang out with human thrash that is).

tl;dr: it's healthy, plus sharing interests with people is fun. And anons are not tangible people, nor a legit replacement for social interactions.

You forgot the popular "Yoga 4 Gay Men with Brain Injuries Networking Seminars" held every two weeks

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>>18472885
>>18473010
Anons, please tell me you're joking.
>>18472885
And actually read this.

OP what exactly is your goal here?

>>18473546
Please ignore the anime avatar posts they're not OP. Cunt is trying to hijack the thread.

Maybe it would be a better idea to post the question on bant since we got ids and flags over there.

>>18473712
I assumed this much, I still couldn't work out what OP wanted.

>>18473787
What I want to know is, what do I do now that meetup only throws up 5 meetups in my area all related to yoga and brain damage?

All the meetups around my area are for housewives in their 50s. What kind of groups should I be looking for if I want to meet college aged people?

>>18474844
Yes but what is your goal? Why'd you try to find social things? Was it for friends? To get over your anxiety?
If you want friends then go do the things that interest you with others, don't have anything social that you enjoy doing? Find new interests, go to the gym, take up a sport, learn about cars or motorcycles, literally anything that will have you interact with others. Sitting around doing nothing new isn't going to get you anywhere clearly so you've got to change, at least your interests.
If your issue is anxiety, then you should do activities that trigger your anxiety so you can learn to deal with it.

>>18475530
Not OP but I enjoy drawing and writing fiction. How would I use those to meet people?

>>18475537
Well they're not exactly social hobbies. I think, I'm not really an artsy person.
Obviously you can try to find art groups, book clubs and any of those sorts of things. The issue is if those things aren't available to you then you're going to have to find something that you can enjoy doing that involves others. While doing those things you might find people who are interested or have similar hobbies as you do. Or you might like your new hobby so much you are fine with interacting with people who just share that interest.

>>18475530
>what is your goal?

Why the fuck do you keep repeating this? What do you think it is?

>>18475627
Depending on what he wants he's going to get different advice. Clearly what he's done hasn't worked so for me to tell him what to do next I want to know what his original intended outcome or goal was.
As to what I think it is, I assume something to do with having no friends or trying to get over a form of anxiety.

>>18475591
>art groups, book clubs

All populated by middle aged mothers.

I want to meet people my age god damn it.

>>18475711
You'll have to find new hobbies then. Can you enjoy a sport enough to play in a team? They're usually pretty easy to make friends in.

Are there alternatives to meet up that don't have only 50+ dating groups and 20s and 30s professional groups? Like 90% of the groups are like this

>>18475799
Want to know this too.

>>18475643
Dude's clearly looking for people in his area of interest, in his area. If he's in the suburby, ungentrified part of London, there's probably a lack of a lot of things. He could go into central London but I'm guessing his journey would be upto 2 hours.