Anon(s), why am I so pathetic? I've been letting everyone

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>>18467840
>and I obviously can't say no. Because it just seems like it'll just end up badly if I do.

As opposed to being walked over all the time?

People are going to see your weakness and exploit it, that's just how life is. Until you learn to say no or tell people trying to use you to fuck off, you will keep being used until they can get nothing else from you. There's trying to be socially accepted and then there's trying to be liked by everyone. Spoilers: Not everyone is going to like you, and you most certainly don't like everyone, so why should act like that's how life works? Obviously, you shouldn't be a dick to everyone, but you need to stand up for yourself. Do you really believe you should give a shit about people using you?

>"Wah wah, anon told me to fuck off when I tried to """borrow""" his money from him!"

And on the not being able to get /fit/ thing, looks aren't everything. They're some influence to a conversation, yeah, but looking someone in the eye, telling to fuck off, and standing your ground is just as good if not better. You could be extremely buff for all I care but if you look at the floor when people talk to you and can't say no to anything, who is going to respect you? Nobody.

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>>18468158
I just want everyone to have a decent opinion of me. I don't want people to be saying " oh anon is a fucking dick he didnt give me this or that or did this " .
>why should you act like that's how life work

Because it seems like it does. Maybe if I am nice to a certain person, maybe they'll be nice to me. I don't know, if I seem like a dick maybe they'll be a dick back. Maybe then I won't feel as accepted or liked. Which isn't something I wish to feel.


I try to stand up for myself, then the feeling of being socially outcasted for not being somewhat nice or willing to lose somehing just makes me not bother at all and just accept it.

>>18468366
>Maybe if I am nice to a certain person, maybe they'll be nice to me
If that were true, wouldn't your doormat lifestyle be working out great?

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>>18468422
Good point

>>18467840
>Takes the money regardless of me needing it, and I just sit there doing nothing and accepting what happened. And choosing not to do something about it.

how does this happen? do they have access to your bank account? do they go into your wallet? how does this happen? put your wallet in your fucking pocket

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>>18468510
It was an example, not that it can't happen though

>>18468521
>It was an example
so it didn't happen?

>>18467840
>Here's an example
>>18468536

>>18468553
a good example would be something that actually happened, you idiot. if your friends aren't taking money out of your wallet why would anyone need that as an example?

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>>18468613
I don't know, I didn't think about it at the time. It was 4 ak at the time.

>>18468653
It seems like you're exaggerating things to match how shitty you're feeling.
I know how you feel man, I'm kinda like you and I have trouble saying no when others asks for favor.
I give rides to people and even let my roommates borrow my car sometimes. Then I feel like a pathetic fuck when I'm driving back home alone for 30 minutes after dropping a friend off at work for no charge, or stay at home all day because I can't drive anywhere. I think to myself "What kind of spineless fuck prioritizes other's needs before his own? I can make it sounds like I'm helping others, but in reality they'll just keep asking for favors and solidify my position as a pushover."

But really, it's not really as bad as you think it is. I began to ask them for favors in return even in situations where I didn't necessarily need their help. Unless they're complete douches, they should feel some obligation to return the favor they received. Making negotiations helped me feel like I was in equal standings with others, and eventually allowed me to say no when I needed to.