I found my boyfriend talking to this girl on his phone, he sends

>>18415901
yea that's no good

Break up dude, that's pretty fishy.
What kind of porn tho?
Something funny or disgusting may be ok

>>18415903
This sucks.

>>18415912
I send him nasty gif's all the time whenever he is on his way home from work. Like just hardcore clips and the hottest stuff I can find.

This just really sucks.

>>18415901
>I found my boyfriend talking to this girl on his phone,
Acceptable

>he sends her porn that I originally sent him-
Very questionable

>and said that he wants to fuck her.
Unacceptable

>Is this cheating?
Not yet, but it's conspiracy to cheat. Kind of like planning to rob a bank is conspiracy to commit bank robbery. It's almost as bad.

>Should I be upset?
You have every right to be

>I am kind of upset, it would be different if he'd told me.
If he'd told you he wanted to have sex with this other girl...? I don't see any way this is ok.

>But from everything I read it seems like he is planning to eventually cheat on me.
Yep.

>I was set to move in with him at the end of the month. Does this change things? Should it?

It probably should. He doesn't sound genuinely committed to you.

I'm eating dinner with him right now.
I'm going to tell him about what I found once we head to bed.

I had all these plans, I know we were LDR for the last few months- and loving him sucks now.

I'm really open about girls as a bisexual- I've told him I want an eventual threesome and he can go out and flirt on weekends as long as he sends me a pic of him and the girl and we video chat jerk off with each other when he gets home.

I dunno- there isn't anything else in his phone that worries me.

But I just wanted to trust him.
Now I can't.
Now by all logic I should be ending it.

>>18415901
yes this is cheating. Find someone better.

I feel like pretending I never saw anything, but I'm sad, and he can tell I'm sad.

>>18415935
Just tell him already. If you don't it's only going to get worse from here.

>>18415942
Do I break up with him?
I know some people will have already suggested that I do- but I don't feel like it got far enough and I just lack the jealously factor that would make other girls quit right now.

>>18415928
Oh LDRs are difficult. Unless you've been together for a long time beforehand. Even then, it's best if the time spent apart is of limited duration.

>>18415957
You know, after a breakup, most guys take a few months before they get laid again. Finding a girl who's interested is pretty hard. What you've got here is a dude so valuable and attractive that he has managed to attract both you and this other girl. And if he likes you at all, he'll probably choose to stick with you. You don't want a beggar, you want a chooser, because being someone's only option to get laid just sucks.

...I realize it's a hard sell, but I figured you could use a positive perspective.

>>18415968
We're almost at a year now.
That's why I'm willing to cut him slack honestly- I know he travels a lot for work and I'm not against hall passes. (I haven't told him that) I just want to know if something like that comes up.
Especially for health reasons.
I was living with him for a few months last year in Alabama.

But yeah we were planning to start our lives together at the end of the month.

>>18415972
I do see this perspective, and I'm glad you shared.
I just don't want to be the stupid girl making excuses for putting up with cheating.