my bf and i suck at sexting. (probably mainly i...) how do we/i

>>18414766
When it comes right down to it sexting is kind of autistic and borders cringe for even the kinkiest couples. Some people are just better at it. Just be willing to dive into it. Why not tell him you want to suck him dry? What guy wouldn't want to hear that? Don't be afraid to come off a little cringy and you'll grown and get better

It sounds like your bf asking you that question was a way of saying, "I want you to text me some nasty shit that you like doing to me"

You may prefer vague and subtle, but he might prefer vulgar and raunchy.

Speaking personally, I love it when my gf texts me explicit shit about wanting to gag on my cock and stuff. Guys like the idea of driving a girl so wild that she forgets her prim and proper manners and turns into a cumfiending slut.

Just my 2 cents.

>>18414783
i have no problem with telling him i want to suck him dry. it's just that over text, that doesn't arouse me in the slightest. it's too harsh for me.
i feel like there's a better way to do this. i want it to be banter and flirting with some sexual tension, i was easily able to pull that off... now it's just awkward. i don't know what happened to my ability to sext.

>>18414789
thanks for the perspective.
problem is, i used to try that on him when we started dating and he always quickly shut it down by becoming lovey dovey, which is an instant boner kill for me.

even if we exchanged nudes, it never truly "took off". it kind of stayed on the ground and had an awkward air.
i used to sext with guys when i was single and i never had any similar problems... maybe we're just not compatible for sexting? is that possible?

any concrete tipps on what i could answer that's not outright vulgar but also not cringy?

i thought about: i can't tell you, but i will show you as soon as you're trough the door.

how subhuman is that?

>>18414803

Well, I'm assuming he doesn't know that certain things he says are huge turnoffs to you. If you had told him as such, he probably wouldnt still be doing it.

I would communicate with him about what turns you on - frame it like "It drives me crazy when you ..."

If you guys both know what buttons to press to get the other person riled up, sexting will become much easier. It just sounds like there's a lack of communication as to what you both like and dislike.

>>18414803

Why would lovey dovey be a boner killer? Love is hot, yo.

>>18414797
You say you want subtlety yet open with "I'm really horny"?

That's the nuclear option. You can't really go anywhere from there except getting really explicit. Maybe it worked earlier in the relationship when you guys were still treading lightly, but I'm assuming you've gotten passed the point of being bashful and holding back.

If you want to start slower build up, then just tease.
Do something like send pictures with cleavage or HINT at something dirty, without saying it.

>>18414810
Boooring. Try something like this..

"Let's just say my mouth is watering just thinking about it..."

>>18414814
we just almost never do it, there's seldomly a situation that "asks for it". we live together and see each other every day. when we're working, we both can't keep our phones with us, so it's kind of silly to try to sext during work hours.

i still think it would be noce to be able to do some teasing when we're appart.

you're right, it's probably just a question of finding out what works and what doesn't. i'm just surprised since i mever encountered any issues with sexting before. it just came natural and had a flow to it.

>>18414815
idk... that's just the case with me. also when we have sex irl. if he starts telling me lovely stuff, i fall out of feeling hot and bothered. it's strange, really.

>>18414816
i tried subtle, believe me. he never gets the hint and then i'm not in the mood anymore.
i often banter or say something suggestive, but he either ignores it or doesn't catch it. meeeh...


>>18414822
but anon... he's not bacon.

>>18414834
If you're sexting shit like "I can't tell you, but I will show you" then no wonder the spark isn't there. That's a safe for work text. You couldn't get much more bland and uninspired if you tried.

You need to turn up the raunchiness and live a little. That text isn't subtle and seductive, it's downright yawn inducing.

Try reading some erotic literature or something. That could help your vocabulary

>>18414841
but what would be better then? i don't find watering mouths erotic...

argh... i'm about to give up on this. everything is either too vague or too cringey/clichée/harsh.
why is it so hard to find the right balance?

>>18414845

>i don't find watering mouths erotic...
>everything is either too vague or too cringey/clichée/harsh

Well, I do. and maybe your boyfriend does too.

Has it occurred to you that maybe the things your bf finds sexy and erotic are completely different from the things you find sexy and erotic? It sounds like this could be the case. If it is, you should just give up on the whole sexting thing. Everyone has their preferences.

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>>18414766
Use screen shots of the kind of sex you want to do - for example

>>18414766
Well what would you like to do with him? It's not hard, just type it out.
I'll give a small example: I rip off all your clothes and start kissing you.
(next text right away) I lean towards the bed until you fall onto it, then I dive face first on your pussy.
It doesn't even have to go into that much detail, I would love to get a text from a woman saying "I want to roll my tongue around the head of your dick"

>>18415745
Thats a prostate exam desu

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>>18414766
learn from the master:

https://www.buzzfeed.com/alexnaidus/the-dirtiest-excerpts-from-james-joyces-letters?utm_term=.wpVo4qOXa#.jdWn7J3lV

https://adoxoblog.wordpress.com/2011/02/25/f%CE%BCckbird-and-jim-james-joyces-letters-to-nora-barnacle/

you're welcome

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>>18417034
kek, there's a reason i have pic related saved on my phone

>>18416243
It's was the only pg rated screen shot that I had on short notice. Plus some ppl need directions to finding the G spot especially if they think it's a prostate.

be happy you even do it, my gf won't do it or send me pics "because its on the internet and people will find them"

>>18417679
she ever heard of "never take nudes including your face"? if you also don't hace tattoos it's pretty easy to just deny it's you. bonus points for generic background and clothes you don't wear in public.

>>18417693
good point, I might suggest that. Thanks.

>>18417781
also, tell her the internet is full of porn, nobody is interested in hers and how would they "find" it?