ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything GUIDELINES: Before yo

>tfw "Day of the Enamored"
>tfw no gf ;_;

What can I do if Im a short male in America? I want a gf, not picky on looks just need one that is into white guys. Im 5'6, so I guess average is 5'9.5 here.

>>18411388
Hit on girls. Take care of yourself. Be a nice person to be around.
Sure: some will reject you because of you are short, but some will go out with you. Eventually one will stay.

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>Be friends with this girl
>Known each other for 3 years now
>One day she asks if I want to hangout
>We go out to dinner
>And go to a movie
>And walk through the park
>Whole time she's holding my hand
>She's all smiles throughout the whole thing
>Walk her back home
>Sitting on her front porch and we end up kissing
>Walking home happy as fuck
>She's texting me saying how special I am to her
>Get home and fall asleep
>Wake up to a bunch of texts from her
>"I love you, but as a friend, you're my best friend"
>Couldn't think it could get much worse
>"I'd say you are like a brother to me"
>"But you're more of a father figure than anything lol"

AHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!! FUUUUUUUCCCCCKKKKKKK, WHO THE FUCK KISSES THEIR FATHER ON THE LIPS FOR LIKE 20 STRAIGHT SECONDS?!

So then I thought, okay, maybe she feels confused and needs some time to think, right?

WRONG, it's been 4 WEEKS, 4 FUCKING WEEKS, and she very rarely talks to me, if I try talking to her I get one worded answers or none at all, what the fuck did I do wrong? She initiated everything, the hand holding, the kissing, she cuddled up to me when we walked, SHE initiated ALL of it, so why am I all of a sudden friend fucking zoned?!

I tried so fucking hard talking to her about it, and she just kept messing around saying "It was a bro-date!" or "It was just a friend date, dude!"

There's no coming back from this is there?

>>18411448
thats fucked

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>>18411388
>5'6
>gf

>>18411448
nope. she´s very immature. no use in trying to analize her actions or make sense of them.

see, dating is a process in which you get to know someone until you find something that is a deal breaker. if you can´t find any or only ones you can deal with, you stay and enter a realtionship. that´s probably what happened. the issue here is that she isn´t mature enough to be honest. she could save you a lot of thought carousel by daring to be honest, but honesty is a precious gift and you can´t expect it from cheap people.
best would be to forget you ever thought she was worth your time and move on.

>>18411448
She wasn't sure if she liked you so she kissed you and realized she doesn't like you in that way so she played the your like a bro/dad card so you wouldn't keep or/ try too date her

>>18411463
That's honestly what I'm going to do, but it's really hard because she's perfect (to me at least)

She's beautiful and enjoys all the same things I do and we could talk for hours and hours without getting bored, it's amazing how awesome she is, and then this shit happened...

Going to miss her, but yeah I think I should just say fuck it if there's no fix for this, and yeah I've tried being direct and she just says "idk" or "k" so...

>>18411448
>She initiated everything, the hand holding, the kissing, she cuddled up to me when we walked, SHE initiated ALL of it, so why am I all of a sudden friend fucking zoned?!

Sounds like you friendzoned yourself? Like, you've been friends with her for 3 years? And then SHE asks you out etc. Why are you acting so upset by this when you literally have done nothing to indicate you like her more than a friend?

Girls don't typically like to initiate everything. Its not a point in your favor that you acted so passively. Its a point against you. She put herself out there, felt embarrassed, chickened out, decided she didn't want it. Fair enough. Why are you acting so put upon when you were just friends to begin with and never did anything to ever put yourself out there? How do you whine about the friendzone after 3 years of friendship? Friendzone should be dating someone and then getting told "lets just be friends". Friendzone should not be "being a friend for 3 years and then going on a date and then still being friends".

>>18411474
About 2 years into the friendship I confessed that I liked her more than a friend, and she turned me down then, I got over it and just continued being happy with just being her friend, we did a lot of stuff before she asked to hang out, we even went to Blizzcon together.

>>18411478

In that case its super gross of her to jerk you around like that, knowing how you feel. I don't think its healthy to stay friends with someone you have sexual or romantic feelings for.

>>18411478
just ditch her man, don't even be friends with her anymore

>>18411454
ok?

>>18411469
not being able to communicate and be honest can hardly be counted as perfect, anon... you should really get your priorities a makeover if you want to avoid shit like this in the future.

Men, are stretch marks a turn off on a girl that isn't fat?

>>18411517
Not really, they don't really matter too much to me.
I think it depends on how prevalent and deep they are.

But they would have to be PRETTY FUCKING BAD for me to care

What's a good way of opening conversation (through text) with a girl who I last talked to with an awkward ending? She's pretty fond of me but we haven't been texting recently as she went out of the country.

Is it worth going for someone who is moving away in a year? I really like this girl, but I'm afraid of being rejected or being hurt when she leaves.

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How can I get a bf like this?

>>18411559
1.Don't be ugly

2. Go outside enough to raise the chance of a guy approaching you

3. Smile at guys that look like this and hope for the best

>>18411559
tfw no Kit bf

Feels bad man

>>18411559
Looks-wise or do you mean an actor?

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>>18411386
What have you done in order to obtain gf?

>>18411388
Date single moms like pic related or here
>>18411407

>>18411448
Find proper gf.

>>18411517
Strech marks are like love marks. Dont worry. The most important part on girl is her ability and courage to use her pussy and not being bitch.

>>18411527
>hello jane
>do you still remember me?
>i have been thinking about you
>and my conclusion is that i want to invite you on date, are you free?
Easy.

>>18411541
Cant you move with her?
And never fall for ldr.

>>18411559
Dont be single mom.

>>18411568

Why is it okay to treat someone like trash for being single mom?

>>18411568
I can't. She's moving to another country.

>>18411575
>trash
It is not about treating them like trash, it is about preference.

Same as fat, manlet, bald, aids, terminal cancer, bipolar, daddy issues, not wanting kids, huge debts or she moving to different country.

You simply cant force people to date somebody they dont want to. Personally i would pick fat girl over single mom. Why? You can unfaten anybody within a year. The kid is sort of permanent.

>is it ok to treat unattractive boys as waste?

>>18411576
Then try find diffetent girl. Dont put her and yourself into pain when she will have to move away.

>>18411454
I never really notice the difference between 5'6 5'7 and 5'8 guys

21 year old kissless virgin female here. I got asked out on a date for this Saturday. After how many dates is it appropriate to kiss? I really want to kiss this guy. Btw, what do I do with my hands when kissing?

>>18411584
You made 2 digs at single moms and linked to me. There's preference and then its rubbing it in peoples face. Would you do the same for manlets etc? Can it kill you to show compassion?

>>18411593
Kiss at the end of first date at your age.
Hands on his shoulders/neck if you're conservative, waist if you're up for being a little more sexual.

>>18411575
Because most signal moms are trash. They are money hungry sluts who only want a guy to mouch money off and trap them by making them another one of their baby daddies. Most are bad mothers who care more about partying and finding their next bf then their kids.
Drains on society sucking off the gov tit for all the croch droppings they welped out.

>>18411559
I've had better and I'm a 5/10 at best.
Be really charming, intelligent and good in bed.

>>18411586

Yeah, they're all fucking manlets. It's difficult to tell the difference when they're wash in a sea of unattractive men.

>>18411593
>how many dates
0. If you feel like kissing him and handholding him, just do it. Dont forget to buy condoms. Have fun.

>>18411603
>would you do the same to manlets
I sort of did. When posters asks how to obtain gf, they are either trolls or really desperate r9k tier. And since girls despite guys shorter than them, their best bet is to lower standards and go for moms. It is win win really. They gain gf, save child from fate called single mom upbringing and mom wont be sad alone.

>rubbing to face
This is 4chan, you can just let insults slide into dark. Dont be triggered, i meant no harm.

20 year old virgin here. I've never been in a relationship but I'm curious: How long until sex usually? I don't think I would feel comfortable having sex until like 1.5 - 2 months but I dunno

>>18411625
Think less and pursue girls more. Buy condoms. Try tinder.

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My GF is really, really industrious person. Even at holidays she manages to learn a language, six hours a day, for four days a week. Meanwhile, I am a person who is really, really lazy, I mean, I waste most of my time doing shit in the Internet. Also, my GF is a lot, a lot smarter than me. This makes me a bit insecure.

How do I get rid of these feelings and address it properly?

>>18411625
Depends on the person.
Some people want it after a couple of dates, some people are willing to wait.
Personally, I'd rather wait a month or two.

>>18411625
It depends how much time you're spending together. I'd say after 12 hours of time together, regardless of how long that's spread out over.

>>18411633
Work, get on her level, or atleast try to develop or get over your faults (lazyness)

>>18411633
She will eventually outgrow you.

>>18411625
Fuck. Forgot to add I'm male

>>18411603
Stop taking what people here say so seriously.
The negativity might just come from the fact that their life is even sadder than yours.

>>18411615

Most single moms can't party because getting someone to watch your kids is difficult especially for something like a party.

Single moms are disproportionately poor and yes this means they need govt assistance often. Because they are taking care of their kids. Are poor people who work hard to raise their kids as best as they can "trash" now? What about the dads who left them behind?? Why are they "trapped" and yet the women who are left behind with poverty not trapped?

>>18411448
i had a feel like this once
>friends with girl for even longer like 4-5 years
>start talking to her when she is single and we like eachother
>never take it to the next level but alot of flirting and naked pics from her
>she always ALWAYS ignores ghost mode me when she gets a new bf
>when she has emotional problem always runs to me and talks to me then ignores me afterward
>seem like a friendzone thing but why is she flirting and sending boobs on snapchat? why is she saying shit like "i love you" and "you are a really important person to me?" makes me want to try to date her
>get sick of being confused and call her shit, ask her what am i to her, why does she treat me like this
>she doesnt answer directly, doesnt bring it up and starts ignoring me almost completely, except when with mutual friends and only acts polite while avoiding me 1 on 1
>still havent talked to her in months and dont know what her deal is but assume she is just too pussy to tell me she doesnt like me

what do girls mean by this?

>>18411624
so because Im 5'6 you're telling me my height alone means Im fucked with attracting women? I don't like kids and don't want kids mine or anyone else's.

>>18411668
dates 5'2 and below girls

>>18411651
You sound like an idiot, most of them will dump there kids off with just anyone so they can go drink and fuck around. They get pregnant on purpose over and over because it gets them more gov money and every new baby daddy is a new child support check. They don't work hard, most don't work at all they just keep dumping out kids they can't provide for. It's trashy and sad for the kids involved. I'm a mother myself, all of the other girls I know my age with kids are like I said above. I'm the only one out of like 20+ girls from my high school who has kids that works full time and dosen't have multiple baby daddies. Most those girls only see their kids as property, a pay check, they don't care for them like normal mothers do, they are very selfish and put the kids last.

>>18411565
Look-wise he's a 10/10 to me

>>18411668
Kek, I'm 5'3 so stop complaining. Be a man and just ask someone out on a date

>>18411673

Thats bs and if you know anything about having kids you know the child support/govt help doesn't even cover half of it. Fuck off if you judge all moms like that.

> Most those girls only see their kids as property
Thats such bs I can't even. How the hell do you even PRETEND to know that?

>>18411678
you sound easy to date :))

>>18411684
Keep lying and making excuses, that's exactly who they act. They treat their kids like they are their property, hold them over the dad's and use them as a meal ticket. And yes most get a lot of money from the gov, housing assistance, food stamps, free daycare, bill assistance, free medical for themselves and the kids they keep dumping out. The gov even goes after child support for them. You couldn't be more wrong. I have 4 kids and I know exactly how it is, what they offer you and try to get you to sing up for all this aid, most girls take it and don't bother working. And most of them do party a lot and dump of their kids with anyone who's willing to take them. Why do you think kids in signal parent homes have so many issues, they have shit moms. Look at the statistics on how much more likely kids like that are to have trouble with the law, less likely to go to collage, all kinds of bad stuff. Even with all this help these selfish bitches still ruin their kids lives.

>>18411668
Well, there are confident short guys. They dont care about how tall they are and just hit on girls. And since you had to type your height like that, i guess you are super insecure and manlet. This combo has potential to shoo away most of girls you encounter.

And remember, before you suicide or turn r9k robot, remember there are still hot single moms who deserve love as much as you do.

Cheers.
>pro tip
Dont put your height into your dating profile.

>>18411702

>They treat their kids like they are their property, hold them over the dad's and use them as a meal ticket.
BS how do you even know that. How the hell.

Just shut up. You don't know those women. You are full of garbage. Grats on you for raising 4 kids with a single income and blah blah blah don't need no help (bs), but single mothers are by far the most prone to being in poverty far more so than married women. You don't know them and oh yeah if you ever have to sign up for aid you have to jump through tons of hoops and disinterested social workers who never answer the fucking phone. And its not enough to live on at all. You are full of it.

>>18411708
Lol Im not going to suicide and i dont even know what r9k is. I have plenty of positive things in my life, just no gf.

Im not dating anyone with kids, I dont want kids at all mine or anyones.

>>18411723
Good for you.

Tldr obtaining gf is about asking as many qties as you can on dates. And you meet them via: social events you hate, friends friends or online dating.

Show the girl you find her attractive (so you wont be friendzoned) by trying to get into her panties and just keep trying. If she denies you date, move on, if she evades question, ask her again next week.

>i dont want kids
Then you maybe dont need gf at all. Consider hookers or just porn. Ultimate goal of gf are kids. They are fun.

>>18411716
You are the one who is full of it. God what fucking retards, I don't get enough help, everyone else take responsibility for the kids I dumped out. Here's a thought maybe stop having kids if you can't provide for them. And yes most single moms do treat the baby daddies like shit, they just use them for money, get knocked up by every guy they talk to for 5 mins then expect a check from them every month. It's awful they don't give a shit about the kids that come out of it. Obviously not all women are like that but a good 90% of them here in America are. It's making our society fall apart. If you have a child out of wedlock by accident that's fine, but getting pregnant over and over by different men like these girls do us just wrong. I work my ass off to provide for my kids. When I lost my husband I didn't go looking for hand outs. It makes me so mad how all theses girls, girls I used to be friends with, treat their kids. They always have grandma watching them while they go out to the bars every weekend. It burns me up that the money I pay in taxes goes to support them doing that shit. If your a single mom and you work hard and care about our kids, always put them first, then good on you. Most don't tho and it's awful, the way most single moms acts makes me ashamed to say I'm a single mom myself. I don't want to be lumped in with women like that.

>Then you maybe dont need gf at all. Consider hookers or just porn. Ultimate goal of gf are kids. They are fun.
I was with you until here, dude. I'm sorry for your girlfriend if she wouldn't be any use to you if she was infertile.

>>18411751

Yeah shut up you are full of shit. You've never left your moms basement let alone met other struggling human beings.

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>>18411760
>t. single mom who is exactly as, or about to become as >>18411751
described

>>18411760
Yah ok, I'm a 28yo with 4 kids if my own. My husband died in a car crash 3 years ago. I've never asked for others to be responsible for my kids. I haven't lived with my parents since I was 17. You can try to deny the truth all you want but you know what's real. I bet your a dead beat mom who is exactly like what I've been saying most single moms are like and you just don't want to admit what a trashy pos you are.

>>18411769

Nah it bs
1) Have one kid
2) Work my butt off and its still not enough
3) Get foodstamps and healthcare from govt but they hate their jobs and the people they work for and never answer their phone its so stupid.
4) Live with grandparents, cant afford to live on my own, my grandma only babysits if I am at work or if I am running errand for the household or once a week if I want a night off. (Most moms can't fall back on people like this though).
5) Baby daddy treats my daughter like garbage, literally why we divorced. He does send his child support (many dads dont do this), but he doesn't bother to send her a present on bday or call to check in on her or anything. But like he's the "trapped" victim.
6) Get treated like garbage and second class woman by almost every guy if I want to date and be loved as a human being.
7) I love my daughter very very dearly. No matter how bad things get or how scared I am of the future at least we have each other.

She is full of 100% BULLSHIT when she says that single moms don't love their kids and only see kids as a paycheck. vile GARBAGE.

>>18411775

>Yeah shut up you are full of shit. You've never left your moms basement let alone met other struggling human beings.

>>18411801
I don't understand why you want to date.
You have a child. You work minimum wage. You aren't financially independent. You don't even live alone.
Focus on fucking getting your life together and providing for your daughter. Stop trying to involve men in your shit, stop feeling entitled to love.
Study. Get a better job. Save money so your daughter can get a decent education.

You aren't a normal 20 year old. You are a mother. Your sole focus should be providing for your daughter and giving her a decent life.

>>18411752
Imagine being me (i know scary). I persuaded myself i want children. Like two minimal.

And then tell me, how would i go about obtaining children with infertile gf?
>inb4 you can be infertile too
Until i know that, i want kids. I really do.

>tfw born too late to explore the earth
>born too early to explore the galaxy
>born just in time to witness a single moms duel

>>18411381
Trying to better my tinder profile this is the description I have on it. What can I do to improve it
"Recent grad. Love swimming, movies, drinking, and the beach. Swipe right if you like lame movie jokes and to find out if I am a secret millionaire"

>>18411801
Lmao you need nights off and have a free place to live, free babysitting, food stamps and free health care and you have the nerve to bitch that people arnt doing their job and helping you enough. Your a pice of shit and I feel sorry for your kid. Also if you can't distinguish the difference between a guy being trapped by a girl who intentionally gets pregnant and a guy who had a child with his then wife then you are also dumb as fuck. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and making excuses for being a lazy sack of crap. Your a typical shity mom who blames everyone else for her short comings

>>18411838
Post screenshot of your profile. The photos are like 90% success.

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>>18411827
this
>>18411834
but also this

>>18411827
This exactly. She's just being selfish and immature.

>>18411827
>I don't understand why you want to date.
Because I am lonely? I want someone to love and who loves me in return?

>You have a child. You work minimum wage. You aren't financially independent. You don't even live alone.
Oh okay I forgot that poor people don't want love??

>Study. Get a better job. Save money so your daughter can get a decent education.
What better job? What study? Tell me what "study~better job" and I'll try to do it. But right now its not in the cards and I am raising a 2 year old too and working and don't have money to save. My life is already together and here it is.

>You are a mother. Your sole focus should be providing for your daughter and giving her a decent life.
She would have a decent life with a father who loves her too. BY THE WAY. I hate to play that card because people think thats ALL single moms want (bs) but its a FACT that she would do better if she had a father or a stepfather who loved her so shut up with this false dichotomy. If I wanted to do what was best for my daughter I'd be doing nothing BUT dating and trying to find a decent guy with a good home who loves us both. But I'm trying to be respectable and patient and ~work hard~. And I am. So shut up.

>>18411850
>Because I am lonely?
Plenty of people are. You can suck it up.

>Oh okay I forgot that poor people don't want love??
Love isn't all that matters in a relationship, and you should have learned it since you are 24 and divorced a man who "really loved you" but abandoned you and your daughter.
Dating shouldn't be your priority. You should be focusing on self growth and providing for your child.

>What better job? What study?
Literally anything is better than working minimum wage. Go to a community college, learn a job, send applications.

>My life is already together
It obviously isn't.

>She would have a decent life with a father who loves her too.
Why do you want to trap a man into paying for your own mistakes?
YOU got married to an abusive man. YOU got married at 19. YOU didn't study or acquire any useful skill. YOU let yourself grow dependent on your ex husband financially. YOU had a child at 21. These are ALL your choices and no one but you an your ex husband is responsible for your daughter. You shouldn't try to involve another man in your shit.
Be a better mother instead of trying to find a stepdad to play family with.

>>18411850
You just keep telling everyone to shut up and explaining how shity you are and making excuses for it. How about you love your kid, and she loves you in return?!? What the fuck is wrong with you, of corse you can try to find better jobs or other opportunities. You just have to want them and not make excuses. It's not I poor me, maybe you shouldn't have had a kid with a guy who was such a shit head, that's on you. I have a 2yo too, I was pregnant when my husband was killed, I also have a 3yo a 5yo and an 8yo. I work all the time, two jobs, go to school on line to better myself, and I dont have any other family to help me out. You probably only work part time and them think your doing so much. Idk lady you just keep making excuses and that's not helping you or your kid. Get some drive and actually work hard, do it for your daughter, you don't have it that bad trust me

>Plenty of people are. You can suck it up.
OR I can actually try dating and stop being lonely, why would I suck it up?

>Dating shouldn't be your priority. You should be focusing on self growth and providing for your child.
Already responded to this, this is a FALSE DICHOTOMY. Because I can provide for my child, "self-grow" (wtf), and also get a bf and in fact these are related.

>Literally anything is better than working minimum wage. Go to a community college, learn a job, send applications.
I know people with FOUR YEAR DEGREE working in my same exact job. Getting paid same shit wages. Tens of thousands of dollars in debt. So what fucking job? Community college is not free. Its not time-neutral either when I have a two year old, it will take tons of time. With ZERO guarantees.

>It obviously isn't.
It is, just because someone is poor doesn't mean their life isn't together. Here's my life, all together. Like you said, I have a roof over our head and food on the table, shes clothed and happy and healthy.

>Why do you want to trap a man into paying for your own mistakes?
WTF is """trap"""? There's that """trap""" word again? What is """trap""" about a consensual and loving relationship, again? More like you want to """trap""" me into a loveless existence. Also you just said I should be concentrating on giving my daughter a decent life and a home with a loving father and husband sure sounds DECENT to me!!

>YOU
Yeah wow, are you trying to guilt trip me? It means NOTHING now. I live in the present I don't live in the past, I can't change what I did (and honestly I love my daughter to where I would never want to change what I did). So unless you have a magical time machine you are spouting garbage at this point. You asked me why I wanted to date. I told you why, and not only is it good for me. its also good for my daughter too so don't dare try to play that card. You can treat me like shit if you want but fact is you are full of it yourself.

>>18411897
What a bucnch of denyle and selfish excuses. Your a failure at life because you don't want to be responsible for your mistakes and just what to feel sorry for yourself. You are the appitimy of why people think badly of single moms. You are utter trash and your kid will be to since you have no drive to change. Good luck being a victim and a bad mother

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>>18411448
anon, my dude, you gotta straight up tell her

>"I really enjoyed when we hung out and went on that date. it sucks that you don't feel about me the way I do about you. I'm going to be honest; I wanted to pursue a relationship with you. If that's not what you want, that's fine, but unfortunately right now I'm not interested in being your brother or "father figure". See you around."

Or something similar to that, and then go no contact.

>>18411897
>Already responded to this, this is a FALSE DICHOTOMY.
You can't even provide for your child and take care of yourself. What do you bring to a relationship? It is not a charity.

>I know people with FOUR YEAR DEGREE working in my same exact job.
Maybe google what degrees are in request now and pick a job in those fields? I don't know, just suggesting. Instead of spending your time on okcupid you could learn how to program, or learn how to do accounting.

> I have a roof over our head and food on the table
The roof isn't yours and you get foodstamps. If those are the standards by which you define if someone has their life together or not, you definitely don't.

>a loving father
She cannot have a loving father because you fucked up.

>I told you why, and not only is it good for me. its also good for my daughter too so don't dare try to play that card.
But are you good for a man? What do you bring to him?
You have a child with someone else and this alone is a huge turn off for most men because, guess what, no one wants to have the responsibilities and the annoyance of having a child when the child isn't even theirs.
You cannot even properly look after yourself and your daughter. You aren't even trying to improve yourself or your lifestyle. You just want a man to use.
Stop being a selfish and entitled brat. Work hard, learn to do something, take care of your baby instead of trying to find a man to take care of you both.
God fucking damn.

>>18411897 for >>18411867 obvs.

>>18411881

I'm not making excuses. I won't make an excuse for being poor, I am poor. I won't make an excuse for taking help because I need help. I won't make an excuse for dating because I want love, and while I love my daughter very dearly and put her above any man which is why I left my ex-husband it is not the same as romantic/sexual love and you know it (hopefully). I won;t make excuses and I don't think there's anything I need to excuse. Being poor isn't a crime, being a single mother isn't a crime, being lonely isn't a crime. Where are your excuses for being so hateful and judgmental toward people you don't even know?

But I think you are full of shit for 2 reasons:
1--Saying single moms don't love their children and use them as a paycheck. fuck offffff!
2--Saying raising 4 kids on a single income is so easy and shame on anyone for getting outside help from family or the govt blah blah blah like...who tf watches your kids especially in the summer especially with your 2 jobs? Assuming you put them all in a OK average daycare (not even a good daycare but an average one) that's $4000/mo and thats just for a standard workday not your 2 jobs you are on about. Are you that fucking rich? Shut up.

Whatever.

>>18411915
No point in trying to tell this girl anything, she's an entitled brat who just what's a guy to suck dry and be responsible for her. She's not willing to learn or change or even be responsible for her own child. This bitch is cancer to anyone around her

>>18411926
Yet again a bunch of bitching and acting like you have it worse then everyone else. I work at a daycare so my kids can be taken care of, I'm going to school for child development to I can get promoted and run said daycare. I also work from home.

You keep saying how poor you are but are unwilling to do anything to better your situation and are just content to much off your grandmother and the gov.

You keep acting like you have it so bad but all this shot is your own fault and you won't even learn from it. Your a horrible mother and shame of you for trying to pawn off your responsibilities on others.

I didn't just marry some losser, my husband died. I lost my partner, my children lost there dad. My youngest never even got to know him and I've never played the victim like you. You are complete trash and I feel so sorry for your daughter and grandmother. You are most defiantly making excuses for being trash and why you won't try to do better.

>>18411927
I'm just sorry for her daughter. Three of my closest friends are daughters of single moms, and you can definitely tell the difference between those who were raised by hardworking women who put their child first and the one who wasn't.
Those who were raised by hard working mothers are both college educated, in long term relationships and happy. The one who was raised by a mom like OP is struggling to finish her bachelor, playing victim and slutting it up.

>>18411953
Yah, that's why I tried telling her to look at statistics on single mothers and how there kids turn out. She dosen't what to hear it tho, you can tell nothing is going to get through to her. I feel sorry for her kid too. This is exactly why I work my ass off for my kids. I want them to see that with hard work you can become anything you want and overcome and shit that was dealt to you. I hate to see women who are selfish like her all she's doing is hurting her child's future.

>>18411915
>You can't even provide for your child and take care of yourself. What do you bring to a relationship? It is not a charity.
>But are you good for a man? What do you bring to him?
Love, compassion, support, humility, patience, sex drive, good values, responsibility, and an open heart. Its not a charity but its not a BUSINESS either so why bother to bring up charities? But if it WAS a business I would be looking to maximize his contributions while minimizing my own, same as any business does to their employees and vice versa.

>Maybe google what degrees are in request now and pick a job in those fields? I don't know, just suggesting. Instead of spending your time on okcupid you could learn how to program, or learn how to do accounting.
So you are giving advice you know NOTHING about, cool. Your advice is garbage rote nonsense you probably got told by your parents ~study and magically get a job~. Programming is getting flooded by people, its very difficult to learn and do well; accounting is getting automated and will be obsolete. Both require TIME AND MONEY to learn well enough to get a job. Every poor asshole in the world is trying to "learn programming" for free on the internet it doesn't mean anything.

>The roof isn't yours and you get foodstamps. If those are the standards by which you define if someone has their life together or not, you definitely don't.
I do. All roads lead to the same point. This is my life.

>Work hard, learn to do something, take care of your baby instead of trying to find a man to take care of you both.
I am working hard and I am learning what I need to every day. I am taking care of my daughter AND I am also looking for love. Since you bring up a man, we would both be better off with a decent man to help care for us, regardless what happens in the future. Of course we would. 2 good parents are always better than 1.

Has anyone pegged or rimjobbed their bf before?

We both wanna try it out but I'd like to hear some anons views on how to approach it.

>>18411937
>I work at a daycare so my kids can be taken care of, I'm going to school for child development to I can get promoted and run said daycare. I also work from home.
Wow what a stupid fucking specific situation where you are literally paid to raise your own kids at the same time as you raise others for hugely inflated prices that cause all those other single moms to suffer in poverty. Cool. Clearly ALL mothers should get a job in daycare they will magically inherit upon completing an online degree and if they don't and need help from family/govt (like help paying ridiculous fucking daycare prices for you and your 4 kids) they are evil people.

>You keep saying how poor you are but are unwilling to do anything to better your situation and are just content to much off your grandmother and the gov.
I'm poor is a fact. Do you not understand that education costs TIME and MONEY? What the fuck do you not understand about that? Its not magic either. Again, tell me what to study to get a good job for low time/money and I will. Apparently the answer is "just get a job in daycare and gauge the fuck out of other single moms you simultaneously scorn for needing govt help" because god knows how many daycare jobs they are what with our rapidly aging population.

>Your a horrible mother
Mmmhmmm ok

>>18411964
>good values, responsibility
I'm laughing. A woman who got married to an abuser at 19 talks about being responsible. Someone who is looking for a man to raise her daughter instead of actually working hard talks about responsibility.
God fucking damn.

>Your advice is garbage rote nonsense you probably got told by your parents
I tutor kids since I was 16, I make about 18€/hour and I can afford to work part time and live comfortably.
I live alone since I was 18. I haven't asked a cent from my parents since I was a teen. I am in med school, have basically guaranteed job as soon as I graduate.
Guess what - people who study do get jobs, and better paying jobs, than people who sit on their ass and look for baby daddies on okcupid.

>Since you bring up a man, we would both be better off with a decent man to help care for us, regardless what happens in the future.
Why would a man want to take care of you? Why would a man care about you? Why do you feel entitled to being loved? YOU AREN'T. NO ONE IS. Stop living in a fantasy world where just because you have a vagina you are entitled to a man who pays your bills, raises your daughter and loves you unconditionally.

>2 good parents are always better than 1
You already fucked that up.

>>18411971
>Has anyone pegged or rimjobbed their bf before?
I gave my boyfriend a rimjob.
Just really clean your ass well. With soap. There's nothing more to it.

>>18411985
I found a way to make sure my kids are taken care of, their are other ways out there IF YOU STOP MAKING EXCUSES. Not my fault your to lazy to find something and are happy to just make your grandma provide for you and your kid. Also holy shit your stupid, I don't set daycare prices. Lmao whatever bitch be a failure and set your kid up for a bad life. No skin of my back, I want better for my kids, you don't. My kids are happy and know their mom works hard for them. I'm done trying to explain this to you. Your obviously to stupid and selfish to see what burden you are and how you are failing your child.

Is there any point in asking a guy out if he doesn't show any obvious interest? Usually guys who like me are very obvious about it, but my only reference is nerdy guys, who might be more desperate I guess. This is my first time dealing with a "normal" guy. He's the cocky/arrogant type too, and I'm not sure how those guys typically act. Also, I'm not necessarily looking for anything serious with him. Any thoughts?

>>18412002
>Someone who is looking for a man to raise her daughter instead of actually working hard
I do work hard, these two are not mutually exclusive. Also I am not looking for a man to raise my daughter. I am looking for a man to love and be loved by. This is also potentially good for my daughter because its good for my emotional health and it means she can potentially down the line have a good father she deserves.

>I tutor kids since I was 16, I make about
Looked into tutoring jobs I could do already its still shit wages but with uncertain hours. Glad you can pay all your med school bills, rent, food, etc. on it though and still have enough left over to raise a child and pay for daycare on top of it too so you can tell single moms half a world away to do this too, really cool.

>Why would a man want to take care of you? Why would a man care about you? Why do you feel entitled to being loved? YOU AREN'T. NO ONE IS.
Yeah sure, nobody is "entitled to being loved" but we all NEED love and we all need care so we are all going to keep looking for it. The only one talking about vagina is you.

>You already fucked that up.
How did I fuck it up vs. my ex-husband who abused her and never ever reaches out or visits her? Why is it all my fault and not his? The worst you can say is "you should have magically known he was abusive and not married him" but if that was the case I never would have been able to have my daughter at all, and I value her far far more than anything else.

>>18412002
The girl is dumb as a box of rocks and can't be reasoned with. She comes on advice and has multiple people how are doing much better in life telling her how to do better for herself but just keeps yelling at everyone to "shut up" because she dosen't like the advice she's given.

She's trash and will always be trash.

>>18412014
>>18412002

Wow...single mothers are completely savage bitches, even against their own kind. Another reason to steer clear of these women, guys. Is it really worth dealing with this kind of drama?

>>18412035
That lazy cow is not my kind. And I'm not looking for a guy to take care of me or my kids. I focus on my children and bettering myself, dating is the last thing I'm worried about.

>>18412014

Nah shut the fuck up. You work at a daycare. You get paid to watch your own kids at the fucking daycare.

Daycares charge TONS of money to single moms and you have the nerve to judge those moms if they need help financially? Claim they don't love their kids? Put scorn on them for needing government assistance to pay YOUR jacked up ridiculous prices? (And I dont care if you don't set the price you and your 4 kids sure as fuck BENEFIT from that price). Put scorn on them for asking their family to babysit instead? (Oh no almost like daycare is TOO FUCKING EXPENSIVE).

Of course since you will magically inherit the daycare as soon as you are done with your online degree too I'm sure you'll be first to lower prices to make it more accessible to all mothers right? Lol. Any other mother who isn't in your stupid specific situation can just find """""other ways out there""" ?????

I haven't made a single excuse you are just human garbage. Your kids see how you exploit and scorn the poor and "work hard" raising kids like you know---most moms have to do every day for free. But it doesn't count when they do it, right?

>>18412035
Not a single mom but i am a stay at home mom that can afford to stay home. I do medical billing from home. Its a 6 month online certification and i got a grant. Just offering my two cents. All i can get from this is bashing the way people stay at home. Mooching vs finding a way to do both stay at home AND continue contibute

I've developed a fobia of getting pegged, thanks to that webm.

>>18412047
I REALLY dont think daycare prices are totally to blame as a mother. Unplanned pregnancies maybe?

>>18412058
Phobia and how the fuck did webmd give you a phobia or being anally raped by women?

>>18412064
It looked so awful.

>>18412058
Same tbqh.

>>18412031
Look lady, you are have to face the facts: your position is way too shitty for dating. Why would any guy choose you over any other girl with the same qualities but without a child and a burden of previous abusive relationship? Because what, they'll fall in love with YOU particularly? Okay, let's optimistically assume this happens. But then what? They'll have to support you and your daughter and basically become a provider in exchange for sex and emotional support. But soon enough they will figure out that they can get another girl, more independent and childless, who can give them sex and emotional support but won't require to be provided for, at least not to a degree you do.

The other anon is right, you shouldn't be thinking about romance when your life is a mess. And it's not true that we all need romantic love, there are people who yearn for it just as badly as you but have to do without. You'll see for yourself that it's possible.

>>18412059

This whole post makes no sense.

1-Daycare prices are fucking ridiculous. This is a fact, especially if you want a good daycare. If you need to rely on daycare, it can easily be the majority of cost of raising a child, more than food.

2-Unplanned pregnancies are something else entirely and don't appear to have any effect on price of daycare.

>>18412047
Hahaha you are just a victim in everything hu. God anyone who has tried harder and done better then you is just such a monster. Your lazy as fuck and find every excuse in the book to act like it's not your fault you life is garbage. All I know is all 4 of my kids are provided for, I do billing and coasting from home too, something else I had to go to school for to make my earning power better. You keep your minimum wage shit job and blame everyone else for your problems. It's honestly funny that you attach anyone who's doing better then you. Really shows how much of a victim you try to be. You could try harder and do any of the things suggested in this thread to give yourself and your daughter a better life but instead you just sit on your ass and bitch and make excuses. All the moms who's kids I watch love me and our daycare. We are one of the highest rated in our state. Our prices arnt unreasonable, you just don't want to be responsible for you kid and expect everything to be provided to you for free

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>>18412025
>cocky arrogant
>not serious
Just seduce him. He is obviously chad and you crave him. Almost no boy will refuse free pussy. Use condoms or gain free aids.

Ask him if he wants to hang out with you. Easy.

>>18412058
>>18412071
And now imagine there are people itt who are subs and getting pegged is their fetish.

I know /adv/ is normie boards, but all normies should take full tour to
>>>/d/ to see what exists so they dont get triggered by pegging so much.
>pic related

>>18412079
>your position is way too shitty for dating. Why would any guy choose you over any other girl with the same qualities but without a child and a burden of previous abusive relationship? Because what, they'll fall in love with YOU particularly? Okay, let's optimistically assume this happens. But then what? They'll have to support you and your daughter and basically become a provider in exchange for sex and emotional support. But soon enough they will figure out that they can get another girl, more independent and childless, who can give them sex and emotional support but won't require to be provided for, at least not to a degree you do.

Lots of men don't mind being providers, I know full on housewives and SAHMs and as well as many married women who work for shit wages or are underemployed. They aren't being left by their men in exchange for higher earning women, and in fact higher earning women are MORE likely to get divorced, not less.

Also if someone loves you they aren't looking to find the richest woman that they can find, anymore than a woman will leave a guy as soon as she finds a richer one. That's just weird gold digging, not love.

> you shouldn't be thinking about romance when your life is a mess.
Human needs don't change just because you are poor, also you seem totally oblivious to the fact that poor people exist, our economic system REQUIRES them to exist and to work for shit wages, and this is status quo for a large and growing segment of population. Chances are if your job isn't already shit, it will quickly be flooded by people looking to escape their own shit wages and then those wages also go down.

>>18412085
If you set your life up before you have kids and make preperations to be able to financially provide AND stay home you wont need day care. And honestly day cares are fucking swamped. I think mkre kids in America go to day cares then stay home with their actual parents.

>>18412097
Pegging is worse than all of that.

>>18412104
Whatever allows you to sleep better at night anon.

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How often would I need to text a girl to come off as clingy?
I found a girl online that I trade lewds with yesterday, we talked all last night and like 8 hours ago, is it okay if I text now? Im an amateur so idk

>>18412086

You've "done better" because you work at a fucking daycare you shit. Don't tell me about "doing better". Also why is all your self-improvement focused on your ~~~earning power~~~ and not on actually becoming a better or more compassionate human being? You have no clue what even makes a good mother or what makes a good human being. You are a shit human being.

> All the moms who's kids I watch love me and our daycare.
If only they knew that you think single moms hate their own children and anyone who needs assistance from their own family members or government programs is a shit leech who isn't trying hard enough (not like you and your special daycare job). Oh and you "work your ass off"....raising children? Like what every mom does for free every day? But you deprive them of that and shame them for it? Oh and a work at home job wow. You are so fucking fake, and I can guarantee I work far harder than you and I don't get paid a shit ton to do it.

> You could try harder and do any of the things suggested in this thread to give yourself and your daughter a better life
I'm going to look at the medical billing from home thing to see if its worth the cost to train etc (if I can afford it on my wages and if I can be assured it will actually pay off so I'm not stuck with all the other degree holders at my job). Other suggestions were just garbage. Like your "oh theres stuff out there" that's not a fucking suggestion you stupid judgmental hateful idiot.

>>18412058
Fuck, I feel the same.....and I have no problems with two guys fucking each other.

>>18412099
They don't mind to being providers to their wives, their being the key word here. You are someone else's ex-wife and you have someone else's child. Guys have 0 reasons to provide for you (and your child) when their can pick a cutie without a past, be her first husband and have a baby with her and provide for them.

As for higher earning women, I don't see what's your point. Are you trying to say that you'd make a better partner because you get paid shit? Top kek. It's not about finding the richest woman, it's about finding someone on similar level. You are impoverished, the guy would have to cover most of the expenses. No same person would go for that over a more financially stable (and childless) person.

As for your defense that poor people have to exist so I can earn better money... girl please.

I'm a poor person too, but I'm also much more self-aware than you and don't dream about things I can't afford at the moment (love) and focus on my responsibilities and on ameliorating my situation instead.

>>18412114
I think so

>>18412118
Woman you couldve researched this shit on your own.

>>18412103
>If you set your life up before you have kids and make preperations to be able to financially provide AND stay home you wont need day care.

Economy doesn't work so that everyone can do this. You can never ever find a solution that will work for everyone because that means those jobs will be flooded.

Also nobody is making preparations to be a single mom, I know you said you were married but for most people its really undesirable to have to work 2 jobs simultaneously (raising kids and doing billing or whatever) unless you have to. For me, I do whatever I have to and if that means working 2 jobs at once, so be it. For other people? Fuck that. They either want to raise their own kids, put their kids in a daycare (or get a nanny etc) and have someone else raise them so they can work full time.

> think mkre kids in America go to day cares then stay home with their actual parents.
No its like a quarter of under 5s. But yes, daycares make bank charging ridiculous prices to tons of kids. There are some govt programs to help poor families pay for them, but apparently taking welfare makes you a bad person according to some people. After 5s can usually get away with using a public school as a pseudo-daycare (until the kid gets sick).

>>18412125
Are you sure? I feel like I text too much sometimes

>>18412119
>>18412058
I saw the thumbnail to that webm but didn't get to open it. What was so special about it? Wasn't it just basic pegging? Or was there a prolapse or something?

For those 2 being supposedly being single moms, they sure have a lot of time to fight on 4chan about it. Quit over running the board with your bullshit and take care of your bastards.

>>18411568
>What have you done in order to obtain gf?
Downloaded dating apps. lol
And I'm improving my appearance, social skills, etc.

Girls, how would you react if you bf started singing Mariah Carey's Touch My Body and trying to be sexy?

this girl and I had a huge fight, I messaged her an apology, asking if we could still be friends. Told me she needed time to think about it. It's been a week now, how long should I wait before I call it quits?

Was thinking 2 weeks max and then messaging her again. Would messaging her during this time be a bad thing? What would be the most appropriate thing to do here?

>>18412200
Made post about it on /adv asking
>what did he mean by this?

>>18412118
>>18412118
I have no compassion for a lazy cow who only wants everything handed to her and won't even try hard for her own dam child. You are a horrible person and not a parent at all, just some dumb girl who married bad and made a kid she dosen't want to be responsible for. My job has nothing to do with it, I'd do whatever I needed to to make sure my kids are taken care of unlike you who fostests that off on others. I got a job at a daycare because it was the only thing I could find where I could keep my younger kids with me most of the time, also why I got an education for a job I could work from home. You keep blaming daycare and everyone else for your short comings. I wish I had family to help. I wish I could have keep the career I had befor I lost my husband but that didn't work for my kids so I found something that would. It's fine to get help, what's fucked up with our outlook is that you want all this help but don't want to do anything to better your situation to eventually not need it. Your perfectly happy to just be lazy and except hand outs for the rest or your life. Your so dumb you can't even understand the point I'm making. Your trying to twist everything everyone says to play the victim. I think single moms like you are garbage. I think moms who work hard and are actually trying are great. I work like 50+ hours a week at my daycare and I get payed a few dollars over minimum, that still wasn't enough so I got a job from home and work all night on the computer. You are the one who chose to go after a low paying job and not try for anything better, that's your stupid choice. I bet you work like 15 hours a week at a McDonald's and think you are doing so much. All you do is make excuses for your laziness and why your life being in shambles isn't your fault. It's good to here that at least you'll look at billing and coding. It's not that expensive and can really be worth it if you put a lot if effort in.

>>18412200
Laugh, uncontrollably.

>>18412151
It was just a whore pegging a girl.

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>>18411603
>Would you do the same for manlets etc? Can it kill you to show compassion?
???
This website regularly makes fun of manlets, as much as they may enjoy making fun of single moms, tumblr etc there's nothing anons love more than tearing other anons down.

It's why I'll never post a screencap of personal conversations even if the names are scrubbed out, if I ever fuck up or someone has sufficient autism I know some jackass will go out of his way to start messaging everyone on my social media.

>>18412097
>Almost no boy will refuse free pussy
Even if they don't seem interested at all? Well, I'll ask him to hang out and see how it goes. Thanks for the input.

>>18412151
Don't listen to >>18412224

It was necrophilia.

>>18412240
Kek

>>18412240
Implying necrophilia is worse than pegging.

Men desire women but not the other way around. Can somebody redpill me on thid? This is a popular saying in my religion.

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How do I get a girlfriend like this, who isn't into pegging.

Facesitting is more than okey, though.

Girls, is manscaping a must? In which parts of the male body is hair OK

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>>18412253
>women don't desire men
They desire us more than we desire them.

You heard it here first.

>>18412253
>redpill
There will be plenty of guys willing to tell you that men sincerely adore women inside and out and women only look at men like mealtickets.

Golddiggers are a thing but overall this is absolutely not true. What IS true is that women often have a less fleshed out desire for men than the other way around. For example, it's fairly common for women to not really know what they are into with men, or to have "responsive" attraction where they can fall for men once in the courting process but rarely notice men spontaneously.

However this has to do with two things. The first is that women do not have nearly as much testosterone, which is the driving force behind the raging physical sex drive that typically causes young teen boys to realize just how into women they are. (And their frustration about not being able to fuck any will in turn drive them to broaden their taste as much as possible, either consciously to get laid or implicitly through exploring all sorts of porn.)

Women on the other hand do not have the same force and on top of that, sex and men are less "special" to them, because they hound them to begin with. For their own safety and to keep their image okay they quickly learn to shut men down and focus on the few striking men who really stand out.
It is very impractical if on top of the guys already options to you by living your life or their own initiative, you feel active attraction towards a whole bunch of others despite needing to be really picky about who you sleep with or else you're a cheap slut. So they tone their interest in men down as much as possible (depends on the person how much that is).

>>18412268
I personally do not like any shaving/trimming. I think if you don't know your partner's preferences and are having sex for the first time, trimmed pubes and shaved pits is the norm, not minding anything else unless you have back hair.

>>18412262
>tatoo
Just wait a bit until she becomes single mom.

>>18412253
If that would be true, we wouldnt forbidden rape and polygamy in western society. Girls like boys too. For a lot of reasons (security, resources, emotions and dick).

>>18412281
>Test

But aren't there more than 20 other sex hormones not to mention the cognitive aspect of it. I did read a study about how test doesn't actually increase the sex drive but makes you morr aggressive. There are conflicting studies on this.

>>18412277

This
Once you get past that orgasm, it's a lot easier for women to stick around than men.

Men just have a drive to fuck a woman. And it takes someone really good for them to get them to stay (or they lack confidence and presence of mind so they stay out of fear nobody else will want them)

Women need that man in their lives a lot more

>>18412288
You're right. Fuck-friend like her.

>>18412287

>Shaved armpits

There are men that do this? What?

>>18412301
I do it because I sweat less when I lift. No girl has ever commented it, either.

>>18412296

You need aggression for sex. That's kinda the whole point

If the entire world was like women in terms of sexual pursuit, the entire world would just avoid eye contact forever while asking their friends "how can I get them to notice me"

>>18412296
Absolutely, yet women with higher testosterone levels still have higher sex drives, and if you look at same sex and heterosexual couples, M/M has the most sex and F/F the least.

I am not trying to imply that women are less sexual than men, but it absolutely works a different way. For a concrete example, look up "responsive sex drive". This essentially means the woman is never spontaneously aroused, never spontaneously thinking about sex, but once her partner wets her appetite she wants and loves it like anyone else. This is completely normal for a woman, maybe not the norm but nothing to raise eyebrows.

>>18412301
Yeah. Also because it helps reduce the smell of sweat for men in hot climates or who sweat easily/a lot. Again though personally I give no fucks and I think most women would not, but if you want to be absolutely sure, armpit hair does gross some out.

>>18412312
>woman is never spontaneously aroused, never spontaneously thinking about sex, but once her partner wets her appetite she wants and loves it like anyone else.

I don't really think this is true for most women though. Women do think about sex spontaneously.

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Girls, I know this will sound stupid but I need some help. How do I start conversation with you? I have tried pick up lines and it seems they don't work. I have tried to be nice and also it didn't work. Most girls won't even bother answering something stupid they posted to get to know them. I need to find a girl dtf as soon as possible because I'm getting old. I am good looking and I have a nice body.

Can you help me please?

We don't feel humiliated, we wonder if we should find someone else. The screeching we make is because of the hassle.

>>18412321
That's why I included "maybe not the norm", I personally don't know anyone like that either (then again, how many people do you get to know that intimately). But for a woman this isn't in any way a sign that anything is off. It's just a way for female sexuality to be formed. For a man it would be incredibly exceptional to feel this way.

>>18412240
Nicely done.

>>18412321
But do they act on it?

Checkmate atheist!

>>18412322
>getting old
Still havent figured out how to develop personality, have adult conversation, how to be more attractive, how to show girls you like them in sexual way or even how to install online dating apps.

Try single moms. In this thread are two, who will love you and even teach you how to think if you will love them.

>>18412335
Yeah I'm aging that's why I need help. I can't do most of the stuff you posted :S

>>18412328
I'm a man but I can't have sex without actually getting to know the person first or forming an emotional connection. Does that count as responsive?

>>18412322
Pick up lines indeed barely ever work. The idea of a pick up line is to create a moment of surprise and humor that disarms her. The reality of it is that it's become a trite cliche, and more likely than causing this energy and being an ice breaker, it makes it difficult for her to talk to you like a normal person because you do not introduce yourself as a person, you introduce yourself as an interested party. It is hard to reply to a gimmick with anything other than awkwardness or dismissal.

Practice as often as you can. I do NOT mean chatting up girls. I mean talking to people. Little old ladies. Random male coworkers. Kids. Learn how to keep your head cool when a mildly uncomfortable situation arises. Learn how to respond in the moment with something that pops into your head instead of freezing up. Learn how to read whether someone is interested in you or hoping you'll go away already.

In the end talking to a girl is just talking. Girls want to fuck a man who sees them as a sexual person, not someone who sees them as a piece of ass. Someone who has given them a teaser of the kind of dynamic they could have in the bedroom (through flirting or other playful/tense interaction), and is offering himself as a lover, not a random dick she can hop onto like there are plenty willing if she is so inclined.
You do have to be nice, you do have to show interest, just not excessively. There is a difference between being pleasant and being a doormat. If you have difficulty distinguishing in the beginning, ask yourself if you would still laugh at this joke if your friend made it. Do not pretend to agree with her when you don't. Do not pretend you are willing to do whatever for her. Do not pretend she's smarter and funnier than she is. Just let your sincere interest in interaction - preferably sex but hey, anything you can get - shine through.

>>18412342
> :S
I think you are another troll.

>>18412343
No, it's called "demisexual" sometimes, though many people find this label really uncommon as it is not as rare as media make it seem for people to need emotional connection first.

Responsive is when even though you already love someone and already are attracted to them, you still need to be warmed up before sex becomes an appealing option. Like everyone has that dish that never seems appealing to you when you think about it, but really enjoy once you start eating it.

>>18412347
Not the guy you responded to, but I am trying to get better at talking to people and whatnot. My question for you is, how do I start a conversation? I feel so odd being the one to start it, and I always kinda taper out of the conversation and close it myself. it sucks

>>18412347
In the same realm - do not set a precedent where there's zero standards for her. Do not ramble on and on trying to entertain her like a clown. If you feel you've said what you want to say, leave a poignant silence for her to fill. If she is boring you, remove yourself and talk to someone else.

At least, this is the short term investment for the long term becoming the kind of man that women want to fuck/be with structurally. Someone who respects himself and dares to place expectations on her. No fun to please someone who is impressed with anyone with a pussy, why even try?

I know this girl in university which I hang out with and work togher on homeworks. She semed to respond well to all my jokes and other kind of stuff and semes like she likes me. So the problem is that she has boyfriend not for a long period but she has him before I started becoming good friends with her. The main problem is that i stared liking her a lot and I don't want to screw my friendship over an refusual because of her boyfriend. Any advice on how should I manage this situation?

>>18412365
Yeah. Don't try to get with a girl that has a boyfriend. No good can come of it.

>>18412362
It's always a mental barrier to initiate, but the trick is to 100% realize and understand that there is absolutely nothing wrong with reaching out to someone. What a lot of guys do is that they are really anxious about approaching a girl, so they avoid doing it most of the time. Then when they do it and the girl is not interested, they feel like the hardest part is already behind them and they have to cling on as who knows when they will dare to approach a girl again?
It should be the other way around. Approach lots, take rejection lightly. Those girls complaining about guys chatting them up somewhere? They aren't complaining that someone dared to acknowledge their existence in the public realm. They're complaining that they couldn't take a hint.

If a girl isn't smiling, gives curt answers, does not make eye contact or only very briefly, does not ask questions, moves physically away from you or turns away, grabs her phone or a book and so on - you can safely assume that she's not interested. No harm done. If you didn't say anything yet, ask her a plausible question (like whether she saw if x bus already came by) and play it off like that. If you did talk, just smile and wish her a good day. Done.

What I see a lot is guys analyzing endlessly what they did "wrong" in approaching a girl, causing her to not be interested. Sure it is a good idea to maximize your strategy. But it does not happen in a vacuum. She might be taken. She might have a shit day and sit there trying not to cry when suddenly a stranger talks to her. She might be holding in a fart and dying to get home to shit. You have no clue at all what's happening over at her side and what context your attempt to talk to her falls into. There is no point in isolating what you did like it's gospel and trying to learn just from that. Only patterns and added experience counts, not one offs.

Post too long..

>>18412363
OP here. I've been talking to a girl and I never want to start conversations. Sometimes I do because I don't want to look like a dick. Should I keep doing that?

>>18412348
Why do you say that? I can barely hold a nirmsl conversation...

>>18412347
Thank you anon. I will try to apply what you said irl.

>>18412374
Really good post mate, thanks

Given that I'm am of slightly above average attractiveness (if that even matters in this case),
what would be good ways to politely and subtly (yet not too subtly) let a member of the opposite sex know that you wish to be penetrated, preferably right now?

>>18412391
I mean as in in-person encounters, not sexting or anything.

>>18412374
Also for your concrete question - it does not matter. The best way is to comment on something you have "in common". Of course it's perfect if she is reading a book (from an other) you love or you can hear she's listening to music you like or whatever. In real life this likely won't happen but it does not matter. Most of the conversations I've had with strangers started because you are both watching something (like someone having a difficult time parking, a kid throwing a scene, something mildly entertaining or odd), make eye contact, and then either makes a little comment like (in the parking case) "I'm impressed, I was really betting against him" (or in the second case) "at least we can go home and leave him to mom, right". This is also why it is so incredibly common to talk about the weather - it is one of the only current events you know for a fact any other person also has some level of thoughts/opinions/feelings on.
But stuff like "what are you reading/listening", "hey", "do you know what time the train will arrive" also work. They are just less preferable if you can bank on bonding over a shared sight.
Because, again, the way you handle the conversation itself and her response is much more important than the way you start it. Whether she wants to talk or not will have firstly most to do with how she feels (does she feel pretty or haggard? tired or energized? sullen or vibrant? is she in a hurry or relaxed with no plans?), secondly with what she picks up from you (sure, your looks, but more than anything else: whether you seem like you might be a bit off mentally, whether you seem safe generally, whether you seem REALLY invested in talking to her or like you just want to chat) and only after those two huge ones does anything else factor in.

Obviously it is a lot harder to approach girls who are on the move and going about their business. Personally I would recommend against that and simply give your number or ask for theirs, not make them stop.

This doctor found it weird how I ask my usual GP for blood tests (sugar, cholesterol, STDs, etc) periodically (about 9 months). She said "men of your age don't do that". Wtf?
She also asked if I have unprotected sex (penetration). I said "no, but can't you get diseases from oral?"

Do you think I am exaggerating for getting tested periodically?

>>18412373
I know this but still we're really kinda understand each other, even some of her friends thought we were togher. But still what i initialy planned was to keep her as a friend and try with other girls, but it is fucking hard to stick to this plan.

>>18412391
Are you male or female?

>>18412398
Yeah getting non std blood tests is abnormal in the UK, unnecessary everywhere. Guessing you're British from use of GP phrasing.

Getting std panels is sensible inc oral, you can never be too safe. Go to a GUM clinic though.

>>18412365
Ask her out. Think about it OP:
>if she says yes
1) you get a gf
2) her bf doesn't get stuck in a relationship with a cheater
>if she says no
1) you lose nothing
2) her bf gets a gain, since he knows his gf isn't a cheater, and thus a good gf

It's in everyone's best interest for you to ask her out OP, since the relationship between her and the bf is very new, and thus can quickly be broken off. Now, if they were together for 3 years and we're living together, than there can be a bad scenario for the bf, but since they aren't, it's a win-win foe everyone

>>18412396
>from an other
Wtf, from an *author of course.

>>18412380
How interested are you in her? How often does she initiate? If the current situation is that she chats you up often and you do seriously like her, reciprocate from time to time. It doesn't have to be 50/50 but if she really likes you it'll likely make her insecure over time about your feelings, and most people (especially in early stages) react to that by keeping or creating their distance and shutting their own budding feelings down.

If you just enjoy talking to her but don't need anything from her beyond what you are getting now, not necessarily. In an ideal world all dynamics would be equal but in practice the brunt of friendships have one person who is typically more active in maintaining it. If you actually want to talk to her less, absolutely don't initiate for the sake of not looking like a dick. You will just give her the wrong signals.

>>18412387
>>18412388
You're welcome, good luck!

>>18412404
I forgot that to penetrate is a more ambiguous word in English than in my language. Sorry for being unclear, I am female.

I've already fucked him and kissed him and smoked weed with him and gone to the pub with him and gone to parties with him. But we're not a couple yet, and I know he doesn't want to take it too fast. He's not a cunt though, I think, on balance.

My question is... can I try to hold his hand?

>>18412421
Worst thing he can do is to pull it away.

I was recently trying to see the linustechtips video for Intel's new i9 blunder. I have absolutely no idea why Intel messed it up since I don't understand the terminology he is using at all. Is there any place I could learn all of this for a layman?

>>18412404
She would be a female either way.

>>18412420
Firstly, I would go with kissing him and grabbing his crotch.

Secondly, I'm curious as to your mother tongue and how the words for penetrating vaginally and anally are delineated?

>>18412421
Reported. This isn't /soc/, so stop trying to look for beta orbiters here

>>18412426
That would literally destroy me.

>>18412421
This is funny.
Sleeps with him, abuse drugs with him, but isnt sure if she can call him bf or hold hands with him.

Please girl, slow down with the slutiness and try the dating part more.

>>18412429
Intel is currently selling overpriced outdated hardware. i9 is just rebranded i7 with terrible parameters and super high cost. Dont fall for marketing and buy ryzen 1700 or 1600 (depends on how rich you are).

>>>/g/ is your board.

>>18412432
Huh?
This is ask the opposite gender anything. It what way have I deviated from the thread's purpose?

>>18412434
>Please girl, slow down with the slutiness and try the dating part more.
B-but I like getting high and fucking :(

>>18412434
>Intel is currently selling overpriced outdated hardware. i9 is just rebranded i7 with terrible parameters and super high cost.

I know this. What am I supposed to make out of all the technical mumbo jumbo though? Something about sockets, NVM express lanes, overclocking. How do I go about learning all of this

>>18412445
Get a fucking job.

>>18412450
Touché

>>18412445
Look few post higher. Maybe you will end up as single mom. Or worse.

Try dating. Fuck just one boy. Reduces risks of getting aids.

As far as drugs go, it will destroy you. I know you think you are strong and cant end up as junkie, but this is exactly how did they all started. Like you. Enjoying ride.

>>18412447
Pro tip just for you:
>educate yourself
We live in era where 90% of all knowledge is one google search away from you. Wikipedia, youtube educational videos, hell even some unis have online recordings of seminars.

Dont be lazy and start reading stuff. It is not hard.

>>>/pol/129629004
>After i fap all thoughts of "i should have a gf" fly out the window.

Girls, how do you feel about threads like these? Do even any girl goes to /pol? And if yes, why?

>>18412431
We usually use that word for penis-related things, so since I mentioned something about the opposite sex, it would have been clear that I don't habe a dick myself.

>>18412463
Duh ever heard of condoms?
Even a virgin should know what it is, even if you won't ever have a chance to use one.

>>18412431
Also, there is hardly any subtlety to that...

I hooked up a girl in my grad program a few weeks ago. Since then she hasn't been talking to me no where as much and everything just seems kind of awkward. What is the best way to make things "less awkward?"

>>18412489
why the fuck would you talk to her

>>18412478
Absolutely. I'm not a fan of /pol/ but I saw a girl on here proclaim how great it was mere days ago. Wouldn't dare to tell you how common it is, though.

I don't really have strong feelings about those threads. In part I think their outlook is misguided, because it is at least as common for men to want to "sow their wild oats" before settling down with a woman who was never as sexually active as they've been. And who might be younger, and who does not enjoy the party lifestyle he's done with. This is just a thing many people do.
At the same time I have been around for a long time and I see all the same threads detailing (anecdotal or perceived) patterns with women slighting men. So I understand feeling justified or experiencing Schadefreude etc at seeing articles like these (women ultimately missing out).

>>18412504
What's your point?

Girls, why do so many of you like tattoos?

>>18412507
The question was what my feelings on those threads were. I said I don't have strong ones and gave a bit more context why. Aka give input.

>>18412500
I'm in a small program of around 20 people, so we all know and see each other all the time.

>>18412513
so what wtf

Met a girl on tinder, she send me nudes and things happened. Later on she asked me if I knew X who is my cousing. Told me she knows him from tinder too.

Asked her if she send him nudes too and told me she never met him in person.

So basically she send him nudes right? I'm even wondering if they fucked too. I don't even know why she needed to bring this shit up.

>>18412431
What is your first language exactly?

>>18412510

Not really. A lot of tattoos are fucking ugly as sin dude.

>>18412489
No magical way, you just have to stick treating her as if everythiing is normal. Not talking to her just as much necessarily, but everything else (greeting her when you run into her, making eye contact and so on). She'll get over it, life goes on. This is assuming it's standard embarrassment and not feeling like you took advantage of her or whatever.

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Girls: I met a girl that I'd been talking to on tinder for a while and told her how I was already seeing someone, which I'd guess disappointed her but I said I'd like to stay in touch as friends and I've actually made the effort and we've talked a bit since. But since meeting her, I'm reconsidering my current relationship since we clicked so well. What do I do?

I feel like I'm in a catch 22 since if I leave my current relationship for her, I'm an untrustworthy piece of shit but staying with my current gf is a mean thing to do to my gf (I still care about her but more like as a best friend than as a relationship. Please, I need someones advice. I have no idea what to do with these feelings.

>>18412525
>not feeling like you took advantage of her or whatever.
Oh yeah it wasn't anything like that I would have backed the fuck off if she made it clear she wasn't feeling the same way. Thanks for the reply.

>>18412522
How would that be of any relevance?

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>>18412521
You're a guy, why do you use tinder? Just go to a club and pick them live.

>>18412533
You shouldn't end a relationship for someone else, you should end it if it isn't working.

>>18412543
Well the thing is that it hasn't quite been working. I've been close to breaking it off for a few weeks but in the end I just fold and stay. I just feel so guilty for getting so close all those times and then now actually considering it.

I don't know how the other girl would feel about me suddenly up and leaving someone for her. She's definitely attracted to me and when we were walking down the street, a few people even stopped and said we looked like an amazing couple, which just made it even more awkward.

>>18412533
This is complicated. There's several sides to it.

First of all, you aren't married yet. Leaving your girlfriend because you think you would make a better fit with someone else is not something to be proud of, but what's the alternative? I know I'd rather have a guy break it off with me because he thinks he has a better shot with someone else, than stay with me out of a sense of obligation because he happened to choose to get together with me some time ago. Dating is for most people still in part to see whether you have what it takes (in terms of compatibility, mainly) for lifelong commitment.

But you have to realize that it's not quite fair to compare the fresh sparks from an unknown, exciting girl to your familiar girlfriend. If you got together with this new girl, at some point she would also be old news and you would also get into a rut together. At some point the new relationship energy has run its course and it's up to you to keep the spark alive together and come out of it stronger, instead of letting everything die down because you aren't able or willing to really invest in being a good partner after the initial buzz.

So I would advise you to
>sit down and consider honestly whether the state of your relationship has more to do with your inherent qualities, or her behavior or whatever, or that you neglected to keep the relationship healthy and took things for granted
>consider how well you know this new girl and what reasons you have to believe that you would work better with her other than chemistry

Either way, a friendship is not an option. That's entirely disrespectful towards your relationship, and part of the reason why male/female friendships get such a bad reputation is that people keep trying to treat friendship as a consolation prize. If she wants to date you, you're not doing her favors by keeping her around as "platonic" company.

>>18412534
No problem at all, for what it's worth often the discomfort of the other person eases up when they realize that yes, they -can- pretend nothing happened and proceed as usual. Acting like you can't tell she acts different is the best you can do in that regard. Good luck!

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>>18412533
You and I both know the answer, deep down inside.

>>18412551
> a few people even stopped and said we looked like an amazing couple
I don't believe that happened.

Anyway, if it's not working with your girl, by all means end it. But not
>leaving someone for her
You need to have some time ALONE after the breakup, to digest what the relationship meant. Continue to be friends with the new girl and if it's meant to be, take her out on a date in due course.

Girls,
What type of stuff do you cannot get enough of in foreplay? I know all women are different but I'll be in an arranged marriage (not forced) where girls don't really say what they like and what they don't.

>>18412553
I feel I've made a real mess for myself. I've been told by some that I'm probably with her for comfort and familiarity but I do realistically know she won't be the one I marry, as much as it hurts to say it.

The problem is that I love her but just not in a relationship way. It's like she's my best friend but more and I don't want her out of my life but I just don't feel like she's someone I can love in a romantic way. Is there any possible way she'd stay in my life if we broke up?

As for the other girl, we just click so well. We both have the same ultimate goals and quite a few shared interests. The only true problem I see with her is that she works almost 7 full days a week since she has two jobs, so that would be a problem, but I still feel I could work past it.

What a mess.

>>18412570
It's all about the cunnilingus man. Don't count that as foreplay though.

In terms of foreplay/build up, nipple stuff?

Also remember that men get turned on by what they see and women by what they hear. Say romantic and sexual stuff.

>>18412570
Grinding!! I love it, especially if we're spooning and he's licking my neck and feeling me up during. More mellow and relaxed than a lot of other things, mutual, and the feeling of his bulge against my ass is honestly addictive.

Also fingering, oral is great as well but so intense it can be overwhelming at times. Also getting eaten out can be a bit lonely and 69 intensive, when he's fingering me facing each other I can see him take in all my reactions, feel his breath on my face and sigh on his, smile at each other and kiss and so on. Hand stuff being inherently inferior to oral is rubbish in my opinion, they both have their own appeal.

>>18412569
>I don't believe that happened.
But it actually did. At the start I talked to her about the just friends thing and such. But as I was walking her to her car, we got stopped and couple in their 40s said we looked like a nice couple and then soon after a drunk guy said we were a nice couple and she'd make me truly happy and I should hold onto her. It made me feel really uneasy and sick with myself.

>You need to have some time ALONE after the breakup, to digest what the relationship meant. Continue to be friends with the new girl and if it's meant to be, take her out on a date in due course.

I know that's the right thing to do but it just feels so hard. I'm just afraid of really hurting the girl I'm with, she's already got issues and my break up with her could send her into a total meltdown. These issues are what I've been struggling with in the relationship too.

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>>18412570
First my bf eats me, then I fuck my bf in the ass, then you fuck me, you cum inside me, then my bf eats me out while you fuck him.

Just beat up my bf as foreplay.

>>18412571
Why do you feel you can't love her in a romantic way? Why did you use to feel differently (I assume)?

Friendship after a break up is not 100% impossible but not something you should ever count upon. Even if the intention is there, it just brings up so much hurt and oftentimes also wound pride, resentment etc that this effectively spoils it.

Okay, that's good, but everything you say about the new girl still boils down to that she seems quite promising. You don't know what she's like in day to day life. You don't know what she's like to have sex with. You don't know how she acts when you need to communicate seriously about something in the relationship. Don't forget that in the rush.

>>18412583
Isn't that a svensk music video?

>>18412590
It ironically is.

>>18412583
Don't you love your boyfriend?

>>18411661
Are you serious? Please tell me you are making this up.

Shes not into you bro. She'll NEVER be into you until she turns 30 and guys don't hit her up anymore. Girls have two slots with guys. Lover, and provider. The lover fucks her good, gets gifts from her, gets attention from her. She uses the provider when the lover isn't giving her any attention. Basically she thinks of you almost as a gay female friend, so she'll send her boobs and stuff because she knows you won't do anything and possibly never will.

The old adage is either go for all of them or none at all. If you put all of your emotions on one woman it'll backfire like you wouldn't believe bro. 9 times out of ten she'll be turned off because you are needy, clingy, and you need her more than she needs you because subconsciously you believe that she is your only shot at sex.

The solution is to drop her, completely. Fuck her. She doesn't want your dick, she isn't wet thinking about you, move the fuck on. Meanwhile, get some hobbies. Do some interesting things like hang gliding. Learn how to fire a gun. Go backpacking in Europe. Something. And then talk to every girl you can along the way. But there is a cavet to this. Talk to the girls like you want to FUCK them. Not just as friends, but convey to her what you want, which is to tear her little pussy apart. Obviously girls love context with dating. You have to entertain her, make her laugh, make her feel good, and then she'll be having so much fun that when you go for the make out she gets wetter than Niagara falls.

>>18412583
>>18412590
>>18412597
What's going in sweden?

>>18412604
Estrogen. I'm not memeing.

Just general question, is it OK to have some days when you're weak and you want to contact a person when you're trying to get them out of your life? I don't succumb to the urge, but I want to some days.

>>18412604
They want men to be women for some reason.

>>18412609
Yeah absolutely. It's not feeling temptation that makes you weak, it's giving in. If you had no temptation there would be no strength in restraining yourself to do the right thing. Allow yourself some time.

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This dude says he likes me a lot more than he can say, flirts with me, gets all touchy feely with me , says he wants to take me out on dates but when I message him and try to plan dates out or ask him if he's alright I get nothing. He's literally online half of the time too.
Do I give up or do I keep trying?

>>18412585
>Why do you feel you can't love her in a romantic way? Why did you use to feel differently (I assume)?
She's quite depressed and self deprecating, we also fight about the strangest of things and I just don't think she's someone I could build a life with anymore. Her parents are pretty terrible as are most of her extended family while mine is the polar opposite. I want to have a family someday, but I just don't think I could let my kids be a part of that kind of life. Even my parents say I should move on.

I still care about her like I said but I just can't see myself marrying her and having a family with her. I want her to be a lifelong friend and help her with things though but I just don't know if that could work post-breakup.

I know the other girl is a gamble too and I feel friendship is a good start so I'll see where it goes. In the few weeks I've known her though she's seemed pretty great.

>>18412604
Big Black Cock™

>>18412604
They want to leave Norway and Iceland as the remaining nations with super beautiful women status.

>>18412583
Kek that guys expression is priceless

Do women want men to be more feminine?

>>18412574
Women get turned on by what they see too. What they hear being more stronger than whwt they see is actually a meme. There a few women definitely this way but not most.

>>18412262
Everything is perfect but she absolutely had to ruin it with the tattoo.

>>18412615
You're saying the guy is more receptive in person than he is online? Just ask him these things in person. Obvious that he probably isn't good at conveying himself through an inanimate object.

>>18412614
Got it. It's only recently that I decided to cut her out of my life, so I suppose that it'll take more than a few weeks to get over it.

>>18412608
I actually read an article about swedish men having really low test compared to other nations.

I'll see if I can find it.

>>18412646
He is, but it's kind of hard to meet up with him often since he lives a bit far from me. Planning out stuff and talking online is easier for the both of us without wasting hours of driving.

>>18412647
Same but now I've gone silent, she tries to make small talk. I keep my responses short and direct so I don't come off as rude.

>>18412624
The contrast between Norway and sweden is astounding in terms of women, men, sanity, cuckoldry, etc.

Why is that?

I have an outie and am afraid that any guy who sees it will hurl. What do?

>>18412663
Stop taking people over the net seriously

>>18412663
Outies are common. Innies are what actually weirds me out.

Girls: if you were spooning with your partner and he felt your boob would that be OK?

>>18412652
How did y'all meet, being so far away from each other?

A lot of dudes have a thing about needing to talk to and get attention from a girl, yet be afraid of actually moving forward at the risk of embarrassing himself. It's a lot more of a threat to dudes simply because it has a much higher chance of ruining what good has already been established. Guys are supposed to act as though being replaceable doesn't bother them.

>>18412663
Literally nobody cares about that.

>>18412615
its not what people say, its what they do that matters. He hasn't texted back? Don't make him a priority. Period. There are other people out there that'll be crazy about you.

>>18412661
Idk, our women (Norway) are more equal, yet more sane, too.

It's a culture of women pegging men in sweden.

I just really fucking love our women and their view on shit. Our prime minister cabinet is 50% women (we don't have a quota) and shit have never been more based.

>>18412570
I like lots of kissing. my boyfriend and I will make out for a few minutes and things will slowly get more intense. he'll kiss nibble and lick my neck I generally like that. when the clothes eventually come off I like it when he plays with my breasts and nipples while he fingers me. That's usually pretty hot too. The best advice for foreplay is just don't be in a rush and take the time to explore her body.

>>18412676
>Nobody is a priority but you; be self-absorbed!
Is this just America or is this shit mindset spreading everywhere?

>>18412681
You're such a lucky genetic outlier.
>Based model looking women
Why don't we have that shit in cuckbongistan.

>>18412690
Idk why britain is still a thing desu.

>>18412692
I don't know why we don't invade norway and rape all your women.

Fucking oil jew piece of shit.

>>18412672
We met at work. It's a place that's kind of inbetween from where we both live. I live on one end of the state and he lives in bumfuck on the other side. Driving to work isn't to bad, like an hour but the drive to his house is like 2 hours longer.

Guys are weird as heck.

>>18412663
Pretty gross.

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>>18412698
>implying you could invade us
I feel bad for you, for having to fuck british chicks.

Girls (maybe guys): I've been trying to get up the courage to break it off with my girlfriend but she has pretty severe anxiety and depression and has been on suicide watch before. She's been at the brink again lately and I've been emotionally drained for a long time but I care too much about her to let her get hurt. What do I do?

For femanons, would you view your boyfriend in a less positive way if he liked to cuddle, be doted on, etc? Honestly I'd like nothing more than to have someone ruffle my hair and just do general cutesy physical things but I'm afraid if I ever do find a gf they'll view me as not being masculine enough as a result.

>>18412734
literally never worry to kuch about your tits, Imna large boob guy but id still fuck/dat/marry/be interested in a flat chested girl. I think what is more importnat is having wide hips. (as long as you arent a box you are good to go pretty mcuh)

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>>18412734
Hold on, I'll have to think about it for sec.

Disregard this >>18412746 chick.

>>18412742
as a girl with a boyfriend who is like you, it doesn't cause me to view him in a less positive way. honestly, it's so cute whenever my boyfriend wants to cuddle or falls asleep on my lap while i play with his hair. you'll find a good gf anon! there's a lot of cute grils who like dudes who love to cuddle, trust me.

>>18412747
Nigga how the fuck do you have think about it for a sec what the fuck is wrong with you

>>18412742
I love that but I have no idea how other girls feel about it.

>>18412746
yeah, i have wide hips and i've been complimented for my body shape and curves so i guess im good to go?

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>>18412757
Don't get ahead of yourself.

>>18412757
yea you've got nothing to worry about ignore >>18412764

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Ok, you're just 16, right? You shouldn't be thinking about this stuff.

Find a guy who loves you for you.

This >>18412767 chick with small breasts are really insecure, so don't think about it, k? It's draining and you don't want to end up like her.

>>18412734
Small sized boobs can still look very sexy. Don't worry about it so much.

Also, underage b&.

>>18412747
>>18412764
>>18412772
Can you think about it some more?

>>18412698
We could just buy your country and give it to India as a gift.

>>18412391

It depends. How much do you know him? Do you want to convey that via text or IRL?

>try to distance myself
>she notices i'm slipping away
>she chats me up all the time suddenly
fucking hate what's happening to me right now

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>>18412807
What do you mean? Just run out of there.

Girls: What does it mean when you walk in a girls dorm for a chat and she puts on her bra after like 10 minutes (I didn't even notice she wasn't wearing one).

>>18412815
btw: she walked in her bathroom, left the door open but i turned around to look at some poster because i didnt want to be a creepo

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>>18412817
>i turned around to look at some poster because i didnt want to be a creepo

So, I've been hanging with this guy. We knew each other IRL and were hanging out, but came across each other on a dating site too and ended up liking each other on it. I ended a relationship not that long ago and the last time I was hanging out with this guy he 1) asked me how the dating site was going, then after I said "not super great" said it wasn't for him either, 2) asked me about how things were with my ex and if I regretted breaking up with him. I said no and he asked me about it, then said the answer I gave was endearing, 3) asked if I wanted to hear something funny (we'd skyped a few days before since I was house-sitting for him while he was gone, and he wanted to check in. his stepmom was around while we were talking). I said "sure", and told me when we hung up skype, she asked who I was and apparently had said "she likes you, you can tell by her voice. she really, really likes you". He tells me this while watching me.

He has previously said he doesn't want to date me. I don't understand why a person would ask these 3 things all at once if they weren't interested. Anyway, like a week goes by and we hang out to do some work together, which is always why he invites me over, even though it's 90% goofing off and sex. This time he seems distant, "professional" rather than flirtatious like usual, and is being super teacherly rather than his typical self. It felt like he demoted me almost or something, like he made some decision about our friendship/relationship whatever this is and I just have to follow suit. I don't know what it means, and I know no one really can, but I guess my question is whether or not I should bring it up. I feel so confused and kind of anxious. Does it make me seem clingy and weird/blowing things out of proportion to be curious and ask about what's going on? Or even just point it out? Should I just let it go? I obviously like him, but I feel like there's a lot unsaid between us. When I've tried in the past, he shuts down.

girls.

Girlfriend takes so fucking long to get to my house. Tasks that should take an hour and a half end up taking 3 or 4 hours.

I honestly have been going over to her house way more just so we actually have time to see each other. It's so frustrating how she doddles around.

What can I do?

>>18412888
he's not into you he just likes fucking you

>>18412893

Sounds about right. Figured, but I just have wishful thinking I shouldn't, so time to burn that out of my mind.

>>18412890

As a girl who used to be constantly late for everything, having my boyfriend point it out and tell me it made him feel like I didn't care enough to be on time really made me more aware and want to be on time. Having someone you care about tell you how your actions are being interpreted negatively doesn't feel good and made me want to fix the problem.

>>18412823
Why the facepalm, couldn't she just have been embarrassed because girls normally wear them?

>>18412888
You let him fuck you without making him be with you. what the fuck did you expect? why would he commit to you now when he already got to smash? Youre just a sex hole to him and not relationship material for him at all

Is dostoevsky actually any good or he is just a meme

>>18412953
Lmao
a) we haven't even fucked, just done other sexual things
b) why would I want to "make" someone (e.g. manipulate them) be with me? I want them to be with me because they want to, not because I had to play some game to get them. And if he doesn't want to, that's just how it is. No hard feelings. It doesn't change that I like him, but my feelings aren't his responsibility lol

how often do you guys get boners?

>>18411381
girls, my dick is huge so i have the rare problem of trying to figure out how to enjoy sex when my dick can only go so far in. have you any ideas on how i can go about having satisfying sex with the limited real estate inside of the fairer sex?

>>18413001
I don't keep track of that kind of thing, but assuming it's an average day where there's nothing special arousing me, I'd say two or three times a day.

>>18413013
how big are you, asking for a friend haha

Girls and guys

If I don't have sex for the next 3-4 years. That doesn't really change anything right? It won't negatively impact me when I decide to get back into it?

>>18413013
post benis?

Hey y'all. Things are pretty good with my GF, but we've currently started having some issues mostly regarding media consumption. For several months, I've pretty much always let her choose what we watch or whathaveyou to be nice, but recently I've been wanting to experience more of the stuff I used to watch before she became part of my life, especially because at this point she basically is my life and we only break to shower and eat. At this point, she actually kind of controls my life. When she decides it's time to go to sleep, that's when it's time to go to sleep, etc..

All this would be fine and dandy, but the thing is, she's impossible to reason with. Hypothetically, she'll say she wants to see these things, but when I try to put anything on, she demands I stop and instead either pay attention to her or put on a cartoon or bad movie or something. It's getting to a point where it's immensely frustrating because all I want is to share my taste with her the same way she's shared hers with me, but she's incredibly unfair and just outright refuses.

Has anyone either experienced something similar or been on the other side of something like this before? What can I do to get her to be more fair? This isn't break-up worthy or anything but it's beyond annoying, lol. I don't mind standing my ground, but I don't like how it ends with both her and I pissed off at each other. There's gotta be a better way?

>>18413070
Try and work on how both of you fight. If things start getting too heated, take a break and come back. It also really helps to focus on how you feel about this. Stick to "I" statements rather than "you" statements to prevent her from getting defensive. Don't use generalizing words like "always" and "never". It might help to make rules about fighting--awkward and forced at first, but it might be necessary to help the two of you develop communication skills. For example, there's an exercise where one person gets three minutes of talking about the issue, and the other person isn't allowed to interrupt or roll their eyes or anything. They just listen. After the three minutes, they paraphrase what you said to show they understood what you were trying to say. Then, it's their turn to talk and you listen

>>18413070
I experienced something really similar with my last GF, you might be different but once I realized the same thing you mentioned, that basically she made my life into her life and she never let me do my own thing or what I wanted, we broke up and then I was finally happy again basically. If you don't want to break up then I'd say stand your ground even if it's annoying and she ends up kinda bothered, other anon is right about I statements though, but don't just keep bending and bending for her, you don't need to break up or actively be a dick about it, but don't let her keep the playing field un-level.

>>18413043
i have 8.5" length, 2" diameter. the girth is too wide to deepthroat because the opening to her throat isn't large enough to go down. pushing into her mouth just feels like my dick is grating against her teeth because the girth is wide enough that it has to scrape her molars, so its very uncomfortable for me. the deepest i can go is about 60% of the way in. when i penetrate her i just push against the cervix which is quite painful for her and she gets worn out quite easily. luckily she likes it rough so i have freedom in that respect.

i cant do anal, she too scared of that.

Am I the only one who gets tickled when I get my nipples sucked/kissed?
I am guy. I enjoy it, anyway.

>>18413117
If her vagina can't handle your dick, why in the world would her pooper handle it? Those weren't designed to take poops, not coke cans.

I've asked plenty of girls out before, had flings and hookups etc, but I'm a little confused on how to approach this one girl. I just moved and am part of a program of people that all moved here to get jobs, so we're kinda all bundled together, almost like we work together but not really.

Anyway, so I barely know this girl, she's actually a little standoffish but whenever we talk it's pleasant and normal. I do have her number after we hung out briefly with other people present. I want to ask her out but am not sure the best angle to take because A) I barely know her, B) I basically only see her at events when all these other people are around and I don't know if I want to ask her to hang out via text, and C) I can't read her, most of the girls I've been interested in were very heart on their sleeve types, but she's a little more confusing.

tl;dr best way to ask a girl I don't know well but see in passing a lot out without being seen as weird/creepy because I'll have to keep seeing her after a lot, so I don't care if she rejects me but I don't wanna get put on a weirdo list that gets passed around. No I'm not creepy looking already.

are guys constantly aroused by other women than your gf? does every guy struggle to not act upon it?

>>18413142
nope. I'm a one woman kind of guy, though I am picky.

>>18413142
Yes. No because I'm not a total animal.

>>18413142

No. Yeah sure, we notice attractive women. But the whole "struggling" part is for weak will powered men

>>18413142
Not really. This is a heavy exaggeration. Exactly like all men are attracted to 80% of women. Where I come from (One of the biggest cities in the US and the world) I'm probably attracted to like 20% of them just physically not to mention what kind of personalities they have.

Also, I don't get a boner just by checking them out ffs.

>>18413142
I'm not at all. When I fall in love, I only have eyes for the girl I love. I can't even consider anyone else in a hypothetical fashion.

>>18413145
interesting, please expand further. yes as in, you notice attractive women and enjoy looking at them, or are you imagining pounding them?

Dear Femanons, what is masturbation with a vagina like?

>>18413155
Yeah I don't imagine pounding them, I just enjoy looking at them sometimes. Not 100% of the time or anything but I'll glance at maybe like one really attractive woman a day. One specific thing is my GF is super flat chested, so a lot of the time I just notice large-chested girls and glance at them, but it's not really arousal I guess.

>>18413155
my mouth salivates and my head goes foggy when i see a really nice ass.

the effect is much stronger when i'm single though. when im in a relationship all i can really think about is my gf's ass and her cute face and how much i love her.

>>18413153

post ass and maybe they'll like it enough not ot ban you

>>18413153
no offense but it's not "huge"

looks nice tho, and i'm a dude

Men,

what would a woman have to do to make you fall in love with her and stay loyal?

>>18413201
no no, none taken at all. i just need to get ideas for positions where i can have fun in sex and not hurt my gf

>>18413211
be honest
communicate well
have your own interests/hobbies/life
be loyal
be qt

that's about it

>>18413217
word anon, girl being on top is sometimes better as they can control the depth better you know? also use lube if you're not already, even if she gets naturally wet more lube can't hurt

What it means to be in a loving relationship?

>>18413211
for me to fall in love i need to have a girl who like me has aspergers. right now im dating someone exactly like that. i think maybe everyone wants someone whos like them to date. being attractive helps too.

>>18413245
she likes being dominated and she said that her being on top is too empowering for her. lube is a good idea though. im sure i can just figure this out in the bedroom but are there any angles that are easier for her to take?

>>18413211
>stay loyal
This is the hard part. You'd have to be better than a hour with prostitutes.
The 2 most important things: being nice and having big tits.

>>18413260
To live a lie.

>>18411568
>>18412335
>date single moms
>try single moms
lol that retarded advice

I get really anxious about clicking my ex's Facebook page.

I've ignored her for almost a year now, but I still have this conscious fear of just clicking her page to see what she's up to. I don't need to do it, but I can't understand why I feel this way either.

I'm aware that she's with someone else now since last year, so that's nothing new. And I just got into my Masters course at Uni so I'm not really feeling inadequate right now.

How do I get over this anxiety?

>>18413503
Get over it and check it

I have a female friend that invited me over last night to have sex with her.
She said she would take care of the condoms, so i just came over
She bought one of those *extra safe* kinds, that are basically just standards size but thicker rubber, and thus less stretchy
I usually use magnums but i forgot to tell her that (6.5inch girth)

Still didnt want to risk going in raw, so i put one on
>Floppy sausage
No matter how hard i tried because of how tight that thing was i couldnt get a proper erection
I ended up fucking her with a semi-hard dick for 15 minutes and then the condom snapped and JmI didnt have the patience to do any more
I apologised got dressed and left
She now thinks i wasnt hard because i dont like her, she is angry and doesnt want to talk to me.

What do?

>>18411685
Are you trying to insult me?

>>18413530

I would try to reach out once she cools off, try to reassure her that you find her attractive. If it ever comes up again, apologize and tell her you have a preference in condoms and you should have taken care of that dept. (you should have btw, so next time bring your own shit if your dick is such a high maintenance princess lol)

>>18413141
>No I'm not creepy looking already.
Are you suree? Jk. Well it seems like you're already on good terms with her, why don't you just try to find more opportunities to hang out with her? Like just casually ask her to go to the movies or grab lunch. Then eventually ask her to go steady lol