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Hey /adv/. I might just be in a weird headspace, but I've started to realize I don't know how ready I or we are for long-term commitment... We're both 25 and been together for 2 years. Couple reasons:
1. I feel very sexually closed up since I grew up here (thx guys) and have some random weird kinks I've been trying to work up the courage to talk to her about. I don't know why, but I'm very shy about sex. This is... annoying, since I'm a fairly horny guy and I feel pretty frustrated in that regard. It's mostly a me problem, but she's put by some of my weeb tendencies and I just don't know where to start or how to tackle it since I got half this shit from hentai. (mind you if she starts getting all "gross, you find THIS hot? [does it]" then it's best-case scenario but I digress)
2. We don't fight a lot, but when we do, it's every few months when her anxiety flares up. She has a short, angry meltdown and I have to talk her off a ledge for our relationship, after which she often feels bad and realizes it was a bit much. As much as I love her, it's very grating and stressful, especially if there's anything unresolved and we have to leave it for a day. I've told her I probably can't be in the relationship for the rest of my life but I don't know what that line even is of "too much" of the fighting. I don't blame her for all of it or anything, but they get heated if she's really ticked. She's never hit me or anything, but once she kicked a chair once.
3. She's talking about children a lot offhand, and... I don't know how I feel about it. I'm sure I'd like having them in some regard, but I don't think I'll be ready to even propose let alone get married within the next 2 years... I have this gut feeling I'd be a happier adult without kids, but I have no idea. I hate restraints on my life, I'm freewheeling to a fault.
Have you guys ever pondered or felt these in your life? What conclusions did you come to?
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These seem like good questions to ask, maybe something that needs to be answered by a mature/successful male role model though (which I am not). Not qualified to answer but I will at least help out by bumping this thread.
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>>18402275
Too long, didn't read, 90% chance you get cucked. That's all the advice I got for you
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>>18402346
thanks bro changed my life
NOT! OHHH
>>18402339
Thanks. I just feel like I need perspective on this, it's a lot of... Big picture stuff that I'm not used to dealing with.
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Bump.
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>>18402275
1. If you are thinking of bailing anyway then bring up the sex stuff. Good scenario she is into it and you are way more into her, bad scenario you leave anyway and she is disgusted and doesn't feel abandoned.
2. Just know that her temper won't change.
3. Can't answer this one, but people with different ideas about kids basically can't get married.
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>>18402773
I'd rather work it out than bail, but... Maybe you're right. Thank you.
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Bumping for any other perspectives or thoughts.
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One last bump.
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