>Get gf >shes been through some rough fucking shit >at

>>18396412
tobh looks like she's never known what love is. You can't blame her or yourself but best thing for now would be to respect her wishes. Don't try to compare her life with others, too much. She's not really your responsibility, focus on yourself for now.

Where do you guys find these women lmao. This sounds awful and a waste of time.

>>18396412
Tough truth, but you've got to look for another girl. She's not interested in dating you, and she probably wants to sleep with other men.

It's hard to accept, but there's not really anything you can do about it.

>>18396452
yea, she admits to never feeling real love before. Focusing on myself is the best course of action, yea. Just sucks because she still wants to be friends (and have sex) but I don't know if its best that I just completely cut her out.

>>18396457
Yea not feeling great right now.

>>18396472
Well that's not completely true. We have been going on "dates" and fucking, shes just not interested in a relationship with me.

I have been going after other girls, but cant bring myself to enter another relationship, I'm still in a pretty bad spot. And sex with other girls is nice but doesn't really help me get over her.

>>18396412
This is how famous pornstars are made

>>18396505
nah as someone who's personal friends with a rising porn star, it's not really.

>>18396502
Idk just keep hooking up with her, and let her make the decision to get more serious, that seems to be the most sensible course of action.

And sleep with other women too, jealousy can be a pretty powerful motivator, and you shouldn't commit to someone unwilling to do the same for you.

>>18396412
Dude fuck her. She has too many issues and I know she was sucking other dicks when yall together. I know of chicks like her.

>>18396541
Nah she's too fragile and transparent for something like that.

>>18396522
Yea, good advice, thanks bud

>>18396557
>just recently broke up with me out of nowhere
>she's too fragile and transparent for something like that.

Get real, anon

>>18396561
there was a time when I could tell on her face she was guilty about something and asked, and she on the verge of tears said she found someone else attractive. And I told her I find dozens of other girls attractive and that that's natural.

If she ever cheated, she'd probably cut hersekf.

>>18396412
The real problem here is that you're dependent on her for happiness.
There's plenty of cool girls out there. Learn how to talk to them.

Let her go her own way. She needs that time to find things out for herself. If you support her through it all, she may very well decide to spend her life with you. But, don't do it for that reason; do it because you want to help her without the idea of a reward other than her friendship.

>>18396511
How are they made then?

>>18396412
>abusive parents
>was 'taken advantage of' by a group of guys
>says she can't trust anyone, AKA she's very insecure
Damaged goods. Run for the hills, anon.

>says she needs some time to be a single adult to learn both how to be independent

This is woman speak for...
>I want to be a whore in my twenties.
OP, she's a thot. A lost cause; a degenerate who will only realize her mistakes when she hits the wall. She will have sex with plenty of men if she hasn't already, sometimes acting in the most ungodly ways, before hitting the wall and realizing her erroneous ways. She will most likely end up a single mother, in an unfulfilled marriage with some beta loser, or as a lone old crazy cat lady. This is her destiny, anon. The longer you hold on, the more you will hurt when it comes crashing in the end.
Realize your infatuation is an addiction, anon. I remember being infatuated with my ex, before the chemicals neutralized and all I remember is her filthy lifestyle and smelly feet. Cut ties with her completely. Forget about her, go to church, lift weights; find a nice church girl raised in a proper home. You were fine before her and will be better after her. I know, breakup depression sucks, but it is nothing more than chemical, just like a drug and will subside. Get her out of your life and move on. She's a worthless, damaged individual.

>she thinks of you as her brother
Literally woman speak for dating/fucking you is comparable to incest. Also note of how much of a whore she is for fucking you after saying this. She is going to see many dicks in all her orifices during her lifetime.

>>18397580
>Sugar
>Spice
>Everything nice
>These are the ingredients for creating for creating the perfect little girls
>But Professor Utonium accidentally added an extra ingredient to the concoction
>Judaism

Well it might be the fact that her past was fucked up to the hell and back and also she could have been raped, she might just want to think back about what happend and if she will be mentally capable to love someone for a long time or marry them thats just my guess OP.

>>18397668
Her past may be fucked up, but woman with bad pasts only end up being terrible people. It's honestly a sad cycle, really, but there's nothing anyone can do about it except using them for quick bangs and letting them die miserably alone.
Let it be a lesson to cherish family values.

>>18396457
Agreed, but love cannot be controlled, especially when you have no experience, are afraid of loneliness, or are not confident in your abilities to find a better partner.

That was actuly good to know >>18397682

>>18396412

OP I speak from experience when I say I had a very similar childhood (I'm male though) and I'm a fucking terrible person. I lie and I cheat and I haven't a clue what love really is. When she say she needs time to "be single" it really just means I need to be as self destructive and selfish as possible without having your emotions as my responsibility.

She's doing you a favour by being honest with you but her intentions are clear if she's still fucking you. I've had girls fawn over me and he on love with me and just used that as an advantage to fuck them. I've changed over the years and matured but I'll always remember being that shitty person.

>>18396412
Love can take many forms. You don't need to reject her, you can keep her as a friend, a special one, maybe this is what it was from the beginning . You just need to be clear on your feelings. And for god's sake, find another girl for yourself that drags you up, not some burden that brings everydaydrama

>>18396751
Ok. This is good advice, thanks.

>>18397580
all the ones I know weren't from "daddy issues", but were born sluts haha. I think I went to school with 2 or 3 future prostitutes and one full-on porn star, and you could tell in the 7th grade that's the direction they were heading. I may still have old nudes of the porn star at 16 somewhere, could be a collectors item one day.

>>18397640
I know you're trying to help, and I really appreciate it but
>damaged goods
this isn't /r9k/, bro. Come on. And maybe she is "destined" for the crazy cat lady life, but I don't really believe in destiny and at least as a friend want to prevent that.

Don't worry, I am talking to other girls. It's just like I said earlier in the thread, I dont know if I'll be ready for a relationship for awhile, and meaningless sex with friends doesn't do much for me.

>>18397709
Maybe I should keep my distance then. But if being self-destructive is what she needs to grow like you did, I'd want to be there for her.

>>18397756
yea, the
>just need to be clear on your feelings
thing is easier than it sounds though haha

I have been in fucked up situation in my life too, I thought I would never recover until I met a guy who cares for more than my pussy, but that's because he said he saw a future with me and we pretty much wanted the same things in life and worked hard for each other.

A broken person needs work, but depending on how dedicated they are, they can recover and get better. I'm glad I had the chance, but it depends if you would want that. Weak people need a strong role model.

>>18398864
What helped you to recover? I think I was the first guy in my ex's life who cared about her for more than her pussy to be honest. She picked some pretty abusive dudes, but that's not something worth getting into.

I've been kind of a wreck since the breakup. Maybe for both of our sakes I just need to grow up a bit myself.

>>18398916
What helped me recover was him pushing me to move forward. Sometimes it was frustrating because he thought I would always be helpless, he'd get fed up and tell me in honesty which of my acts are wrong or right. I don't like saying it out loud, but he was my teacher in a sense. He was strict but showed compassion and hey, in the end I taught him useful things too.
But you see, such things take time, I know I took about two years to understand mine and other peoples value, looking back I realise that I was still a child. I have been with my bf for 4 years now and it's going better than I imagined.
It's dedication and strength that makes a person grow, but for a relationship to work it takes two.

>>18399003
did you ever feel like you'd never be able to love or want to push him away?

My ex legitimately said "I never truly loved you, but once I learn how I'd like to one day try things out again." which fucking hurts, and i dont know if its real or just an autistic way of breaking up with me without being "too mean"

>>18399010
I had times where I felt empty with him, we had fights and ''break ups'' but they never lasted more than a day.

I am not her, but from what she said I wouldn't put my word on it and wait, because it might be a waste of time. Instead try to focus on what makes you happy, distract yourself with some daily activity (trust me its good for you, even when the time hurts). Maybe she'll come back, maybe she won't. You can also try and talk to her, could be that she was just not sure where here life was leading. This all depends on what you feel comfortable doing. I'm not a mind reader, but I'm sure you know what's best for you.

>>18399027
good advice, thank you.

>>18398864
>>18398916
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>>18399027
Only decent posts so far, everything else is MGTOW posting