I can't figure out what to do, fucking help please. >Date

>>18389725
cont.
>I think whatever, I don't hate him
>It's not easy for me to give up on people
>I slowly get used to being in a relationship with him again
>Initially put off, kiss him more, but no sex drive
>I do not feel sexual towards him
>He treats me VERY NICELY when we're not fighting
>When we are, he has a victim complex, to an extent
>He blames me for some shit, but when he calms down, he says it's not my fault
>Contradicts himself a good bit
>I really care about him and his well being and do love him to an extent
>Just not as much as I did before

>>18389735
cont.
>Meanwhile, on the job front
>I semi-land job as dealer at local casino (I need to improve on some stuff)
>Can't drive yet (no license), but I have before so getting it wouldn't be an issue
>He is a caretaker for his disabled mom and stepdad
>He can't drive, his joints are fucked, the only work he does is taking care of some stuff at home
>I don't blame him for it
>Casino job would make me lots of money
>Still don't know if I really want to stay with him
>It would hurt if I left, fear of the unknown
>I am pretty indecisive by nature

>>18389739
cont.
>Fortunately, my dad is willing to help me out financially
>I could technically move if I wanted to
>Friend few states away is an internet friend I've had for 3 years
>He shares many common interests with me
>No, this is not what you think it is
>I would not date him, he has a gf
>He offered to let me move in with him
>I wouldn't make as much money there, but his flat is cheap as fuck and I could definitely survive just fine
>Really like the idea of a friend who shares all my common interests
>Still not sure what to do about bf
>Extremely conflicting feelings

There's more to this, but I'm not sure what else to provide.

You know what you have to do. Get out. You deserve a more fulfilling life than this. Don't waste away with someone you have to walk on eggshells with.

>>18389804
That's what some part of my mind is saying. I am indecisive by nature. He is very nice to me when shit isn't going wrong, and it would hurt if I left. It kind of looks like no matter which path I take, it would hurt me nonetheless. I also hate hurting him. But, don't take this as me disregarding your advice. These are just my feelings on the matter.

>>18389821
I consider it not good enough if someone is only nice to you when you're bending to their will. There shouldn't be conditions to love. It's bad for your health to be wondering when's the next time he freaks out. His feelings are not your responsibility. Don't live a half life in comfortable, familiar misery. Go for the scary unknown. You know this situation is bad. You know that you wouldn't want anyone else to live like this. Don't do this to yourself. There is an opportunity for you to leave. It's all laid out for you. Take it.

You aren't doing him any favors by staying with him; break it off if you're unsure.

>>18389871
That's what I tried to tell him but he was like "it's ok, we can take time and try to fix things, I'll support you the whole way along."
I fell for it. Was that bad?

Btw, I'm 20 and he's 23.

He's broken. Tell hi, to get his shit in line. Regardless, you should leave. You're doing no one favors if you stay put obligation. If anything it'll build resenment

Oh, I kind of forgot to mention:
I do enjoy his affection and company a great deal. He is nice to be around 90% of the time when we aren't having shit spouts.
There is always this slight doubt in the back of my head, however.
I am strongly considering listening to all of you.

>>18389821
breaking up always hurt, thought. You can't cheat that.

>>18390397
It didn't really hurt when I left the last few, though to be honest they were 10x worse than this guy

>>18390352
Idk, kind of hard to get a clear picture from you. You say you love him to an extent.

I think the bottom line is do you think that love could develop? Could be happy with him, and do you think you could have a fulfilling sexual relationship with him.

If you think you could then stay, but if you're just staying because you're afraid of hurting his feelings than you should definitely leave.

>>18390596
I mean, it's been developing, and I really do enjoy him, I just am having a hard time thinking about leaving because it would cause heartache for not just him, but me as well.
The doubt in the back of my head has been there for like 2 weeks. If I want to get off, I wait until he leaves the room for a while and pleasure myself. I don't have him do it.

>>18390001
Yeah, and I don't like the fact that his parents aren't even functioning adults.

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Alright guys. I'm going to do it. I'm going to move in with my friend and leave.

New question: How should I go about dealing with the pain?

Bamp?

>>18393407
Time heals all wounds.

>>18389751
leave the relationship but dont kid yourself.
That guy clearly wants to cheat with his gf on you. Why the fuck else would he literally invite you to live with him?

>>18393821
I would doubt that entirely.
1.) His flat has 2 bedrooms
2.) He has never once made any romantic or sexual advances on me in our 3.5 years of friendship
3.) His gf is totally cool with it. I am friends with her.