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Hi /adv/, I am a 26 guy and I am writing here because I have been feeling really low for about three years, now I think that I almost had hit rock bottom.
I started feeling physical symptoms due to the stress of my job mixed with the horrible outside life that I have. Bad dizziness, headaches, sadness, feeling short of breath...
I think that my problems come from two main sources:
- Loneliness: I don't have any friends. My life is going to my job and returning home, and that's all. I lost almost my friends 5 or 6 years ago when I started working here. I spent two years really far of my home and distance, time and other factors did the rest. I only maintain contact with one of them and he has a girlfriend, house and is married so...
The only social life that I have is with job colleagues from time to time. And all of them have their lives: wife, children...
- The other one is not feeling loved or appreciated. This is paired up with the first point. I see that people can make their lives, find a woman, their house, travel... I'm stuck and it's impossible to find anybody. Finding friends is difficult but some girl willing to love me is impossible. I tried online dating apps as a last resort. No luck, I feel worse when I am using them, almost no matches, and when I have them is with girls that I don't like physically or have a shit personality.
I really feel jealous about couples and that is really sad.
I don't know how to get rid of this sensations, I try to find meaning in other things but I can't. I have a good job, I try to improve myself studying, doing exercise... But sometimes, I simply can't do anything, I feel really ill (the symptoms that I told before), tired and sad. And really don't have the strength to do anything and I don't see the purpose of anything.
Thinking about looking for professional help, I don't know what to do to help myself. If anybody knows about, is dealing or have dealt with something similar, I would really appreciate their help.
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>>18388567
I've been in the same situation so I know how hard it is and I don't have any magic answers. It eventually worked out for me and I hope it does for you. I believe depression has set in which makes it hard to get motivated and see things in a positive way or ever see things getting better. I also develop panic attacks which forced me to get professional help as I couldn't deal with it any longer. You can try a psychologist which can help you look at things differently and help you see things from a different perspective. Also, you have to get out and do things. That was very hard for me as an introvert. Try to joint groups that are involved in activities. Everybody says exercise but I hated it and it's alone. Join some type of group that does something together. It could be an animal shelter, a charity group, a community group, a church group but something where you meet and interact with other people on a regular basis. There will be your usual misfits but generally there will be a few normal people. If not, move on. I eventually met some friends and a girl I hit it off with. We dated, and got married. I still have issues but I am way better and mostly normal.
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>>18388611
Thank you, for your reply.
May I ask what activities you decided to do?
I'm really happy for you being able to left behind that situation.
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Post a picture of your face and body. You are problem being dumb with your hair, skin care, weight, or something that hurts your physical appearance.
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>>18388641
I know this may sound turn off people. It I actually joined a singles group through a local church. I figured what the hell. I didn't want some sleazy tramp so I figured these would be a little higher quality. They did all sorts of stuff like movies, bowling, zoo, restaurants but no bars. Hahaha. They had some nerds worse than me but they had some decent people as well. This was awhile ago. Now they have things called meet ups in some areas that are really the same thing. Also charities like the leukemia and lymphoma or any of the marathon racing are good too. I have helped in those. Good luck man, I really wish you the best.
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>>18388661
I'm not going to post a picture of my face and body but I'm not overweight or nearly overweight and my skincare is good.
I can't do anything with my hair because I'm bald so I shave it and that's all.
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Go to the gym, do social activities, find a hobby...
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You probably don't get women because you are bald, and trust me, girls are a lot about hair. By being bald you are permanently capped at 5/10 unless heavy money/fame/height. Relationship-wise you are deeply fucked and you'll most likely only find fatties. My tip: start getting a lot of money and just use good escorts whenever you feel sex is needed.
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>>18389250
That's really sad women only caring about looks. Then if a hotter guy appears in her life is going to give you a kick in the ass.
That's are my cards to play the game and I can't do anything about that, maybe getting a wig or something like that.
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