How are people able to figure out you're a virgin even when

I don't know what it is, but you just get a vibe. There are tiny clues that add up. You can usually tell when someone is inexperienced or otherwise uncomfortable with sex too. It's usually not a definite thing, it's more of a "if I had to guess, I'd guess that Anon is a virgin" rather than "Anon is definitely a virgin"

>>18385624
Fuck. How do I get rid of that vibe?
inb4 have sex

>>18385618
You may also display lack of knowledge/experience without knowing it. Think of a bunch of friends talking about sex and someone chipping in to say "What's foreplay/a blowjob/anal/some other thing?", but on a much less blatant level.

You may not exactly be doing that yourself, though. Just going by my own personal experience.

>>18385639
Well we didn't talk about sex and the subject rarely comes up in conversations so I'm pretty sure that's not it

>>18385638
Well since I can't exactly tell you what gives me that vibe, how am I supposed to tell you what to do?

And yes, having sex will help.

>>18385618
They can tell how much you give a fuck

virgins inflate the importance of sex, because the don't understand that its not that big of a deal yet

>>18385648
>having sex will help
Sex doesn't come to people just like that unless you get a hooker

>>18385941
He wants to get rid of that vibe, having sex helps get rid of that vibe. The realistic chances of it happening aren't my problem.

>>18385618
I'm in the same boat as you, cept everyone assumes I'm not a virgin by default, which makes me laugh, then I tell them I am.
It's all based on perception mate, besides who fucking cares where your dick has been man

>>18385618
>you're unassertive
She literally told you why.
It's likely that you're not forward enough and too polite when talking to women.

>>18385959
Eh, I dunno about it. I lost my virginity a few months ago and still feel like a virgin lol. But I don't know how other people perceive me so maybe you are right.

>>18385618
When being virgin bothers you, all we normies have to do is to mention anything sex related and we will see how deeply insecure you are about it simply by your face reaction or voice.

Until you realize that virgin shaming is social construct made from sluts to minimalize slit shaming, everybody will be able to tell you are virgin.

And also when you DESPERATELY chase girl just to get rid of it, it puts them off. You have to learn how to love yourself first before you can love somebody else.

Honestly being virgin is NO DEAL no matter what age. Get over it and spin the dating wheel on tinder or okcupid.

Good luck virgins, we all are going to make it and stick penis into vagina someday.

>>18387572
>mention anything sex related
I don't sperg out when people talk about sex though. It's just not a very interesting subject

>>18388080
You dont need to sperg out. Just twich, nervous look, suddenly talk less than before, look to ground.

There are many way how to tell somebody is lier or uncomfortable about something.

>>18388110
wew
I don't pay that much attention to the way people act or look when I'm talking to them. I didn't realize people were so attentive to your body language.

>>18388116
Most people pay attention to that. They might not be actively paying attention, but they take note of it passively.

I suggest researching social behavior. Read some books on interpersonal communication. If you are not naturally picking up on those things, it means you're not taking advantage of them either. And there's a lot to gain by knowing your audience.

The following are good cues:
1) You're unattractive
2) You don't mention a GF, ever
3) You're socially autistic or otherwise weird.

>>18388122
I had never noticed that. Hopefully it won't make me even more paranoid
>Read some books on interpersonal communication
Any recommendations?

>>18388122
>If you are not naturally picking up on those things, it means you're not normal and an assburger to be blunt

fixed that one for ya. but worry not, even as an assburger you can learn the things people have instinctively in them. so do what that anon told you and study some books on that matter.

>>18388132
>not naturally analyzing people's body language and mannerisms means you're autistic
Well fuck me
Why is social interaction so complicated anyway?

>>18388136
>Well fuck me
>Why is social interaction so complicated anyway?
trust me, people don't analyze, it's just something that happens unconciously which you seem to lack. i for example am normal whereas my husband and one of my three kids with him isn't.
like i said worry not, it is learnable but you won't ever be good as normal people with social interaction.
being good at social interaction isn't everything that matters in life anyways and i love my husband and my kids to death the way they are. wouldn't want to change them for life!

>>18388149
Based wifenon. Keep doing good work.

>>18385618
I dress like a hobo, don't shave for weeks, come off as lonely and sometimes emo yet people are able to guess I'm not a virgin. Even though I thought they would guess otherwise. Why?

>>18387572
>Learn how to love yourself
My favorite universal answer

>>18388353
I'd love myself if I knew how

>>18388353
Dude just buy a whole new set of fashionable clothes, lift 3 times a week, gain confidence out of nowhere, learn how to say the right things at the right times, and then when you go to parties and you still feel alone and still feel like you're an outsider and you leave and find yourself in your bed with a knife ready to open your veins, and there's no one there to support you, just know...

All you had to do was be yourself.

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>>18388469
What is there to say? Some people are so mentally weak they cant survive even in our society where even hobos and neets have enough food.

One thing is sure. Come on /adv with bitching attitude and nobody will help you. Because you probably dont deserve it in the first place.

>>18388606
/adv/ is the best board where the only advice given is stop asking for advice.

>>18388684
I still dont understand posters posting in /adv/ and attacking it. I have made many (You)s with thanks, will try, helped.

Why are YOU here?

>>18388759
Look, I get it, you like to stroke your ego, and that includes putting down anyone that doesn't benefit from your AMAZING advice.

>>18388809
>stroke your ego
True. I am selfish attention whore which gets off on helping others.
>putting down
Nah. I dont like inflicting mental or physical pain on anybody.

But nice evasion of my question.
Why are you here?

>>18388606
The post you're replying to was ironic, you fucking faggot.
>>18388831
>gets off on helping others.
Yes, that's true. It's called virtue signaling

>>18388360
>he doesn't know how to fap

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>>18388975
>virtue signaling
Thanks for teaching me new phrase. However i am afraid it is a bit off fo me when there is no name or alias here.

Maybe the wiki definition is off though.

>>18388353
Not fucking possible at this point.

>>18388360
same. ive been able to love others but never myself.

>have more sex
Is this what i need to do?
I mean, do i need to have sex with hookers to become attractive to women.

Not OP btw. im just curious.

>>18388606
We can survive too. In fact, i probably make more money than you, because i have fucking skills.
Im just not so good at social shit.

That doesn't matter when employers fight over you, because you are an elite magican of your profession.

>>18389100
Not the same guy, what line of work are you in and what skills are you talking about that have employers fight over you?

>>18388116
Where exactly on the spectrum would you say you fall?

>>18389100
I am the same guy and i am not even sure what exactly triggered you.

Maybe you want to talk about something?

>>18389106
Nowhere. I'm socially inept, but I don't have autism.

>>18389111
Yeah maybe i just wanna talk :). Im a bit drunk so.
>>18389102
I work with databases. Business intelligence within the fintec business.

But where i live its the same with all developers. They are like girls 4 o' clock at a nighclub at closing.


People here are fucking career whores.

T. sweden.

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>>18389100
.... you're literally a magician aren't you?

>>18389118
More like a wizzard.

>>18389115
>databases. Business intelligence within the fintec business
Sounds interesting. So it's true that database admin is something nobody wants to do and that it's in high demand?

>>18389115
>sweden
>drunken
>triggered at mentioning of social skills
It is almost like /int/ was right the whole time.

Maybe one day when you arent drunken (i hope you dont use alcohol as a tool to escape your shit life) you will decide it is time to do something about your troubles and finally do something about it.

Good luck until then.

>>18389123
>So it's true that database admin is something nobody wants to do and that it's in high demand?

The database admin at my workplace is the only person who knows how everything works, how to fix shit that is booked on the wrong accounts and how to make a rescontra (current account ledger), so yeah he is pretty valuable.

Shit would stop working without him.

Im the junior guy with the secret mission trying to figure out what this dude is doing.

>>18389125
I suck at social, but all swedes are not like that.
Problem is, when im not drunk or high i don't have motivation to do shit about my life.

Im sort of fine with fapping to anime girls and working my ass of the rest of my life event though it sucks.

I might go do Denmark and buy hookers for the money i make.

>>18389137
I see
You said that it was the same for developers in general, is that really the case? Are swedish companies struggling to find java codemonkeys?
What about the infosec sector, is it the same?

>>18389137
>suck at social
If you are able to communicate with rational logical computers via various apis, you are capable of learning how to socialize.

Your current goal is set for
>die alone
and we both know that is not what you want. All you have to do is to realize what are you willing to sacrifice in order to find happiness in your life.

I suggest you to go no fap no porn and use your sexual frustration as motivation to do something in order to get gf.

>hookers
Casual sex is overrated as fuck. Try to use your resources (free time, if you have money, you can for sure to afford work less) in actual dating game.

>>18389154
>java codemonkeys

Yes there is a high demand for java code moneys here.

The market is very good in Stockholm and Kopenhagen at the moment.

A web frontend (angular) consultant is currently bills 950 kr an hour which is $109.75/h.

That is before taxes, so if you have your own company you get to keep about half of that.

We have 2 americans at the company, who bills through american companies.

>>18389172
>$109.75/h.
Well fuck
Thanks for the info anon

>>18389175
It's hard to get your own contract though.
People usually go through a broker firm which takes between 8-13%.

>>18388309
>Based wifenon. Keep doing good work.
Thanks, will do. But really it's no work at all for me. I prefer a socially awkward but highly intelligent guy a thousand times more than a blonde, blue eyed and pumped up braindead chad who's only talent is to point out peoples vulnerable spots and make fun of them.

>>18389215
So where do I meet women like you?

>>18388309
also a side note to the topic: my husband was a virgin too the first time we slept together (he was my second boyfriend). He was 21 that time and really no one gives a fuck if you're a virgin at 55 or at 15. if someone genuinely cares about you, some minor shit like that doesn't matter.

>>18389236
>So where do I meet women like you?
i don't know... my husband and i met at our workplace. but really i know i'm not a special snowflake, there are a lot women like me out there because those are the only girls i am friends with.
but yeah, you have to look hard to find them... it's like i know 500 people and am friends with and really care for 10 or so