I fantasize about having a GF constantly. I think about cuddling,

"You never get the girl when you need her."

Or something like that. So true, every gf I've ever had I met when I was at a point in my life where I was so absorbed in my hobbies, work, friends, etc that I didn't even think about wanting a girlfriend. Then all of a sudden they popped up when I least expected it.


Since then I've tried to harness that mindset and found out about the law of attraction. Basically your mindset and thoughts dictate your reality through subconscious behaviors and may or may not have an influence on the workings of the universe.

So...if you fear you'll never get a gf, you will become a person unworthy of having a gf and your prophecy will be realized.

But if you have the mindset that you will deserve to be loved, live an amazing life worth sharing with a woman, and are worthy of love, then you will inevitably attract a beautiful woman who suits you. You will also start taking action towards achieving a date. You'll start dressing nicer, do pushups, give up porn and masturbation, and actively approach beautiful women.

Learn to make eye contact and smile at girls who interest you. If they smile back just say something like "you have a great smile! What's your name?"

Then just talk to her like a human being and let the sexual tension build. Don't push her past her comfort zone, just let things develop organically and live in the moment. The more you think in the future or past, the more mistakes you'll make in the present.

Also start watching Corey Wayne videos on youtube and RSDTyler. They both have how to get a gf videos that are super helpful.

What's most important is that you learn to enjoy being single. Until you are happy as a single man and not in a state of NEED for a gf, you will never get one. When you are happy with your life and self, women will sense your inner-peace and feel more attracted to you.

>>18379050
>What's most important is that you learn to enjoy being single. Until you are happy as a single man and not in a state of NEED for a gf, you will never get one.

I've been improving myself for the past few weeks, building up a routine of working out, cooking, and work, and for the most part I feel fine with being single right now. The feeling of loneliness and feeling like something's wrong with me never really subsides though. Even on my best days I still think about it, I guess it just isn't depressing me as much as it is today.

>>18379061

Sounds more-so like a chemical imbalance. Continue staying fit and healthy but also go out and socialize. Meeting new people especially girls balances the chemicals in your brain and makes you feel less lonely.

Even if you don't get laid that night just going out and exchanging positive energy with other people is extremely therapeutic. Look up if there's any good concerts nearby soon and just go. I sometimes go to shows alone and just talk to as many people as possible. Most of the time I meet a really cool girl who I either start dating, hook up with, etc. People forget how much action there is in real life socializing. I feel like Tinder ruined everything. IRL is way better, and you don't have to try nearly as hard as on Tinder.

>>18379035
34 brah here.

You haven't even gotten close to your prime as a man yet. You will hit your prime in your late 20s.

I didn't date or lose my virginity until I was 21.

Don't panic. Focus on developing yourself. Work out, get involved with things you're interested in, dump the porn, dump the video games, etc.

Guarantee you will find someone if you do that.

>>18379222

I mean Video Games are pretty sweet. Witcher 3 was amazing. I say keep it to an hour a day max and you're golden. Do like five times more productive things over recreational things.

>>18379244
if op doesn't have the desire or commitment or discipline to make dramatic life changes then his life is not going to change

>>18379219
I actually just went to a concert alone last night, just about every woman there had a guy wrapped around her the whole time. When I tried talking to one of the few girls there around me without a guy when the show ended, she looked at me like I just kicked her dog or something and walked away without saying anything. Hell, that's probably half the reason I feel like such shit today.

>>18379035
you need to be someone that you would want to date.

>>18379222
I'm 27. Is it too late for me?

This >>18379269 is why I online dating instead but I have had literally no success with that. Absolutely none.

I used to have this mindset, then I got a girlfriend and realized its nothing like those fantasies. Those fantasies are simply fantasies. That being said, acquiring a gf did make me realize this and I was able to be at peace with it and stop fantasizing about it, because I knew the reality. Not saying that the reality is bad, because it still is quite nice. Just know that it isn't as heavenly as you realize.

It isn't exactly the case that "not wanting a girlfriend will get you a girlfriend" but it does seem like quality relationships are random and spring out of nowhere /if you put yourself out there/. Longing for a gf is just giving yourself suffering without having any benefit. Be available, meet a lot of people, and grab the opportunity of a relationship when the situation arrives, but don't let it tear you apart because you're not in one. Easier said than done, I know.

I recommend you read Models: Attracting Women Through Honesty. Probably has the answers you most of your problems and questions. Its a pretty easy read and will get you out of /r9k/ levels of autism. Helped me a lot.

Got my first gf and had sex at 21, am pretty normal now, you can do it.

Was in the same boat, suddenly meet a girl, relationship was over in less than a month and back to square one for me, I just said fuck it, I guess I was just meant to live a life in my own

>>18379602
Similar thing happened to me. First girlfriend was super distant and didn't actually like me. It collapsed after several months and fucked me up for a while.

Good relationships where two people truly connect are hard to find for almost everyone.

>>18379672
I just stopped altogether, doesn't seem worth it

>>18379035
Life is not a fairy tale. Trying to fly gets you hurt. This is the real world. Now, go forth, find some social groups. Most of the relationships I've seen that didn't start at a school or college were from groups.
Chances are there's a thing you like to do as a hobby that other people like to do as a hobby. Chances are there's a place semi nearby where these people meet. If not there's certainly a website. Go there, meet people. Make FRIENDS. Doesn't matter if they're guys or girls. Because these people will have friends, their friends will have friends, so on, so forth. Meet people, talk to them. Try not to just be thinking about getting your dick wet. Almost all of my previous relationships have been friends of friends. Don't bitch about not having a girlfriend, instead bitch that it's hard to find the right person.
If you're lucky they'll have a single friend who has similar tastes as you. It is possible to ask people if they have a friend like this, just don't do it too much or it will start to get weird. Treat these new people like friends at first, don't just go on a date. Go do something both of you like. Find similarities in movies, music, tv shows. Good manners are great, but being a proper gentleman will never be enough to make a relationship work.
TL;DR Get a hobby.

>>18379050
>law of attraction
Fuck off.