I've been fairly agoraphobic over the past few years, and

>>18377356

remember that nothing actually matters. if it goes wrong most people wont remember it in an hour or a day, and you dont ever have to see them again if you don't want to. so even if you went and just let out one huge forty second fart in front of EVERYONE it doesn't actually matter it wont affect the rest of your life any more than you allow it to.

>>18377378
Yeah you're right. The one thing that I'm really paranoid about is doing something really embarrassing and having someone film it, then have that moment be immortalized on the internet.

But even then what you said is true, nothing matters and neither would that moment. I could always just embrace it and become a living meme I guess

>>18377396

thats the thing you also got to remember is we all have embarassing moments. it doesn't have to detract from the rest of you though. im easily scared, ill scream if someone just jumps out and says 'boo'. but then i laugh about it.

because it doesn't really detract from me as a person. if you feel you are entirely a tragically awful person then work on that instead of worrying about embarassment, work on compensating.

im a great business man, my art is actually taking off, i can get laid and when push comes to shove i might yell but i didnt back down from a fight. i may have yelled with fear while it was happening, but it doesn't detract from all the good, so its nothing to be upset about imo.

>>18377396
that fear might be a bit of OCD you know. It's quite irrational to worry about becoming a meme.
Here are some tips I've learnt from seeing a counsellor about anxiety w/ obsessional thoughts
>take it slowly, every little bit of socialising or w/e makes you anxious is a victory
>have go to phrases prepared for getting out of situations. They're like your failsafe button. Eg I can't come out bc I have to pick up my little bro from school or something. But realistic.
>try mindfulness. It's honestly not a meme and does help.
>54321 is a good technique where you list five things you can see, 4 hear, 3 smell, 2 touch and one taste. It brings you back to reality, out of your head when you're feeling panicked.

>>18377416
>if you feel you are entirely a tragically awful person then work on that instead of worrying about embarassment, work on compensating.

Any tips on compensating? I've always felt like a sack of useless shit that's nothing but a burden on everyone else's shoulders, a waste of air and space.

>>18377431
man I didn't think about that. I'm reading about OCD now and it sounds a lot like what I've been going through.
>54321 is a good technique where you list five things you can see, 4 hear, 3 smell, 2 touch and one taste. It brings you back to reality, out of your head when you're feeling panicked

I'll remember that one. I know I spend too much time in my head, especially lately. I'll try mindfulness too. Thanks for the advice.

>>18377480


volunteering for starters. and the only way to do that is to push through the embarrassment and say 'it doesn't matter how i fee while im doing this, im doing this for others sake, not my own'.

from there, try to point out your actual pros. you are not actually entirely tragic. and even if you feel that way you know that you are TRYING to be a good person and there are millions and millions if not billions of people who are actually trying to be a bad person. so why should you feel undeserving of anythign that nayone else has?

life is not about being the best, you live in a day and age where you can just exist as happily as you can. do it. whats wrong with just being happy and enjoying what our time has to offer?