Where can I go to meet women? Somewhere where it would be okay

Okay now bro I need you to meet me halfway on this and really open yourself up to what I'm saying. You're going to feel an urge to dismiss it, but please please please reflect on what I'm saying:

You need substance. Right now you're still that reserved little kid from Highschool, too scared to step out of his comfort zone. Your anxiety is not you, push against it and yes it's not going to be a great experience but it will harden you up for the moments that matter.

What are your hobbies mate?

>>18376795
My advice for meeting people is always: do volunteer work.
Do you have any political opinions? Volunteer to do some work for a local candidate you like. Are there any non-profit orgs in your city you think are doing good work? Call them and ask how you can get involved.

Volunteer work is great for meeting new people because 1) It puts you directly in contact with folks; 2) you know you have something in common with them, because you're all choosing to spend your time & energy in the same place; 3) awkward silences are usually not a problem because everyone there has a job to do; 4) people volunteering are generally in a good mood, and thus more chatty, because volunteering actually feels GOOD; 5) even if you don't end up meeting someone, you'll still have spent your time doing something worthwhile, and you may discover that you enjoy it and want to continue.

>>18376894

>You need substance. Right now you're still that reserved little kid from Highschool, too scared to step out of his comfort zone

I agree. Hense why I've been actively trying to make an effort to better myself, both physically and mentally. Baby steps, but I've made progress. It's what lead me to opening up and trying online dating, which landed me here.

I appreciate the blunt honesty.

As for hobbies, I dabble in video editing, creative writing, and graphic design on the side when I'm not actively doing stuff for my day job in a similar field. I'm also into animation (not anime, I'm not a weeaboo. More into European features and short films.), and occasionally collaborate with one of my few friends on video game design related project for fun. I'm not the kind of person that generally spends all day playing video games though, not since highschool anyway.

I've considered looking into things like creative writing classes or local groups related to my interests, but unfortunately my area is apparently pretty unpopular for that. Meetup.com for my hometown literally has five results, unfortunately.

>>18376928

Thanks for the advice.

I generally try to stay out of any political stuff, because quite frankly both sides of the political spectrum kind of disgust me at this point. Still, I'll keep doing some volunteer work in mind as a potential avenue in the future.

>>18376961
Community college is great place to go, or just classes for things in general. Your hobbies sound interesting although I get the impression that you're not pushing yourself enough with them or have spread yourself too thin. Part of having substance is having eloquent thoughts, which requires deeper focus on what you're doing.

Unfortunately you'll be doing a lot of this with no motivation, and yeah a girlfriend would help with that, but right now you got to dig out of that hole of yours. Which you've fortunately started doing.

>>18376977

I tried college a few years ago and it didn't work out. Had a little mini breakdown and burnt out about a year in, decided to do my own thing. I ended up getting a decent enough gig doing some graphic design work for a freelance company though, so things sort of worked out. It was enough for me to move out of my parent's house and get my own place.

Admittedly though, I'm self aware that I'm extremely under-ambitious. I've sort have been at a standstill for the last few years, both in terms of my career path and life goals, which is what motivated me to try and better myself in the first place.

Still, I don't think I'm quite ready to go back school just yet. Especially now that I'll be more than half a decade older than most of my peers.

As far as my hobbies go, you're correct that I'm not pushing them as hard as I could be. I rarely show any of my work to anyone outside of tiny circle of friends. My goal has never really been to make a career out of/get famous/whatever with any of that stuff though, most of the stuff I do has simply for my own amusement.

>>18376961
>I generally try to stay out of any political stuff

Doesn't have to be political though. You could deliver food for Meals on Wheels or participate in a fundraiser for a local youth centre. There's tons and tons of work that need to be done out there.

>>18377029
Well I've got work now so I'll have to leave it at this:

Maybe you just don't get people around you. There's something of naively when it comes to people, which we all have at some point in time. I say just keep putting yourself out there, building up your experience, really pay attention to those around you. I can't give you a timeframe for when it will pay off, but it's better than living in a dark corner the rest of your life, plus it will inspire your creative side a lot more.

>>18377039

Oh, yeah.

Sorry if my post wasn't clear, I was just addressing the local candidate part of your reply. If I end up doing any volunteer work, it will end up being charity stuff for sure.