Why are men so obsessed with porn even when they have wives and

It's my bday I mean

>>18376357
He's bored of fucking you or you've become more and more unattractive/fat during the relationship that he'd rather jerk off than put his benis in u

>>18376354
Happy birthday anonette.

Sounds like your husband is an asshole, and has a porn addiction.
Not all men are like that. Talk about this with him and consider talking to a professional. It is not normal.

Maybe he's jerking off now so he can last in bed a lot longer with you later?

I'm sorted addicted to porn and I feel a lot of guys can relate. When guys are single for a long period of time, chances are they're not having sex. Porn becomes the outlet and it feels like home. Can be almost an impossible habit to break especially if you have been years alone.

>>18376385
lol
>>18376354
if this is true your husband is no longer attracted to you, good luck fixing that

Well, it may be that you're nothing special to them if they didn't do anything special for you. Simple as that.

I feel like he doesn't find me attractive anymore but I don't know why. We have 2 kids, I am sweet, I work hard and pay all the bills, and I have a good body. I don't have a massive ass but I have big tits and long hair.

Why is he so unhappy?

>>18376422
Ask him that, he is the only one who knows. You sound very fuckable though, so I'd sat he's missing out.

>>18376354
I was single for a very long time consequently I jerked to porn every day. Now at 50 I have a 26 year old girl friend and no need for porn. I don't miss it because my girl is hot tight and willing.

>>18376422
>2 kids, I am sweet, I work hard and pay all the bills
lol cuck

>>18376433
lmao

>>18376431
This.

You're in a relationship. Talk calmly about your problems.

>>18376422
When was the last time you inflated his ego? When you told him his cock is big? Praised him? Let him help you with something (even when you could managed on your own)? When was the last time you were on date without kids? Tried http://mojoupgrade.com/ ?
Slapped his ass? Bought cock ring?

When was the last time you hugged him from behind, told him you deserve good dicking for being good wife and dragged him to bed while holding his penis? When was the last time you forbid him to fap and tell him if wants to fap, he has to ask you for handjob?

When was the last time you did some intensive sport together?

When did you took your husband for granted and stopped trying?

Also
https://yourbrainonporn.com/

>>18376440
All of this.

>>18376439
He tells me he loves me and only me and that he doesn't think other women are attractive

>>18376440
We usually have awesome sexy but he gets into slumps all the time and can't seem
To keep the good sex going then blames me.

I mean we do have little kids sometimes we are going to get dirty and then the baby comes to the room crying. So we postpone. It shouldn't be something to throw a major fit over

>>18376452
>He tells me he loves me and only me and that he doesn't think other women are attractive

nigga smooth af

>>18376440
I was wearing a string thong and shirt shirt and walked around in front of him all day when he got home from work doing chores and setting up dinner and he didn't even make a move!

>>18376458
Then he watches tons of porn.

>>18376452
K, and he probably does only love you, but all the same he is not fully satisfied sexually with you and is clearly finding it easier to just crank one out to porn. Wants something that you can't or won't give him. You need to actually sit and discuss this with him.

>>18376422
Sounds like he has problems that extend further than the household.

Put your pride behind you and ask, if you married him for any reason he will see that you are doing this and respond in kind.

What to ask is probably not even that relevant, just remind him and actually say out loud that you just want to help him.

Then it's just up to him.

http://fightthenewdrug.org

>>18376463
>>18376469
Addendum

Sounds like he really does have a problem.

>>18376466
I have tried. He says that he loves everything about me but he has been watching porn since before he met me and "all guys do it" (but we have a family with 2 little girls now)

I have been telling him for about a year I want more foreplay (he usually just dangles his boner in my face and then I have to do whatever he wants) and for him to act a little more mature (he's in his 30s) because foreplay and maturity turns me on.
But he doesn't want to.

So, I still try to do sexy things.
Nylons and heels and ripping them off and banging. we have had some of the most real life breath taking sex better than porn AND we have a happy gorgeous adorable family.

I feel like he's throwing it away for porn

>>18376469
Ask him what?

>>18376452
Well, something HAS to be the matter. Ask him. Be inquisitive.
Truth is, we can speculate all we want, we don't know your husband. We don't know what's going on inside his head. You need to find that out and try solving the problem together.

>>18376463
>didnt make move
Work is sometimes soul sucking.

If you want to please him, suck his dick before sleep. Sex can be tiresome. Make him finger you instead. Cuddle.

And talk to him. Boys are fragile beings and once some problem happens, they are scared of asking for help.

>>18376482
Seriously try to make a deal. When he is home, he cant watch porn and fap without your hand in his pants. Dont allow him to escape to pirn realms. And teach him how to sex you up properly (what were you doing before marriage?).

Ask him and dont allow him to beat it to porn. Your hand should be as good as his. FIND COMPROMISE woman!

>>18376484
Take some lsd with him. Probably the easiest way.

>>18376485
He makes no money and hates his job and feels like a poor idiot.
He tells me that all the time . But he has a happy loyal wife. >>18376488

>>18376482
You sound like an incredibly fun and sexy woman, I am truly envious of your husband. I would take you off his hands for sex any day of the week. But that's neither here nor there and there is some kind of underlying issue here and only you and him can work it out. Please go and talk to him. Your marriage is on the line here and he likely doesn't even realize it. He isn't wrong though, the porn is something we all grew up with and most men have grown accustomed to using like a crutch over long periods of loneliness, it is normal, but not to this degree while in a relationship with a woman that actually wants sex. If he is addicted, you can work this out together. I have no doubt he still loves you.

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>>18376488
I work too so I get
To be tired too sometimes.
Am I that bad? I work to pay full rent I have a 7 mo old and a 21 month old my body is still recovering from pregnancy I always try to do sweet things for him
And he just rejects
Me
Over and over again.
Why? Am I ugly?

>>18376504
You're hot.

>>18376502
I don't think he finds me attractive anymore and it hurts me. I feel vulnerable after having 2 kids in a row and I'm always at work. I just want comfort and love
In the arms of my husband.


And he's off
In the bathroom looking at other women. :(

>>18376504

Buy better underwear. That bra is horrible. You have a great figure so try to accentuate it rather than cover it up with old, ill-fitting bras.

>>18376512
I thought that is a cute bra I don't see what's so ugly about it.

>>18376504
>reject me
I bet he has erectile disfunction from the porn usage and is afraid to tell you. You are his wife. Force yourself into his life. You are married for god sake. You SHOULD TRUST EACH OTHER. He cant have secrets nor you.

Disregard sexy clothes, he may cheated you, lost his job, his mom died, his dick is broken whatever.

Hug him, dont let him go and tell him that whatever happened to him, you crave good sex and you are more than willing to work on his problems. Dont let him go or disregard you. Tell him you wont let him go until he tells you what is wrong. Every problem has solution. You are wasting your time on /adv/. You have to ask your husband. He obviously have some problem.

And seriously, try to forbid him to masturbate on his own. If he wants to fap, he has to ask you and you in return WILL obey and make him cum. Return intimacy into your marriage.

Dont let him avoid you. Your body looks very food on that photo. He is hiding something. Force it out from him.

I
Mean maybe my husband could be buying me a bra
Or underwear if my stuff is too whackZ
I have 2 kids and work full
Time and often Saturday's. It's
My bday. That would be nice gift and a way to show that he cares and finds me attractive

>>18376509
I think you're jumping to an incorrect conclusion, you are a very attractive woman. The issue is something else. Stress from work and the kids. Too tired to perform. Feeling distant from you since the dynamic of your marriage is likely different with kids than it was before. Some mix of all of the above combined with how quick and easy it is to just throw on some porn when you've got no energy to do anything else. And yes, the allure of the unlimited variety of women porn offers can't be denied, but that doesn't mean you aren't still his preference and the one he loves. This may be something he needs therapy for and you guys may even need marriage counseling, but I really don't think he finds you unattractive.

>>18376521

It's bad fitting, makes her boobs look horrible in regards to their shape, the cup is too big and the design just screams "I can't be bothered and have baby vomit in my hair".

Jesus, please tell me you're just an inexperienced, desperate male?

>>18376536
Well it just hurts me. You can say he still loves me but when he is with me and all
He does is look at porn I don't like it. It's not something for a familys

He said he would stop then I saw last night he had been looking at all these granny porn videos and he threw my coffeee everywhere and threw food
All over the floor in the kitchen and called me a cunt

>>18376504
You're hot. Like a year away from babe if you worked out. Not saying you should because whatever but rather just an indication of where you are.

>>18376539
Wow.
No wonder my husband looks at porn. I'm just a mom with ugly clothes that cares about my infant children.
Nothing attractive there about a woman take care of the children she brought into the world for you.
I guess I should be doing it in high heels and a push up bra

>>18376504
you must have a man face or something

>>18376544
>granny porn


Ok. Now we're getting somewhere. What other stuff does he look at? I find it hard to believe he wants to replace you with an elderly woman, but you definitely can't fulfill that fetish with a body like yours. Also, it sounds like you feel some shame and disgust towards porn in general, possibly stemming from religious beliefs?

>>18376550
Well I don't want to be a super babe right now I have 2 kids and I'm working full time and a labral year to my hip.
I just want to be a good wife and mother who is loved by her husband.

>>18376354
kek this is a b8 thread
OP is working on details to reel anons in

>>18376562
Most likely, but I'm bored, can't sleep and it's entertaining. Also, hoping for more hot pics. If It's real though, I enjoy the irony of her hating porn while I jerk off to her.

>>18376562
Reel anons into what?

Well reasons I still beat it to porn is for some variety and an orgasm that doesn't require breaking a sweat. Be lovely to have a 1 hour romp with my girl whenever I'm horny, but I just don't always have that time.

And after awhile with the same person it just gets stale. Around that time I try to remind myself why I love her and go on an adventure with her.

>>18376504
you need to post pic without the bra OP
I need to see if there's any weird thing going on behind that ill-fitting bra

>>18376583
This is a work safe board I'm also at work right now

>>18376596
No I don't mean nude
Just any tight shirt that shows your form is ok
your upperbody looks weird af

>>18376599
Wow
Well now I know why my husband hates me I'm just weird and ugly looking

>>18376607
I'm not sure about that thus asking for other pic

>>18376607
You're just overly sensitive right now because you're upset about your husband. Take a breath and calm down. Don't listen to that guy, your body is objectively hot.

1. Do what a shit load of people on this have already said and talk to your husband about this.

2.Granted you're still getting back into shape after childbirth, dress to compliment your figure. It's only one pic but that bra does seem awfully oversized (don't know, maybe it's just the angle) and your pants (?) reach just a bit too high up your stomach, wear something that hugs the waist more.

>>18376354
>>18376504
these two images are of the same set? kek
pretty sloppy

>>18376621
Not her and I know next to fuck all about post-pregnancy women's bodies, but just a wild guess, maybe the bra is bigger to keep her potentially sensitive nipples from getting chafed or something? I don't know if that's a thing women do, but it made sense in my head.

>porn is free
>wife can't satisfy needs, doesn't even try

>>18376354
Here's the thing about porn, It's not about you.

And that's the point. Traditionally the guy puts in most of the work during sex. As a guy It's REALLY nice to jerk off to porn because it's all about me and making myself fell good instead of always performing/working during sex to always please my partner.

Take some of the advice ITT and make sex a little easier for him.

And stop being jealous of him having fun without you.

This thread makes me want to seduce the hell out of my gf bc I want to make sure she doesn't feel like Op. Also I wish she'd read the thread and do some of the things you recommend to OP bc sometimes it seems like maybe she trying to engage but it's not that clear.

>>18376551

You sound like an insufferable bitch if I'm honest, whiny and entitled. Forget your underwear, this is the reason your husband won't fuck you.

Do you think coming here and posting half naked photos of yourself for desperate, white knight virgin's to wank over is going to help your marriage? Talk to him.

And in future, don't ask for advice and post photos if you don't want to receive constructive criticism.

>>18376655
10/10 post

>>18376655
This guy gets it.

>>18376629
Whats sloppy

>>18376433
KYS

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>>18376675
I just had 2 kids my gosh this is what men are like it's so hateful.

It takes some time to get back to your pre pregnancy body but your man is supposed to love you during that esp when you work on pay all the rent

>>18376422
your vagina was probably destroyed during birth and you have tiger marks in your belly. also you are hitting the wall at full speed and you get older.

>>18376684
Now post face

>>18376691
I don't have any stretch marks and I never got torn up ... men are disgusting women give you so much love and give you kids and this is how you act

>>18376684
You were hot before, but your body is still hot in my honest opinion. Not sure why your husband isn't plowing you daily, I know I would.

Men need a purpose and having a woman depend on you is the most straightforward purpose there is. It sounds like you are the breadwinner so he is likely feeling emasculated. Porn is the ultimate fantasy where the man is in control.

>>18376684
Nice any more, ass picture ?

>>18376354

>Why are women so obsessed with shoes even when they have 10 other pairs. My wife is so busy wearing shoes that she doesn't even wear her other shoes

>>18376700
This sounds accurate to me.

>>18376684
timestamp or bullshit. i bet you r some smelly fucking overweight cow with a roastie that smells like some shit you cooked but was left out way to long. i truly hope your husband is fucking cheating on you. i rly hope he brings home stds and fucking infects you with some horrible shit

>>18376695
Obv I'm not doing that online

OP-I'd smash. Your hubby can watch. He might like it. That could be the spice you need to season your relationship.

>>18376716
Please? At least post tits or ass?

>>18376700
Well I don't know how to fix that he tries to sabotage my career by making me cry before work but am I not supposed to do awesome at my job and make good
Money for us just so he can feel
More masculine??

>>18376716
People do it all the time on /adv/, nothing ever happens.

>>18376727
It's not about you and your job, it's about him needing a job too.

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>>18376700
>It sounds like you are the breadwinner so he is likely feeling emasculated

>>18376405
...that feel..

It honestly makes me wanna take meds to overcome it. I go weeks without it, feel alone as hell again on my days off.. relapse.. fucking hate it. But the good woman I want just wont come.. she just wont. And when she does, she's already taken. And it makes me feel like that whole time I waited only to be told "no". My life is flying by, and I hate being alone. Tired of this cycle, I want it to end.

I sympathize with your situation OP, we all have needs. But life isn't as transparent as it seems. You already made your life, so to speak. You have kids, a husband, some issues here and there, but you've got it made, kids and all.

Meanwhile, us guys are here for years and years. 9 years since I was in a serious relationship, and EVEN THEN.. it was long distance.. so there you go.

If you wanna resolve this, talk to him. But try not to complain, because while you feel unhappy, some of us are here so alone that we scream under our voice wishing for the frustration to go away.

>>18376727


It's difficult. I had a friend in a similar situation. He should work on his career or take a risk while you have the stable income. Society changes quickly but or biology and instincts do not.

>>18376354
OP post the rest of the set :D
more pics
mooore pics

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>>18376354
OK so let's recap - your hubby watches porn - check.

What kind of porn gets his wood the stiffest?

Create a fetish survey to find out- then begin the task of letting him use your three holes to live out his fetishes.

This is b8 you retards

>>18376463
I've had gfs walk around in sexy stuff and rebuke efforts to initiate sex. Not a reliable sign of horniness.
Are you sure that whenever you walk around in a thong that you are up for sex? You may have rejected him in the past and he may just think you're too lazy to put on clothes.

Don't act like life is a romance movie where he'll just know you're horny from what you are wearing. Grab his dick. Suck his dick. Tell him that you need to be fucked and if he doesn't fuck you masturbate in front of him.

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>>18376504
Everyone has some deep dark sexual fantasy or freaky fetish that is just a fact. Tell your hubby yours then ask him about his. He might need a good pegging who knows. Apparently you don't know him.

>>18376551
Honestly you'd look better in jogging shorts and a tight half tanktop with no bra. Your bra is just bad. Try Madewell or Journelle fot better shit.

I like how porn is always the scapegoat when 90% of the time women are operating on fucked up notions of seduction from romcoms and cosmo about how foreplay is supposed to work.

It's always shit like "I try to initiate sex by asking him to unzip my dress when I get home from work and he doesn't intuitively know to kiss my neck, make out with my coffee breath, and tease with my underwear AND then do PIV? wtf."

>>18377099
This. I get that women want the fantasy shit when it comes to sex. And at times I was able to give it to my ex.
But a lot of women want that all the time.
We get tired, and jerking off is just an easy release.

Fuck I would have killed for my ex to have just come up to me and sucked my cock. You think I would just drop what I was doing to give her a good fucking?

But that hardly ever happened. She would complain about me mastrubating too much, but she would only have time to have sex with me like once every two weeks, once a week if lucky.

I pretty much stood my ground and told her that I jerked it to relieve stress. That I wanted more sex with her, but she never got the hint, or directness.

Like straving a dog, and then punishing said dog for being hungry.

Some chicks don't get it. Some do. For some porn is because of boredom, for some it's just visual stimuli. How do you beat visual stimuli? Get physical.

you should forget to pay the internet bill, or fuck around with the router. him jacking off so much is fucking up his sex drive and attraction to you. he doesn't have the will to stop jacking it to porn (granted as a man, that is really hard to do, I've been trying but after 30 minutes of having a boner, sexy thoughts, and the intense urge to fuck, sometimes you just want the boner gone but anyways i digress) you're gonna need to help him kick it. easy access to ejaculating means he's not trying with you anymore.

>>18376482
yeah, he's got no excuse, like I don't fucking understand.
>>18376463
sweet lord. something is broken in your man and regardless of how much he doesn't want to ask for help it's gotta be fixed cause that's just not right.
>>18376684
yeah, the man isn't right in the headspace.
>>18377099
I mean, you wouldn't try doing that anyway?

>>18377292
dude this is a set of amateur pics.