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So I'm a girl and me and my boyfriend hang out a lot. He

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So I'm a girl and me and my boyfriend hang out a lot. He plays league all the time and he never has time for me. I already gave him my virginity, I cook for him, I tell him I love him and I do anything and everything for him yet he never gives me attention and throws me to the side to play league with his friends. I play league too but he just doesn't want to play with me since I'm 'lower level and it'll be too easy xD' and it just really sucks. What do I do to get attention because he swears he loves me but I don't know.
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How old are you?
You shouldn't be cooking for anyone unless he also cooks.
He treats you like shit because you think of yourself as shit and tolerate all his bullshit.
Time to move on.
Get a job. Date someone from work.
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>>18368193
>I cook for him, I tell him I love him and I do anything and everything for him
Not a guy, but why would he give you attention if he can do what he wants and get this shit from you anyway?
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Have you talked to him about your thoughts? Does he know how you feel?
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>>18368193
>So I'm a girl
>He plays league
lol you can't fix your look, I'm sorry
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What are you doing when he plays league with his friends? Is there actually something you two could be doing together?

If he is addicted that might be a bit of an excuse for neglecting you but video games should never be someones life unless they are getting paid to do it or have enough money to waste their time on games. If I'm at my computer I can still talk, so I don't see why you couldn't just sit next to him and chat.
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>>18368217
Now, okay. Playing hard to get might give him some idea of what he is doing with his life. He can't have both. Period. If he's not okay with that, well fuck.
And for you: A relationship is about equality and coexisting together rather than side by side. Stop giving if you won't get anything back. It's a trade.
Alltogether, in your range of age it's common to not know a lot about what "relationship" really means. You both will have to learn a lot.
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>>18368233
This 100%
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>>18368201
>you shouldn't be cooking for anyone unless he also cooks

cuck found
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Here's the thing, if he's not playing games he's on his phone still messaging with his friends. We can go outside and do stuff since travel is free as we are students, we can watch movies since I have Netflix. We can do anything. But it's like ' No, Anon, let's do what you want to do' and I tell him and we don't do it and we just end up fucking since he's super picky and it's like,, I find sex a drag but it's the longest he'd pay attention to me. If we are not having sex or doing nothing when we are with each other, then it's just sleeping and it's just... it sucks because in the beginning we used to have such deep discussions ( we take philosophy but we often go outside the curriculum and do further reading. We also debate about social theories ( Marxism, functionalism, etc)). But now it's just dead. And I mean he doesn't mind going outside because he would go out with his friends but not me. He's not addicted as this only started a month or two ago where he got SUPER into league and it's like ' no I just wanna do ranked, I wanna do ranked' because he wants to get paid for it, and like I understand he wants to make a job out of it but it's just... hard because I believe there should be a balance. I understand we have a lot to learn and a relationship is about equality but it's difficult because he doesn't understand nor really have his priorities straight. How do I play hard to get in the first place because when I get upset and want to leave, he doesn't let me and he gets mad and I feel bad again. When I end up actually leaving, I feel emptier because he doesn't really respond to my messages as much after. What do I do ?
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>ITT: one relationship has the usual "men do all the giving and women do all the taking" dynamic flipped
>women get outraged
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>>18368270
Several things:

You are waaaaaaaaaaaay too insecure. When you leave, let him text you back. Not vice versa. You left the room, so let him run after you. If he really loves you, he will. If not, well...

He does not pay attention to you.
He let's you cook for him.
He only goes outside with his friends but not you.

He basically only has you around as a cockwarmer, as far as I can decipher your posts.
Are you blind?
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>>18368193
Dump his ass, he doesn't love you. You are easy and comfortable and he takes you for granted.
Also as a side note, you don't have to share all hobbies, but also he sounds like he is addicted to video games
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I'm not blind, I'm aware this is not appropriate behavior for someone if they love you I just.. I just want to win their love and attention back. It's just so hard watching someone stop loving you after the both of you loved each other for years. He runs after me but he gives up when I attempt to confront him and leaves when I say I don't want anything else but his attention. I feel bad sometimes because sometimes he pays for me but he's quite middle to upper class but I still feel really bad when I want to leave him because it's like... should I be grateful that he pays for me sometimes? Idk. Because sometimes I just break down crying because he's too focused on materialism than actually loving me so he can make up for it that way, one key moment was when I (attempt) cuddled him yet he was just asking what I wanted from this make up site. I told him I didn't want anything and that he should stop trying to win me over with money and I just wanted to cuddle. He wouldn't get off his phone and yelled at me because I didn't want anything . I don't want to dump him just yet because I feel like there's still hope even though he neglects me. I just want to know how to get him to love me like he used to /: I just wish things were the same. When he talks about key moments in his eyes it's when I'm drunk and crying about how much I loved him ' because that's the only time (I) showed (I) loved (him) genuinely'. Sometimes it's like he's trying but he doesn't know how to show it and fails.
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>>18368335
When you put a dead sick man on life support, there is no hope of him getting well again, only maybe a little more time of suffering.

Ring any bells?
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But then it's gone to the point I'm 'addicted' myself and I feel like if I leave him now, I just want to die. Like he's the only reason I live at this point. It sounds ridiculous I know but it's just. I love him so much and I need him because I feel like he gives me purpose. I know I'm young and have a whole life to live but I just can't think of a life without him since I knew him for so long.
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Find out his league waifu and tempt him with cosplay sex as her.
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He doesn't have one haha )^: as far as I know. I feel like cosplaying Xayah though since he looks like Rakan.
He blamed me for not being happy because of my mental disorders (bpd) hence why I need attention and it's just hard because I feel like yes that's a contributing factor but it's also because he doesn't TALK to me in the first place.
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>>18368367
If you think you are addicted to a person, consider getting professional help.

Focus on your own life. Ask yourself these questions: Who are you? What are you good at? Where can that lead you?
got any Idea? Good. Start walking.
Aim for an indipendent life goal on which you can focus and you'll get rid of this cage you put yourself in.
Now, that might sound like you should distance yourself from your partner, but try this:
Tell him. Let him support you. Let the two of you support each other on your hopes and dreams.
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Learn to quote the damn post you're replying to by clicking the post number next to it. Is this the first time you've ever been on 4chan?
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>>18368389
I might consider this as I've become severely dependent on him.
I will try getting professional help ( since I'm always too scared to call the GP and when I do, they're closed).
However I will ask my self the questions, I printscreened to remember as well. Thank you for this. But I'm semi tempted to not include him into this because of what he already did to me to distance himself from me.
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>>18368393
I'm sorry!! It's just I'm using phone and it's a bit of a hassle
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>>18368396
Sounds like you're on the right path. I wish you the best of luck.
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>>18368214
This 10000%
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>>18368403
Thank you <3
And everyone that helped me in this post. I'm sorry I'm kind of a mess ahaha
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>tfw I will never have a loyal gf like you OP

Why is life so cruel

Talk with him seriously and if he still refusing to do smth with you then dump his fucking ass, fucking addicted nigga. Let him cry this bitch and get ur respect back
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>>18368367
1 of 2 choices

Drop him

Keep him

Sometimes when you love someone, you need to let them go. It sounds like he is addicted to his video games and anime porn. He wont see the sunshine for what it is until he is stuck in rain. And if your not his sunshine, you will know. Break up with him. Let your tears flow that night, then remove emotion from the game.

By keeping him, you will continue down this path of "i love him i wont leave him" when he just uses you for your vagina. Unless you like that, then you need to change yourself.

To make him give you more attention you will need to spend less time with him and more time doing workouts that 1up your sexual appeal.

By spending less time with him, he will either
1. value your time together more
2. be grateful your not nagging him
3. be the same

if answer is
1. he does care. he just wants to do his thing. He just doesnt understand your feelings until he feels that same depth of emotion for himself.
2. You need to work out or do some activity such as biking or yoga, or drop him
3. He just doesnt care


A big problem is league of legends. That game is cancer. That game is the reason why he may not value you as much as you value him. Slowly get him out of that game and he may spend more time with you


>tldr: get him off of gaming for 1-2 months. Check relationship. Probably will improve
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>>18368415
Haha thank you.
I know that as an option but the weird thing is, is that I tried before and what happened was honestly
" I'm leaving you"
" No you're not."
" Yeah, I am"
" No you're not."
And it was really uncomfortable... so we didn't break up
(If I write more happier right now it's because I'm somewhat hopeful )
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>>18368423
I am autistic. This post made sense when i wrote it up but after reading it, it is kind of retarded/confusing
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>>18368428
No I understand it! Thank you! I'm considering it
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Everyone, if you'd like, in a months time I'll come back with a screenshot of the original post and tell you what has changed?
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>>18368440
will look forward to that!
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>>18368447
<3

I don't mind sharing places you could reach too if you'd want? Like my old tumblr ( pls don't judge) so you could message me there and I'd give further details on where to contact me?
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>>18368428
it's not autistic if that's what you are worried about. Though retards will think it is.
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report this underage shitfest along with the other threads
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>>18368454
Yea that sounds pretty cool. I would be careful sharing that sort of thing on an online message board though, so i dont recommend it.

If you have a spam email account that would be the best way for contact
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>>18368474
[email protected]
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>>18368486
Gotchya, i am [email protected]
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Best of luck. be strong and independent. you are still young and will find a better guy.
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>>18368193
>I already gave him my virginity
You're now used goods. Get used to not getting any attention.
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You love this man. You gave him your virginity. You try to be the epitome of a traditional housewife for him...

And you want to leave him.

Insecurity and neediness are two traits that are downright and almost universally unattractive; you exude both of them. You say that this hasn't been going on for very long, and with all the rashness of youth you're ready to throw out a relationship you're already invested in. You've said that he has decided to try and make a career out of League (regardless of what the rest of us think of this choice), working to get to a professional will put a certain amount of pressure on him. Between classes, your relationship, and his social connections...

Some people cannot handle a lot of pressure. While it very well could be that he is no longer interested (and with your rampant insecurity and neediness, who can say?) in you or your relationship, and/or be a very natural end to a teenage fling (after all, you're both growing and maturing into adults; your likes, dislikes and interests are changing), chances are he simply feels that he can relax on the front of your relationship. Between trying to reach a professional level in League, classwork, and social obligations he may not be able to handle further obligation to you. Especially if he thinks that you'll be there for him when he gets to a point where he can again turn to you and relish in your relationship. Men have a tendency to focus on things like work and war to the detriment of all else; it doesn't do justice to their thoughts and feelings, rather it's a justification and muse to what they must do in those arenas.

You have managed -- with your whining insecurity and nagging neediness -- to turn that solace into more work, more pressure. So here's my suggestion to you:

cont
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lmao kill yourself dumb roastie slut
if you're this cucked by Chad at your age + histrionic self diagnosing crazy bitch then your future has no hope. none!
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>>18368595
>by Chad
lol from the description this guy is probably a 5 using a 4 for occasional sexual need
classic League players
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>>18368599
I play league where do I pick up my obsessive, unwaveringly loving housewife GF? I didn't even know the game came with one of those.

I'll give mine more attention than OPs I swear.
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>>18368582

Back off, give him a week or two of space. Be there for him if he decides that he needs or wants you (even sexually), but do not question him, do not demand attention from him, do not put any kind of pressure on him if you can help it. If he approaches you act normally, perhaps a little peppier, and don't bring up your doubts about the relationship unless he brings up similar doubts first (i.e. "you're so distant lately!)

If, after this week or two, he hasn't turned back to you like a flower seeking the sun, push yourself into his space. Be demanding, and not in the whiny, needy, insecure way you have been. Walk right up to him, pull his face into your hands and kiss him. Shove him against a wall and kiss him. Grab him by the hands and drag him off for an adventure of your devising. Grab his computer chair, turn him around and deposit yourself in his lap (since you play League, and you know how "important" it is to him, time this between matches). Start a conversation you've been wanting to have with him. In short: don't talk, do.

Give it another week or two; this is you trying to salvage and save your relationship. Put everything into it to decrease pressure on him and increase intimacy and intrigue. If he hasn't become more attuned to you, or interested in you after this then reconsider leaving. At the very least try. Don't do the whiny, needy, "You're not paying attention to me" bullshit. Make him look at you. Remind him why he loves you, why he chose you.
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>>18368607
terrible advice from a cum slurping cuck
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>>18368610

And "play hard to get" is much better? They're kind of past that part of their relationship, bro. She's already committed to him, she's already put out, and she's acting like a glorified housewife. He's already "got" her in every way that matters.

My advice was simply "take your relationship by the horns and take charge" after a little troubleshooting. But okay m8.
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>>18368615
t. cum slurper pro (has watched over 9000 Blacked movies)
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>>18368630

Here's your (You)
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Stop avoiding the problem by writing here and just yank the power cable out when u dont want him tk play

Doh.. pussy
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>>18368193
Is your name Leah?

Are you dating a Youtuber named Dunkey?
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>>18368721
You yank the power cord on my computer while I'm in the middle of an important ranked game and I'll beat you into a hospital bed then pull the power cord on your life support.
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>>18368752
you cant even beat your dick little faggot, top kek, little shits and their anger issues
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>>18368758
You will rue this fucking day whore. I will make your life a living hell the likes of which you never thought possible.
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>>18368752
some similar thing happened to me, I hit her a few times she fell down and we ended up having hate sex
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>>18368193

I once dated a guy into competitive gaming and put up with this for nearly two years. The problem with gaming is that unlike with most hobbies, there's no clear "off" time for it. He can just open the game at any time and play, doesn't have to leave home or even stop to have a snack. Basically, it's super easy to integrate into daily life, so he probably doesn't even fully realize how much time he spends doing it. I recommend try to talk to him and see if you can compromise for some designated relationship time. But don't waste your breath by trying indefinitely. If you one day realize you're more lonely in the relationship than you were ever before it, then it's time to move on.
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>>18368775
did you eat him?
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>>18368786

Nah, he would have probably left a sour taste behind like the whole relationship.
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>>18368792
you poor baby
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What? Why does some stupid moba playing motherfucker has a girlfriend and not me, the real street nigga? Why? This makes no sense.
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I'm going to offer the perspective of someone in your boyfriend's position because I too play LoL with professional aspirations. The pro lifestyle becomes way more than just a game. It's not uncommon and it's perhaps mandatory to spend 8-12 hours, maybe more, just practicing if your goal is to truly find a way into the professional scene. That's just Solo Q, I'm not even talking about watching vods of actual pros or scrimming with your team.

He's going to have very little free time to spend with you if he takes this half as seriously as he needs to in order to go pro. Unless you're ready to accept that, move on. He doesn't owe you because "you gave" him your virginity, it's not some magical trophy you handed him off of some imaginary wall of yours. Grow up. You wanted him to fuck you so he did. It's not about whether you cook or clean or screw him consistently either. It's about his goals and your goals and whether or not you can accomplish them together.

If he is your main priority then you resign yourself to the support role you're currently in and make the best of it. If he isn't then find someone who makes more sense. It can't be him unless you want him to give up goals, for which he'll either thank you or hate you.
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I've been blocked on my phone and more likely i will be banned again. however, i have supported him as much as i can, i only cracked recently because of the lack attention i have. as a previous poster stated, there must be balance.
my boyfriend has rarely supported me in any of my decisions and questions everything i do and its hard sometimes.
However, if doing something i have always been doing will help in your eyes, then fine. I will continue to help. I'm sorry for being whiny and ranty it's just I don't get to talk about this often since I dont rant much IRL.
At this point i feel kind of bad for making the post, and all though the supporting comments leave me appreciative as they leave advice that is favourable to me (basically leading to alternatives other than just dumping him), it would be better to call this post to an end.
I'm sorry for wasting everybodys time.
I just love my boyfriend more than anything I would just appreciate the occasional attention. I wouldn't view myself as obsessive when my boyfriend can sometimes take hours or days at a time to even reply when I'm not physically with him.

But yeah. Nevermind.
As I'm going to get banned again I will refer you to my dumb email [email protected]

Stay safe dudes.
Thank you for the help <3
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OP, I SWEAR, YOU HAVE JUST DESCRIBED THE SITUATION I WAS LIVING 1 YEAR AGO.
We had been together for about one year. At the beginning it looked like we were made for each other. We used to spend nights and nights talking about everything, from literature to mechanics, games to private life. I swear I thought he was the right one and for this reasons I decided to stay at his place for 1 month. Fuck.
He played videogames all the fucking time and ignored me for hours and hours... the only thing we shared together was sex and I did it even when i didn't feel like it or when I felt bad physically, because it was the only moment in which he remembered my existence. I've been living this situation for 6 months 'till I faced him and asked him to change or I would have left him. He honestly said that he wanted to spend his lifelong that way and that he won't face his addiction. I just broke up with him and found another guy who treats me like a human being and not like a fucking hole.
You're just like me. A caring girl who just deservs better than a jerk like that.
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>>18368193
>>18368997
Wow I wish I could find a girl like you guys. Feelsbadman.
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What's the average age on /adv/? Because this is fucking high school tier
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>>18368193
>I already gave him my virginity, I cook for him, I tell him I love him and I do anything and everything for him yet he never gives me attention
Tell him this in a heartfelt, non-hissyfit way. If he doesn't feel anything, he's not worth it. If he decides to make time for you, make sure you come to a compromise. You can't expect him to quit League or spend all his time with you.
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If you truly love him just fuck someone else for attention and stick by his side. Maybe he's on the down low and secretly having male relationship not sure but definitely get you some dick
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>>18369286
You should be hung.
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>>18369313
I'm very hung indeed :)
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>>18368193
what is that anime called?
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>>18368214
dis.
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>>18369714
Trash
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