I want my s/o to masturbate to me and not porn. How do i request

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>>18359626

maybe you could try offering to make replacement videos for them? Film the two of you fucking and suggest that it would be a better alternative to regular porn.

>>18359649
We havent had sex yet

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>>18359626

>How do i request this of them and not sound fucking psycho?

You can't. Its a psycho thing to ask. Its also super selfish, naive and unrealistic.

>>18359654

Having sex should help reduce their urge to look at porn in the first place. If it doesn't you could still film yourself masturbating. You'll have to give them some kind of alternative to actual porn. Regular pictures of yourself won't cut it.

>>18359663
Im aware ill need to give an alternative but how do i even suggest that? He never asks for photos or anything from me because he's shy and think he'll offend me i think

>>18359675

Take it slow. Start with sending him some pictures as a "gift." As time goes on, make the pictures more and more dirty. Eventually, film yourself masturbating or something and send it to him.

As for not sounding like a psychopath, don't ask him to do it. Suggest it calmly and infrequently. At first, you might want to play it off as a joke or something. Don't make it obvious that you're serious at first. You want to make your significant other feel like it was their decision.

>>18359686
If i send a picture as a gift what do i say? Like "thinking of you" kind of message? Im very socially retarded in these situations.

>>18359716

"Thinking of you" works just fine. Maybe throw in an emoji.

>>18359722
Thank you so much for your help, its deeply appreciated

>>18359663

>Having sex should help reduce their urge to look at porn in the first place.

Not necessarily true. Studies have shown that regular sex sometimes actually increases the frequency of masturbation in med.

Its super unrealistic to ask your partner to only masturbate to images of you. Thats not how the mind works, especially in regards to masturbation. I masturbate to ebony group sex. Would I actually participate in one of these loud, greasy orgies? Probably not. Does that mean I'm unhappy with my sex life? Not at all.

It would be more damaging to try to control your boyfriend's fantasies than it is to just let him masturbate to whatever he wanted to. I think its a great idea to take some sexy photos for him and spice up your sex life with gestures like that but to demand that you be the only sexual object he's allowed to be attracted to, even when he's alone and masturbating, is just ridiculous. Its making your boyfriend responsible for maintaining your insecurities instead of yourself and chances are that kind of behavior will nuke your relationship.

Masturbatory fantasies and actual sex with an actual person are two completely different areas of the brain for men. Liking one does not mean disliking the other. Unless he has some kind of porn addiction or hidden aversion to having sex with you that he's not telling you about you're being very silly and immature with this porn ban thing.

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Light things on fire every time you fear they are masturbating.

Guaranteed to stop it for at least 20 minutes.

>>18359655
This. No matter what guys will masturbate. It's not an offense. It's built in. Believe me, just cause he's masturbating to porn doesn't mean he thinks that you aren't a much better option.

>>18359626
You want to control how he faps?
Wow.
WOW.

I actually think this isn't that unreasonable of a thing for OP to ask for. Despite society's normalization of porn it is still really very degenerate.

>>18359626
Seeing as you haven't had sex yet, I probably wouldn't advise that. I mean if you want something like that just have some e-sex sessions or something like that. I mean that just seems like a less weird way of getting that.

>>18359626
I would accept such request with joy.
Just tell them. That you find him looking at porn unsettling and that you have no problem providing your own body to the cause.

T. Guy.

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>>18360631

>>18360634
What can I say? Femdom was always my main fetish and this gets somewhat close to it. Girl controlling my fapping experience sounds hot to me.

I guess I will be perfect pussy whipped provider. And I wont even mind that.

>>18360644
hey, thumbs up for honesty
for the rest of us though, eh, fuck it
she schlick to brad pitt and i'll fap to angelina jolie

>>18359626
you have to make said person a few videos. i would go for it. personally

My most recent exgf didn't like me watching porn. So we shot a lot of vids and she sent me pics all the time.
If she hadn't been willing to do that there's no way in hell I would've agreed to it. And even with all those vids it was hard not to look at porn once in a while.
So keep that in mind OP and good luck

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>>18359626
Honestly you should just tell him how you feel so that he can know exactly how crazy you are

If he's cool with how crazy was that then the relationship would work if he's not cool and then it's better to cut it off now

I love how double sided this is...

>you should love woman for her personality otherwise you're SHALLOW!!!!1!
>but only jerk off to me omg I can't handle you looking at other women sexually, you must think of me as a goddess