>We are friends with benefits, that's all
What did my crush mean by this? We don't have sex and I understand benefits as sex. Any thoughts? What is a friend with benefits?
>>18341769
Do you do anything sexual with her? If not then she clearly doesn't know what the term means
>>18341776
>her
We are gay, no we don't do anything sexual, we just make out together, that's all
gay men just act like women
>>18341769
then the problem is he's 16
>>18341785
>we don't do anything sexual, we just make out
>>18341792
20 old, just like me, since we met he said he's not looking for a relationship but the last weeks he have been pretty close and caring, mentioning marriage and dating locations, quite odd.
>>18341797
I don't understand too, maybe he just want someone but at the same time he doesn't? But he's too scared to assume a relationship?
>>18341802
Making out is sexual, Anon. I realise that as a homosexual it might just seem like shaking hands to you, but it is sexual and would constitute a benefit. More to the point how do two young, gay men have make-out sessions and not end up with penises in orifices?
>>18341802
is this the witch guy?
>>18341815
> I realise that as a homosexual it might just seem like shaking hands to you
Not all the gay guys simply do that as a greeting way, we just know each other for a few months though.
Good point, I didn't think on that. Maybe he's avoiding having sex with me, I don't know.
>>18341816
Yes it is, thanks for remembering me, I followed your suggestion and placed the cards on the table, he just told me that and it's a topic to speak personally. Maybe we will meet today, I don't know, somehow I want to avoid this meeting now, I feel that he will dump me once for all
>>18341848
No I was seriously asking, how do you guys make-out a lot but not fuck? Like, do you just never make a move to go further? Does he cut it short before you can make a move? What's the deal there? It might help in identifying the problem.
>>18341864
Here I opened the last thread yesterday
>>18339639
I hope you can help me. Lately he's not feeling much of sexual so I kinda deal with it since I like him but I'm holding myself here
>>18341870
All in all Anon, it seems like there's nothing to be said or done right now. You've put your cards on the table (good on you for that) and he wants to discuss the matter in person. Meet up with him, keep an open-mind, be honest about your feelings and desires, listen to what he has to say, and whatever happens happens. It might be the end of your relationship, or it might be the true beginning.
You've heard of Schrödinger's Cat, right? That's your relationship right now. There's no point agonising over whether it's alive or dead. Just open the box.