Does it become weird that, at my late-twenties, I go to escorts

>>18339191
Please explain what the experience is like? Do you pay them just to hang out and talk with them? Doesn't the idea of them wanting you around contrast with the fact that you paid for the experience rending it artificial?

>>18339197
>Please explain what the experience is like?
I at least feel decent, sometimes chipper, after the fact.

>Do you pay them just to hang out and talk with them?
At the most basic level.

>Doesn't the idea of them wanting you around contrast with the fact that you paid for the experience rending it artificial?
You'd think at first, but they're amazingly good at your job. Sometimes fantasy is the most you can get ._.

>>18339205
please write how the experience usually plays out.

>>18339218
Just chatting in their hotel room (or your place if they're outcall), and not feeling judged by them, or that this person will look at you any differently if you fuck up slightly. If there is sex, they'll just strip without any hesitation, and you don't need to be told what happens next (though they do explicitly state what acts they will and won't do if you aren't already familiar with each other). Other than that, it's mainly two people enjoying each other's company (even if one of them is faking it), with the added bonus that you can be as open as you want to be.

>>18339232
Interesting, sounds kinda like having a therapist that you can bone whenever you want during the meeting. When you want sex do you just tell them you want to bang them? Reminds me of The Catcher in the Rye

Well they're not spending time with you because they want to. They're doing it because you're paying them for their time. You're buying a service, like you would a babysitter or a car wash. They could be sitting their thinking you're the worst person in the universe but you'd never know because it's their job to make you feel good.

If you weren't paying women for their time and could still land dates, that would show that you weren't a terrible person. Buying an escort doesn't show or prove anything.

>>18339241
Who said anything about showing or proving anything? Do you think OP must keep up with the Joneses?

>>18339237
>When you want sex do you just tell them you want to bang them?
Weirdly enough, they sometimes initiate it themselves one way or another. But when I do, I just snuggle up to them and start making out. Or if they're the type of escort who doesn't allow kissing, jokingly unhook their bra when they least expect, massage the side of their body somewhere, or simply cuddle and caress each other until you start slipping each other's clothes off.

>>18339247

You missed the point I was making. I think you're either someone who uses escorts himself, or is actually the OP. Of course he doesn't have to prove anything to anybody, but he is asking for opinions so I assume other peoples perceptions of his actions must mean something to him.

The point I was making was simple enough. If I pay someone to spend time with me, that doesn't mean I'm a person who people want to spend time with. It says nothing about my likeability, just that I can afford to pay for someones time. OP paying for escorts so he can "feel human" is him taking gratification from something that is only happening because a purchase has taken place. These women probably wouldn't want to know him if he didn't pay for their time. They're not talking to him because he's interesting, they're there because they're earning their crust.

If you just want to feel valued, why pay for it? Go visit old and sick people who have all but been thrown away by their families. It will make whatever is left of their lives and give you non-judgmental people to talk to.

>>18339273
So you aren't allowed to feel gratification from things where money is an element?

A therapeutic massage, say, is something you should feel bad about because you didn't have the social capital to make an acquaintance do it for free?

Therapists, too, you shouldn't feel something of value has been added to your life 'cause money changed hands?

I'm not sure where you're going with that.

>>18339322

Therapists are paid to allow you to discuss your feelings. A massuese is paid to massage you and relieve you of stress.

I would never use either of these services and convince myself they were doing it because I was a great person, or that a therapist sitting with me was doing it because they wanted to hear about my feelings. They're doing it because they're providing a service. It says nothing about me or my ability to socialise, only that I need those services.

OP is making out that he pays these women so he can feel like a decent person. Only them sitting with him for an hour doesn't prove he isn't a degenerate loser, it just shows that he has to spend money for women to spend time with him. It's delusional to think that those women are sitting with him because he's "a human being". They're there because he's paying them. In fact it's quite dangerous to pay for a service like that and convince yourself that it's normal and you're a likeable person because someone will talk to you when they're being paid.

I understand we might just have a difference in opinion but I don't get why you don't get this?

>>18339241
>>18339273
These arguments are typically used to blame victims of rape, assault, mental illness, or just some kind of misfortune (which OP has indicated to go through even if he brought it on himself).

>>18339339

Thing is, of course OP's a degenerate loser. OP is always one, esp. on the 4chins.

But what he's paying for is social grooming as a service - being a degenerate or not is irrelevant, all it says is that OP "needs that service" to use your turn of phrase.

To an autist, social grooming is the tedious stuff that the soul seems to need so as you can get back to being hyperrational. Delusion doesn't factor. (Tbf I'm being mighty rough with that stroke.)

>>18339352

I'm not criticising OP for choosing to do this, I have no issues with escort services myself. I just think it's unhealthy to pay a woman for a service and use it to convince yourself that you're "an okay guy".

>>18339371

I'm sorry, when I used the phrase degenerative loser, I didn't mean to imply this was what I thought of OP. It wasn't a personal insult. You make a really good point though, I suppose I'm commenting from a rather privileged and unsympathetic position.

>>18339319
So much this. Volunteering at an old folks home once a month will do wonders for your sense of self

Taking care of the elderly is one way to really appreciate what you have as a young, presumably healthy man.

>>18339191
Having a hot girl next to you to talk to you is part of the escort experience. However paying people to be your friend is not generally considered a good idea, though it'll happen sometimes in various ways.

They tried to get a "rentafriend" or some shit website up a few years ago but it didn't work out.

>>18339197
>Doesn't the idea of them wanting you around contrast with the fact that you paid for the experience rending it artificial?
How many relationships do you think would survive if the man no longer provided money?

>>18339191

Hi Holden Caulfield! I love your angst.

>>18339773

yeah I agree. I already posted >>18339387, I also think OP is virtue signalling and being like "I'm really just a romantic", like he is better than people who go to escorts more for the sex part. I think his picture is disturbing also, why put an image of a dude killing himself? I know it's fairly common around here but it's such angst.

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>>18339785
>why put an image of a dude killing himself?
Because he knows he's a sad sack and he knows paying hookers just to talk to you is depressing as shit.

>angst
>on 4chan
The fuck else is new?

I work as security for an escort agency and I talk to these coke out whores 6-7 days a week. They make fun of almost every single trick and think almost every guy is pathetic. Anyone who pays for sex really should stop asap and try to form a normal relationship with the opposite sex. These gys get dependant on girls really quick, it's like an addiction.