How do I reveal my fetishes to my boyfriend without seeming like

>>18335712
which fetishes? just pro - research...

You know you're gonna have to tell us what the fetishes are, right?

Come on. It's an anonymous board. I've revealed my unforgivable fetishes on here.

On that note, what I chose was to never, ever tell anybody in real life, including my fiancee (soon-to-be wife), and just take them to the grave. It's going well so far. Don't make things harder for yourself than they have to be; you don't have to tell your boyfriend unless you want to. You're not culpable for what happens in your mind so long as it stays in your mind (Your browser history is an extension of your mind, just remember to clear it regularly.)

>the L word
are you 9?

>unforgiveable
do you need absolution for your sexual preferences?


why do you think you need to tell him? do you want to act them our irl? most of the time that turns out to not be even half as rewarding as it seemed in your fantasy. do you just want his approval? let it be.

overall, this thread reeks of thinly veiled attentionwhoring.
you just want thirsty whiteknights to get out of you what your fetishes are so they can post shit like "pls marry me", "you can always kik me if yor bf disapproves".

>>18335722
What are your unforgivable fetishes anon?

>>18335720
>>18335722
Fine, but as I said, they are bad even for 4chan.
-I want him to rape me
-I want him to basically force me into prostitution
-I want him to use me as a toilet

Basically I just want to me used as a sex toy and nothing more, for long periods of time. These are things I desperately want to do but I want to do it with someone I love and trust.
>>18335723
It's a very hard word to say in a relationship.

>>18335728
pfffff, that's the most common set of fetishes for girls. get over yourself.

>hard word to say

now i'm genuinely curious about your age

>>18335734
26

Just keep it to yourself ffs. I'd never tell a soul irl about my vore fetish, least of all a boyfriend. If things end badly he'll tell everyone and you'd be a pariah to all the normies who perform starfish sex only.

>>18335737
oh boy... have you considered therapy for your intimacy issues?

i genuinely though you would be below the age of 18.

>>18335728
well, was great bait... disappointed af... desu

>>18335728
That's it? I love that stuff, and whenever I talk about it on 4chan a lot of anons also seem to like it. Even found my bf that way. Is yours much of a dom?

>>18335728
you need a pimp, I loved mine

>>18335712
Do you want to live your fantasies IRL?
If not, don't tell him and masturbate in your bedroom like all proper girls do.
If you do, simply mention them rather casually. If you go "oh you know there's this very deep and dark fantasy that makes me so wet, but I am really ashamed and I have been hiding from everyone since I was 14" he's going to be weirded out, if you mention "what do you think of (x fantasy)? I've been thinking about it and it kinda turns me on" he'll probably be relaxed about it.

Just tell him or write it on a note give to him in the morning that way he has time to think about it before he gets home and then y'all can have the talk.

I'm sure deep down that s what he wants to just wants the ok first

>>18335728
Those aren't 'unforgivable.' They're extreme-ish (some moreso than others), but from the way you were talking I thought you were fantasizing about something illegal or at least morally reprehensible. Well - obviously *actual* rape and forced prostitution are illegal, but that's why god (or whoever it was) invented safewords.

Look, just sit down with him one day, or cuddle up to him in bed, whatever environment you're comfortable with, and say, Hey, this is a little awkward, but ... I have some fetishes I've never told you about. And then break it to him gradually. Gauge his reaction after everything you say. Don't open with "I have a rape fantasy and I want you to piss on me." Open with, I've been watching some BDSM stuff online and I want to try really rough sex, try being dominated, etc. Once he's adjusted to that idea (maybe once you've actually tried it, if he's open to it, of course) THEN break it to him that you want to roleplay a rape scenario. You get the idea.

You don't have to tell him everything at once in some huge unburdening, and I'm sure at each stage you'll be able to gauge whether he's turned on or intrigued or curious or grossed out or whatever. He might not be into everything you want to try - but I'd be astounded if he left you.

You want him to force you into prostitution?!! God damn that's a whole nother level.. Have him degrade you is one thing, but to be degraded by strangers is another, it seems you want these things to be as extreme as possible. I recommend you either get help or become a escort to live out your fantisies. I recommend help. How extreme does this go and where do these fantisies stem from?

>>18335758
Not as much as I'd like him to be. Whenever he fucks me he always asks if I like that or does that feel good and it really bothers me. It's nice that he's so considerate but he doesn't take charge nearly as much as he needs to.

>>18335764
Yes, I absolutely want it to be more than a fantasy.

>>18335761
I've thought about it before but I only want to do it with someone I can trust more than anything, and a random pimp is anything but trustworthy.

>>18335712
>>18335728

That's it? As other Anon's have already said those are extremely common fetishes. Casually probe him about some of those and see how he answers. There are also men who enjoy those types of scenarios in fantasies.

And as for making them real, that's up to the both of you according to your expectations and limits.

>>18335777
>It's nice that he's so considerate but he doesn't take charge nearly as much as he needs to.
Have you talked to him about it? Maybe he doesn't think you're into it so he tries to hold back.

>>18335776
Almost certainly from spending time on /b/ when I was an impressionable young teenager and reading the rape stories there.

There was one in particular I remember about an eastern european doctor who would adopt girls from an orphanage, blind them and cut out their vocal cords, and cut off their arms and legs below the knees/elbows so they couldn't move and then sexually torture them and then sell them into sex slavery.
I would masturbate to stories like that since I was being an edgy teen and then somewhere along the line I thought wouldn't it be neat if that was me? I've had fantasies like that ever since.

>>18335725
Cheating. NOT cuckolding - sorta the opposite of that, in fact, a fetish for actual cheating, whether it's cheating on my fiancee with somebody else or fucking a girl who's cheating on her S/O. The risk & betrayal are the key elements there. It's not a fetish I'm ever going to act on, because I'm not a complete piece of shit, and it's not something I'd really enjoy roleplaying out (sounds more awkward than anything), so I don't see any reason why anybody else ever has to know (Except for you guys, I guess. Lucky you.)

You can probably see why that wouldn't be something you'd be too eager to tell your partner about. I mean, can you imagine if your girlfriend said something to you like,
>I have a cheating fetish. Yeah, literally my biggest fantasy is cheating on you behind your back. Maybe with your best friend! No, it's nothing special about him, it's just that the extra element of betrayal makes it even hotter. Oh, but don't worry - I know it's wrong and I'd never act on it!

I'm not trying to belittle OP's dilemma because I do understand how awkward these revelations can feel, but there's no doubt in my mind I'd rather have my fiancee tell me "I want you to rape and piss on me" or whatever.

>>18335806

Some fantasies are meant to stay that way. As for the things you mentioned, they're extreme for many people but doable for others. Maybe your BF also has fantasies he never shared with you.

One thing you could do is each to fill out this map

http://www.humansexmap.com/

trying to be as honest as possible of course. You never know, you might both discover interesting things.

>>18335728
The prostitution thing is kinda extreme... maybe you could do cam shows though, if he wants to get off to the thought of guys jerking off to you.

And i mean, all in show off everything, don't be one of those stingy chaturbate whores.

>>18335777
>a random pimp
not talking about a random pimp. I met a guy, knew he was kinda a player but he showered me with attention and romance but he forcefully took me the first time and I fell for him hard. I would do anything for him and was crazy jealous of other women around him. First time he made me suck one of his friends off I cried after when he fucked me but was turned on and secretly wanted him to do it again. He started sending me out and after the third time he told me the guys paid him.

>>18335823

That's actually kind of hot.

Almost certainly from spending time on /b/ when I was an impressionable young teenager and reading the rape stories there.

There was one in particular I remember about an eastern european doctor who would adopt girls from an orphanage, blind them and cut out their vocal cords, and cut off their arms and legs below the knees/elbows so they couldn't move and then sexually torture them and then sell them into sex slavery.
I would masturbate to stories like that since I was being an edgy teen and then somewhere along the line I thought wouldn't it be neat if that was me? I've had fantasies like that ever since.

Yeah I've heard that story..Man your really into this shit.. What about that happening to you turns you on? I mean my god he cuts your legs off.

Coming from a guy who dated a girl like you and got to live a lot of your fantisies out, these fantisies will consume and destroy you.. It's fucked in the head to have these thoughts. It tainted me in many ways and pushed her further into her desires. Please don't let him pimp you...That's to far.. I hope you realise this.. Have you ever acted out these fantisies before?

>>18335737
too old lmao
I doubt you'd have second chance at normal life after this.

>>18335831
Dude, chill out, you'll give her a complex.

Provided she explores them in a safe way (and there are safe ways!) these fantasies don't need to 'consume and destroy' her. Let's keep some perspective here. She's not ACTUALLY going to get her legs cut off, and IF her partner 'pimps her out' (and obviously he has some say in that too - my prediction is that it's not gonna happen) they'll do it in a safe and controlled manner. And they'll ease into it gradually, with plenty of opportunities to for either of them to say, "You know what, I'm sorry, this is about as far as I want to take this."

At least, that's how they should do it.

>>18335728
How do you go to the toilet in a girl

>>18335831
>Please don't let him pimp you...That's to far.. I hope you realise this..
What's wrong with it exactly? The other anon in the thread said she enjoyed it.
>Have you ever acted out these fantisies before?
no

>>18335843
I went him to piss and shit on me like a toilet? Not hard to understand.

>>18335837
This, there's no way back for OP
when she wants a child she'd be old and wrinkly

I'm the guy that's supposedly going to give you a complex.. Be advised your taking advice from people who want you to take this shit as far as possible this is 4chan.. I've dated a girl like you.. I'm just saying try to tone it down sexually remember you've been brainwashed by 4chan this place is scum.. Keep pushing it and eventually you keep trying to take it further and further.. You blew your bf's friends for cash and liked it. Now I'm conflicted because you liked, but remember your becoming addicted to abuse.. Abuse is a bad thing to become addicted to.

>>18335861
Dude, she's not the one who blew her boyfriend's friends for cash. That wasn't OP. She hasn't done anything even remotely kinky yet, from the sound of it.

I am certainly not encouraging OP to do shit like this.
>>18335823

>>18335869
>she's not the one who blew her boyfriend's friends for cash
wait which one is that?

>>18335872
OP here, these are me

>>18335728
>>18335737
>>18335777
>>18335806
>>18335849
>>18335854

>a random pimp
not talking about a random pimp. I met a guy, knew he was kinda a player but he showered me with attention and romance but he forcefully took me the first time and I fell for him hard. I would do anything for him and was crazy jealous of other women around him. First time he made me suck one of his friends off I cried after when he fucked me but was turned on and secretly wanted him to do it again. He started sending me out and after the third time he told me the guys paid him.

Who the fuck wrote this then? not op?

>>18335872
This girl
>>18335761
>>18335823
is not OP. If you go back and reread you'll see her second post is actually a reply to OP.

OP is a basically sane-seeming girl with some unusual (but not unbelievable) fetishes that she hasn't yet pursued in any way.

The girl I just quoted is a nutcase.

^^^^yeah, total nutcase bro.. wtf

>>18335887
I am not a nutcase but got caught up in something because I fell in love and obsessed and went along with everything he suggested or coerced into. I wanted to please him. Later, much later, I found he had other women that would have sex for money that were as hooked on him as I. I admit at first it turned me on until I realized he was only using me and didn't love me at all.

>>18335728
how is your relationship with you father?

>>18335908
I called you a nutcase because you're encouraging somebody else to do what you did, which was objectively dangerous and unhealthy.

>>18335823
>>18335908
Future mother of my children :)

>>18335915
I offer OP only an option that will fulfill her desire.

>>18335909
Fine I think, we still talk occasionally. He was kinda strict but nothing anything absurd growing up.

I am not a nutcase but got caught up in something because I fell in love and obsessed and went along with everything he suggested or coerced into. I wanted to please him. Later, much later, I found he had other women that would have sex for money that were as hooked on him as I. I admit at first it turned me on until I realized he was only using me and didn't love me at all.
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I'm assuming you fell in love with him because his looks, you blew his friends because you thought he was really hot.. You fell in love? bullshit.. You thought he loved you? You were crying... Look you fucked up big deal..I'm not saying your a nutcase but you were a fucking idiot in the previous situations. be a bit smarter..

>>18335909
What does that have to do with anything? I met a guy and fell in obsessive love with him.

Why doesn't any guy here ever ask about parental relationships when they talk about wanting to have sex with their mother or sister or a transsexual or encourage their wife or gf to have sex with other people.

to op, I say slowly explore these things with someone you love, but remember your going to get addicted to the abuse..

>>18335920
>I offer OP only an option that will fulfill her desire.
REALLY!

just because you fucked up and literally got scammed don't spread your plague, OP just has common extreme fetishes that will be totally fulfilled by talking to a trustworthy person (in this case her BF).

>>18335931
want to know if their is a correlation between daddy issues and wanting to be a low life prostitute.

>>18335728
sigh, is this for real? you are embarrassed of that?

1. Don't be embarrassed about what you like. If you can't be open to your boyfriend, that should tell you something about your relationship. Your boyfriend "loves" you, he wants you to know it's ok to be who you are.

2. Sometimes your fetishes can tell you something about yourself. Being rape is pretty normal but adding the other two does sound like something is going on, as if you feel worthless and need to reassure your worth through the basic act of being useful as a sex object. (or who the fuck knows, go to a therapist if having those fantasies make you uncomfortable... btw, I think you should)

3. I'll tell you my experience with my girlfriend:
After having sex, we started talking about the type of porn we watched. I told her about 4chan which she loved and the crazy things that I've seen which she loved. Later she told me she fantasized of being fucked by a centipede and also to be forced into a rape gangbang. So I bought her a centipede dildo she loved. I also blindfolded her, tied her up and used several dildos to pretend it was a gangbang (she enjoyed it but not as much... once you delve into the fantasy it stops being one). The thing is, you don't actually have to do the thing. Fantasies are fantasies and sometimes it's just that. How many times have you fantasized of killing a person? Doesn't mean you have to or that you will be unhappy if you don't.

Advice: Go to a therapist. AND ask your boyfriend what kind of porn he watches and slowly scalate untill you feel comfortable revealing what you like (don't do it suddenly, there is a thing called healthy disclosure, don't expose yourself if he doesn't). After telling him, maybe later you can talk about making something that remotely represents what you want (you don't have to do the thing). If you feel comfortable, maybe you can escalate. ALSO, reciprocate, goddamit.

^ this guys advice

>>18335728
>bad even for 4chan

>goes on to list some of the most vanilla shit ive ever read

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Try having him watch as you get fucked and impregnated by a bigger guy than him and keeping the child so he raises it and THEN youre bad even for 4chan

Fucking women are insane I swear

>>18335962
>Fucking women are insane I swear
and men aren't? Masturbating to cartoon characters, dog fucking and bbc cuckold porn or obsessing over dicks

>>18335712
OP, if you're still here, google "BDSM for beginners". You'll find many sites talking about the full range of bdsm, from mild to extreme.

And one thing they will all tell you is that it is always a game of trust - and the first trust is the understanding that the roles you play and things you say and do within the game do NOT reflect your real feelings for each other.

If he "rapes" you, you both know it is consensual and you are both pretending it's rape because that's exciting for both of you.

As to your how-to question, start small. Suggest he tie you to the bed and have his way with you. Admit you might enjoy a spanking. Ease him into the whole game-playing, and then lead him as far as he is prepared to go.

>>18335728
literally basic bitch tier.

>>18335854
so *Latrine* is the L-word, right?

>>18335712
Honestly, you should tell him all of what you told us. Leave out the part about the human prostitution and maybe being used as a toilet. Until he warms up to the idea.

Like you said, it's sweet he's thinking about you, but you want him to take charge. There's a safe way to explore your extreme side, and you shouldn't deprive yourself or you'll be unhappy.

>>18335728
That's so fucking normal, all girls have that fetish, all, it's not even a fetish.

The prostitution one is weird though, do you want him to abuse you or do you want to be a prostitute for other men, because that's a desire to cheat and a red flag.

>>18336295
>because that's a desire to cheat and a red flag.

She's considering a pimp. Obviously she wants to cheat on this fucking faggot

>>18335772
>cuddle up to him in bed
>"uhmmm this is a little bit awkward but..."
>what, what is it?"
>"I WANT YOU TO RAPE ME AAAAAAAAA"

>>18336312
>cuddle up to him in bed
>"uhmmm this is a little bit awkward but..."
>what, what is it?"
>whispers *I want you to rape me*
boner.exe

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>>18336312
That's funny.

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>>18335712
>They are on the unforgivable side, even for 4chan.
>>18335728
Are you fucking shitting me? I was expecting you to say something about molesting kids or eating shit, eating a molested kid's shit, and your big unforgivable monster fetish is being a bottom bitch? Shit thread, massive disappointment, I mad, fuck you.