I live with my brother and he relapsed last night after 4 years

Be supportive and try not to treat it like the end of the world. One day's relapse is not the same as falling back into something completely, don't let him beat himself up because that sort of attitude is why breaking the cycle of addiction or starting any other changes in your lifestyle can be so hard. Today's a new day, and a new chance for him to do well.

Find out what happened and let him talk, why did he relapse, what made him want to, is this something that's been going on for a while? How can you help?

>>18306139
Day at a time, I guess. Fact that he has sponsers should mean this remains a blip, and not a full ongoing relapse.
You shouldn't need to heap blame on him either, he'll be putting enough on himself for the both of you - just make sure he gets to whatever NA meetings or other such addict therapy tonight and ongoing, it has evidently worked well to date.
Day at a time.

>>18306168
>>18306154
I have no intention to get on his ass about it. Our parents always handled his addiction really poorly so I feel like I need to try to be both supportive and try not to sound condescending. My main concern is our other roommate and landlord said he'd kick him out right away if he ever started using again and he found out about last night. He'll probably have to move back with my parents and they're in Colorado while we're in California. I'm also just antsy sitting around on a Thursday not working and just waiting for him to wake up.

>how can you help?
Well he's been borrowing money from me for the past two months and other people have told me he owes them money too. He's like $2000 in debt and that's just money owed to people he knows personally. I guess I can help financially but even I'm going through financial problems.

>>18306182
Try to find a way he can stay, reason with the landlord to give him a chance and that this is a one time screw up - put emphasis on the four years of sobriety, and that it won't be something that continues. Him going back with your parents when they handled the addiction poorly, and him leaving the help he's getting now, and leaving the support he has (you) would be one of the worst things for him right now.

Watch where your money goes, don't micromanage him if you help him out financially, but make sure he isn't - and won't/can't use it on drugs, otherwise you'll be enabling him. Don't forget to take care of yourself too.

>>18306223
I want to help keep him here. In fact I'd rather my parents never even find out about what happened. I'm also having trouble not playing the victim or getting on a high horse about it.

hey this might be obvious and redundant, but you checked to make sure he's not DEAD right?

>>18306296
because i'm pretty sure that relapses are the major cause of overdose death with dope or benzos because your tolerance is at its lowest point

>>18306296
I've been checking on him every 15 minutes or so since he got home. He's still breathing.

He just woke up and he's acting relatively normal but he's on the phone. Should I make him some food or something?

>>18306321
Nigga, it is beyond our scope to give you a play by play of what you should do here. You're in for some discussion that won't be easy, be supportive but there are some things purely beyond your control.

I know no one really cares but it ended up mostly fine. He's just really mad at himself and just left to meet with his sponsor. Our conversation ended up turning into him getting upset over my personal drinking problem.

>>18306789
alright anon
good luck