Hey /adv/. I'm in a bit of a pickle. I'm in a long-distance

>Nor do I think us being in a "relationship" is good for her....
She's an adult. Don't parent her. Either you don't want to be in a relationship, or you do. Do what you feel is right, and if or when she feels it's right to break up, she will break up. Don't try to frame your doubts as looking out for her because absolutely everyone herself included will see right through that.

>I'm in a long-distance relationship with this girl. We live about $400 flight, 13-hour drive apart. I can't afford to go see her, and she is graduating this weekend. She's told her whole family that I'm coming.... And I just cannot afford to make it.
Why was she under the impression you were coming? Did you tell her you were? Why haven't you told her the truth before her family was told? Or shortly after, when you found out? It's your duty to clear up any misconceptions and to do so immediately. Be direct.

>I really do not want her to be depressed/suicidal.
Then stop lying to her and leading her on. If you're going to go, go, if you're not, don't let her think you are. If you don't want to be in the relationship, leave. But you need to be honest with her.

>>18301722
You have to ask yourself how valuable this relationship is to you. Without that info I can't say much how you should go with it. If you both are in high school, I think it's not worth it. Because there are so many opportunities out there waiting for you. You don't want to tied yourself up in this expensive long distance. You needed the money to get higher education and in return you will get much more.
Just tell her what it is. Yes she will be disappointed and her family will understand and be there for her.
Sometimes I rather experience disappointment early in life so I learn not to get my hopes up all the time.

>>18301731
I don't know why she told everyone that I would be going. It was never mentioned.

>>18301739
I don't know what value it brings me other than it's kept her stable. I never wanted her to do anything to harm herself, but I guess I fucked that up. I was roped into "dating" her, but of course, she can never know that.

She's graduating college and I still have years left before I do.

>>18301722
Sounds like you're 'dating' a shitty person. Tell her you're not coming and that she got hyped over nothing all by herself.

I'll send you the money big dog.

show her this thread