Hi. I was meant to be getting married this year but I got cold

>>18294439
A good apology comes in three parts.
1. Statement of the action you took and admission that it was wrong.
2. Statement of how you know it was wrong and what damage you caused.
3. Commitment to specific actions you will take, to repair that damage.

Anything in addition to this is almost certainly an excuse, rather than an apology. So be succinct, be honest, be mature, and be ready for the possibility that even a perfect apology may not be enough.

Good luck.

>>18294439

I did the same thing and I really regret how I completely cut all ties with their parents. They were wonderful, I truly felt part of the family and I miss them so much.

I don't think I could write to them though - too much time has passed. Just write a few things down and see if it comes naturally. You don't want it to sound insincere.

Why did you get cold feet, anon?

>>18294439

Thank you - I really like that structure and feel better about writing something up now.

#3 is going to be hard because there is a chance we could reconcile but I don't want to jump the gun.

>>18294504

I feel your pain, anon. I was really made to feel part of the family and I didn't appreciate it at the time.

I got cold feet throughout the wedding planning process. I was so, so happy when I proposed but it all went downhill. Small things, like not being to agree on a venue, arguing about sharing the planning workload, stupid things like that, until it built up and I could only feel dread about the big day. I love her completely and she wasn't being a bridezilla, it was just my own insecurities took over.

>>18294439
You want to get back with your ex right?
She's going to have trouble trusting you because you abandoned her. Can you even trust yourself to stay this time? I wouldn't marry a guy who left me at the alter because I would be questioning if he really wanted to stay the whole duration of the marriage. Trust is really difficult to win back, are you up to working hard to gain her trust back little by little OP? It's going to take a lot of work and it will not be easy at all.

>>18294439
Dude, marriage is a funeral with cake.
Has anyone here ever noticed that the "here comes the bride" song is the the Chopin's Funeral March song in reverse? It's true, check it out.

What you did isnt cool you shouldnt bother that girl or her family.you probably cost them a shit ton of money.
You could write an apology saying you will pay 4 the money lost otherwise.