ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything GUIDELINES: Before you

Do girls IRL have much less guys trying to date them than girls on dating sites?
If dating sites are good for introverts, how will introverts compete with extroverts?

>>18294377
>Do girls IRL have much less guys trying to date them than girls on dating sites?
No.

>If dating sites are good for introverts, how will introverts compete with extroverts?
Introverts are not objectively worse than extroverts, everyone has their own preferences and they're personal.
I never dated someone who wasn't introverted to some degree.

Girls, how does the bf selection process work?
When you are on a dating site (or have more than one guy hitting on you from real life), how do you choose the guy?

Do you go on first dates with all candidates (at least the sane ones)?

When you discard some guys, what do you tell them? Do you just block them?

>>18294388
>No
Really? But girls receive more than 100 messages per day on dating sites. You probably don't get hit on 100 times per day IRL, do you?

>>18294409
>But girls receive more than 100 messages per day on dating sites
Lol.

Why don't girls mind sharing partners the same way guys do? I know a few attractive guys and it's common for them to hook up with a girl one weekend, then he hooks up with her friend the next weekend and so it goes until he has slept with most or all of the girls in that circle. To myself and most of the guys I know, sleeping with someone a friend has slept with first is just a no-no.

>>18294394
I can sperg and explain to you in detail how I pick guys on dating sites, but probably it is a bit beyond the point.

I don't go on first dates with guys I don't feel a sincere connection with, which is a very modest part of the guys I talk to.
If I happen to click with more than one guy at the same time, I usually go on a first date with both and then decide which one I like most/I felt most chemistry with.

When I discard someone, I usually ghost them if we have never met in real life or text them something like "Hey, I had a really great time with you but I don't think I like you romantically. Thank you for the fun date!".

>>18294377
>Falling for the competition meme

There's always an old pair of flipflops for tired feet. Don't fall for that "muh competition" bullshit. There's all kinds of women out there, different social groups, interests and so on. The world isn't made of chad x stacy only.

>>18294473
Animal instinct, one guy can impregnate a lot of females, but multiple guys compete to impregnate one.

>>18294496
And before anyone says I'm contradicting myself here, please realize that it's much more complex for humans than animals. There's plenty of different tribes, cultures and subcultures, interests, values and so on. So what a group of females might perceive as the best provider might be completly different from another group of females.

Kind of a weird question and I didn't want to make a new thread about it:

My lower back is fucked and now I can't do much heavy lifting or be sedintary for very long either. Not just my lower back but my arms and legs also annoyingly hurt. Anyway, with all of this, I kind of feel emasculated since I literally can't play the masculine 'role'. I do excersize, and while it is just cardio (I'm a cyclist), it keeps me in shape and I'm on a good diet, so I LOOK pretty good, I just can't "walk the walk." I guess I'm just looking for advice on how to deal with this or perhaps how anyone else has dealt with something like this. Or if it's something I should really be worried about?

>>18294522
I have lower back pain too, although mine isn't nearly as bad. It was diagnosed as an early stage hernia.

Have you been to the doctor yet? How functional you are, why do you ferl emasculated by it?

Fellow guys: How often do you find a girl attractive? How often do you ask a girl out? What kind of girls do you ask out and how well do you know them before asking them out?

I'm worried that I only feel like dating like 1 out of every 300 girls I meet. And I don't feel like having sex with pretty much anyone. My therapist says I need to change this attitude somehow.

>>18294534
I find lots of girls attractive and as I get older I'm starting to find older women attractive too so I'm seeing them everywhere now. I never ask anyone out though. It sounds like your therapist is trying to tell you that you're ugly.

>>18294558
>It sounds like your therapist is trying to tell you that you're ugly
lol, how? (I'm not saying I'm not btw)

>>18294534
>How often do you find a girl attractive?
Kinda hard to explain in frequency terms... it largely depends on what kind of girls are around in each ambient I'm in and so on... idk, given a group of girls on my age range and prefered weight, before talking to them, I'd guess 20%?
>how oftern ask a girl out
Never, I have a gf hahaha but if I was single, I'd say the same 20%... shit phrase those questions better! Lol
>kind/how well
I'm not into girls with an extremely feminine way of acting. They seem boring to me. The type who doesn't drink, only eats salads, so on. Girls have to be "one of the guys", cool to be around and a bit extroverted. SJW types are striked out promptly. If I already find her visually appealing, as soon as I notice that, I want to date them.

Why are you worried with that and why your therapist thinks you need to change?

(Im >>18294560)
Oops I get what you meant, that he's subtly saying I need to aim lower.

>>18294563
Well I'm worried that it means I'm only gonna be attracted to a few girls which means there's more chance of unrequited love. And he says I have to change because if I don't get into a relationship soon the frustration is gonna hit me really hard. I don't want to be in a relationship in general, only with one of the few girls I feel attracted to. But he says I need to be more open because I really should get into a relationship. I really don't know how to change my way of thinking.

>>18294529
Yeah I've been to a doc about it.
It's been almost 8 years and now we're finally getting somewhere with it.

I have to schedule an MRI soon, but I was tested positive for HLA b27, so it's just a matter of specifically diagnosing what exactly is the problem.

I'm worried that I won't be as helpful as a man 'seems' to be.

>>18294534
>I'm worried that I only feel like dating like 1 out of every 300 girls I meet.

How often do you meet girls?

I ask people out once, twice, or thrice a year at most. Always people I know.

I find plenty of girls attractive, but that and asking them out is another matter.

>>18294571
See, I don't know your age, but when I was a teen until my first gf at 18, I also had a hard time wrapping my mind around finding a girl appealing. I was much more attracted to a pretty face and cool personality than a body. I did enjoy naked women on porn, but there was kind of a gap between that and a dressed booty. Only after I actually made out with a few girls that this gap got closer.

I think we (and I mean, both guys and gals) get too attached to the fairytale-esque/hollywoodian concept of love, that flows from first being in love with someone to then actually doing something with them, while personally I think it works completly backwards. Obviously you need to feel somewhat attracted to make out with a person, but it's not the attraction we trained ourselves to feel. It something much more like "she/he's so cool as a friend and attractive that I want to go to bed with her/him", then "we can only kiss and have sex if it's true love or love at first sight". This mostly leads to friendzoning because it isn't mutual, and we make much more of a big deal than it actually is.

So you have to allow yourself to experiment with people you like more mildly, and not necessarily is head over heels with. Dates aren't proposing marriage, you don't need to feel like you owe the other person making that work, because the purpose is exactly to see if a spark shows up naturally.

>>18294612
In what sense? What can't you do, lift a couch? That's barely necessary to be "manly", in fact even buff guys will probably hire professionals to do the heavy work...

>>18294534
>How often do you find a girl attractive?
In the "she's hot" sense pretty often, multiple girls a day often. In the "would want more" sense, very, very rarely. Like one girl per year at best.

>How often do you ask a girl out?
Maybe once in a year or two. I get asked out myself on a monthly basis so it gets balanced out I guess.

>What kind of girls do you ask out
The type that impresses me, it's tricky and painfully long to sum up things that factor into it.

>and how well do you know them before asking them out?
At least casual acquaintances, so I know all the basics about her.

So is tinder just full of basic bitch sluts? I was hoping if I swiped through enough people I'd see at least one decent girl. I've gone through hundreds and saw maybe 5 ok girls, but even then they were still far from what I was looking for.

>>18294647
Because quality people meet their partner through their circle of friends.

>>18294654
Well, what if my friends don't know anyone I'd want. And meeting an introvert who I'd actually like isn't exactly easy.

>>18294647
I use Tinder as a gym
>practice and have fun with randoms
>you should be completely unneedy and used to dealing with women by the time you find a worthy gf

>>18294630
I can't lift or move anything, I can't travel for very long by car or plane. Walking, running, and cycling are the only things I can do for extended periods of time.

I'm afraid that I'll be holding people back since I can't do a lot of things. If I get a gf, I won't be able to travel over seas, or go on a road trip. I can't volunteer as a 'stronghand' nor can I sit at a desk for 8 hours straight.

Maybe you're right, and I'm just trying to find excuses when there is none.

>>18294662
I've been trying that too, but it's largely skewed my perception of women, frankly I'm disgusted. I've had 3 conversations that didn't make me think they were whores.

>>18294657
Why does it have to be an introvert?

>>18294667
>being upset that people want to hook up over a hook up app
Do you bitch about people drinking in a bar or working out in a gym too?

>>18294657
If you were a quality person you'd have a circle of friends that could get you in touch with someone valuable.
Really, you suck and you expect someone much better than you.

>>18294647
Considering Tinder is for hookups, you're probably more likely to find people who just want a quick one-off. So to put it bluntly, yeah, sluts.

>>18294667
I still prefer it over going to clubs
I find the whole place offensive and incredably boring

>>18294679
As in clubs, not Tinder
Tinder is just using tech to make matching faster

>>18294672
Well It doesn't have to be a shut in, but I don't get along well with extroverts.
>>18294675
>quality person
Really? Because you know everything about me?
>>18294673
>>18294677
I'm pretty sure tinder is not marketed for hookups.

>>18294682
>Really? Because you know everything about me?
I don't need to know everything about you.
You clearly are undesirable.

Plus you have to be somewhat dense because you are surprised about finding people who want to hook up on a hook up app.

>>18294686
Plenty of people never have sex with tinder. Most of the girls I spoke to either wanted to go out or just talk a bit.

Do you just come here to be a stupid asshole?

>>18294682
>I'm pretty sure tinder is not marketed for hookups
You see pictures and some basic info about people and make a decision to match or ignore based on that. It's a hook-up app, or a very superficial dating app. It even has a function just for finding people when you're traveling. Girls won't admit they're there to hook up though, because that makes them look slutty.

>>18294682
>the criteria to choose people are couple pictures and few lines of text
Anon, even escort services are more subtle than tinder.

>>18294694
Plenty of people never hooked up with a girl from a club but if you went clubbing expecting to establish personal and deep relationship you'd be an idiot.

Also, you really have no right to call people assholes when your opening post was misogynistic and narcissistic.

>>18294694
Top fucking Kek

They don't fuck with you

All girls on tinder are there for the D

>>18294730
Whatever, all this "advice" is worthless but I doubt I'll find anything good so I'm done.

Ladies, i've fallen in love with a girl who is much more experienced than me when it comes to relationships and social life. I'm a kissless virgin and i am on my early 20s and she is a bit younger than me. For now it seems like we're coping well with each other. But i have worries about later. Are there any particular subject i must be careful about in this kind of situations?

>>18294769
don't go full autismo

I've been living with my GF for a few months now, and I'm beginning to realize that her sex drive is way too high for me. I didn't think much of it before we moved in together since we only saw one another once a week or so.

It's at the point where she wants to have sex 3 times a day every day, and honestly, even once a day wears me out. If I don't initiate sex she'll eventually just cuddle up next to me and grab my dick. I'm at the point where I'm faking orgasms rather than pounding her for 2 hours non-stop to make myself cum.

What's the best way to discuss this with her? I don't want to end the relationship over this but we seem to be so incompatible in this regard.

>>18294647
>>18294647
Swiped through thousands, possibly tens of thousands, and matched with over a thousand over the last few years. I know it's primarily a hookup app (though that's changing) and I'm not into doing that so I had very low expectations overall from it anyway.

Of those that I talked to (maybe 10% or less), almost all of them are what I would describe as 'basic bitch', at least in how they act on the app, and couldn't hold a conversation to save their lives so it fizzled out very quickly. Met 3 in person, ended up in a relationship with one. I know plenty of people who have had much better luck than that or are just different enough people to me that they found someone a lot quicker, tons of my friends and family met their current partners on Tinder.

>>18294784
Basically focus on you not being able to keep up and not her sex drive, since many can interpret it as being called a slut. Asks her for suggestions how you could please it without killing your dick.

>>18294785
I was told it was a good way to meet introverted girls. Clearly not true, so I'm just deleting my account.

>>18294784
Just be honest.
Tell her that you absolutely love her, and sex with her is amazing, but you cannot keep up with her sex drive and you'd like to tone it down a little bit.

Make sure you give her orgasms when you have sex. I was like that with my ex because he never got me off, so I was just hornier after we fucked.

>>18294793
>Basically focus on you not being able to keep up and not her sex drive
I like this.

>>18294796
>Make sure you give her orgasms when you have sex. I was like that with my ex because he never got me off, so I was just hornier after we fucked.
She has this weird thing where she counts her orgasms out loud - she usually ends up around 6. Unless we're both faking out orgasms which would be sad enough to be funny.

>>18294785
>Swiped through thousands, possibly tens of thousands, and matched with over a thousand
Where do you live where this is possible? Just curious. I live in a small town with 30,000 people and there are maybe 100 local girls on my Tinder.

>>18294773
Lol, i don't. But i joke about going autismo sometimes. Other than that i think i am at least ok. I don't really have any problems with conversations about other topics. Maybe a little bit when it comes to small talk. It makes me nervous because this situation makes me feel that she can easily manipulate me when sexual tension arose because of my lack of sexual experience. I mean not only like bodily, but mentaly.

>>18294665
Yes you are. I'm a guy but I don't see why any of those make you less manly. Driving for hours is impossible with a woman anyway because they have to stop every two hours to pee lol

And by airplane, you can always get a prescription with your doctor to sleep during most of it, or take some painkillers. A pillow under your bak would probably help too. Tons of people need something to fly for many other reasons.

Everyone has little limitating quirks and nuisances, those are just yours, but none make you less manly. In fact, bitching about it is much more emasculating when you can get around it.

>>18294794
It's probably one of the easier ways to meet introverts desu since there's no real social pressure. I would try to stick at it but introverted girls can be just as awful at holding conversation as extroverts.

>>18294803
I'm in Melbourne, Australia. It's hugely popular here, I reckon more than half of single young normies use it

>>18294675
How do you get your friends to get you in touch with someone? It seems pathetic to ask

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Does it really mean something when a woman looks at you?

From what I learned, it doesn't mean shit.

Have you ever experienced something good from somebody staring at you?

>>18294815
It's helped me get used to talking to girls, but none of them were introverts by any stretch of the word.

>>18294801

>She has this weird thing where she counts her orgasms out loud - she usually ends up around 6.
Sometimes I read things like this and ask myself why would somebody come here just to make up stories.

Then I figure it may not be a troll so it makes it really funny.

>>18294816
You don't have to ask.

Friends hang out, bring other friends over, who might become part of the group, and they eventually bring other friends over, etc.
You widen your social circle and eventually meet someone who fits your personality.

My boyfriend of 6 years is a friend of my best friend's ex boyfriend.
We were hanging out at a pub with my friends, my now boyfriend came to say hi to my best friend's ex boyfriend and ended up staying with us to for the evening.
We talked and flirted all night, he asked me out, and here we are.

>>18294822
I've spoken to plenty of introverts on there, must be a demographic difference in your city or something wrong with who you swipe right to. Maybe you have spoken to some introverts but it just wasn't obvious because it doesn't come through as much via text conversation? What is your criteria for one to be introverted?

>>18294840
Doesn't go out to big parties, clubbing, participate in many social events.
The ones I talked to seemed to always be with others. Maybe some I overestimated but none seemed actually introverted.

>>18294784
As a guy with a slightly incompatible sex drive with my gf (she has like 80% of mine)

Try to make her fucking exhausted from so much cumming. You don't need your dick for that. Bone her for a few minutes, stop, finger her, suck her clit, bone again. It's likely the teasing and denying will make her cum so hard that she'll be done for the day at some point. Make her beg you to stop, and she'll probably be too tired to go after you again for a while.

>>18294850
That's not even what being introverted means.
You can have an healthy social life and be introverted.

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why is 5'9 too short for 90% of girls?

>>18294856
Because you soent too much time in 4chan to believe it

>>18294855
Well, sort of? But if you are actually with other people all the time you aren't introverted. I can't even stand being with close friends for more than 6 or 7 hours.

>>18294856
I'd date someone your height, and I'm kinda tall for a girl (5'8").
The fact that you worry about your height is a bigger turn off that your height itself.

>>18294534
>How often do you find a girl attractive?
Probably more than usual
>How often do you ask a girl out?
Not often, I can't really remember the last time I specifically did it.
>What kind of girls do you ask out and how well do you know them before asking them out?
It all depends. All of my exes besides one were the ones that asked me out so I don't know much about that. I think that the ones I do ask out are the ones that I know I'll get along with IRL especially if it's online dating. If I know them personally it's a lot easier. I usually wait about a week or so before asking them out, though I think I'm gonna need to change that. It's way too quick :/

>>18294830
Can confirm, literally all of my exes besides one were friends of friends.

>>18294868
>The fact that you worry about your height is a bigger turn off that your height itself.

>>18294856 READ THAT, that's all you need to know.

>>18294856
>>18294861
online dating has shown me otherwise though, unless the girl is a midget they want 6+ or bust. hell even some of the girls below 5 foot 3 say that they "refuse to date boys under 6" on their profile

>>18294912
I have read guys who said that they wouldn't date a girl heavier than 120 lbs or such things.
Just don't bother with people who have such standards. They're not the majority. Most people will be fine with it as long as you don't have complexes.

>>18294912
when your boyfriend is shorter than all your male friends it really does feel like your dating a boy

sorry short guys

>>18294912
Dude I do online dating to get threesomes as a couple. Girls like that are called unicorns for the rarity. If I can manage it being a completly average guy, height should not be stoping you at all.

If you're so embarassed of it, just hide it from your profile, use pics that hide your height and make good friends before going out and you're good.

>tfw 5'5
>guys that are 5'9-5'11 are crying about their height

I have no fucking hope

>>18294978
Stop being insecure about it! I fucking hate manlets because of the insecurity they possess.

Please any answer to >>18294819
I know it's silly but I need to hear some advice.

Bump for more answers: >>18294394

>>18294492
Thanks, girl!

>>18294420
You must be ugly.

is it weird to leave a girl i like a snapchat with a heart and it says love you in it?

normally i wouldnt give a shit and just do it since we have a pretty good friendship but she also has been ignoring my texts and calls lately so im second guessing it. my friend said i scared her away by being too nice and basically begging her to talk to me.

>>18294978
No hope of what? reaching the top shelf?
Jokes aside, i've seen midgets find love so why wouldn't you

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I'm projected to make $100k+ and be a manager by 27. How do I make sure a women loves me for me and not my earnings + riches.

I already make $63k out of college much more than my peers.

>>18295138
Don't flaunt your wealth like some cuck and you'll be fine.

>>18294819
Completely depends on how they look at you
My mom always said if you meet a girls stare and she doesnt look away for 3 seconds, she likes you. yes, i've followed that advice and it's true, just think about it.
When you see a cute bird, you look at her and if you're confident enough you'll look her straight in the eyes. If you look away straight away you feel caught and have that very expression on your face, and the girls do too.
Don't leave opportunities to waste

Girls, how should I try to meet women at a bar?

Is it really that simple as saying 'hi'? Would it work if I caught you looking at me and I'd respond by waving at you and just walk over to you and talk?

Or do you find it creepy?

>>18295138
Stay humble.
Rich fags that show off are unbearable to be around

>>18295138
Nobody needs to know, and unless you show it off they wont. I'm 23 and make 87k but only my family knows. As long as you aren't driving around in an expensive car or throwing money around how will they know?

>>18294375
18 yo male here
I think I might be losing my virginity soon
Any advice from a female perspective?
Should i shave my pubes? Trim them?

Hey girls, what are the things that a guy does that makes you see them as a guy to friendzone, or a guy that isnt sexual at all
Im 23 and ive never had a girlfriend thanks to low self esteem and SPD and while ive made out with a few friends ive never actually tried to get a gf, but for the life of me it would be nice to feel desired, and i want to start trying to date but i feel completely lost in a world that i was supposed to live in my college years that are now ending
Im a 6/10 tall guy with a babyface

>>18295138
First off I need to laugh at describing $100k a year as "riches". Nothing to scoff at, but cool your jets a bit.


You need to be careful because you sound like the exact type of person that women latch on to after they hit the wall. You're some middle-class schmuck that thinks he's hot-shit because he makes a bit more money than the average college grad and is on track to some soul-sucking middle management position. This is the person who lives in a McMansion and drives a mid-tier BMW (neither of which he can really afford).

Be careful, bro.

>>18295138
#1: Don't tell ANYBODY how much you make; don't even tell them your job. I've heard from rich dudes who were dumped for "lacking ambition" and they were only better off for it.

#2: Don't spend your money on stupid flashy shit. Give yourself a monthly spending allowance (including basic needs) on par with someone who grosses $45k/yr, and stick the rest of it into a diverse investment portfolio. Never ever ever fall for the "one option is better than all the others" meme - that's how rich people turn poor.

#3: Talk to lawyers and accountants, talk to them multiple times a year at least. This is the one single exception to the spending restrictions you should place on yourself. Your fake teachers tried to tell you otherwise, but the world really is out to get you - nature is survival of the winners. Just because you're making money doesn't mean you have won at life yet.

Semi-related: if you ever NEED a lawyer, then make damn well sure you get a specialized and experienced one. If you take a business-lawsuit lawyer into divorce court then you'll be sleeping in a studio apartment from that day forward.

Never forget the people who were good to you. Just don't expect them to stay completely trustworthy.

>>18295218
>Hey girls, what are the things that a guy does that makes you see them as a guy to friendzone, or a guy that isnt sexual at all

Not a girl but I'll answer for them. If you want to have sex with a girl then act like it. Flirt with them and engage them physically. Make your intentions clear. Too many dudes think that there's some threshold where if they spend x amount of time being nice to a girl she'll magically want to have sex with them.

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Girls:
Pulled a prank on some girl I know with a friend of mine. She is a little crazy but cute like pic related. She raged and started yelling and pinching my friend in the arm, but she appeared to be much less angry with me (less yelling, not as loud, no pinching) even though we pulled the prank together and she knew that.

Does she like me? Would you be less aggressive towards someone you like?

>>18295245
Read the OP, fag.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>>18295218
>low self esteem virgin baby face

you're pretty much the opposite of what girls want in your age group, most girls below the age of 25 exclusively date guys 25 and older or at least have to look like they do

still you could probably land yourself some fat chick who is basically your equivalent but even then it can be hard, 23 is one of the worst ages to try to get into the dating scene

>>18295248
It was obvious, not insignificant.

>>18295213
Someone help, even guys. What was your first time like?.pls help

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>>18295245
If they treat you better, they're more attracted to you.

An old saying stuck in my head:
>She doesn't think you're sexy because you're funny; she thinks you're funny because you're sexy

Whipping boys are just the omegas of humanity. The omega is the one you blame for everything, and the one you summarily execute when the town isn't big enough for everyone.

>>18295213
I wouldn't shave it all unless you want to scratch your crotch for the next week or so, trim it as short as you can

>>18295258
>"A girl pinched my friend's arm but didn't pinch my arm, does she like me?"

Think about how stupid that sounds.
If you really wanted to over analyze that, then it sounds like she paid more attention to your friend than she did to you.

>>18295251
Well i guess im fucked then, the girls i did land in a way were prettier than me and that triggered my low self esteem and it made me fuck myself over.
Thanks for the advice i guess at least i know it wont be easy
>>18295243
Thats the thing the SPD made me socially retarded i still dont know how to flirt and apparently i did do it but i was just being playful i wasnt actually doing it with an ulterior motive. A few friends did manage to like me romantically but i was just being myself, but i know that im gonna have to wait a lot if i try to find a girlfriend that way

>>18295272
Oh boy the salt. I was asking girls anyway, not some permavirgin who thinks he's trolling but in reality gets jealous at every guy who even gets in contact or attention from girls.

>>18295233
Im making 35k put of college. 63k sounds pretty freaking good to me. 100k at 27 as well.

>>18295282
>I was asking girls anyway
Surprise! I am a girl.

>permavirgin who thinks he's trolling but in reality gets jealous at every guy who even gets in contact or attention from girls.
Projecting much?

>>18295282
>jealous

Lol

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My college mate always offers or even insists that I take her notes from the past lecture. We're dating and I'm very affectionate towards her, but she isn't too open about how she feels herself.

Admittedly, I'm a messy worker and run late with a lot of assignments, but I feel guilty for having her 'bail me out' every time even when I'm in the clear. On the other hand, wanting to help me out so much might just be her way of showing affection and it'd be cold of me to turn her down.

What do any of you think, is it better to accept an offer like that and appreciate her kindness, or keep my head high and show her how capable I am?

>>18295290
'i am le girl'

fuck off bro, keep 'trolling' people on advice forums late at night you sad fuck

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I asked this before bit, I was invited to prom by a girl, to what I thought was just her and another girl. This turned into a bigger group with people I don't hangout with or really even know. The part that troubles me a bit is I think they are bringing an autistic kid (same age as us and full austim) with the group, I'm not sure how I feel about this. What should I do?

>>18295282
>>18295315
>Trolling
Nobody is trolling you, you're just a fucking retard.

>>18295300
This isnt about her you lazy fuck, be a self respecting adult and do your own homework on time and if you fail at least dont accept her help because its your responsibility but tell her that, at least Thats what i would do

How can I learn to fuck so good that the female I'm with is completely worn out afterwards?

>>18295320
Wow, touchy subject much?

Reason that I'm asking is because even if I'm running late I get those assignments done on time anyway, but she keeps insisting herself that I take her notes. No need to get all stingy about it.

how am i supposed to confess that i have feelings for a girl who is my longtime friend? it seems like no matter what i do it will end in some kind of rejection. but at the same time its eating me up inside and i want to get it off my chest and possibly put closure on the whole thing.

my best mate told me i should just move on and i waited far too long to say something. he's right but i dont want to give up on my feelings. this chick has been seeing other people anyway and can be hard for me to get a hold of. which makes me feel even more shitty and like i shouldnt say anything. but not saying anything just torments me even more.

every scenario in my head tells me it will end in 100% failure. our relationship is to a point where on her end she most likely feels no attraction but just friendly kind of love.

do you ever sit on your balls?

>>18295349
lmao.

I've never sat directly *on* them, although I guess it's physically possible. You're conscious enough of where they are not to crush them like that though.

However, sometimes you can sit where they get stuck at a weird angle, and one of your balls rolls up a bit where it's at a weird angle, and you have to find a way to readjust without drawing too much attention to yourself.

>>18295282
I'm a girl and I agree with her dude. If anything, it's more likely to mean she likes your friend.

There is this girl that I'm very interested in
>so ask her out talk to her
that's my problem she's pretty different from me and seems to not even notice me. I don't even know where to begin with talking to her.

Any advice welcome

>>18295325
By fucking. Only practice will make it perfect.

Two tips:
>give oral to clits like you'd like your dick sucked
>penetrate deep and move your hips to rub your pubic bone on her clit

It's all in the clit bro

>>18294534
IRL I find many girls attractive, not most of them, but a small portion. I haven't asked anyone out. ;_;

>>18295262
It was amazing, with a beautiful prostitute. Buy Skyn condoms.

>>18295268
I don't have this problem.

>>18295399
>It's all in the clit bro
This.

If your oral game is good you can also pull out mid-fuck (ideally when your girl is coming down from an orgasm) and go to town on her clit with your tongue. This usually gets my girl moaning louder than when I'm fucking her.

Also a good way to avoid premature ejaculation.

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>>18295349
i did once after a hot shower

I just curled up in the fetal position and cried for a bit then called in sick for work

>Her: Go on!
>Me: I'd caress your face, your neck, your arms, your chest... <3
>Her: Hm
>Her: careful! you can love me xD
>Me: Hahah Isn't that your plan, though?
>Her: Maybe
>Her: If You want
What did she mean by this?

This girl I ghosted a while ago has been texting me non stop the past 24 hours. We used to be good friends and shared many great times together. Weve gone to third base together but never really fucked. I got too attached to her and that's what fucked up our friendship/relationship in the end. Should I ask her to come over to "talk"

>>18295428
Like 99% of the text conversations I see people post on /adv/, I have no fucking clue what either of you are really trying to say. It's like you pretend English is your second language.

>>18295503
In my case, it is.

Girls, if I get a gf, will I have to give up on my 15 prostitutes?

If a guy says his dick is, say, 7 inches, should I automatically take off an inch?

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Grills
How would you feel about a guy who spends his spare time making autistic posts, telling people to kill themselves, and pretending to be a girl in relationship advice threads on a little chinese schoolgirl cartoon image board?

Girls

Would you prefer a guy whos been with a lot of girls, or one who's been with very few girls?

I've been with very few girls, and would like a girl who's been with very few guys. But I feel like that's something that's impossible to find.

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Help, ANYONE(Mostly guy I guess)
My bf is unable to cum with me ( and his pass partners). I did my best to help him feel secure but I can't stand being the only one having an Orgasm. I did everything my twisted mind could think of and still nada. The only way he can cum is by using his own hands and he got 0 problems with that. Starting to have big self esteem issues.I don't know how to deal with someone who's libidos lower then mine. I just want to know if it's a commun thing..

>>18295822
Does he use the death grip or fap too much? Does he use any toy?

>>18295822
Tell that fucker to stop watching so much porn or get him so drunk he stops caring about any mental hangup he might have

>>18295741
I think the more relation you've been thought the more you learn about yourself. You most not feel intimidated by the Number of partner your Gf had But what she've learn from them.

>>18295741
The number legitimately doesn't matter - everything else does. Men who have been with many partners can be perfectly normal husbands later on, while it's also possible for men who have been with very few partners to have serious social issues.
A "proper" virgin country girl could be a complete cunt, or secretly be an immoral whackjob.

>>18295835
He fap A lot when he's stressed. A lot like 5-7 Times a day. Now he's more relaxed and told me he's fapping like a "Normal person" again. But even tho I do all his crazy ass fantasy he just Can't cum with me. I feel like I'm not enough and he just simply escape in porn since it's more simple....

>>18294813
You're definitely right, thinking about it Thanks man, it means a lot.

>>18295836
Should do that, Especially when his History is filled with porn site every night I feel like garbage.
R I P

>>18295856
Stop blaming yourself. It's his issue, not yours.

>>18295428
100% of the time when you are busy text-flirting with a girl about cuddling she is interested and it should be pretty self evident.

>>18295853
If you're having regular sex wanking is just unnecessary. 5 to fucking 7? Jesus I'm lucky if I have one, and that's if I don't get laid. Lay off the self love.

>>18295741
This is a terrible place to ask, in my experience girls who purposefully remain virgins or sleep with few men prefer the same. Girls are more likely to accept a manslut but if they aren't it's better. Women can be jealous too.

>>18295860
You're right , Thanks, I just need to find a way to forget it and focus on my own fun.

>>18295741
What's with the number obsession? It's just teenage bullshit. So what if you've fucked ten girls/guys? I've fucked three, but each was in a committed relationship. What's worse? Your girl had a few one night stands, or that she's been fucked literally hundreds of times?

>>18295853
Tell him straight up to not fap for a week,
block porn sites if you have to. Then send him sexy pics (nudes if you're comfortable) throughout that entire week. If that doesn't get him cumming the instant you touch him then I don't know what will.

It's all about the buildup and the imagination. Porn just does that all for you hence why it's so easy to get addicted.

>>18295822
5-7 times a day clearly show he has issues, no matter how stresssed he is. I think it's totally fine to jerk off, but he is overdoing it by a lot.

Straight up forbid him from masturbating, and if he can do that for a week you'll let him do whatever he wants to you, or some other prize if he can prove he didn't. Maybe even handcuff him as a "prize" and just lightly touch him for an hour. This is even more likely to make him cum eventually than shaking his dick like it's a yogurt bottle, since he can relax and feel less pressured to cum.

And don't martyr yourselfe, it seems you're a really cool girl and is doing everything to your reach. The problem is definitely not yours.

>>18295865
The situation is pretty fucked up on that point. I mean i'm comfy knowing that my Bf is fapping, But that much kinda is disturbing.

>>18295877
That, Is a pretty good advice. At this point, I feel like it's the best thing for HIM to fix this issus.
I'll keep This idea in mind, Big thanks to you!

>>18295880
Noted all of this.
It's insane how much I want him to orgasm with me and I will literally do anything to be the cause of his late night pleasure.
He got cheated on by multiple gf because of that and he get really anxious in bed because of that. Wish I could make sex less horrible for him.
Hope the 1week without porn thing wont destroy him. If it does I'm probably done with his case and go back single.

Guy,
Bf want a threesome FFM, Cool I'm down. I ask for a MMF, got refused in a second.
W H Y S O S E L F I S H

>>18295931
I know your struggle, it took me two months to make my gf chill and cum properly. Keep in mind though that the work is much more mental than technical, so there isn't a single fetish or move that will break him free of this cycle. If you like him enough, tell hik to see a shrink, but I know it ain't easy and I don't blame you if you're not up for it.

>>18295962
Are you bi?
Is he bi?

Those will answer your questions

>t. Straight guy woth bi gf who does ffm but not mmf

>>18295741
I wouldn't have chosen my guy if he wasn't also a virgin.

Are there girls who like to be *really* tied up = not soft 50 Shades of Grey type stuff but truly helpless. Think strapped down to the bed wearing a straitjacket and big ball gag. I'd love to do with this with someone but I feel like anything more extreme than furry handcuffs is too "weird" to ask.

>>18295962
Instincts, basically. Also selfish dudes take all the trophies in life.

If you saw the FFM as a bartering token, then you should have lined up in advance what you wanted in exchange for it. If he feels guilty about not giving you yours then make him try some personal fetish you've got but not yet explored (within reason.) Just don't treat it as a revenge issue, otherwise it's going to go back and forth indefinitely.

dudes, would you think less about a girl if she had plastic surgery? even if it wasn't noticeable until you saw an old picture of her

>>18296056
Not at all.
>tfw I'm considering getting another surgery to correct lips

/adv/, as my only friends, I'm counting on you to help me get with this girl. She is far from a 10/10, but I think we would get along well.

Girls: I make my money by streaming and uploading let's plays to youtube. I feel like a manwhore at times and I absolutely despise the twitch and youtube comment posting userbase.
It pays the bills though. I'm making about $80k a year right now and it keeps going up. A downside to this is I'm streaming for usually 8 to 12 hours a day.

Is this a turnoff for girls if I start trying to date. What should I tell them?
I really don't want to be with a girl in the video game scene because 99% of them are vapid cunts that just want attention and I'm not that into that.

I had one girlfriend before but she got really annoyed that I spent all my time playing video games. I don't think she properly understood that it was my job and if I don't do it then I don't get any money.

>>18296088
what's your channel

>>18296088
Find a gamer girl. Wouldn't bother me as I would also be gaming in another room, most likely using your tutorials lol but I have some friends that despise gaming so they would hate it.

>>18295300
Asking again just because

>>18296098
I'd rather not admit it, especially while on here asking for life advice.

>>18296100
>Find a gamer girl.
No thanks. As I said, most of them are vapid cunts and not pleasant people. A good friend of mine who also streams recently had has marriage end. He was married to a girl he met on wow.
I guess that, and the fact I'm pushing 30 are the reasons why I'm suddenly having an existential crisis about it.

>>18296130
>>18296088
Why do so many people on /adv/ pretend to be youtubers.

Women:

Hypothetical question:

Would you stare at a man you find to be creepy from time to time and stand really close to him almost every time he is in the same vicinity?

>>18296161
I don't find many men creepy, but if I am not comfortable around someone I try to avoid them.

>>18296088
Just explain that it is your job and not an hobby. Give her your schedule and explain to her when you're free to hang out and when you are working.
When you're not working, don't play videogames and do other activities with her.

I personally wouldn't mind it too much.
If we were going serious, I'd wonder how it'd work out in the long run (for how long can you make that much money on youtube, would you be able to find another job if your channel stopped working so well, etc).

>>18296164
Thanks for the input. I'll spill the beans. Met a girl a while back when I drunk ass hell. I felt like I creep her out. Guess I may be wrong. lol

How can I ever trust someone again?

I loved her. I trusted her. I bettered myself and had an amazing relationship with her. I never in a million years thought she would cheat on me. But she did. How am I supposed to ever trust a woman ever again? I've been in such a down State for over a month. Drinking every night and failing all my classes. Laying around doing nothing on my days off. While she is happily living her life with him. I hate everything right now. It hurts so much. I legitimately loved her.

>>18296193
My arm was eviscerated in a car accident last year and they chopped it off at the shoulder.

I have one arm to jerk myself off with in a pool of my tears. It's better to have love and lost than to jerk yourself to sleep every nite

>one of my coworkers is cheating on his girlfriend
>barely even know his girlfriend, only meet her a few time
>have no evidence other than I saw him get picked up after work by a girl in a car then start kissing her heavily before driving away
really unsure what to do
I despise cheating, but this really isn't substantial evidence
I had no opinions one way or the other about the guy before I discovered this

>>18296193
You cope with the pain first. Talk about it to a friend, or a therapist.

You learn that just because ONE women hurt you, it doesn't mean that all women will hurt you always.
Then eventually when you feel ready you start dating again, you do.

>>18296193
How long were you together?

>>18296203
6 months. I was with a girl for 5 years and this hurts more than anything I experienced with her. Pretty sure part of the reason she kept me around was because I gave her money. I was way better at saving than her ex was who she left me for. We were long distance. Call me retarded I know better now. If you add up plane tickets hotels, gifts, money to help with bills and food I spent about 3000 dollars on her while I'm trying to save up for a car.

>>18296200
I know the whole better to have loved and lost concept and I just don't feel it. I feel like this whole situation would have been better if I just never talked to her and worked on myself more.

>>18296202
I need a new therapist. All mine does is listen. He never offers advice.

i have autism. when would it be appropriate to bring this up? i don't feel very comfortable just out and saying it

>>18296252
Hide it as long as possible then when you fuck up badly and she wants to leave just say sprry bae i have autism

>>18296221
there's no point in living in the past. there's no point in letting yourself be consumed by this.

you have all the time now to work on yourself.

just let go and work on yourself to become the best anon you can be

>>18296278
I guess the worst thing is that we broke up before I got actual proof that she was cheating on me. So I never got a confrontational moment where she admitted to what she did and I could at least have a little closure. I've been beta as fuck sending her messages on FB that she doesn't respond to to try and get her to admit to what she has done and apologize. I just don't know what the first step is that I should take to move on. As I said before, I'm in a dark place and have been letting this get to me hard and I don't know how to move on.

Not sure how well this belongs here but I'm not going to make a new thread...

I'm a girl and just started dating my first boyfriend. I like him a lot and have not had any problems with him at all, while he really dislikes how I am uncomfortable with PDA and stuff like that in general. We haven't spent much time alone together yet so I don't think that will continue to be too much of an issue once we do.
I've asked him previously and he told me that he only masturbates once every 1-2 weeks while I do it daily.
Now I find out that he won't have sex until marriage! I like him a lot but do not see that happening with us (we are both rather young).
This is a pretty big issue with me considering how sexual of a person I am (I am a virgin but figured I'd lose it to my first bf). I don't mind that purity is a value of his, I respect it a lot and it's important to me as well, but I don't really see the "point" in a relationship without sex (not sure how he feels about oral).
Any advice? I'm very inexperienced with relationships.

>>18296287
there's your problem, anon. you still give a shit about her. she clearly doesn't give a rat's ass about you.

>>18296304
try convincing him that anal doesn't count

>>18296304
Talk to him about it. Straight up tell him what you just told us. You can either find a compromise or realize you have incompatible values and life goals.

I'm the kind of person that doesn't go out of my way to have human contact. I have friends who I'll talk to if I see them, but I never call or message them.

Sometimes I feel like it would be nice to have someone to feel love for, but then I remember that they'd be a person with their own needs, and would likely prefer to be spoken to more often than I would prefer to speak.

I know that women tend to be more social than men. Do there, though, exist women who are similarly reclusive of their own volition?

Could a relationship even work between two people who rarely speak with each other?

>>18296311
I guess I just need to keep telling myself that she's a bad person...that she missed out by doing this to a guy like me. That I will find someone worthy of me one day. It just hurts anon..and it's hard to move on.

>>18296336
oh i know it hurts

i had a girl that dumped me for a tranny. i won't pretend i know how your situation exactly went but just dwelling on it isn't going to make you happy in life. you need to learn to let go and move forward.

not a shill but i was feeling pretty down about what happened to me, so on the recommendation of a friend i picked up a copy of the book 'gorilla mindset'. it may help you in the same way it helped me.

>>18296364
Thanks anon. I've been looking for a self help book. I'll definitely buy it, my job requires sitting at a computer all day so a book would be great. A friend recommended being a 3% man but that seemed to be mostly centered around getting girls which is the opposite of what I want right now.

>>18296331
They're probably pretty rare. I haven't met any girls like that.

>>18296331
Maybe the right girl will make you feel differently. The only person I talk to or see on a regular basis is my boyfriend. He's my absolute best friend and the only person who I desire to be around constantly. He doesn't drain me at all. I've talked to him pretty much all day every day since we first became friends over 5 years ago. I love my other friends, but I haven't talked to them in months.

>>18296304
>I don't really see the "point" in a relationship without sex
If your objective is sex, why bother with having a relationship? Just talk someone you know into being a friend with benefits.

In most relationships, sex is a tool to foster intimacy and increase the participants' love for each other, not the end goal of the relationship itself.

>>18296401
Did you feel that way about him as soon as you met him, or did he "grow on you" so to speak?

When I meet new people I don't usually feel any great desire to seek out a friendship with them. The only reason I have my current friends is just because we happen to be in the same location often.
I worry, though, that this may cause me to miss my chance. Like if I don't immediately realize it's the right girl when I meet her, I may pass her up.

>>18296311
:^) that may work out, I love anal alone so adding him could only work out well
>>18296320
Thanks, this is a somewhat new development so I intended to talk to him anyway. I just don't want to freak him out to come on too strong... We just started dating and didn't want him to think that sex was my immediate goal (it isn't, really)
>>18296405
That's for sure not my only goal, if I just wanted sex I'd have lost my virginity long ago. I just feel like there's steps in a relationship and sex comes before marriage as far as I'm concerned.
I agree with you about it fostering intimacy for sure. I'm doubting my own view on these things because I've never been in a relationship and am basically an emotional adolescent.

>>18296422
It was maybe a bit of both. We met in high school through mutual friends, so all of us were there socializing every day normally by default, but as soon as we started texting, neither of us wanted to stop.

>>18296422
Not that anon but my situation is exactly the same. Haven't spoken to other people in months and don't have the desire to, but with my bf I can't stop talking to him.

I felt that way about him as soon as I started talking to him, but admittedly we met under strange circumstances so I knew that we'd click to some extent before we stared talking.

>>18296437
I was only going based off of
>I don't really see the "point" in a relationship without sex
which implies that you believe the point of a relationship to be sex.

I understand his position. It makes sense to reserve sex for some time in a relationship because having sex can inspire feelings of lust, and it is a costly mistake to mistake lust for love, because lust fades, and then it turns out you're married to someone you don't really love.

Abstaining from sex until marriage is an excellent measure to take in order to ensure that you've married someone you love, and the sex and feelings of lust are merely a bonus.

I believe that if he is the right person for you, you will care about him enough to be capable of resisting your desires until he is comfortable with proceeding.

I asked before but no response

Girls, have you ever encountered a man with gynecomastia? (Slight manboobs)

Have you ever been with such a man?

I need points of view about it

>>18296456
>gynecomastia
>Slight manboobs
Pick one.

>>18296456
Haven't been with someone who had it, but I've spoken to people about it. Men who have it tend to give infinitely more fucks about it than I do, it seems. If you're insecure about it, do something about it. If not, it doesn't really matter. I'd be more concerned about whether or not someone had it as a side-effect to some medication. In which case, I'd care more about the medical aspect of it than, "ew mantits"

>>18296459
Why not both?

Not every victim of it has to have porn-grade tits

>>18296474
Slight manboobs are different from actual gyno. Are they 'slight' or do you actually have gyno and are trying to sugarcoat it?

>>18296472
I definitely give more fucks than other people (my mom sees me shirtless almost 3 times a week whenever im home, i mentioned the thing to her recently and she didnt even consider that i was actually suffering from it until i insisted) (also ppl never seem to notice through clothes) but ive been thinking of letting the worry go and just live with it

The couple times people did notice it was severely hurtful to me and now i avoid shirtless activities like the plague

>>18296482
I consider them slight, and in most body positions they look unnoticeable

I think the worst they look like is from my POV whenever i look down at them, its soul crushing

Looking at a mirror is a whole nother story

They are definitely there though, and i hate how they indent my clothes

>>18296456
Yes. I've never been with someone like that, but as long as they arent giant and droopy I find them pretty cute

To females.

Harmless flirting with workmates. Okay or no no if your in a relationship. I have harmless flirting with all the girls at qork, but wveryone knows i wont leave my wife. Issue is my wofe keeps accusing me of cheating.and feel like the flirting.while not cheating may be a bit disrepsctful.

>>18296498
I personally think it is fine, but your wife doesn't think it is. You two set the boundaries in your relationship.
Stop doing it if she dislikes it.

>>18296498
Not appropriate. It's not cheating, but you're crossing a line.

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To guys (and girls if they want):

what makes a girl creepy? Maybe I'm overthinking it, but I feel like strangers may perceive me as being creepy...

>>18296498
Not okay

>>18296498
Yeah, it's kind of weird that you're flirting and that you automatically feel compelled to flirt with all the women at your work...and it's moreover questionable that it has gotten so bad that your wife knows of it, but somehow you still haven't stopped it.

Maybe in some relationships it wouldn't be bad. However, for most traditional ones where the boundaries are clearly set, you shouldn't go dissing your wife's wishes like that. Man, that's fucked up.

>>18296529
You mean from a distance, or when they're talking to you?

For the former, people tend to be creeped out if they believe they're being followed, watched or stared at.
The latter is more nuanced. There may be something in your speech pattern or facial expressions that suggests mental instability, which can immediately make the people you're speaking to uneasy.

Do you happen to know if you have a disorder that affects your ability to associate body language with emotions?

>>18294534

70%, 50%, (Petite, glasses, young, somewhat smart), I don't really know them too well when I ask them out.

I don't look the greatest either, I'm just 6'1 and have money which helps a lot with my confidence.

>>18294534
I find most girls attractive on an objective level.
I can't remember the last time I felt a feeling of attraction toward someone.

>>18294394
>When you are on a dating site (or have more than one guy hitting on you from real life), how do you choose the guy?
I'll go on a date with the one I have the most in common with and get along best with, I've never been in a situation with two guys of equal merit. If I was, I'd probably go on a date with both and see how that went.

>>18294856
>why is 5'9 too short for 90% of girls?
I don't know. I'd date that height, and I'm not short. Probably 5'8 (although I'm not 100% on the feet inches thing, since I'm not American).

>>18295138
Don't show off your wealth, don't talk about how much you make etc. Then you KNOW they're falling for you.

>>18295689
>How would you feel about a guy who spends his spare time making autistic posts, telling people to kill themselves, and pretending to be a girl in relationship advice threads on a little chinese schoolgirl cartoon image board?
So depressed for the state of humanity I'd neck myself.

>>18295741
I wouldn't choose a man based on his 'number' and neither should you. However, in a situation where two identically interesting, attractive and funny guys were there to choose from, and one had fucked 50+ girls and the other 3 then I'd go with the one who fucked 3. But it doesn't matter.

>>18296498
It's not cheating, but if your wife says no and you keep doing it, you're an ass and I hope she leaves you.

>>18295741
I'd prefer a guy with a lower number if I could choose, but it doesn't really matter.
My boyfriend had a lot of partners before me, but he has been completely committed and faithful over the years.
On the other hand my only other ex, who lost his virginity to me, cheated on me and one of the justifications he had was that he couldn't live with the fact that we were each other's one and only.

I'm shy of my body but I have fatter friends with gfs, and he has very bad attitude and we are at the same level of shy. Tell me why?

Guys, how many of you would say you have weird or unorthodox fetishes? Would you turn down a girl if she had strange fetishes?

>>18296607
i have some that are too abstract and can't really be put into practice in real life

but honestly it all depends. i'd be open to trying anything really besides scat or watching them get fucked/or me fucking someone else for their pleasure

>>18296607
I'd say I kind of do. I love legs and stockings etc are a major thing for me. Maybe not super weird but legs are an odd one I think.

I wouldn't turn someone down based on what their into honestly. What do you consider odd anon?

>>18296607
I have multiple fetishes that are outright impossible, and a good number that are highly improbably.

If the girl didn't want me to participate in any of her fetishes, I wouldn't turn her down no matter what they were.
If she did, I'd have to draw the line somewhere. No bodily fluid play, for example.

>>18296624
>not letting her play with your cum
fag

>>18296618
mild gore, watersports, and hair/bodily odor are the weirdest I think. I also like legs, ass, thighs and stockings/lingerie in general

>>18296630
Admittedly those first 3 are pretty weird, I'm not even sure how you'd get the first and third things involved in sex anyway.

That said though I wouldn't turn you down but in all honestly I wouldn't get too involved in those really. Possibly watersports but it'd be a heat of the moment thing.

>>18296451
Thank you, that's really what I've needed to hear. I don't think I have the moral fibre to be with someone who has the values you have described. I've already thought that he's too good for me but now I feel that even moreso. I will try and voice these feelings to the best of my ability.
Really excellent advice, thank you for giving me your time

>>18294420
I know from friends and my two rather beautiful sisters that you get spammed on any dating site and that almost every single swipe right on tinder is a match that texts you very soon

>>18296639
>I'm not even sure how you'd get the first and third things involved in sex anyway.
As for gore I mean just like generally being punched or beat up before or during sex? Like specifically to the face and collarbone. And body odor and hair would just be shit like smelling sweaty armpits and shit like that

>>18296507
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>>18296531
>>18296535
>>18296594
Fair enough. Im gonna try and stop/cut back on it. I always just so it as banter and its how ive always been. I never really thought of it as serious and definitely didnt mean it in anyway but having a laugh with mates.

>>18296690
>generally being punched or beat up before or during sex
That's a little strange I have to say. I mean, I've done some rough stuff like throwing up against the wall or slaps but punches is a little too far for me.

But there are probably some guys into it. Either way, what you're into is a deal breaker at all.

>>18296699
*isn't a deal breaker at all
Fuck.

>>18296699
I think the kind of guys who would be attracted to it on the level I am (broken nose, split lips, etc) probably wouldnt be the best to have as a boyfriend. Also it might come across as a domestic violence situation.

>>18296707
>broken nose, split lips, etc
Yeah that's too far for sure, plus the domestic bit too. Some kinks are best left as fantasies and this is one I think.

Do you have some regular kinks?

>>18296717
Yeah, I'm into all that normie-tier BDSM stuff. As well as orgasm play, and gentle femdom
Shame about that gore stuff though, I really like the aesthetic of that shit

do woman honestly care what guys think about them?

since woman can get endless validation, does it really matter what a random person have to say about them (in critical matter)

>>18296721
>orgasm play
What is that exactly?

Well it's possible you can still have it but there would have to be a lot of understanding on both sides. Is it the pain or the blood that you like? If just the blood then you could use some fake stuff for the look or something.

>>18296607
I am vanilla as fuck but open to almost everything as long shit, piss, animals and kids aren't involved.

>>18296722
Not a girl but it's similar for most somewhat socially adjusted people. If the person cares about improvement, they consider criticism from randoms too, obviously not as much and obviously it has to be valid. Although a random person adding their opinion is just ... weird unless the scenario invites it. Say you posted your artwork somewhere.

>>18296725
>orgasm play
like taking your partner to the brink of orgasm then stopping until they need it so much that theyre a mess, then you give it to them but overstimulate, theres variations and shit but thats what i like
I like both the pain and the blood, but theres also a bullying aspect I like as well. I'd use fake blood but theres also the (not to be weird) smell and heat of it, even though the aesthetics are nice

>>18296707
I'm not attracted to the injuries themselves, but personally I find the idea of having a woman strong enough that we could have an all-out fistfight when we're angry at each other pretty hot.

>>18296733
Ah so that's what orgasm play is. I've had a fair bit of that, it's pretty good.

I think try the fake stuff and the bullying aspect and work on see how it goes. I get what you mean about the blood bit, there's that certain metallic smell about it which I'm not sure how you could fake.

>>18296707
>on the level I am (broken nose, split lips, etc)
I think you're going to have to accept that that fetish is in the "impossible" category, in that the injuries are serious enough that you can't possibly have a healthy relationship while indulging that fetish.

You're in the same boat as all the other fetishes that can only exist in fiction. It's not so bad.

>>18296733
>I'd use fake blood but theres also the (not to be weird) smell and heat of it
There are safe ways to extract blood, you could save it and reheat it when you want to use it.

That'd be about the limit of what your partner might agree to, though. Especially if you wanted to use his blood instead of just yours.

FOR GIRLS:

I've met this nice girl, she's perfect. But she says she "sucks at texting" which i believe because in person we're 100% okay. great conversations, laughter, and we always end our dates with a kiss. it's been 3 dates now but it's almost like she only texts me to set up our dates. I'm used to paragraphs of conversations through texts, but she's not like that.

should I ask her why she "sucks at texting" and if she could try to text me more?

>>18296738
>>18296741
>>18296745
Thats unfortunate I guess. On related note, how many of you would get tied up and have your prostate bullied?

>>18296752
She just dislikes it. Get over it and talk to her in person, or call her on the phone.

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>>18296754
Shit I wish my gf would do that.

>>18296754
I'm into futa so I might be down for that if she did it with a strap on.

>>18296756
what if i miss her through out the day. i can't call her most of the times one of us is busy. i literally can't stop thinking of her. isn't that what text is for

>>18296772
If you miss her, you get over it.
If she doesn't like texting, there's nothing worse to do than being clingy and bothering her with texts all day.

>>18296772
Most phones are equipped with something called "voicemail."

It allows a call to be taken even if the person is busy, which they can listen to later.

I've got a ""date"" with a friend I've known for a long time today. I had built myself up to make this more serious since I've been thinking that she might feel the same way on our previous ""dates"". At least if I get rejected it's closure and I can move on.
I really felt like I knew her well and understood her but the day before yesterday she was acting so untypically for her and now I think she's leading me on.
Right now I feel like I can't trust her and am disturbed by the idea that I could have so heavily misjudged someone I thought I knew.
I've been feeling like cancelling but that won't solve anything, however right now I can't think of how to talk this out. Help, I feel physically suck right now, just thinking about it.

>>18296780
>she was acting so untypically for her
"Untypically" is a bit vague. There are any number of reasons for a person suddenly acting different.
Maybe she just had a family member die or some shit.

I'm not saying that she's not leading you on, but it's far from the only possible explanation for a sudden shift in behavior.

>>18296776
ah i see. so the key is to just get over it if i miss her.

>>18296791
Dude you've been out with her on THREE dates.
What the hell.

>>18296537
Well, more from at a distance. Despite being a tragically horrible speaker, I hardly ever feel/read many negative things from others when we're talking. The catch is that I don't initiate conversations with anybody...it typically is just them and in kind of forced situations (i.e., I'm grouped with them, they're some sort of service worker, etc). People are never rude to me straight to my face and, well, maybe it's just me projecting, but if I'm in a relatively good mood people tend to perk up and I make em laugh pretty easily.

>mental instability
Kinda hard to tell. I've always been chill and sympathetic. Chronically bummed out, I was the sort of kid who couldn't stop crying about various sad things in the world. Still am a sap like that, but I don't cry anymore. I was only happy once in my life. Is having a naturally predisposed low-energy/gloomy mood creepy? That's kind of depressing.

>disorder
I've never had a full psych evaluation so I wouldn't know

>>18296798
Oh, and also
>how I come off as (facial expression/vibe/etc)
I met with a therapist once and asked about how I feared that I was an intimidating person, and she was surprised--she mainly saw a person that seemed more distant than anything else.
My childhood best friend, who doesn't know of any of my issues, said that I seem to be very cool to her and that for some reason being around me chills her out better than her ADHD meds. She claims I sound like I just got outta bed 24/7. So, yeah, that's basically my speech pattern.

I guess I see a problem in looking so stony-faced, especially for a girl, but it doesn't seem to be on the level of resting bitch face...I wonder if that's enough to make me seem creepy.

>>18296754
Id be interested in that but id have to be in a submissive mood

>>18296794
ya i know lmfao. but she's so different that's why

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How bad could I possibly fuck up when we both get drunk and I try to make a move on her in that state?
Is it forgivable or will she never talk to me again after I try something?

>>18296607
I actually turns me on a lot when my significant other admits to having strange or very specific fetishes even if im not into it

>>18296815
You barely know her.

Don't fuck it up. Don't be super attached. Let her be.

>>18296817
I'm not a grill but theoretically we could be talking rape charges.

Like I'm not saying it'll happen but it's not outside the realm of possibility, drunk people can't legally consent after all.

>>18296822
>choose to get in car and drunk drive
>not at fault because "i was drunk lol"

>>18296817
Never fuck a drunk girl it could end up ruining your life

>>18296824
Nobody is saying it isnt retarded but thats how things are

>>18296822
>>18296824
>>18296825
>tfw living in a world where no means no and yes also means no

>>18296798
>>18296801
>more from at a distance
What makes you think they find you creepy? Do they make a certain expression when your eyes meet? Do they get up and move to be farther away from you?
Or is it just a feeling you have?

>>18296822
nah that's not what I'm worried about at all

>>18296820
you're absolutely right. i just took a screenshot of your advice so i can remind myself. thanks

>>18296836
If she has made comments on the volume of texts you send her, it may be good to inform her of your intent to change. The capability of recognizing your mistakes and working to correct them is an admirable quality.

>>18296827
You don't ask drunk people to give a yes or no answer on something that matters. I mean I'll agree that it's bullshit that only the womans state really matters, but not preying on drunk people isn't really a feminist exclusive sort of thing.

>>18296842
What about two drunk people though?

>>18296841
no i actually haven't sent her large volumes of text because i know not to be clingy. i mirrored the way she texts. so like if she takes 5 hours to reply with two sentences, i'll wait 5 hours to respond with 2 sentences. It bothers me but i still do that. but now i know to just stop being attached.

>>18296851
DON'T PLAY THESE GAMES.
Reply to her when you can and be natural. Just don't triple text her with "reply pls. why don't you love me anonette? what's wrong with me?"

>>18296851
almost correct
you should answer when you can, preferably when she texts you
this might bring the opportunity to actually chat about something while she's at it
she might answer directly and you can start a conversation

>>18296873
haha but i must play these games. how can i be natural and have a text conversation when she will literally text me at random times like 5-10 hours later.

and i am natural, i mirror her but still say what i want to say. i just wait to reply the same time she takes. should i stop this?

>>18296898
You can simply reply right away when you see the text.
Stop overthinking.

>>18296895
>>18296901

even if i reply to her text instantaneously, she'll take ages to reply. by the time she replies i've completely forgotten what i was going to say.

looking through our texts, she only texts back fast when we are planning dates. things like "okay i'm ready come pick me up" or "i'm leaving my house now, i'll meet you there in 10 min"

so i've come to the conclusion that this is just normal to her & that i should keep dong what i'm doing? am i right?

>>18296905
>>18296901
this
just answer directly
don't play any games
she won't think less of you if you answer directly
taking 5 hours for an answer is not "being the cool, distant guy"

>>18296905
>by the time she replies i've completely forgotten what i was going to say.
Why don't you just say everything you're going to say in your first reply?

>>18296905
>so i've come to the conclusion that this is just normal to her

I'm not the guy you are replying too, but let me ask you: What about what's normal for you? How can you expectto be treated like an equal in the relationship if you bend over backwards even for fucking texting?

We are not saying you should force her to text you more. We are saying you should text her in whatever way comes natural to you (as long as you are not annoying her, of course, but replying fast is not annoying.)

>>18296925
i meant to say that by the time she replies I've forgotten what we were talking about.

>>18296922
okay i wont play those games anymore but we don't even text about things of substance. for example this is how we texted before the 1st date

11 am me: are you busy this weekend?
10 pm her: no do you want to do something?
10 pm me: ya let's go to the beach?
10 am her: okay pick me up tomorrow at 12.

and that's all it is. no texts of substance bc she'll take like 12 hours to reply which makes me mad and makes me feel like trying to get to her over text is pointless. but in person everything's perfect

>>18296928
for me usually texting with friends is like they're sitting right next to me. just like here on the kingdom of 4chan, everyone talks and replies by responding like you would in person, and in a timely manner.

with her it's like
1pm me: do you like ____?
12pm her: kinda

that's what causes me to play games and watch how i reply

OKAY you damn idiots I am back and with a lot of questions.
Women, Why the fuck do you hate nice people like me!

>>18296945
>but we don't even text about things of substance.

You are missing the point, my man. It's not about the substance, it's about you feeling you have to fake it. The timeline of texts you show us don't look bad. You are being paranoid.

>>18296952

>with her it's like
>1pm me: do you like ____?
>12pm her: kinda

Why is that bad? Please, explain it to me. I swear I can't see the problem.

i was just chatting with a girl on an online dating site and she quit responding after i told what my job is (its not that great of a job). she immediately stopped responding then went offline maybe 20 min later. did i get dropped for having a shitty job?

>>18296962
okay okay i see what you're saying. i tend to over think things, which is why i feel like i have to fake it or kinda watch what i text her in fear of appearing too clingy or out of pocket.

>>18296828
>2 years ago highschool presentation
>random popular girl, often said to be "kind", whispers "creepy~" as I anxiously walk to front
>ashamed, wish to die
That stung, but got over it before the memory festered again. I think, "maybe all this time normal perfectly good people assumed I was a creep.." I fear that my peers loathed me all along, that they're too nice to be honest. Am I an abomination?
College gave me these thoughts.

I thought I was unfucking myself. Lost weight. Better fashion. Taking better care of me. I should fit in. Be average. Ignored. But no. I noticed something weird overtime. Like how another girl turns in the bus or in class just to stare at me. I finally look away from my book, our eyes meet, and then she looks away quickly.. Guys have done the same. My dormmates are puzzled by this random attention--they always point it out when we're out together. Happens even when I look bad/messy/tired. There's no way I'm attractive. I'm fat. I've haggard skin. No one compliments me no one flirts with me. If I get attention, then it must be negative.

>>18296970
>>18296971
THEY ARE BOTH FUCKING CHAD
>>18296962
SAME HERE

>>18296973
calm down chad doctor

>>18296971

Relax. She is already going out with you, she clearly likes you. If she doesn't text much, just don't text much and save the talking for face to face. But don't micromanage and design every part of your interactions. She likes you, you be you.

>>18296972
I feel like you may be imagining or internally exaggerating things based on that one bad experience.

ONE person called you creepy, that's it. She probably did think you were creepy.
That says nothing about how every other person in the world feels about you.

When you look up from your book and see that someone else was looking at you, it's confirmation bias. You don't think of all the other times someone wasn't looking at you. You don't think of the fact that maybe the person just happened to be looking at you at that moment, you think that they must have been watching you the whole time, because that's what you expect.
The reason they look away is because it's awkward when you happen to be looking at someone and they see you looking at them. When that happens, one feels as though they may have made the other person think they were being stared at.
In all likelihood, those people are afraid that they've creeped YOU out.

I think you expect people to view you poorly so you tend to imagine innocuous acts as being confirmation of what you already expect.

I think your fear is manifesting into slight paranoia.

guys, would you date someone with an auditory disability? I can hear but I can't process speech very well

>>18297166

Depends on how bad it was. If it leads to misunderstandings and arguments, hell no. If it's just me repeating myself all the time, maybe I could deal with it, maybe not. Depends on your good qualities to outbalance the problems.

How do I stop staring at people? Sometimes I find myself looking at a guy and I want to stop doing that to people I don't know properly, it's creepy.

>>18297166
Is your speech processing strictly an auditory issue, or a mental one?
Have you considered learning sign language and dating someone who can use it?

>>18297208
Do you get an urge to look at people, or do you just zone out while thinking of something else and suddenly realize you're staring at someone?

>>18297221
strictly mental, I can hear perfectly well, I just have problems comprehending speech if there's noise or the person is talking quietly or unclearly

>>18297233
>if there's noise or the person is talking quietly or unclearly
That doesn't seem so bad.
I don't think it'd be difficult to convince a guy to stay out of noisy areas and enunciate when he speaks.

>>18297228
Unfortunately it's the first. I don't know if I'm making it bigger than it is but it's bothering me and I just wish I could, idk, focus on the scenery more. I look at people in the eyes too much for my own comfort in general.

>>18297244
Wanting to not want to do something is tricky.

What if you just wear sunglasses so that you can look at people without them noticing and being creeped out?

>>18297249
Heh, that only works outdoors. Fact is, it bothers me that I'm looking in the first place, I rarely get caught anyway.

>>18297253
I'm not sure what to tell you.

It may bother you that you're looking, but obviously you enjoy it more than you dislike it, because you keep doing it.

This may seem extreme, but what about an Addicts Anonymous group?
Where else do people go when they want to stop wanting to do something?

Why does this girl always seem to ignore texts asking to get together, even in a group as just friends?

This all started in like December when she agreed to get together. When I tried cementing a day for it, she was busy, then started to ignore any text like that.

But she is extremely open with me otherwise, despite not being too close of friends.

>>18297272
Oh sure I probably like it deep down, but I don't like people thinking I'm weird. Yeah I am, but that doesn't mean it's gotta show.
That's a bit too heavy. I cannot sew my eyes shut either, so I'll simply try to distract myself.

When you have a gut feeling a person likes you back, is it usually true (like a biologic feature to sense if someone wants you) or is it just you overthinking things? What would be the chance that person really likes you back?

>>18297344

Do you know this person or do you just stare at them in class?

>>18297329
>but I don't like people thinking I'm weird
People will only think you're weird if they catch you doing it, hence the first suggestion of concealing it by hiding your eyes.

>>18297344

Impossible to say for sure. Some people are better at detecting interest, some misinterpret even friendliness to flirting. So that depend on you and how well-tuned you are emotionally and socially. Meanwhile, some girls are flirty-friendly without it meaning they are actually interested, while some might be interested after but will hide it. Basically, there are way too many variables on both sides for there to be a definitive certain answer to a question like this. Maybe you'll be able to detect interest, maybe you're overthinking.

>>18297347
Yes, we are kind of in between friends and acquaintances on terms of knowing each other.

>>18297362
What you're saying is all very much true, but I am not analyzing her flirting behaviour whatsoever, it's just that random gut feeling I am talking about.

You could be right about getting the gut feeling because of overthinking though.

Has someone had this feeling before? How did it turn out?

Girls

Have PMS or after the period every made you cry because of hormones?

My gf started crying yesterday because of some really gay shit, she saw bird with her bird baby or something trough the window and started to cry when they flew away.

>>18297455

Yes. Every month.

I once started crying at while listening to Footloose by Kenny Loggins because I imagined me and my friends doing a perfectly choreographed dance to it. I am almost 30 and cannot dance for shit.

Absolutely no reason for it, you cannot justify it. It's just nuts.

Im really attracted to this guy that goes to my gym. However Im not a very pretty girl, probably 6/10? How should I approach this?

He's very attractive and is always alone at the gym. I've made eye contact with him a few times but that's mostly it. Am I kidding myself here? Do I have a chance? How do I make myself approachable? Please /adv/ I haven't had a crush like this in like 10 years...

>>18297480
>I haven't had a crush like this in like 10 years...

Don't build this up in your head. Try to be near him and say "hi" at least. Just remember probably nothing will happen, so don't get your hopes up.

How acceptable is it to hit up someone from high school on Facebook to catch up/hang out? It's been three years and I haven't talked to her since; she was pretty cool and pretty much the only girl that talked to me regularly.

>>18297536

Nope, don't do it.

>>18297543
Why not? It doesn't seem that weird to me; what could go wrong?

>>18297546

I don't think you got so lomely out of the blue, so maybe she was a weirdo like you in HS and you'll be fine. But if she was you wouldn't ask.

Also, you don't want to reach her as a friend, because, again, if this was something innocent, you'd just do it.

You are trying deperately to find pussy, and she will know. Save the heartache.

>>18297556
I mean, if I just wanted to fuck I could find someone else. She was just really cool and I guess I see her as sort of a missed connection; I had really low self-esteem back then and didn't ever ask her to hang out outside of school. I guess I'm looking for """closure""" or something. Maybe it isn't the best idea. Hmm.

>>18297480
Say I see you at the gym a lot. My name is XXX. And see where it goes from there.

I've been going to the gym a lot this semester at regular times and wouldn't mind hearing that. Maybe get close to him when he's in the free weight section and do some free weights next to him. Then in between sets mention something. Idk, sorry if this doesn't help much.

>>18297576

"Pussy", "Sex", "Connection", whatever. It's a selfish act. YOu want sometihng out of her, and it's not even a job recommendation. She won't come back to make you feel good. Look for new people in your life and stop living mentally in HS.

>>18297480
And to add on real quick, I think even if you are slightly unattractive, being fit/good shape and going to the gym is a huge +.

How often do you contact/talk with your SO?

>>18297805
>How often do you contact/talk with your SO?
Daily, multiple times a day.

>>18297805
All day, every day.

Sometimes we don't text for hours in between. We're not super clingy. We have our own things to do. But we're always in contact

The new thread is up.