my fiancée has a daughter from another man. i know, i know.

sounds like you're overreacting, if everything is as good as you say.

the only place you're going to get a virgin bride is in Pakistan or somewhere, so be grateful fo what you've got.

oh and try talking to a counsellor or something. that could help. don't mess things up with your missus.

>>18288747
i know it's irrational. that's why i'm seeking help. appart from that, it couldn't be better. i donmt know why i'm sabotaging myself like that. it's not like any other girl hasn't had sex before or said "i love you" to someone else (which she hasn't even said to him...). but why is it so hard for me to get the fuck over it? i know i'm not the only one hving issues with dealing with the fact that their partner had previous sexual and/or romantical encounters. i've seen a lot of threads about this. is it a problem with low selfesteem?

Men have been partnering up with women who have children from earlier relationships for hundreds of thousands of years. My great grandma had a kid outside of wedlock before she met my great grandpa. There's nothing new or unnatural about this. You should be glad he's out of the picture.

>>18288779
then why does it fuck with me so badly?

>>18288781
Your second sentence was
>i know, i know. but hear me out
Which leads me to believe you're embarrassed about it, and that's probably because you think what you're doing isn't normal or that it's beneath you. All you need to do is get over it. Nobody's watching and nobody cares but you.

>>18288802
yeah, that might be true. guess i've spent too much time on here.

>>18288728
Its fine dude. As the product of such a relationship myself being the kid in all of that, I can safely say you're fine. Your fiance is still dedicated to you and so far it seems she happily raises her child with you meaning she trusts you with the kid more than him.