Is it a bad quality or trait to have to be very dismissive of

Yeah, of course. Are you perfect? Do people dismiss you every time you make a mistake?

Because you know your fucked and they're unfolding that. We use speech to form our ideas in a way that makes sense. You're scared someone's gonna find out who you really are.

>>18269639
With mistake I meant things that piss people off

>>18269639
No I am not perfect, but at times i get bashed on my character which i feel needs to be stood up for by someone, and nobody else will do it but me.
>>18269642
Well most of my close friends know who i really am, but i still am able to toss them out if they act up

>>18269649
You said it happens when they get personal. Their attacking your insecurities. People do this all the time to make them feel better.

>>18269671
yeah i get you

Considering that you decided to ask this question today regarding your tendency to cut ties with people in your life if/when they criticize you, it is fair to assume that you recently did so with someone.

Could you share a bit about what happened, what you were criticized of, etc?

>>18270059
A certain friend always tells me to "google it" if i have any question on anything whether it is understanding an assignment in school, or a part of a game that I dont understand. If I ask another friend who is totally willing to help me, the friend in question always says "google it" or "do it yourself"

But if this friend comes to me for help with things that I am knowledgable about, im the first one to be more than glad to help in any way I can. Its totally unfair and im pissed off. I want to say dont ask me for anything every again because i no longer have the want to help him. But helping people is what my personality does best in. I dont know..

>>18270093

not the anon you replied to.

have you tried telling him to "google it" or "do it yourself" and, if you did, how did he react?

When friends piss me off I don't cut them off completely, I just take a break from them.

Recent examples,
>friend asks me to get him weed
>get it as a favor
>it goes from occasionally to every week
>tell him I'm not getting that shit every week
>he gets pissed and starts bringing up shit he did for me from over 10 years ago
>I drop the ban hammer
>months later we're back to being friends

>>18270132
At the times he has asked me for help, I've forgotten how he is and willingly help him because its just the kind of person I am.

Seems like you have a warped view of who/what you think you are.

Meditation would be of benefit.

>>18270364
Can you explain what you mean by this?

>>18270417
No, sorry.

>>18270950
Okay lol

>>18270289
That's your own fault then though. If it pisses you off, tell him. Could be he doesn't even realize he's doing that.
And if you've been friends for a longer period of time, he shouldn't just ignore that you have a problem with how he's acting sometimes.

Breaking up a friendship because of something small like someone telling you to "google it" seems almost childish to me.

>>18269636
Yeah, you're fucked.