I've done it, i've broken with my gf. After 1 year

My fiancee couldn't choose between me and the other guy she fell in love with.

Not choosing is also a choice. So I ended it.

Fucking hurts, though. Still regret my choice, even though I know I had no choice.

You deserve someone who's certain of you. Someone who would leave their job, friends and literally do anything to make you feel special.
You deserve someone like yourself, OP. But either way, you deserve better.

It doesn't matter, though. You don't want 'better' - you just want -her-. I wish I could say it gets better or that it stops hurting, but it's been 3 weeks for me and I still can't stop thinking about her. Just know you're not alone in this miserable shit.

I believe we're going to make it, someday. Just not right now. Stay strong, brother.

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I'm kinda going through the same thing and I just wanted to say that reading your posts made me feel a bit better.

Thanks a lot kind anons, it's good to know I'm not alone.

I'm in a weird situation, kinda similar, where I really like a girl and she likes me back, but we live almost 500km apart and neither of us are willing or can move to where the other is.

Some things are just not meant to be OP. Specially when one side is putting all the effort and the other isn't.

Thanks everyone for the answers, it makes me feel a little bit less lonely right now. I feel as if i am wearing a 1000 ton jacket i just wish i could see a message from her saying she changed her mind and it's coming back but i know it's probably not going to happen no matter how bad she feels. I know in the long run her good morning and good night messages/calls won't come anymore and i'll have to move. Her happy voice and lovely smile won't be there to cheer me up when i have a shitty day. She won't be there to hug me while i go to sleep.
And still i have one thousand things to worry about my life besides her.

I know love wasn't supposed to be easy, but it's almost unbearable right now.

basically the same situation, only we have 9 years together total and been living together for 4. Currently in the somewhat denial "we still have needs" phase but the break up is certain as soon as she moves out. It's been a pretty shit relationship overall.

I'm dealing with it by thinking of all the things i'll get to do once i'm alone again. As far as i'm concerned OP did the right thing.

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>to do once i'm alone again
What are you going to do?

>>18265402
Similar situation except she ended it and went with the other person. I should have ended it before it got as far as it did but I couldn't. And I don't regret it either.
I believe we'll make it too and find the right one. Always have hope

Anon here speaking from experience..
Personal Happiness is the most important thing it is first and foremost

If you are not just generally happy with your circumstance it just destroys the relationship

I had depression for several years before I got checked but it was after the relationship ended

I was dull and depressing because I could never feel happy

Better yet she, over time made me give up a lot of my friends and hobbies

All I did was sit at home and work that was it

In the end, I cracked and told her to fuck off I regret it but I have learned that in any relationship I come first

TLDR: Do what makes you happy then worry about making the relationship a happy place