Will losing my virginity change me into a better more confident

it won't change anything.

>>18262510
But how? Being intimate with another human being like that, how could it not give you a more positive view of yourself?

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
>Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

I wrote that for the Ask the Opposite Gender thread a while ago.

Holds true for this shit too.

From a former socially phobic kid who was still afraid to go out to eat at 18, decided to change, spent the next 5+ years doing that, bit by bit, building his confidence up. Then spilled his guts out to a girl at 23 and got epic shut down, was hurt but relieved and lost all fear. Stopped giving a fuck. Decided to start dating at 24, slept with literally the first girl I went out.

I will repeat this line:
>There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

hows being bad at sex going to help you out

>>18262532
By officially not being a virgin?

>>18262524
If you have autism now, you'll have autism after too.

It's built up as this life changing event but it's like anything else it's more the anticipation than anything.

Only if it's good. Apparently losing the v-card in a less than optimal way makes autists traumatized around here, given the number of people I see abdicating sex as a whole around here

>>18262524
>Bad sex doesn't exist.

>>18262505
The journey is what builds you.

If you go from fat to fit, you'll be a better person as a result of your dedication and willpower. Same for if you go from broke to prosperous, or socially retarded to slick with words. THIS is what changes you, not the reward you get for it. Rewards are just motivators; doing the work is what really counts.

>>18262505
It depends. People tend to say "XYZ is the reason I'm not confident". If you are one of those then no, because you will find something new after that. however, if you are not one of those it will help, but mostly of it's with someone you really trust, like a gf.

>>18262505
it won't change you, but it will relieve you of a portion of your anxiety and self-doubt

OP here. I think I should clarify that I'm really not an autist or have social anxiety, it's just that I was raised in a "high control group" or cult if you will and was raised with the notion to have no part in "the world" and was more wondering if having sex will cure me of this belief/behavior pattern. Or just feel like a real human bean

>>18262580
Why should having sex be a reward? I know people who had multiple GFs(many of them loyal and good people) by doing jack.

Getting a gf isn't a reward, it is a someone who will support you in achieving self improvement.

>>18262505
Absolutely yes. But not for the reason you think.
You'll realize sex isnt that great. You lose your fear of woman because you think sex is great. You'll stop being shy because you'll realize woman don't really have anything to offer because sex (their main thing) isnt that great.
Having sex will only stop the retarded ideas about women that are crippling you.

it wont change a shit, but hey! its worth a shot, isnt it?
There is always bitches on the streets, go and pay 20 buckets, or 50 if u want to enjoy it.

>>18262639
more like pay 800. Besides you can't fuck them without a condom, cant kiss them, and can't lick their pussies.

>>18262636
>Having sex will only stop the retarded ideas about women that are crippling you.
How is having sex possible if the "retarded" are crippling me?

>>18262636
Congratulations. You showed that my psyche will only improve AFTER having sex(for free).

>>18262636
This 1000000x
I just lost my V card a month and a half ago (condom) at 21, and it's extremely overrated

>>18262646
you pay 800?! damn dude, are their pussys made of gold and diamonds? you want sex, not the freakin sasha grey.
besides, he asked for losing his virginity, not living a fulfiling(? life, so who needs that condom!

>>18262715
Escorts cost at at least that much here, most cost around 1000 bucks.

>>18262723
if that's true, i pity you (?
here, if u want a bitch you can go to certains streets and pick them up. 200-300 if virgin (or so i´ve heard, this kind is mostly childs which means really fucked up places, so you better stay away from there or u may wake up without your kidneys) - 100~200 young (18/27yrs old) im more into MILFS type so i got to pay 100 buck at much. and its not bad sex i tell ya.

It will make you feel a little better about yourself, but it sure as hell isn't going to make your confidence sky rocket.

Losing your virginity will give you one less thing to worry about. But you'll probably find that you still have dozens of other insecurities

>>18262529
>heroin
But you do have a very good point

>>18262505
>Will losing my virginity change me
No. No it won't. It might make you feel a little more confident if you're not a complete travesty in bed and the girl inflates your ego, but the act of having sex won't change anything for you. Particularly if you're bad at sex.

why are you so blind to what I do for you? why is nothing ever enough? I do so much for you and you still give me your attitude. Anyone else would be so grateful. I sacrifice so much for you. all I want is a little gratitude. just try and keep me happy like I try so hard to keep you. You dont think twice about how you make me feel. You take for granted all the shit i do for you. I wont be this tolerant forever. fuck sometimes I wish I didn't care so much

>>18262746
They don't take kidneys from aging alcoholic sex tourists; they take kidneys from domestic teenagers who really just wanted that damn iPad.

Think of it for a moment. If you're a billionaire banker trying to play Orochimaru in real life, which would you rather have?

>>18262930
Same poster, real caveat about sex tourism though:

Your home country will probably find out and lock you up. They know where the sex tourism is, they know how it works, they have people who deal with it. If your country doesn't give a fuck about sex tourism then it probably receives sex tourism.

Male Swedes can get locked up just for visiting a regular prostitute, anywhere in the world. Prison term probably involves a chastity cage and an ankle spreader bar for easy butt access.

>>18262930
seems legit

It boots up your confidence a bit if it works out. I had the luck to land very compatible sexual partners, so sex was good and I had the feeling of "hell yeah, I'm amazing at this" even though I'm sure there are girls who I couldn't pleasure for shit. No idea how that would work with random hookups, all my experience comes from relationships. Moreover, having sex few times teaches you that it's just a normal thing in life. A way to express your feelings towards another person. It's still magical but you stop acting like it's the ultimate goal of life.


Tl;dr - it won't change anything on itself but you can grow up

>>18262636
>sex is not that great
Never understood this. Everyone unanimously agrees sex is better than masturbating and masturbating is pretty damn great.

>>18262505

I lost my virginity at age 21, and it did not do anything for me.

>>18263492
> Everyone unanimously agrees sex is better than masturbating
Not really. Sex is like a multiplayer game. The single player campaign is better designed and generally a better experience. But everything is more fun when you are doing it with someone else.
masturbation feels better than sex. Sex is way more fun than masturbation.

>>18262505
It's definitely worth doing but don't put it on a pedestal. It's not going to be some epic life-changing event, it just lets you say "well, I did it, so now I can stop obsessing over it".

>>18263634
You're discounting that, based on who you're playing with, the multi-player component can be infinitely more enjoyable than the static single-player campaign. Not always. But it can.

>video game analogies

I remember walking home the night I lost my virginity, and thinking about something very stupid. But it suddenly occurred to me how I had just lost my virginity and hardly noticed.

It doesn't change shit. You're gonna be the same mess you were before. If you want to change, it has to be YOU.

>>18262505
Sex always boosts confidence whether youre a virgin or not.

You know what else boosts confidence? Getting really good at stuff. Do that.

>>18262505

It will but by an extremely miniscule amount. It is just a baby step on the road to the "better, more confident me". The big steps are improving yourself enough so you don't think you're a piece of shit. Things like having a non-vidya hobby to be passionate about, dressing up in a way that you impress yourself, not feeling ashamed when in public, etc.

>>18262505
If you don't have it now you won't have it later.
Sex is overrated although pretty sweet to do.
Other than that, sex doesn't do shit itself aside from babies.

>>18263634
Why is this a sentiment that literally only people on 4chan express?