Girlfriend and I are really serious about not having sex before

>>18256066
Truly terrible idea. Your best bet to avoid potential sexual situations is to avoid situations where you two are alone in a bed. The temptation will probably be pretty strong if you are in the same bed together. Limit your make out sessions too. You're both going to have to have really strong willpower to accomplish your goals.

Really though, no sex before marriage is a really horrible idea.

You'll be bitching to us in a breakup thread very soon if you don't unzip your dick. I've tried to pull this bullshit. Its just nonsense the brits made up to keep families on record. You're exercising mid century property law shilling.

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>>18256082
Waiting for marraige isnt really rare thing in my Catholic country. Premarital sex does happens but usually waiting for marraige is encouraged and no one would ever say its a terrible idea.

>>18256066
How old are you if you don't mind I'm asking?

>>18256066
I really believe it is just you and you're projecting your wants on your gf.

>>18256089
It's a terrible idea because it's a good way to end up divorced after you realize you married someone who isn't sexually compatible with you.

>>18256095
No its not me. Surprisingly shes the catholic and Im the agnostic. Im all for their stance of staying virgins till marraige.

>>18256096
Oh look, some retard that fell for the 'sexual compatibility' meme

>>18256096
We dont have divorce where Im from and sexual compatibility is nonsense in my culture.

>>18256105
It's not a meme. People like different things sexually, and relationships do end because of people's desires not being met. Have you ever had sex before?

>>18256105
Kek, guys like you are the ones who end up getting cheated on

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>>18256102
So you're a virgin, then?

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>>18256114
Samefag cuck

>>18256110
Sexual compatibility is learned not something you test for. Western dating strategies are abhored in east/southeast Asian counties

>>18256117
Yeah. I never disagreed with my catholic upbringing even if I dont practice it anymore. Id eant to have sex with the woman who would be my wife even if it wasnt in marraige. Also she isnt my first girlfriend. Ive dated in the past.

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>>18256105

>Oh look, some retard that fell for the 'sexual compatibility' meme

The "sexual compatibility" meme is very hard to understand if you've only had sex twice in your entire life, anon. Anyone who has had a productive sex life knows the sheer terror of continually having sex with someone you just don't vibe with.

You speak of things you know nothing of, therefore the concept is foreign to you. I get it, just try not to knock it till you try it. There is something particularly electric and bonding about really incredible sex with the right person.

You're the retard if you actually think all it takes to make good sex is love. That's fairy tale shit.

>>18256108

Then live your life, dude, but honestly its going to suck. The path you've chosen is extremely difficult and from our perspective you're needlessly putting yourself through extra relationship stress for the sake of honoring antiquated cultural norm. In some cultures, not taking your baby to the doctor and praying over it is the norm but an idea being old and accepted is not equivalent to being right. Keep that in mind.

Its ok if honoring your culture is important to you but we don't understand it and we have no tips for you. Sorry.

>>18256137
Westetn serial monogamist values ladies and gentlemen.

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>>18256120

>Sexual compatibility is learned not something you test for

Unequivocally false. Sexual compatibility is like all forms of compatibility. If you meet a girl and you don't like her and the conversation is clunky and forced and you don't bond over the same things or develop a natural rapport the answer isn't to keep dating her and "learn" to be compatible with her. That's a ridiculous thing to suggest.

Some people like things in bed that their partner is not willing to do. Some people like positions and kinks and certain quirks and there are tons of people out there who are not going to be willing to participate. To suggest that you have to "learn" to be compatible with someone like that shows a deft lack of understand of human sexual relationships. Long story short, its super dysfunctional to tell people to waste their time in marriages "learning" to like something that they don't like.

Its a very terrifying and silly thing to tell someone that they shouldn't bother finding out whether their sexual partner is capable of sexually fulfilling them until after they've signed the marriage certificate and moved in together.

>Western dating strategies are abhored in east/southeast Asian counties

This is America, kid. We don't give a shit what Asian countries think about us.

>>18256157
>thinks that sex is the holy grail of relationships that the only reason people get together is to fuck.

This is why why Western Cultures have so many sluts and manwhores. This kind of behavior hurts long term relationships and families. Hey I met your mom after she broke up with her 5th boyfriend. I had a girlfriend at the time and I broke up with her to be with your mom. Its totally ok for you to do this too kiddo.

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>>18256152

I couldn't give less of a shit what some asshole in a third world country thinks about my dating habits. If my options are being a Western serial monogamist and being some sexually repressed faggot from a jungle in Indonesia who lives in a city made of mud and isn't allowed to make eye contact with women during their menstrual cycles the choice is pretty easy to me. You can keep your old 18th century repressed, traditionalist religious bullshit, thanks. I'm perfectly happy being a degenerate infidel. USA. USA. USA. USA

>>18256167

>thinks that sex is the holy grail of relationships that the only reason people get together is to fuck.

That isn't what I said, at all. Nice strawman, though. Your country seems pleasant.

>>18256137
Not being promiscuous and waiting for the right person to fuck and marry is not antiquated and is an ideal in many cultures the world over. It just takes different forms not just religous people think this.

>>18256173
>Im ok with the close female friend/girlfriend/sister/daughter/mother of my kids to be cum resepticles of different men.

Where you from OP?

>>18256180
Philippines. Make no mistake there are a lot of sluts and players here but the behavior is not tolerated and encouraged.

Then get married OP. Dont listen to westerner comments our dating system is rekt.

>>18256190
>Philippines
Sorry but you have no right to teach us about moral, not with your shitty president.

If you want advice, take it from occidental people and occidental values. Otherwise fuck off and ask someone else.

>>18256211
But Duterte is based

>>18256215
You mean Maduro-soon-to-be?

>>18256210
Weve only been dating for a year and Im still saving for a home. I can propose to her once I know I have enough to support a family.

I got some Filipino friends and they hold not one of the values you are upholding (different strokes, different people I guess)

Also heard about a lot of cheating fathers and women who are unable to divorce them (mainly financial and having to convince the family that they are happy)

>>18256242
They may not hold those values but I doubt they would marry a girl whos been around and let the significant women in their lives to have multiple sex partners.

>>18256242
Im ok withbdivorce but it shouldnt be easy like in the US where there is no fault divorce. It should be hard to break a marraige without serious ground of doing so. Dissatisfaction or disagreement shouldnt be grounds for divorce.

>>18256085
Fucking this. Condoms, social mobility, and a life expectancy beyond 40 are a thing now nigga - you're getting cucked by Jesus and she's getting cuckquened by Mary.

>>18256105
You do realise that if you somehow had a girlfriend right now there is 50% chance she would be gobbling on Jamal's cock because you don't really feel like doing that one thing with plastic cups and rocking chair?

>>18256105
What if she has a puffy vagina?

>>18256137
You're absolutely right.
I'm neither of them but I've only had sex with a girl so fucking lazy I'd be better off choking the snake. She, however, enjoyed it, partially, as she claimed, shape and size of my Johnson and the fact that I complied with her dumb kinks.
Bottom line is it doesn't really matter for the guy, but it will get really REALLY mundane over time, I tell you that.

do everything you do op. it will happen naturally. if your bond is strong enough, spend enough time together you will probably fuck before getting married and still be happy and end up together.
I tell you from personal experience. keep it in check for as long as you can. at some point you two can reach the conclusion that making love is where is at and fuck like bunnies for a few months. this happened to me and I'm 15 years in my relationship. masturbating will only get you desensitized and have you fantasizing of shit that may never happen. stick to making out hard and heavy petting... give her a boob orgazm, and look into tantric meditation and sex less sex shit. you are welcome.

>>18256263
Right, when a Filipina says she's a virgin, she never lies.

t. I have fucked Flip girls who later on claimed to their bf they're virgins

>>18256066
>how to stop natural things because we were brainwashed that it's bad

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>>18256066
Enjoy depriving yourselves release and thereby massively increasing the strain on yourselves and your relationship, then being afraid and underwhelmed when you finally do fuck.

Sex is wonderful and you're basically ruining it for yourselves.

>>18256178
don't you have an infidel to behead, achmed?

Hey OP, you're gf is sucking cock behind your back.

Get lost cuck, if she doesn't use her hormones on you believe me there are plenty other guys that will take her up on it

>>18256066
How about don't be a fucking brainwashed idiot and explore your bodies together you little bitch

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Gotta love how everybody gets self-righteous about how people should date and handle their lives.

Listen OP, if you are really serious about this no sex business and so is your girl, go for it. There's no real cheats to not wanting to give in to lust, you just have to always use your head when things get sensual, not an easy task, but if you guys want to keep your values, you'll help each other fight off the desire till its time. Be each other's anchor, that's how relationships last.

>>18256175
How do you know you've found the right person to fuck if you've never fucked them? Having a sexual relationship is not promiscuity, having lots of hookups without relationships is promiscuity. If you refuse to change your pathetic clueless beliefs that's on you, so enjoy your decades of utter misery that ends up with you cheating anyways.

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>>18256066
You two are lame

My friend tried this with her boyfriend for 3 years and he ended up cheating on her with a fellow counselor from youth group.

Bait thread? Anyway go for it OP. If people could do it just half a century ago, you certaily can.

>>18256105
>he wants to be stuck with a chick who don't suck his dick well, has an outie pussy, and saggy salami nips

>>18257460
How far has humanity gone to think that only religous people think this way.

>>18258416
This things never really mattered in relationships, marraige and famly before. Everyone seems to make sex the most important thing when its not that as important as honesty, and communication. Most people dont want or need pornstar moves from their spouses.

American for waiting here (saying this because that one anon ITT seems weirdly fixated on how he's American and OP isn't).

Sexual compatibility is a meme in the sense that you need to actually have sex to know if you're compatible or not. You can find out everything through communication alone, and anything else can easily be learned together.

I also love how /adv/ will make completely baseless claims like waiting until marriage will make you more likely to be unhappy, experience infidelity, and divorce. When there are absolutely no studies that point to this.

In fact, the closest we have are studies suggesting the OPPOSITE. That the amount of previous sexual partners are positively predictive of unhappy marriage, infidelity, and divorce. But of course, whenever this is brought up, the same anons who make their baseless claims cry that these studies aren't up to their standards.

So if anything, waiting until marriage is just a valid and successful strategy as not. Fuck anyone who says otherwise.

>>18257541
>brainwashed idiot because they want it to be special

Damn you are a cunt

>>18256066
I'm not sure how to help OP but I want to commend you on your will and trying to uphold your own morals

>>18258208
Maybe they should have gotten married before 3 fucking years passed by?

Another thing to note OP
When most people waited until marriage, it was also at a time when people married early and fast.