A few years ago I was in a car crash and broke three vertebrae. I am mostly fine now, but I was left partially incontinent as a result and have to wear absorbent underwear now due to occasional leaks. Anyway, a girl I know has shown interest in me, and I really like her, but I am scared of getting intimate with her due to my issue. How should I go about telling her about it?
Look at it this way bro
You have the ultimate wife filter. Any girl who is interested in you and suddenly backs out or changes her mind because of small medical condition completely out of your control is someone you wouldn't want to be with anyway
Just tell her point blank next time your talking. Don't make a huge deal about it but also don't act like it's nothing.
Hey just so you know, and I understand this might sound a little weird, but a couple years back I was involved in an accident and yada yada yada
Just own it
>>18253414
I honestly don't know how to bring it up. It is honestly my biggest secret, but it is not something that comes up in normal conversation. I don't want to make it a big deal, but I also don't want to start making out with her and have her be like WTF.
I got out of a long term relationship about a year and a half ago (who I started dating before it happened), and I have not dated in a year. The last girl I hooked up with felt them through my pants when we were making out after some drinks, before I had a chance to explain about it, and walked off after being like "wtf is that, a fucking diaper". I am a generally good looking guy who seems normal on the outside, but am self conscious about this issue, and don't really know how to approach it as it is not something people know until we become intimate.
>>18253512
if you think its about to get intimate let her know before hand. i dont think she would mind as long as shes normal
>>18253512
Well you should tell her before you start making out cause they'll think you're some manchild with a diaper fetish instead of a guy who was in an accident. You just have to bring it up.
you can also own up to you feeling awkward.
tell her: hey, there's something i want to tell you that i'm embarassed about. a few years ago, yadda yadda