I just spent half an hour being fucked and having my pussy licked

You need your partner to be more intimate with you

>>18248117
How so? What do you mean by intimate?

>>18248113
You're asexual. Please remove yourself from the sexual dating scene.

>>18248113
Maybe don't lay there like a dead fish expecting your partner to entertain you, you dumb whore.

>>18248149
This 100%

>>18248149
Ok so what should I do? I've tried being on top it's just as boring but with an added cardio workout

>>18248157
Maybe try wanting sex mentally and actually being attracted to your partner. You should be seeing hot dudes and wanting to fuck them all the time. If not you're broken.

>>18248164
I have been attracted to guys and fantasised about sex. But actual sex has been a major let down

>>18248113
You've tried it once. Get a bit more variety before you write it off, maybe.

>>18248148
God damn it will you people please stop telling kids they're asexual every time you hear about someone having any kind of negative sexual experience?

>>18248178
Because you don't want to do anything. The more I am into it the more aroused I am and the better sex is.

>being on top is cardio
Damn you're out of shape.

Sounds like you're not getting off or excited to get off. Try not getting laid by an uggo dicklet

>>18248157
if you're just staring at the walls I guess you don't really act excited at all. are you actually attracted by your partner? perform oral sex like you are actually enjoying it, caress and stroke him like you couldnt keep your hands off him, make him feel desired and then hopefully he will mirror your actions i guess. what does he do?

>>18248149
/thread

>>18248178
Why don't you suck dick like you mean it and actually get turned on.

>>18248196
You're telling me how to pleasure him rather than myself

He does the whole foreplay and oral sex thing too.

>>18248198
Dicks look and taste disgusting, sucking them is not an enjoyable act, it's purely for the guy's pleasure.

>>18248773
It's like saying fondling boobs or fingering is all about the girl pleasure and isn't enjoyable. I love my gf and I love the kind of face she makes when I touch her, I find enjoyment in her enjoyment. If you don't like your partner to have fun (without doing something unpleasant of course), well you should ask yourself why are even with him.

I feel bad for the guy who had to fuck a dead fish.

>>18248113
I hear you. One guy, yawn and why bother. I had sex with two guys at once and I really enjoyed it. Try that. Not talking about one or both being bi but two straight guys.

How about you sleep with people that actually make you aroused?

OP, do you like masturbating? What's your relation with that guy?

Damn, all these salty anons getting butthurt, insulting you, and making assumptions just because you had a negative sex experience. This kind of thing happens, OP. You're not broken, and you're not a lazy piece of shit.

Why was it boring for you? How would you improve the experience? What were you imagining sex to be like, and how did the actual sex disappoint you?

>>18248125
As in sensual instead of just trying to get you off. Try to just enjoy how touch and such feels first before you guys start going towards each other's genitals and build from there. Most guys think that if they can just make their girl orgasm, they're doing right in sex, but that's not the case at all.

>>18248113
Imagine beging the guy in this, having to stare into a wall while trying to get his dick into yo fat ass.

No wonder a man get erection problems.

>>18248808
Also, this is why i don't understand how people can have sex with the lights of... the whole point of having sex is seeing each other naked and doing some mutual masturbation.

>>18248817
>i don't understand how people can have sex with the lights of...

I'd have sex with the lights off every night if it were up to me. Never understood how guys are so visual

>>18248828
Maybe it's porn damage in my case, but a woman's looks is completely vital for me to actually get turned on.

If she doesn't look like a woman, there is no attraction, i might as well fap.

>>18248862
For me it's more about feelings, and it's hot feeling the guy's lips on my neck when I'm not expecting it, or a hand suddenly reaching between my thighs. It's easier for me to connect with my guy when the lights are off because I feel a tiny bit less inhibited--if I want to make a stupid ass face, I can and I don't have to worry about him asking what the face was about or him losing his boner. Also don't have to worry about sucking in my stomach during doggystyle in the dark

>>18248875
>sucking in my stomach
Girl if you're fat it's better to just be fat and happy about it.

Girls who are unhappy with their own appearance are the worst.

We're all human beings, and i bet your bf is probably not exactly ripped either.

He knows you're fat, so there is no point in trying to put up a show. The fact that he's with you means he has accepted you as you are.

>>18248875
The problem is you girls don't understand that you don't have to worry about stupid ass face or your stomach during doggy, guys know it normal and most find it even hotter that way

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>>18248886
>mfw 5'2 108 lbs yet somehow manage to look pregnant when I forget to suck in

I know dudes are more visual, so when we have the lights on I make sure everything looks as good as possible. Suck in stomach, always arch the back, make hot faces, do things that serve no purpose other than to turn him on more. Sex with the lights on is for him. Sex in the dark is my time

>>18248899
I dont know about other guys, but my biggest turn on is seeing a girl just let go and bask in whatever feels natural. Stupid faces and puffy bellies are welcome. Even encouraged.

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>>18248887
Nothin like bonin a chick and she makes a face like pic related.

If I can make sex hotter for my guy in any way, I will. It's not that much effort to make sure I've got a decent o face or that I don't adopt a caveman underbite while I'm getting fucked

>>18248899
>5'2 108 lbs

Well you're insecure, obviously.
Try to own the situation instead.

Personally, i give fuck all about sex, nothing is as good as deepthroat. If i could have that and watch hentai while doing it, that would probably be the ultimate experience.

Fucking.. it's mostly about pleasing the girl.
If you don't feel pleased from it, then stop doing it, seriously.

These kind of talks makes me nostalgic btw.

>>18248773
Doing that turns me on. Feeling him get harder and harder and making sounds and writhing because of what I'm doing in turn makes me aroused. He feels the same vice versa

>>18248928
I think its cool you like your guy enough to give a shit about that sort of thing.

>>18248951
>Well you're insecure, obviously.
Not denying it, but I'd rather my boobs poke out farther than my stomach when my guy sees me.

>>18248969
Well I mean why not make sure he enjoys it? If he's enjoying it, I'm enjoying it, and I'll do everything in my power to give him as good of a time as possible. Still got a *lot* of improvement though

>>18248968
Yeah well I don't really care about his pleasuring him, and anyway he just pleasures himself with my body while I feel no pleasure at all, even from oral sex, which leaves me feeling resentful

>>18248804
Touch just feels like touch, there's nothing sensual to it for me

>>18248798
It was boring because I felt nothing.

I don't know how to improve the experience

I thought actual sex would feel good, better than masturbation, instead it was nothing

>>18248795
I used to like masturbating when I was younger, but then it stopped feeling as good, even though I took long breaks from masturbation and tried vibrators nothing worked to regain the pleasure, so I thought sex might feel better but it feels like nothing

He's a friend with 'benefits' (although it seems like he's the only one benefiting)

>>18249595
Whelp you're missing something mentally - maybe you don't have a submissive bone in your body. Being a dominatrix could work out for ya?

But from what I can tell in your attitude towards him - you really aren't reciprocating the experience. Part of sex is giving more and more even if you're not getting something back. So maybe that's inhibiting you from really enjoying yourself and other things/people. Or more likely you just don't want to try getting involved mentally. You're doing it physically but you wouldn't be complaining about ur experience if you got something wholesome back from it.

I dunno I'm just rambling at this point cuz it could be anything you mad cunt.

>>18248113
Maybe you're not really gay, OP. Next time be the one doing the fucking

>>18248113
Because you are whoring around with someone you don't give a shit about. Stop acting like a complete slut, and find someone you actually love, and marry that person. Then you will enjoy things more, because you will find the missing x factor- the spiritual component.

>>18249608
>>18249611
Sex isn't necessarily supposed to feel better than masturbation.
If masturbation doesn't feel good, it's not a sequitur that sex will feel good, in fact the opposite is more common, like your case.
If I were you I'd just drop sex for a while. Nothing wrong with having less sex drive than a bunch of autistic male menchildren on /adv/.
Whenever you feel like it, do it. But not everyone likes everything the same way and that's fine.
Just focus on yourself and on being happy.

>>18249611
>but then it stopped feeling as good
Well that's your problem, right?

>He's a friend with 'benefits'
Have you ever tried it with someone you actually love?
Were you aroused? Tell us how you felt before the act, during foreplay.

>>18248113
Man I had lots of sex like that with my ex. I got horny, my mouth and hands all over her. Her mouth only on mine and her hands doing basically nothing on my body. Sex was also like that. She was there, let me fuck her, stared on the wall. Every time it was like that I fantasized about other women to get off. Didn't even feel bad about it because the sex was just mastrubation, but actually worse. Her hips didn't move with mine, I felt that it didn't matter what I did, she'd just lay there anyway or just stay in any position I put her in.

>>18250518
When you are sharing stories like these, you are supposted how did it end. Did you solve the problem? How?

>>18248113

why are people so triggered that this chick didn't enjoy having sex?

>>18251157
Good question.

>>18251135
Stopped caring if she was comfortable, if she felt good, that I gave oral (because I received none anyway), etc. She had a nice body so I focused on that as an object of lust and just did whatever I liked and took control. She liked it more that way, and we managed to have some good sex, but that took 2 years. I still started to feel like shit over my gf not wanting my body (shit by /fit/ standards but numerous people told me I have an attractive body) and felt sexually unsatisfied the whole relationship. Didn't want to fuck her that often too because sex wise I initiated everything from A-Z. I know she really loved me but she was raped by her step father as a child. When the end of the relationship came into sight after 4 years she fucked some guy the first chance she got lol. Sexuality wise damaged goods through and through.

>>18251157
She did nothing and got nothing out of it and then complains that she felt nothing

>>18251257
She only asked if it's supposed to be that way.

>>18251157
Ikr. Who gives a fuck what she enjoys.

>>18248113
It's... not supposed to be boring. Are you saying it didn't feel good?

For a lot of people mental stimulation is important. If you don't get any of your kinks triggered, sex can be boring. Many people like dirty talk, for instance. There are tons of different kinks out there.
It's up to you to figure out what gets you going and communicate with you partner about that.

>>18248113
Oh god Ive had girlfriends like you. You bitches are the worst. It's onw of the only times in my life I preferred masturbation to sex since it was so boring. Heres a tip, if you go into anything, especially sex, with a negative mindset you will always leave with one.

Some people don't feel normal sexual stimulation. If you can't enjoy sex then it's likely you're one of those people.

>>18248113
i feel similar. but its because i am really insecure and need a lot of trust. currently i have really bad trust issues with my bf. thats why sex feels almost like torture. i always feel like im not good enough and have to be different and fun but that just put me into a lot of pressure and the whole thing goes wrong for me and he notices it

>>18248149
lmao

>>18248157
you sound fat as fuck lol. "added cardio" tha fuck.

>>18248149
look up anhedonia. you have it. symptom of depression. you sound depressed even as you write your comments. wouldnt be suprised if you even have a history of depression

>>18250518
Oh hey, I think I married your ex

>>18251157
It's 4chan
People hate women for just existing

>>18251928
That's because women are intrinsically cold hearted whores

>>18251943
But this specific one didn't do anything bad, at least to our knowledge
So far she's just a person with a problem

>>18251157
Because she is refusing advice and is actually callous towards him. Her resentment of her boyfriend is what is causing this. It has nothing to do with her being female. I'm female. I can tell she's lost all emotional investment in this relationship

Women are emotional during sex. We get stimulated by sight, but not to the degree of men. If you no longer have empathy and are often annoyed by your partner, then you likely won't be aroused.

>>18249595
>I don't care about pleasuring him
Just break up with him.

>>18251959
She specifically said he's not a boyfriend, just a fwb. Nice job, you illiterate bitch.

>>18251959
He's not my boyfriend. He's a FWB, not all of us have the luxury of being able to sleep with guys who care about us

What advice did I refuse? All I did was explain why it wasn't applicable

>>18251966
Maybe that is the source of your issue.

You're fucking to fuck. Maybe that is why I glossed over your FWB post, because I don't have casual sex.

The reason I don't is because I just don't feel mental stimulation from it. That is likely your issue too, it is common with women.

Maybe try sex again after entering in a relationship. That is also why you likely no longer masterbate - - the act feels empty.

>>18251964
Then my post about emotional empathy and involvement with your partner as a woman is even more applicable. She isn't emotionally invested and cannot get off to casual sex. Men are visually stimulated, and she is trying to approach sex like a man and it just isn't working.

Doesn't work for me either.

>>18251975
Like I said, I'm not capable of entering a romantic relationship, I'm in my mid twenties and I still have never had a boyfriend because guys just don't like me in that way

It's either casual sex or no sex at all, those are the options open to me. So I better start figuring out how to like casual sex, or else I'll never be able to enjoy sex in this life.

>>18251991
If you don't enjoy casual sex then it's better not to have sex at all
You get no pleasure from it anyway, if you abstain at least there's no risk of disease or pregnancy or sore pussy the next day

>>18251975
You make valid points and your post is very informative. However I think there was no need for being so triggered beforehand.
Really, we're just talking about a girl who doesn't like sex much. That's really all it.
Sure an emotional connection might be important but if she doesn't want it, at the end of the day, is it really all that wrong if she just doesn't like it? She doesn't even have to like it.

>>18249606
You're fucking Asexual op holy shit, its alright.

>>18251959
You're projecting. They aren't dating.It's just a FWB.

>>18248113
Are you attracted to the dude you were fucking?

>>18248113
It's ok if you didn't like it; maybe in the future you'll do, maybe you never will.
Earlier you said masturbation used to feel good, but it eventually stopped doing so. Did anything relevant happen in your life around that time? Do you have a history of mental illness in your family, or do you yourself? What about hormonal issues? What about your weight? How much did you use to masturbate? Sometimes these things can be an indicator of another issue. Maybe it's nothing though

Personally I never enjoyed anything sexual until I fell in love with my current SO. Now Im practically begging him for it every day. This hook up culture and people being obligated to enjoy meaningless hook ups with people who don't care enough about you to learn you...is misleading and complete trash.

>>18252284
This. I was convinced I was just asexual or something until I met my s/o and turned into the gayest cocksucker in town. It's all about being with the right person. Some people can hook up with whoever is hot enough, others need to feel actually connected to he other person/people to get turned on

>>18252284
I'll second this. Happened to me to, and very recently. It's almost like I've turned into a different person entirely in this regard, I couldn't even imagine wanted to do these things before my SO

>>18251991
With that downer attitude of course you're not gonna get a bf. You need to be happy with yourself first girl. Only telling you this because you sound exactly like I used to. I didn't get a bf until I was 23 and that was after a lot of shitty sexual experiences which I settled for due to low self esteem. I believe you can do better than that though.

>>18251999
Then why make the thread in the first place? Obviously OP is unhappy of unfulfilled.
>>18251991
As >>18252343 says, working on that attitude can help you attract the person you want, I land feel happier overall.

>>18252377
>or unfulfilled

>>18252377
>and feel happier overall
This is why I hardly ever phone post.

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>>18248113

You just had a bad sex experience anon and that's okey. It's all about the expectations. I remember my first time I tought she's gonna rock my world, I m gonna feel something amazing and it was just 'meh'. I still dont understand what all the fuss is about and see sex as a way to make my gf happy but it gets better. Try to do it with someone you care.

>>18249611
Why are you even posting here? If you can't get yourself off how do you expect anyone else to get you off?