I posted this topic yesterday but was too busy to read/respond

>>18245062
fwbs are great because you can both open up sexually. you both will develop from this relationship

>>18245086
>>18245086
I feel like I will scare him away

I don't feel like my interests will help him be a better person, I think he'll just learn I have issues

>>18245062
>>18242989

>>18245062
As a chick to guy relationship it is very unlikely that tou will scare him away unless it's some pegging or ballbusting shit.

If you're into being tied up and calling him daddy and being spanked or candle wax or saying "fuck me like you fuck mommy" or anything like that dudes will probably fo it.

We start out vanilla because it's safe water.

>>18245096
So you have a rape fetish with age play shit.

Big deal.

Be open about it

>>18245210
>>18245210
I don't think that's a valid response

Also, we have mutual friends I feel like he'll tell them all that I like dressing up like some weeb cat girl bullshit and getting my face cummed all over after getting choked by cock

>>18245062
What kind of fetishes/kinks?

>>18245232
>tell them all
Maybe forbid him to share your kink fetishes with anybody before you hop into bed?

Make him realize that if he ever tells anybody you will stop having sex and you will hate him forever.

Like he is your friend already. Dont you trust him a bit? I mean you trust him enough to think about putting his genitals into yours?

>>18245232
Every guy wants to cum on chicks faces and throat fuck them.

>>18245250
>>18245250
I like just being depraved
I like basic stuff like bdsm, costumes, dom/sub stuff, hair pulling, choking, etc
Wearing cute shit it probably my biggest one, like costumes and nice lingerie

I like toys a lot, like buttplugs and dildos while getting fucked. I like using toys in public too, and I like getting fucked in public places. I like being cummed on and I like alternate ways of fucking (ex: thigh fucking) and I like trying to cover my body with as much cum as possible.

I like getting choked with dick, or just choked in general, hair pulling, getting tossed around and used (i'm small, so it's easy)
I haven't done this yet, but I'm really interested and getting drugged up and fucked while I'm high

I like taking videos and pictures too, I have like 50 gigs on my computer of all the stuff I've done.

>>18245269
Yeah, but I feel there's a line between friendship and fucking where a lot of guys use fucking for bragging rights, regardless of their partner

>>18245270
That's fine, I just don't want him blabbing about it with everyone I know

>>18245273
>50 gigs
I am afraid to share proper advice here we need to examine your materials femanon.

>>18245282
>>18245282
Haha good one

Nobody will see most of it, but I'm sure some of you have actually seen some of it floating around!

Every once in a while I share stuff that doesn't have my face in it

I like exhibitionism too, but I don't want to do any of that in this thread
Legit advice is needed

>>18245286
So you are just horny femanon looking for us to give you permission to fuck your friend but your brain is still telling you that it is not that good idea.

I kinda want to send you to
>>>/d/egenerate board where you belong,
but on the other hand you live just once and sex is fun. So what are you waiting for? The worst what will happen is that your friends will call you whore which means they werent good friends anyway.

What else is there to tell?

>>18245308
That isn't even the question

I'm not ashamed of myself, I just don't know if this stuff would scare off a normie

He's a super normal vanilla dude, i feel like I'm going to make him cry

>>18245315
As much as I feel this is bait, just fucking discuss it with him. Don't open up with "I want to be dehumanized" or whatever, just slowly open up. Start off with just light choking or a facial or some shit, I doubt he'd object to that.

>>18245315
>normie
Thing is, we all laught at normies here on 4chan, pretending we are all special snowflakes, but we are not that different from them. There is nobtelling what his reaction will be unless you ask him.

From what all fetishes you listed, it is all almost tamed and reasonable. Guys have problems with anal (when they are on recieving end), choking is dangerous and a lot of people dont like hurting their partner, fucking in public will make him uncomfortable and cumming on body parts is as vannila as it gets. Costumes are nice, just make sure he doesnt damage them via agressive undressing.

As with sub/dom he either will like ordering and tossing you around or dont.

Try to introduce him to one new fetish per fuck session.

>>18245315
>Yes! Yes! Fuck me anon! My throat is your cocksleeve! Fucking shoot it all over my face! Make me your slutty little cum rag!
>this would make him cry

If he's too antsy for this shit then he is so beyond omega that you'll drop through the alphabetical basement floor and have to start using Cyrillic or moon runes or some shit to appropriately label what a candy-ass this guy is.

>>18245217
this guy is talking sense

>>18245336
>I feel this is bait
Well, now I feel even dumber

>>18245346
I guess so

You seem like the only solid advice here, so tell me how do I recover from the last night I had with him where I cried and told him i'm sensitive and I might get feelings for him if we fuck

I'm not really sensitive and I don't think I'd feel anything for him at all, but I got scared and now I regret saying it


>>18245359
I don't know, I scared my ex
He said he felt too intimidating having sex with me

>>18245062
OP I honestly cant understand why you are worrying about a vanilla guy whe there are so many people who would be into all of these kinks why not just find someone less vanilla after fucking this guy for a while. unless you live in a really small town , then I kinda get where you are coming from.

>>18245390
I don't, i live in a huge town, I'm just disgusted by 90% of men I don't know

They all seem hungry and desperate and I don't know how to find a guy who isn't

Dating websites are so sad, I've hated every dude I've talked to on a dating site


I like him because he isn't desperate for pussy, but I also feel nervous because of how vanilla he seems

I guess I have to decide which is worse

How does one offer a friends with benefits relationship ?

Is this guy a Chad?

>>18245385
>only solid advice here
:-D

>cried and told him i'm sensitive
Now you finally showed your true femanon colors. You (as any other female) do
>do A, think B, expects C
You should asked different question from start. You should asked how to prevent getting feelings for friend you want to keep around only for sex. And the answer is clear:
>you cant separate sex and feelings
Which is true for like almost whole population. We are made to bond into couples by sex.

Yes you are sensitive. Dont worry femanon, we guys are sensitive too, we just have to pretend all the time we arent to not be called fags.

You obviously want sex. And you will obviously fall in "love" with him sooner or later. The ultimate question is:
>is it a bad thing? And will he do the same?

So maybe stop thinking with your vagina and try to aim for regular boyfriend. Why cant you properly date him and fuck him later?

I say it is worth the shot.

>>18245412
>Is he a Chad?
Definitely, and I don't really care for Chads romantically but if it's just sex I might as well go for it?

I just got out of a long-term relationship with one of those cliche beta males and he ended up having so many mental issues, he was unable to have a healthy relationship with me

The guy I'm with is a Chad, buff, plays sports, big dick, the whole cliche
He's hot, but he's not even my type

I'll never date him or care about him beyond this, but I miss having kinky sex

>>18245404
I think the best thing for you to do would maybe to try to go to an 'introduction' night at your nearest BDSM club . Simply google BDSM (nearest large city to you) and have a read of their site . often it is free and you will probably find some likeminded people and great playmates . where do you live if you don't mind me asking , and are you over 21 as you must be to enter.

>>18245418
no, no see I cried but we hooked up afterwards and I felt like all the warm fuzzy feelings I might have for him totally went away

Any inkling of romantic/emotional affection I had for him left

I think maybe because I respected him less afterwards? I just want to have kinky sex with him and dump him once I find someone better

I was surprised at how much I didn't care for him after it was over

>>18245426
I'm in LA and I'm 23

>>18245429
Last free advice without posting your own stuff from
>50 gigs
collection.

STOP OVERTHINKING problems and SEX UP THE DUDE. Or realize you arent degenerate girl and go find new boyfriend.

>>18245431
I stand by what I said before , there are definitely tons of places in L.A that you can go for a BDSM introduction. I've never heard of anyone with at kind of kink having a bad experience in this type of place . have you googled for places in your area yet?

>>18245454
No, but I'm scared it's going to be all old creeps and "goth" dudes who have never showered

>>18245462
there are all kinds of people . often times people you would never expect. there is also the equivalent of a referee called 'dungeon master' scary name but they are the most friendly people and it is their job to make sure everyone is comfortable and consensual . Me and my GF would come with you to make you feel more comfortable but we are in England so that's a no go. it's honestly the best kind of place for kinky people though. Also the times we have been there are frequently mid twenties couples there , single ladies , men (obviously) but if there is no one that you want to 'play' with all clubs are happy for you to watch the scenes witch is basically like a live kinky porn performance.

>>18245462
bump

>>18245488
I guess I'm scared of the unkown

and this vanilla chad bitch is known, so....
I should probably step out of my comfort zone