Been seeing this girl for a month.
She texts me earlier in the day "Do you have any sexual fantasies?"
I can't really tell how kinky she is as of yet since it's pretty early into things, but she's said some stuff that leads me to believe she's pretty open minded. I'm older than her (I'm 31, she's 25), and like most people my age I've got a decent amount of experience. Of course, I figure she's asking because she wants to know what I'm into and maybe help act out some of them. Again, I've done all of it. I actually am really liking just normal straight forward sex with a nice girl for a change.
I tell her "Not really, but only because the stuff that I've wanted to do I've gone ahead and done by this point. There's some stuff that is hot as an idea I suppose that I would never actually do."
She asks "Like what?" and I tell her honestly cuckolding, group sex, seen some vids of women doing stuff with a horse that was pretty hot, etc.
She goes silent all day texts me 15 minutes ago about she's "more than a little freaked out" that I'm into bestiality and she's really having a moment with this.
Did I fuck up royally, or is she being a prude over a harmless fantasy?
>>18243025
Bestiality is generally something you keep to yourself, friend. Not really socially acceptable.
In what universe did that make sense to say???
>>18243025
Yeah I got lucky with my boyfriend not running for the hills when I admitted I had a little bestiality fetish, but 99% of the time you don't ever say that stuff. That, pedophilia, and necrophilia are pretty much "take it to your grave" business
>>18243025
>I tell her honestly cuckolding, group sex, seen some vids of women doing stuff with a horse that was pretty hot, etc.
>>18243036
OP here.
And that's the thing. I've heard girls confess to thinking "horses are kind of hot" a bunch of times over the years.
Considering the fact that bestiality is both illegal and inhumane, I don't think that's something you should talk about with the girl you're attempting to get with.
>>18243047
Here's the other thing,
>casual conversation :"horses are kind of hot, teehee"
The problem here is when you respond to a question regarding said subject it sounds like this, "gee, i really wish i could poke a horse sometime"
>>18243025
Holy fuck, /adv/, your shit at giving advice
OP
Look dumbass, she meant "what fun stuff can we do in the bed we would enjoy"
Aka things like: anal, role play, dominance, etc
NOT: beastiality, orgy, lesbian/gay, etc
>she was asking what fun shit y'all can do together, she doesn't care what you masturbate too
>what should I do now?"
Act normal. Don't bring it up again, do other shit until she forgets too
Also, try and do REALISTIC shit that can be done in bed together
Handcuffs go a long way, reguardless on who's wearing it
>>18243047
>I've heard girls confess to thinking "horses are kind of hot" a bunch of times over the years.
>>18243057
I know that. Or rather, knew that when she was asking.
It's just that stuff is super vanilla by my standards and have done it with every girl I've ever been with because THEY think get off on it and it really doesn't do all that much more me. Didn't feel like perpetrating a fraud I guess and didn't see that harm in talking about stuff that has no bearing on reality whatsoever.
>>18243036
yeah i've had a girl admit their loli fetish in a way that was more than suspicious, and I STILL didn't admit anything about a dolphin fetish I may or may not have developed on /v/ half a decade back.
all kidding aside, to the grave, /adv/. to. the. grave.
Other thing that has me peeved is that she told me on our 1st date that she was a 4 months sober recovering alcoholic and that she was looking for someone who could work with that. I was nervous about it, but I was open-minded and told her I was more than willing to give it a shot.
It seems fucked up that she's being all fire and brimstone over a fetish when I could be patient with an actual substance abuse disorder.
Lol OP. Just lol
>>18243103
I mean, most people will be more understanding in general of alcoholism than bestiality porn, but that is kinda messed up.
I know I would rather date someone with weird taste in porn than an alcoholic.
man, sometimes you realize just how autistic people actually are on this site
>>18243025
>Did I fuck up royally
Yes. You aren't supposed to tell your month long girlfriend that you get off to people having sex with animals. That's the kind of thing you drop on someone way down the line. Maybe never.
>Is she being a prude
No. Being a prude would be reacting like this to something like Dom/Sub, or anal or something like that.
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>>18243051
So how, if at all, do I fix this? Is it even worth trying?
>>18243184
There's no full recovery. You're forever in her eyes as a horse fucker.
Here's what you do. Say "I was just fucking with you I don't have any fetishes." Discard ALL the fetishes so it won't look fishy
>>18243184
I'm not sure if there's anything you can do. If you can somehow CONVINCINGLY (which will not be easy to do) tell her that it was a joke, that could work.
>>18243025
>has normie gf
>tells her he has horse fetish
What did you expect.
Topkek Anon.
Somethings were meant to be secret forever.
And now she's relapsed. Fuck my life.
she was indirectly meaning things you and her could do in the bedroom. bestiality is not generally something two humans can really do together, unless she either dresses up in a horse costumes and neighs while you fuck her, or takes you down to the paddocks for some wild fun. you've probably realised this and now you've fucked up, but hey, its salvageable, my man.