never posted here before but here it goes. so im a 30 year old

>>18226547
All in your head. Relax and it'll happen. Don't beat yourself up. You're just out of practise. She probably thinks it's her fault desu. Just be cool and carry on like nothing happened.

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>>18226713
cheers mate, im sure its in me head, I over think everything, and t.bh I dont really have any close mates in my country anymore who I can talk to about this sort of stuff

>>18227813
curious to know which country, since I got reasons to believe tinder works differently in different countries.

pretty much >>18226713
I've been like you describe in >>18226547 with about 50% of the women I've fucked. It's gotten me to think I might be borderline demi sexual, not that I cling to such term, just feel like some form of emotional connection is required for me to get a firm and lasting boner, when I'm with someone new.

Keep fooling around, and remember to enjoy it and stay in the moment. The more you're in your head, the less you're in your dick. It'll come much easier if you just focus on enjoying her body, sounds, movements and liquids. Just tell her you sometimes experience boot-up difficulties, but that it has nothing to do with her, and that you think she's incredible etc.

Women can enjoy themselves without going all the way. Don't make her regret anything by breaking down crying in front of her. Just stay with her in the moment, no matter what happens with your penis.

im 27 and have never had sex; at this point if i ever do (very unlikely), i'm more worried that i'd cum in seconds just from light contact than not being able to get it up.

>>18228657
that sounds a bit like me I think. good advice. I'm in rural NZ, and tinder probably works the same as wherever you are, Ive got a single mate who fucks different girls every week with it.

>>18228673
I would have been less embarrassed by cumming in seconds than I was by not getting hard

>>18226547 (OP)
31 here m8. Somewhat related problem. Was in a long term relationship that ended and have been in a drought ever since. Met a women I like and started going out, had sex with her for the first time the other night, just couldn't stay hard.
Posted my thoughts on it here, don't want to retype everything
>>18228598

But it was a wtf moment, I finally was able to stay hard enough to finish and she did get off but damn, guess I just wasn't ready or prepared enough.

>>18229750
My guess is this happens with a lot of guys. It's the equivalent of 'not being in the mood', only different since there's other stuff going on with us, like how long it's been since our last fuck being a mayor factor, making us wanting it to happen that much more. As a man, it's sometimes difficult to differentiate horniness and ego sustenance.

The more you ease into being naked with a chick, the more natural your boners will arrive in good time. When with a girl, don't focus on your dick and asking yourself 'will it work this time pls do', but rather just self-talk yourself into focusing on how hot it is that this girl wants you inside of her, and how wet you make her etc. The erection will come with the right females

it mean she ugly