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I've got a really close female friend that's struggling with depression, eating disorders and self harm. The last month was really hard for her and I'm getting signals that she's strongly considering to kill herself. She's feeling worthless and nothing brings her joy. She's trapped in a bubble and her life is just slipping in front of her eyes. She doesn't eat enough and she doesn't have enough strength to do anything. I've tried to convince her to try and get enough will to do anything she likes to do to make her less sad. It didn't work. I know that I can't do much because I just moved to another country. Also she's overloaded with assignments at her university. She's taking pills (even more now) and she's going to a professionalist. Please I need your help.
>why would you even care?
She has done so much for me when I had problems with depression. I just can't leave her like that.
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>Trying to save a damsel in distress
Nope. The only thing you're doing is subjecting yourself to more depression.
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>>18217607
After changing environment from hostile to calm my depression went away. I had some anxiety and sadness spikes but they didn't last as long as previously (then from 1 to 2 weeks and later only 1 to 2 days). It's just like with heroin addicted Vietnam soliders after they came back to the US.
I just want to help her.
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>>18217588
If she's already seeing a professional then all you can do is be nice to them. Jesus it's not rocket surgery.
If you get all preachy and try to fix them it just drives people away. Just be a nice friend to them, that's often a very rare commodity in the modern world.
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>>18217588
That sounds like me. My career is completely failing, my friends have all become rich and successful, and my personality seems incompatible with the requirements of long-term career development. I want to die but I just keep overthinking it and being too afraid, Everything I've done wrong has been from fear anyway, fear of how people perceive me, fear of failure until I actually fail, fear of suffocating mundane soulless corporate environments, fear of change, fear of socially dominant people. Just spinning out pointless shit, reflections, memories. Going nowhere, accomplishing nothing, becoming always more isolated. Judging wrong on major life decisions. I've lost two years now from when things were last on approximately the right track. Even then it was so shaky. I had nightmares about what life would be like after graduating and they have all come true. If you can't proactively reach out and manage relationships and strategize politically then literally nothing else matters. Ace all the tests, get the best starting offer, 300k/year straight out of school, still end up alone and disempowered and impotent against economic forces. I can't even get out of bed anymore. I can't focus. The drugs don't work. Yet I can't seem to die right either. The tension is unbearable.
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>>18218594
Wow. Are you her? Tell me what kind of help you expect from people around you?
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