Went out on a few dates with a guy. We're very into each

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>>18215908
>mildly gross
No. thats what you have been told so far after a few dates, there's much more

>>18215920
Well, the point is still - is it worth to date someone who I would never satisfy sexually because the stuff he's into makes me gag?

>>18215923
No.

And my point is if this makes you gag, wait till you get the full suite of gross shit he'll want.

>>18215938
I mean, as long as he doesn't want me to partecipate in it, I don't care about the gross shit he's into. Of course, as long as he doesn't want to kill people or molest kids.
I don't think he's "worse" as a person just because he likes gross shit.

>>18215908
>is it worth it?
What? The fact he is so confident / trust you so much he has no problens telling you about thing most partners will never tell about it to their loved ones and fap to it secretly?

Or that you are absolute boring vanilla who will be like star fish in bed?

Do you know how one symptom of love looks like? When you want to do certain things only to please your partner. We call it unconditional love in romance books stories.

And if you think you cant satisfy your partner in bed just because you arent into scat, you are wrong.

Ask yourself if you want to deal with problems and seek compromises or literally die alone. And no, there are no 100% compatible partners ever. They always have something which will irritate you. But if they love you enough, they will be more than willing to minimize such thing to please you.

>>18216069
Are you always this aggressive or?

I appreciate that he told me, but it doesn't change that I am absolutely repulsed by the things he's into.
It's not like you either enjoy scat or you're a starfish in bed. There are some shades in between.

I didn't stop liking him, I just honestly cannot indulge in his fetishes because they repulse me. I don't see why I should have sex with someone and do things that make me feel uncomfortable, bad about myself and that turn me off just because he's into it.
I don't care about 100% compatibility, I am willing to compromise, I'm not willing to do things that repulse me.

>>18216081
>aggresive
I have found out that aggresive (even offensive) advices works the best on so many levels, it generates a lot of (You)s, helps to reveal true character of op and cuts the waste straight to the core of problems.

>his fetishes repulse me
All of them? Do you know he can probably live his life without them just fine?

Also what does sex mean to you? And for him? You are asking /adv/ the wrong questions. We cant know if you want him or not. And certainly not if his denied fetishes are deal breaker for your relationship.

Imho it is worth it, but i am not you. You DECIDE. And will you now satisfy our curiousity and tell us which fetishes? So i know what i have to take with me to my grave.

>>18216081

Did he tell you he liked scat or did you pick that as an example ?

Anyway most people that are into stuff like that are used to being with people that aren't, so there's a good chance he's willing to leave it to the realm of fantasy if you're firm in saying no about this.

Should probably round it up by giving him something to chew on tho, like something kinky you like to do that you'd do instead, I dunno. It's one thing to say "No, I won't do this thing", it's another to say "No, not that stuff, but here's what I'm into that I'd comfortable doing with you". Just feels more open, y'know ?

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>>18215908
Probably not.

>>18215923
>I would never satisfy sexually because the stuff he's into makes me gag
Now you HAVE to tell us every "mildy gross" thing he's interested in.

Gotta know the details here.

Even if it is worse case scenario.... he's probably just ruined himself with porn.... maybe if he engages in "normal healthy" sexual activity, the need to watch woman be pissed on and throat fucked will lesson to the point where he won't talk about it

Because honestly, I've never thought about it.... but if one day my wife offered to piss on me or something real kinky I'd go for just because yolo kind of thing.


You have the pussy you have the power unless he is just completely sick in the head... which I'm assuming isn't the case because your still into him

>>18216100
>Do you know he can probably live his life without them just fine?
Honestly, I don't know. I have very limited experiences and I was always pretty open to my partner's fetish.
I always felt like it was important to be sexually compatible, it's the first time I'm seriously thinking "NOPE".

I do want him. He's smart, funny, quirky, a good person.
I'm just worried about how things are going to work out if there are things that I don't even want to try to satisfy. I don't want to make him unhappy, but I don't know how to work around it.

>will you now satisfy our curiousity and tell us which fetishes?
Bestiality. It is his main fetish and it is is the only one that seriously makes me gag. I can't even roleplay or dirty talk about that shit without feeling sick.
There are a few other things he likes that I don't like, but it's not sickening and I can at least pretend I enjoy it.

>>18216110
I did pick scat as an example, but yeah, it's not much "better".

>Just feels more open, y'know ?
Yes, that's a good idea.

>>18216220
Yeah he's not really a virgin, he fucked around quite a bit and surely much more than me.

He's a bit sick in the head but in an enjoyable way. He's really fun to be around.

>>18216367
Obviously we don't know how conversation went, but even a few dates in you're probably pretty far away from the 'bone my dog' date. He probably has no expectations on you taking up and being part of this stuff and if he does it being a dealbreaker is a fairly big red flag.

If you really can't look at him the same anymore then you don't have to try, but if you are still interested I think it's not something so immediate you need to kill the relationship. Being into gross stuff is not the same thing as forcing it on you and you shouldn't operate under that assumption. Maybe make it clear you won't ever be interested in whatever if it makes you feel better.

Jesus christ, he brought up bestiality after "a few" dates? This guy is a fucking savage.

>>18215946

and someones not 'worse' as a person just because they're ugly, but it doesn't mean you should date them.

do you think he'd commit to someone who wont engage his fetishes? men do a LOT to please their women, they jump through hoops their whole life, not just sexually but they do all sorts of stupid shit and watch all the stupid movies and tv series and take them on the vacations THEY want to go on.

its a give and take. but if it makes you gag, dont date him

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>bestiality

OP, youre really awful at telling a story so we dont know the context in which bestiality came up, but thats a fucking atom bomb nontheless. I would tell you to bang him if you really like him, hes not gonna bring a donkey into the bedroom or some shit if you trll him you arent interested. Youll just have to deal with a boyfriend who jerks off to vids of girls fucking dogs when you arent around.

>beastiality
Jesus fuck, he must REALLY like you to bring that up so soon. So does he want to fuck animals or does he want to see your pure pussy pounded by a pony? It doesn't really seem like that big of a deal if it's just something he likes to watch, but maybe that's just because I've been here too long.

>>18216367
>bestiality
>roleplay
those..those two things don't go together, anon

Are you sure you're not confusing bestiality for something way more tame like petplay or animal ears?

There's a big difference between getting aroused by your partner acting like an animal and just wanting to fuck a random animal.

>>18215923
still depends what that stuff is

if you gag and like...spanking or something, then you need to adjust yourself.

if you gag at scat fetish, then you don't necessarily need to change and maybe aren't compatible with this guy


now stop beating around the fucking bush if you want advice. why don't you want *informed* advice?

>>18216367
why the fuck won't you tell us? what is wrong with you?

are you the guy himself, and are shy to expose the truth here?

>>18216588
She did tell us, it's in the post you quoted, he likes bestiality.

>>18216660
oh

well we can only use ourselves as a frame of reference for these things, right?

I have thought about it before, but is definitely not 'fetish of mine.' I would never mention it or pursue it in any way.

If I were this girl? I would stay away.

>>18216660
Bestiality doesn't include role play or dirty talk, it's just fucking animals.

I'm betting OP massively understood and he's got something way milder, like a catgirl or petplay fetish.

>>18216664
I find it strange as well to be open about. Perhaps he is the type who really needs something related to this to get off to begin with so he wants to rule it out, but still it's a bold move.

>>18216670
Technically yes, but just like someone who wants to be tied up might also like hearing about being tied up, just because fucking animals is the ultimate doesn't mean he doesn't like things to do with it.
Also from OP's wording I took it that she mostly meant that she cannot even imagine a "compromise" if he would be happy to just hear about it or something.

It's possible that he just meant petplay but if that's the case I for one would make 1000% sure to the girl that I did not mean real animals in any way, shape or form... Whereas it sounds like they talked about it and this is what OP got from it.

>>18216696
>bold move
he would probably like to see you suck off dogs

>>18215908
Stay away from that guy.

He knows you like him more than he likes you, and rather than being nurturing- he is testing his ability to be dehumanizing- towards you.

I am a terrible OP. My mom showed up and didn't feel comfortable talking about fucking animals with her around.

>>18216400
It didn't really change my idea of him.
I'm just concerned about how it will impact our relationship.

>>18216513
Yeah, he is. Which is part of why I like him.
I've literally known him for 3 weeks.

>>18216521
No one asks him to jump through hoops for me or to do something he really doesn't want to do just to please me.

>>18216540
I know I'm awful, sorry.
We were talking about sex. He said he had gross fetishes, I was "Oh I'm so open minded". Then he dropped the bestiality bomb, I tried to keep myself together while I was panicking on the inside because apparently I'm not really open minded enough for this shit.
He told me a lot of mildly gross details. We discussed about it a bit, then we just dropped the topic.

I don't give a shit about what he jerks off to, I just don't want to be involved in it.

>>18216544
Oh he does, he's crazy about me. Reciprocated, too.

>So does he want to fuck animals or does he want to see your pure pussy pounded by a pony?
The latter.

>>18216581
He is into bestiality, not into petplay.
I just meant that I find the idea itself revolting. In general if my partner has a fetish that I'm not comfortable with I try to find a compromise but with this one I just cannot. The idea itself grosses me out. I don't want to dirty talk about it, to roleplay, to do anything.

>>18216696
Yes, that's exactly what I meant.
He said he wanted to be honest with me because his ex girlfriend dumped him when she found out. Which makes me feel bad about my conflicted feelings.

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>>18217034
>the latter

>>18217111
I know :( It's gross as fuck.

Why aren't you into bestiality op? Horse fucking is hot

>>18217114
It's actually pretty hot desu

>>18217118
I'm a boring girl like that. I just like cocks.

>>18217121
You sound like a bad catch

>>18217118
Oh, would you fuck a horse then?

Well then it comes down to him being ok with no animal dick inside you and you with him jizzing all over himself thinking about it. Yawn

>>18217118
Wtf

>>18217121
You do know that some horses have cocks too, right, OP?

>>18215923
Run away from it seriously, it will mess with you mentally and physically, that guy is probbably sick and there is more stuff he didnt tell you about his fetishes, bet they are even grosser

But somehow i think you would do it anyway, if you do it you deserve what is coning for you for not listening to common sense

>>18217114
If you will be in a relationship with that guy he will probbably pressure you into doing it

>>18217034
Coming from someone who has a pretty outlandish fetish as well. (Shrinking/giantess)

A fetish typically isn't something set in stone or a requirement, if you've talked to him about how you really have no interest in it and have a certain disgust with it i'm sure he'd be fine. Some things you said made it sound like you might've thought it's the end of the world. E.G. "I will never be able to satisfy him sexually" or something like that. A fetish is a particular arousal to a certain kink, but it doesn't mean it's the only one he'll have, and it also doesn't mean he'd be incapable of regular sex either. The best choice you can make is to be honest about your dislike for it. Anyone who'se anyone that knows their fetish is way out of the norm will be quite self conscious about the fact that it's largely not gonna be most peoples cup of tea. And since everything else seems to check out pretty well for you, i'm sure you two can get over it just fine.

a solid tip toe around it would be to find positions during regular sex that might give him a little sprinkle of a thought for his own arousal, but not roleplaying. Stuff like doggy style or just more wild types of locations like on tables/floor etc. Since i like giant ladies and its physically impossible to satisfy such a fetish, usually submissive positions with my partner on top gives me a small taste of that.

Be concerned if he neigh's while doing you tho.

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>>18217800
I don't understand how he'll mess with me mentally and physically.
He has one gross fetish, he's not a bad person.

>>18217801
Thanks, it was very reassuring to read and like your way of "compromising".

He has been super understanding, I am just freaking out.

>>18218147

You're welcome, and don't forget to try your best to be understanding too. It takes alot of confidence and trust to admit such a thing to someone. He seems really comfortable with you and vice versa. Let him down easy about it and i'm sure you two will get along just fine.

I'm sorry but if you've only known him for 3 weeks then you're in for a shitty surprise (not intended as a pun) when he eventually drops the act and stops trying to impress you.
When something feels too good to be true and all that shit (again not a pun)