I never, ever come to /adv/, but I'm in a moral conundrum

>>18214537
Cont'd

Em started texting me again this spring, she really missed me, and everything I did for her, and we started talking again. She slowly built up my trust again, and I started to believe she wanted to change. She would throw little questions my way like "Do you think your parents would like me?" or "Are you talking to anyone else right now?" She even acknowledged that she treated me wrong last year. So I finally tried to schedule time for us to hangout, and then when the time came she blew me off again, which wasn't a big deal, but she proceeded to ghost me over text about it, not even acknowledging that she blew me off, and I told her that I wasn't putting myself through it again, and told her that I need to completely move on. I cut all communications with her.

But I realized something, I treat Daisy like Em treated me. I know that I'm not that into Daisy, and that I don't really want to enter a relationship with her, but she's so supportive and wonderful to me, that it's hard to push her away. She is everything that I wanted Em to be to me. But yet I still find myself craving Em. I'm super busy with work right now, and I tell Daisy that I can't hangout, because even though I could if I really wanted to, it would stretch me too thin. And I've been on the other side of that with Em, being the person that is trying so hard to make things work, but getting nothing in return.

I just don't know what to do. I'm in love with Em, I have been for while, but I know that she's not in love with me. I know I need to try and move on from Em, but I don't know if getting the attention I wanted from Daisy is the right thing to do. I feel like Daisy is falling in love with me, but I don't want to put her through the same shit Em put me through. I don't know what to do.

>>18214537
Any suggestions, anons?

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>Some shit about a girl

Tell her the same thing you told us. Just be open and honest about your feelings and intentions.

It sounds like you like Daisy but you know you don't love her. Break up with her.

If you want to try it with Em go for it, but she clearly doesn't like you as much as you like her. You said yourself she likes what you did for her.

>>18214589
The problem with Daisy, is that I tried to tell her exactly that. I tried to tell her that I'm not looking for a relationship, because I don't have time, and I just got out of a shitty one, but her answer to that is just: I'll wait for you.

She says that she's perfectly fine being sidelined until I'm ready, even if that never comes. She doesn't have the best self confidence, and she's been hurt by dudes who just want to bang her and never call her again before. She's willing to be treated poorly (even though unintentionally) rather than be alone. How do I break up with her if she won't accept it? The summer is coming up, and she has an internship across the country, so I'm thinking that's the time to tell her that we should stop talking.

>>18214609
I've tried it with Em 3 times. First time was like a month at school and then an actual long distance thing over the summer, which ended in disaster. Second time was last fall, where she was in season, we never spent time together, and I had to end it. And then this time we didn't even get started before she treated me bad again.

And it's not just like she only appreciates the things I do for her, she appreciates me, I know she does, cause she shows it when we hang out, we just never hang out...

>>18214632
If she only appreciates you when you hang out and you never hang out she doesn't appreciate you.

As for the other girl, be firm. You want to break up, she has to deal with it. You do not love her. Think of any main character forcing their pet to run away for safety.

>>18214651
Yeah you're right, I know she doesn't appreciate me. That's why I ended it before I even got it started again. But why am I still so attracted to her, and not attracted to the girl that does actually appreciate me, and treats me well.

And I know Em is gonna start texting me later on this summer, I don't want to get dragged in again, but I also don't wanna be mean. What do I say in that situation? "I still don't want to talk to you?". It's just so hard turning someone you love away, even if it is for your own benefit.

>>18214632
I don't think you have a chance with Em, it seems as if she's lost interest or is doing what you're doing to Daisy. I think that you should forget about Em, she didn't treat you right so get rid of her. If you truly feel like you and Daisy shouldn't happen, then break up with her. If not I'd say stay with her as she sounds loyal and trustworthy.